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Have you ever got a snarky comment on a post on any site (unnecessarily, imo) and considered firing back?

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  1. On CH, it's almost always the reply which gets moderated away.

    1. There's someone who has stomped on at least 2-3 of my posts... though I thought they were fine!?! I REALLY wanted to reply, but decided not to... though would have been satisfying in some way.

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        1. re: greygarious

          So that's how all the flagging happens around here....

          Guess I just like to do things the old fashioned way.

        2. re: kseiverd

          You're certainly within your rights to defend yourself. Lately I try to ask myself before replying, "Where will this go from here?" If I feel something absolutely needs to be said I'll say it, and if the exchange is doomed to go nowhere I can bite my tongue even if it means the other person getting the last word. Or at least that's what I tell myself; it don't always work that way.

        3. Some people are snarky, but you soon realize they have a good sense of humor that they express through their snarkiness. (Other people, though, are just grouches or worse...)

          1. Every. Damn. Day.

            There was one guy who posted a rant that occasionally ventured into ALL CAPS anger. I didn't understand what his(/her) issue was and politely (I think) questioned it. The response was something like "read YOUR OWN comment! Gosh!" (in exasperated Napoleon Dynamite kind of way. I still didn't get it. I did, however want to continue poking to see if he'd eventually get out of line, but decided it wasn't worth it.

            1. If it's directed towards me I try to easily away. But for some reason I always find myself wanting to jump in and defend others. Even when it's a thread that I'm not participating in or I don't have a dog on the fight.

                1. re: hal2010

                  How dare you insult the beautiful weasel!

                  1. re: Kris in Beijing

                    "This excessive concern with little weasels is a sickness." (Rudolph Giuliani)

                      1. re: drongo

                        But according to another thread, excessive is a good thing, right?

                  2. Oftentimes I pretend I don't understand the insult. Sometimes the snarky person just thinks I'm simple and will knock it off. If they persist I usually back off. If they are "spoiling for a fight" I get out the popcorn and watch. I used to weigh in, but I don't want to add to the burden of deletion. Usually.

                        1. re: carolinadawg

                          Who, me? None, never in my life, and I've been online since joining CompuServe in 1985.

                          1. re: John Francis

                            Too bad, if you had some bannings we could call you a true OG. Right now you're just an "O".

                      1. It took awhile but I finally realized, sometimes you just can't win. Just a waste of time and energy. I had twisted myself into knots before I reached that point and freed myself from the madness. Like they say, sometimes what you don't say speaks louder than words.