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May 22, 2014 06:06 AM

Who should pay for the dinner in this scenario

Wife's birthday came and went recently and a friend sent the following email..

'Hey, When do you guys get back in town? Wanted to know when and how we can celebrate your birthday. My sister is working Tuesday (24hour, delivering babies) but will be around early afternoon on Wednesday if we want to do fro yo or something fun at your house'

Now we wound up going out to a casual dinner that my wife chose. I wound up getting stuck with her meal. Do you think that was correct or should it have been the friend who should have picked up the birthday girls meal?

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      1. re: latindancer

        Ultimately, that can only be determined by the OP.

    1. I don’t have a definite answer, but I think it would weird if said friend paid for just your wife and not yours too!

      Perhaps wife’s friend didn’t have the means of paying for your wife’s meal (or yours) since she did initially suggest something a lot more low key (fro yo or casual gathering at your house) which are both likely less expensive than dinner

      On the bright side, it is nice she remembered your wifes birthday!

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          1. re: UTgal

            Yep, I had to go look it up. Thought it was a typo in the original post until everyone else kept repeating it.

        1. re: pumpkinspice

          She was inviting herself over to your house?

        2. "Stuck"? Really? I would never feel stuck for paying for my wife's birthday dinner. Even if it was the 2nd or 3rd time we went out for her birthday. Plus, the e-vite was for a snack, not dinner. Sounded more like she wanted to just get together with your wife casually. Oh well, what do I know? I'm divorced twice, LOL.

          1. Sounds to me like there was no dinner invitation to start with. The friend just wanted to hang out, and it morphed into dinner. No obligation was created.

            1. Is your wife's birthday Tuesday or Wednesday? If it's not Wednesday, perhaps the friend didn't mean for you to come and it was more of a night with the girls?

              Did you "get stuck" paying for the friend or did you offer?