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Dinner music - the host or the guest decides?

Recently, I had a few guests over for dinner. I had planned the music - Jazz, instrumental and classic well known selections. As the evening went on, "Roz" mentioned she wanted something with a little "more octane" and asked me to put on a local dance music station. This was during dinner. The group responded they preferred what was on, but "Roz" pouted about the decision and after we finished, helped herself to the controls. As I brought out coffee and dessert, the music was loud and I thought not conductive to conversation. We ate in silence as the music played. My new flan recipe was overlooked as people went to dance. Was this rude, or the right move?

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  1. Rude Roz. If it had been my party, as soon as she touched the controls, I would have changed it back and scolded her not to touch my stereo

    1. She was rude, front to back. Your house, your party, your guests. You set the tone for the type of party experience you want to share with them.

      If she wants a dance party, let her host one. I'd have turned the radio off.

      1. Roz is a ballsy sorta woman. And by ballsy, I mean rude.

        Hosts who want input on their playlists will generally make that known, by telling you where to submit requests or how to work their chosen playlist software. If they don't explicitly invite that kind of input, then music is hands off.

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        1. re: Jacquilynne

          So far all the answers reinforce what I have heard from the other guests. "Jim" who came with "Roz" refused to dance and said she was being rude as she turned the music up and started to pull people out of their seats. They had a little scuffle over this, but I was glad he said something. I tried to let it fly, to not make too much of it, but "Roz" sent me an email thanking me for the dance party, and said nothing about the special dinner I had prepared for everyone. "Roz" can rub people the wrong way, and I guess this is exhibit A of why.

          1. re: SamuelAt

            Was "Roz" also a bit more than tispy...?? Rude all the same but may help to explain her lack of common manners....

        2. I'm just impressed that your stereo system and home are conducive to hosting a dance party! Yes she was rude but living on an old farm house I can only dream if people being able to dance without having to move the furniture and pulling up rugs.

          1. you're not REALLY asking this as a question, are you?? obviously, Roz won't be invited a second time.