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May 5, 2014 02:46 PM

my friends have no social sense at all

A friend's birthday is coming up, and because of physical limitations (can't do stairs, can't walk any significant distance, can't stand very long) I volunteered my house for the party, so she could park by the back door, and only have two steps to manage.

I suggested a potluck, with me providing the space, the linens and plates and flatware, and a big pan of roasted chicken, as an entree. I'll pick up a cake from the local bakery. Her husband sent out an invitation asking for sides and salads and wine and soda, and specifically said entree only if you don't like chicken.

So I just got an email from one of the guests announcing he'll be bringing "a freshly roasted 12 pound turkey with potatoes."

I don't know whether it was the "freshly roasted" or the "turkey" that cheesed me off more, but all I can think is that's gonna be a hell of a lot of poultry.

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  1. So there'll be turkey and chicken. Some people only like one, and some people enjoy both... it's not a slight on you, it's just what it is. At least you know in advance so you can prepare. Cook a bit less chicken and count on people eating both, or season your chicken differently so there's 'Mexican chicken' and 'traditional turkey' (or whatever). You don't get to control the menu at a potluck unless you want to make thirty individual phone calls to negotiate.

    1. they probably have a turkey in the freezer and see this as a chance to off it LOL

      that said - let it go - its a pot luck - if there is too much send people home with doggie bags

      maybe someone else can bring duck and you can have a deconstructed turduken :)

      1. You could change up your entree.
        Too much poultry- boring!!!!

        At least you know beforehand and can avoid a table full of fowl!

        I know, I know, it sucks that you called poultry first, but be the bigger person and change up your entree to make this a more interesting meal.

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        1. re: monavano

          But she didn't call "poultry", she called "chicken". To some people I guess there's a difference.

          1. re: coll

            My father loves chicken, hates turkey. It's like saying meat is meat, whether it's lamb or beef.

            1. re: chowser

              This is me -- I like chicken, but I'm not a big turkey fan. DH likes turkey for sandwiches and snacking, but not as part of a whole meal. We always do ham for Thanksgiving. LOL

              1. re: chowser

                the kid (our son) must have been hatched from a blue egg laid by a turkey-he would be allllll over that turkey but would also be thrilled to see the chicken-he'd do 'em both with shear excitement

                1. re: iL Divo

                  Twelve pound turkey. I could, only slightly stretching it, eat half the breast meat.

                  1. re: James Cristinian

                    yah, I myself would go straight to the oyster delicacies.

                    1. re: iL Divo

                      If no one was around I could eat every bit of skin, plus a drumstick and half a breast as stated above. Did I mention I love turkey, and since it's so hot here 6 plus months, and the wifeacita and I have wildly divergent cooking methods, I'm lucky to get it twice a year. Il Divo, I cede the oysters to you.

                      1. re: James Cristinian

                        well thank you for allowing me the gloriosity of delicately chowing down on the succulent oysters-they're so good :)

              2. re: coll

                Distinction without much of a diff to me.
                I'd still avert the redundancy if I could.
                That would be my move, but the OP can do whatever she wants.

                No harm, no foul ;-)

                1. re: monavano

                  I agree, it makes for a weird menu to me. I would at least make my chicken entree very different (not just roasted).

                  I am with the others and bet the "turkey guest" has one in the freezer and thinks this is a generous way to use it.

                  If I were the OP, I would just alter my plan for chicken a little. Maybe marinate, make Asian style, BBQ, Mexican flavors, etc.

                    1. re: sedimental

                      My feeling is if you want a menu that makes sense, don't do a potluck. If you do, it's bound to get weird. Not that weird is a problem. Our family get togethers have included a diverse menu but w/ good food.

              3. I'm with the others: Now you only need to provide the space,the utensils/linen, and the cake.

                Focus on the cleaning. It appears you were saved from "food duty".

                1. It could be the cheese.