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Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:00 PM

I am running out of ideas. My creativity runs short in the kitchen when my options are limited. I am wondering if anyone can share some recipes with me that may help broaden my short list of meals to make for him. He is not a fan of seafood, vegetables (he will eat carrots but only steamed) and he won't touch anything with veggies mixed in, no beans, rice, he generally doesn't like sauce on things. I mean I make pizza, turkey burgers, spaghetti, buffalo chicken, things like that. I am just running out of ideas. He's just so particular about what he likes lol. I just feel bad because it's just a bit repetitive. He likes boxed foods like macaroni and cheese and pasta sides, etc. I hate that stuff. I don't even like buying it. It's terrible for you. I try to make that stuff from scratch. But even if just a few recipes, it would be helpful! Thanks for the help!!

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    sedimental RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:15 PM

    I would look at copycat recipes. There is a ton on the internet. Use quality ingredients. Simple tastes, but full flavor dishes. There are copycat recipes for Applebee's, Tony Roma's, claim jumper, Panera, macaroni grill, Olive Garden, etc. appeals to the mass taste, you can still cook and use healthier ingredients, win win.

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      Sdgirl619 RE: sedimental Mar 31, 2014 09:21 PM

      I guess I thought of this but never really went with it!! Now that you mentioned it I will be looking some up!!! Thanks!

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        sedimental RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:29 PM

        There is nothing wrong with simple comfort type foods. They are not adventurous, but timing is everything! Lol. They are still tasty dishes. Gradually introduce new flavors.if he likes a copycat recipe of a PF Chang orange chicken dish, serve it with a side of rice with an interesting dipping sauce. with my kids, I offered something familiar, with something unfamiliar, and they decided if they liked it or not and I could build from there.
        Good luck! Cooking for family is only fun if your audience likes it!

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        laliz RE: sedimental Apr 1, 2014 04:55 PM

        The recipe for Panera Mac n Cheese on their site is TDF

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        sueatmo RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:19 PM

        Every so often, maybe about twice a week, make something you like, and if he doesn't want to eat it, he doesn't have to. Your taste counts too.

        I think you are coddling him too much.

        I believe that really picky eaters are often people who don't enjoy eating, or people who learned they have power over parents by not eating. His pickiness is unreasonable, and a burden for others.

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          Sdgirl619 RE: sueatmo Mar 31, 2014 09:25 PM

          I think that's a little negative but I appreciate your opinion! I don't just "bow down" to him and make only what he likes. There are often times he eats from a box while I make myself what I like. I just am looking for fresh ideas and takes from people who may experience the same issues. However, in stating I appreciate your opinion, I do not appreciate you assuming I am just dropping everything and catering to his every taste bud need or want. Thank you for your reply.

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            sueatmo RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 09:30 AM

            I apologize for my negativity. I feel for you having this issue, and I've gone through a little of it myself early in my marriage.

            I do think that overly picky people burden others with their likes and dislikes, but I appreciate how kind you are to want to cook for your husband. I do not think you are "bowing down" or anything like.

            The only other thing I can think of for you, is to imagine that hubby has a limited diet due to food intolerances, and change recipes to fit his likes. Those of us on limited carb diets, for instance, often change out ingredients within recipes.

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              Sdgirl619 RE: sueatmo Apr 1, 2014 12:41 PM

              It's fine! Like I said negative or not, I appreciate all opinions! I can see how it seems like a burden but it is only us two and I do not work right now so it's not really all that big of a deal to cook a couple things or if he eats burgers, I'll have one but skip the bread and eat it with a huge salad. I just want to broaden my cooking with him, I know he gets bored sometimes and I don't think he could cook to save his life (unless it involved a box or something frozen lol!) I do love him and he does a lot for me so I figure the least I can do is have a nice, hot meal for him after a long day of work! I'm sure he would try to do the same for me.

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                sandylc RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:32 PM

                You have mentioned here your own potential solution.

                Parents of picky children are often told to involve the child in choosing and cooking food.

                Introduce the idea of planning, shopping for, and cooking one meal together each weekend.

                Does he live in a cave, or has he heard a few things about health and diet? Not to sound to snide, but he is old enough to be married and hold a job, it's sort of silly to be stubborn about food in this way.

                Also, if you are planning to have children, to you want him to influence their food decisions? This could become a problem. Raising a child to be nutritionally crippled is a terrible thing.

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                  Sdgirl619 RE: sandylc Apr 1, 2014 04:22 PM

                  I'm sure he knows deep down his diet isn't the best but I'm also not his mother and I am not here to scold him and tell him how unhealthy his habits are especially with such a stressful job. The last thing he needs is his wife nagging him about his shitty (excuse my language lol!) diet. So I figure if I can do what I can to help, since I am the cook in the house, that I will try to "healthy" up his favorite meals. I agree about nutrition with children but that is down the line. I don't want to stress him about something that isn't going to happen for at least a few years when he has a LOT more to worry about. I really appreciate your comments though! It is silly to be THAT stubborn with food but he is not the first person I have encountered to be this picky. This really just stems from his childhood (not making excuses for him) and I am not going to force things on him that he does not enjoy. Like I said, I can do what I can here at home by making his meals healthier.

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                    LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 04:38 PM

                    "Healthing up" the meals and making lots of homemade vs. boxed or processed meals is definitely a good thing. And things can't be changed overnight, of course. So baby steps.

                    I do like the idea of having him be involved in shopping with you. Have him pick out one thing to try - even if it's one new thing a month. You can try cooking it different ways to see if there's something that clicks.

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                      Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 05:19 PM

                      Yes, love that idea also. We always do the shopping together but I always make sure I have a list and I know what I am cooking for the week/two weeks. Someone mentioned chicken sausage, which I love, I may have to try that!

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                      greygarious RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:06 PM

                      I'd worry less about his encouraging your hypothetical children to emulate his poor diet than about his not being alive long enough to raise them to adulthood! It's a lot harder to treat diabetes, osteoarthritis, and heart disease than to forestall or prevent them entirely by healthy living habits.

                      If he's not willing to change, invest in good life insurance and educational savings accounts once the children come along.

                      When you food shop, make a rule that any impulse purchases must come from the perimeter sections of the supermarket rather than the center aisles where the highly-processed items lurk.

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                        hill food RE: greygarious Apr 1, 2014 11:51 PM

                        but in that case the perimeter/center rule needs to extend to anything within 3 meters of the checkout line.

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              Roland Parker RE: sueatmo Mar 31, 2014 09:31 PM

              I agree.

              As the family cook I do compromise a bit as there are a few things my husband and boys don't care for so I don't go out of my way to make them often. But their dislikes are nowhere nearly as demanding and restrictive as the OP's husband. If I were the OP, I'd be saying, "darling, I love you very much but here's a cookbook. Learn to cook your own meals if you won't eat mine." He really is taking all the fun out of cooking by being so restrictive.

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              Jerseygirl111 RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:33 PM

              Three of the four meals you mentioned have sauce in them, pizza, buffalo chicken and spaghetti.

              If he eats red sauce, will he eat chicken parm? Or you could do a plain breaded chicken cutlet.

              These are all simple flavors for picky eaters:
              Meatloaf
              Lasagna
              Hot dogs and beans
              Turkey breast
              Roast chicken
              Roast beef
              Salisbury steak
              Pot Roast/Stew
              Pork chops
              Pork loin
              Ribs

              Soups? Does he eat soup?

              Does he like salad at all? Even people that don't really like vegetables might eat salad. If you make a Chicken Caesar salad that might convince him.

              Sandwiches? Meatball sub, chicken salad, egg salad, BLT, turkey club, cold cuts, French Dip.

              People that say they hate vegetables sometimes eat potatoes, corn, onions, does he?

              What does he eat on Thanksgiving?

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                Sdgirl619 RE: Jerseygirl111 Apr 1, 2014 04:42 AM

                Nope. No soup or salad. I didn't think to try something with a Caesar salad though. I am going to try that. He's iffy on sandwiches. I do make him homemade bread. I'm sure if I made him one he would eat it. I'm just not too sure how much he would enjoy it lol! Oh thanksgiving. Turkey and potatoes mostly. I made au gratin potatoes so he ate those.

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                  Jerseygirl111 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:24 AM

                  Turkey is good!

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                    sandylc RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:40 PM

                    I grew up eating mostly meat and white food. A little lettuce or raw carrot sometimes. I found out when I left home that my mother was not the great cook that she professed to be, and that vegetables were really delicious when prepared well.

                    Could be part of his issue - suggest that he revisit the situation and participate in solving it with you.

                2. Ttrockwood RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:43 PM

                  The lack of vegetables is a concern since they are a large part of a healthy diet.
                  Maybe try roasting carrots?

                  There are also cookbooks aimed at moms with small children about adding shredded veggies to marinara sauce and such. This blog has a bunch of ideas:
                  http://www.thesneakychef.com
                  Lentils ok?
                  A coconut milk based lentil soup (add veggies to your portion)
                  Sweet potato peanut stew is hearty and tastes like peanut butter....

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                    Sdgirl619 RE: Ttrockwood Apr 1, 2014 04:45 AM

                    Well if it tastes like peanut butter it might be a green light. I could always try it and see how it goes. Thanks for the recommendations!!

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                    sedimental RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 09:43 PM

                    I started off with a lot of Olive Garden copycat recipes for my kids, but they turned into really adventurous eaters and cooks! Seriously, they teach me new things now! Both are very adventurous cooks.

                    You just don't want a "turn off" experience with new things. New things should be fun. They are "fun" only if you have other things to eat, that you know will be a "safe bet". No pressure.

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                      Sdgirl619 RE: sedimental Apr 1, 2014 04:48 AM

                      Lol! That's adorable I love it. Yeah pressuring someone into trying something they are unsure about can be an unpleasant experience for anyone involved. I really don't find it too much trouble with him being picky. It's honestly a little easier as I know what he will and won't eat. I just would like him to at least try to be a little more adventurous. So I can start small and go from there. Thank you!!

                    2. ckshen RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 10:12 PM

                      How about having him cook for both of you?

                      If he's not the type who cooks, he may not understand the work that goes into cooking and can be picky. I remember as a child about nitpicking things when I wasn't the one doing the work. But once I am actually cooking myself and realize how much effort it is, and don't have much point to complain about my own cooking, then viola, i changed.

                      But then of course the risk is that he would cook Mac and cheese every meal and u will have to either eat with him or fix something up for yourself.

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                        Sdgirl619 RE: ckshen Apr 1, 2014 04:50 AM

                        Hahahahahahahaha the risk of it being Mac and cheese every meal is very high. I think the odds of that are probably 99% chance he would. I can see how he may not understand how much effort I put into cooking though! That would be an accurate assumption.

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                          ecclescake RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 03:44 AM

                          I don't think that would necessarily be a bad thing though, if he's cooking, say, once a week. Mac and cheese once a week would be ok because you can always have some of your leftover vegetables or salad from the previous day with yours so for you it's not always the same (or, even better, he might cook a vege side to accommodate you just as you cook to accommodate him, and having cooked your vege he may even try some himself). And as his palate expands he might branch out with what he cooks too.

                          Anyway, I've read the rest of the thread and I'd just like to encourage you, it seems from your replies like he's already making good progress and before you know it someone else will start a thread about their picky husband and you'll reply saying how yours used to be like that but now eats a wide range of things.

                          One more tip I haven't seen yet is CarrieWas218's idea of sugaring vegetables to make them more palatable http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/9063...

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                            Sdgirl619 RE: ecclescake Apr 2, 2014 06:41 AM

                            Yes it is a work in progress but I have faith in him!! I like the idea of him making one of my sides. This would most likely be a weekend thing but maybe we can incorporate some kind of fun way to cook dinner together once a week. Even if it is something super easy! During the week he is usually too tired which is why I mostly make all the meals. Well, that and I'm not sure he would know his way around the kitchen 100% haha. I also enjoy the idea of sugaring the veggies. I will check that out!

                      2. KarenDW RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 10:33 PM

                        If he eats turkey burgers, would he also like turkey or chicken meatloaf?
                        Also, what about sauteed or roast chicken strips. You could make a sauce for your portion :)

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                          Sdgirl619 RE: KarenDW Apr 1, 2014 04:51 AM

                          You know I haven't tried meatloaf yet. I've asked him how he feels about it (lol) and he's worried I'm going to put onions in it. I'm like babe I will not put onions in the meatloaf just trust me lol! I need to find a decent recipe without breadcrumbs that has a nice flavor.

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                            LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:35 AM

                            What about using crushed Ritz crackers as the binder instead of breadcrumbs? Or oatmeal. My mother used to use the latter, but the Ritz crackers would add a bit of salty butteryness to the meat loaf.

                            You can make a side gravy, since he doesn't like gravy on top of things, or top it with ketchup or chili sauce and bake it that way.

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                              melpy RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 09:37 AM

                              I make meatloaf without onions and my husband loves it. I will try to remember to put the recipe up. I can't remember if it has bread crumbs.

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                                Sdgirl619 RE: melpy Apr 1, 2014 12:43 PM

                                I have made meatloaf in the past but just have not tried making it with him yet. I don't generally use a binder and it tends to come out fine. I'm just trying to find new recipes that may be better than what I am used to!

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                                sandylc RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:44 PM

                                I was always frightened about things like onions being put into meatloaf, etc. Again, because my mother didn't know how to cut and pre-cook good quality onions for her meatloaf. The eater would encounter large chunks of cheap, semi-cooked onions, which was a real turn-off.

                                Now I use onions in my cooking almost daily and love them. It's all in the quality of product and preparation.

                                Get him involved.

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                                  MamasCooking RE: sandylc Apr 1, 2014 08:18 PM

                                  Ok I will * bite*.What exactly is a cheap onion?

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                                    hill food RE: MamasCooking Apr 1, 2014 11:57 PM

                                    oh they'll peel for anyone. getting old, gotta discard layers.

                                    my mom uses them and never has the audacity to shame them by removing the last fibrous dental floss layer. it's just onion skin, not at all like you thought you brought home a smooth and smoky Lauren Bacall only to find she's Sandra Bernhard in a really bad mood (and I love Sandra B.).

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                                      MamasCooking RE: hill food Apr 2, 2014 06:16 AM

                                      Too funny. Started my day with a good giggle....thanx Hill.

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                                  greygarious RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:07 PM

                                  Meatloaf without onions isn't worth making or eating, IMO.

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                                    LindaWhit RE: greygarious Apr 2, 2014 06:06 AM

                                    Different strokes for different folks. I rarely make meatloaf *with* onions, but use roasted garlic, plum ketchup, goat cheese and herbs - lots of add-ins or stuffings or toppings that can make for a great meatloaf without onions.

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                                      Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 2, 2014 06:29 AM

                                      That sounds delicious! Although I'm not a huge fan of goat cheese. I never thought to add cheese to meatloaf!

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                                        LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 08:40 AM

                                        I've done it as a sort of "filling" to a small personal-sized meatloaf, Sdgirl. Crumbled up a small log, chopped some fresh herbs, lightly mixed it all together (i'm pretty sure there was other stuff in there, but I can't recall right now), and put it between two meatloaf "patties that I sealed together and baked. Not too bad.

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                                P_penelope RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 10:56 PM

                                That's tough. However, you say you feel bad because it's repetitive -- I'm assuming you feel bad for him. But this is what he likes, and he's an adult who either needs to read Jeffrey Steingarten's "The Man Who Ate Everything" (http://www.amazon.com/The-Man-Who-Ate...) or accept that most adults, including his own spouse, don't eat like 8 year olds and he will have to deal with that. What does he do when you go to someone else's house for dinner? Sorry, rhetorical question.

                                Anyway, as the parent of someone who has some very particular likes and dislikes, I recommend thinking of dishes or meals that can be broken down into parts. I've found that "sauce on the side" is the way to go so that I don't expire from boredom while eating.

                                Will he eat lasagna? Other pasta dishes with a sauce -- pesto? Carbonara?

                                P.S. Are you familiar with the blog The Tipsy Baker? She has a similar problem -- is a very adventurous cook with a husband who would happily eat Skippy on Wonder Bread every night.

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                                  Sdgirl619 RE: P_penelope Apr 1, 2014 04:54 AM

                                  Yeah I mostly feel bad for him. Our marriage is fairly new and although he is happy having any type of meal cooked I just wish I could do more! But it isn't my fault so I just feel a little stuck. Just looking for fresh ideas from others! He hasn't tried pesto (I love it!!). I'll have to make some and have him try it. I will check out that blog! Sounds great. This is the type of reply I love. Thank you!!

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                                    LaLa RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 06:37 AM

                                    When I was newly married we had the three bite rule...my husband only ate like five things when we got together....but now he eats everything. He was not picky on purpose he just never had a mom that could cook and didn't travel. When he got with my family he tried new things because we were traveling and cooking huge meals. He tells our kids... Adventurous eaters ...how he hates he wasted so many years of bad eating.

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                                      Jerseygirl111 RE: LaLa Apr 1, 2014 10:27 AM

                                      This is an excellent idea LaLa!

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                                      magiesmom RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:16 AM

                                      As to the meatloaf etc, I wouldn't ask, I would just make it, without onions.
                                      Mine uses grated potato instead of breadcrumbs and tastes great.

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                                        P_penelope RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 09:20 PM

                                        I forgot to say the Steingarten book is by the man who became the food critic for Vogue and decided that he would have to overcome his food aversions so that he really could eat anything -- it's very funny. (So is the Tipsy Baker blog, by the way.)

                                        I'm thinking carbonara might go over well with your husband because of the bacon, nom nom. What about alfredo sauce? ETA: Whoops, I see from other posts that he does like it. Good!

                                        I also forgot to say that your husband is very fortunate to have you going to so much trouble for him. I bet he appreciates the heck out of you.

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                                          hill food RE: P_penelope Apr 1, 2014 11:59 PM

                                          "I bet he appreciates the heck out of you."

                                          he'd better. and feel lucky that sleeping on the porch isn't such a bad idea now in most climes.

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                                            Sdgirl619 RE: P_penelope Apr 2, 2014 06:31 AM

                                            He's weird about bacon. But I should try it because I love bacon! See this is why I love this post because most of these things I forgot about and/or wouldn't have thought of myself. Thanks!! Oh and he does! He does so much for me and he works so hard. It's the least I can do to make him a home cooked meal!

                                      2. i_am_Lois RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 11:01 PM

                                        I too am married to an extremely picky eater. I know how difficult it is. Mine reminds me of your husband because he likes boxed food and doesn't like sauce either, but will eat pizza, spaghetti, hot wings etc. One thing mine likes that surprised me was creamed chip beef. He also will eat lasagna... but not if it's made with ricotta. I found a recipe using cream cheese (to replace the ricotta) that he will eat. Here is a list of things I discovered mine was willing to eat. See if your man will eat them too.
                                        Homemade beef pot pie
                                        Campbell's soup recipe for Salisbury steaks
                                        boneless strips of chicken coated with batter (using Vadalia brand batter mix - this is a boxed powder you add water to & are supposed to use to make blooming onions or coat onion rings with) I coat the chicken with the batter and fry it in about a 1/2 inch of oil. He likes it a lot.
                                        Hot dogs & sausage links, even with mild heat
                                        Oven roasted Cornish game hens
                                        Oven roasted pork butt
                                        Stuffed peppers, but no fillers... just seasoned ground beef
                                        And lastly, my husband hated any mac & cheese except boxed Kraft until he tried this homemade one. He loves it and asks me to make it for him. Here's the recipe:

                                        Old Roman Macaroni & Cheese

                                        1 lb. box 2&1/2 inch long Mosstaccioli noodles (or other similar ribbed noodles).
                                        4 oz. parmesan cheese grated
                                        3/4 lb fontina cheese coarsely shredded

                                        1 cup breadcrumbs, toasted in a few tablespoons butter till golden.

                                        4 Tablespoons butter
                                        1 onion minced
                                        4 Tablespoons flour
                                        3 cups milk
                                        A pinch of Thyme
                                        1 bay leaf
                                        A dash of Nutmeg
                                        Salt & pepper

                                        Heat oven 350°

                                        Prepare breadcrumbs and set aside.

                                        To make sauce:
                                        Fry onion in the 4 Tablespoons butter till translucent.
                                        Add the 4 Tablespoons flour and stir well to combine.
                                        Add all the milk, thyme, bay leaf, nutmeg, salt & pepper and stir till sauce comes to a boil. Continue to cook and stir for 1 minute longer, then remove bay leaf.

                                        Cook noodles according to directions on box, then drain.

                                        In a bowl combine cheeses.

                                        Butter a 3 quart baking dish.

                                        Layer ingredients in 1/3's
                                        Noodles, cheese, then sauce… noodles, cheese, then sauce into the prepared baking dish (like a lasagna).

                                        Top with breadcrumbs.

                                        Bake 15 - 20 minutes at 350° (till bubbly)

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                                          Sdgirl619 RE: i_am_Lois Apr 1, 2014 04:56 AM

                                          Wow thank you for the recipes and ideas!!!! I have been searching for a Mac and cheese recipe that a kraft lover would appreciate! Mine always come out great but always seem to lack something. I am excited to try this! Half the things you mentioned I have not tried yet. Thank you so much!!

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                                            i_am_Lois RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 02:47 PM

                                            That mac & cheese recipe I provided is NOTHING like the Kraft boxed stuff. It's different entirely. It turns out a little stringy like pizza. It has a milder flavor because it doesn't contain cheddar. You can try it. But don't think it's a Kraft mac & cheese copy cat recipe.

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                                              Sdgirl619 RE: i_am_Lois Apr 1, 2014 03:30 PM

                                              Oh no no no! I did not mean to offend you by saying your recipe tastes like the boxed stuff!! So sorry if I did! I'm actually more excited because your recipe uses Fontina (which is one of my favorite cheeses ever!) and Parmesan (which he loves) I just meant since your husband liked the box stuff and then loved your recipe, I am hoping for the same results! I usually use cheddar in my homemade Mac and Cheese but like I said, always lacking something! Maybe the Fontina and Parmesan will be the missing piece to the Homemade M&C puzzle!

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                                                i_am_Lois RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 04:18 PM

                                                I wasn't offended Sdgirl619. I just misunderstood you, and was thinking you expected this recipe to be exactly like Kraft. I think it's because it is so different, that is why my hubby likes it. Whenever I make mac & cheese using cheddar, he compares it to Kraft... and according to him Kraft is always superior. He likes pizza and this mac & cheese has a similar stringy cheese quality (and no cheddar flavor to compare with Kraft). I see in one of your remarks your husband doesn't like onion. It's fine to omit the onion called for in this recipe. I've done that and the dish doesn't suffer from a lack of a bit of onion.

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                                                  Sdgirl619 RE: i_am_Lois Apr 1, 2014 04:23 PM

                                                  Great! I forgot to ask about the onion but thank you for clarifying! I am excited to make this dish as I am a huge fan of cheese but don't eat it often! Thank you again!!!

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                                                    i_am_Lois RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 04:56 PM

                                                    If you try the recipe, I wish there were a way you could let me know how you and how your husband liked it.

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                                                      Sdgirl619 RE: i_am_Lois Apr 1, 2014 05:17 PM

                                                      Me too!!! Maybe if this post is still up, I will try to make it sometime this week, possibly Thursday!! I will let you know, super excited to try it.

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                                                        hill food RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 12:02 AM

                                                        you can always copy the text into a document and save that, but posts on CH stay up for years unless we get really offensive (it happens) - just have to remember a few key words if you don't copy it.

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                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: hill food Apr 2, 2014 06:33 AM

                                                          Haha. I am going to scan through later today and write down all of the things I enjoyed and want to make from this post. Also the blogs people have mentioned. Very excited to have found this website!

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                                                            LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 08:42 AM

                                                            Scroll up to the top of the thread, and you can print the entire thread. Right-click on your original post, and Print. Right now, it would be 20 pages long. :-)

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                                            ratgirlagogo RE: i_am_Lois Jul 20, 2014 09:00 PM

                                            Late replying to this (I came to this thread for another reason), but I just had to smile. This is the mac and cheese from the original Vegetarian Epicure (page 242). It was SUCH a revelation to me when I first made it close to forty years ago when I first moved out of the house. And all these years later it's still my favorite.

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                                            Tokyoite RE: Sdgirl619 Mar 31, 2014 11:13 PM

                                            I'm more concerned as to how these husbands get enough roughage for smooth sailing....if you get my drift.

                                            could you blend some vegetable into a sauce for lasagna or something?

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                                              Sdgirl619 RE: Tokyoite Apr 1, 2014 04:59 AM

                                              Hahaahahaha. I like your honesty and concern. I can guarantee cooking for a picky eater is my only issue. ;)

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                                                Kajikit RE: Tokyoite Apr 1, 2014 10:10 AM

                                                If they're anything like mine... they don't! lol He thinks that two tablespoons of green beans is enough fiber for the entire day. Left to his own devices he'd eat peanut butter sandwiches on white bread for supper every night (if I'm not up to cooking, he does!) But he's broadened his horizons over the nine years we've been married, so don't give up yet. We went to a fancy buffet a few weeks ago and he put some cous-cous on his plate and enjoyed it, so now I added it to the rotation. It comes out a box, but it's a little more variety. He tried hummus and baba-ganoush at a middle eastern restaurant years ago and loved them, and stuff like that... don't push foods at him, it backfires as badly as if you're trying to force a little kid to eat something they don't want. Go with the slightly more sophisticated version of the simple tastes, and see how far he's willing to go. If he says 'this is weird/I don't like it', step back. I love mac and cheese and carbonara. DH doesn't, but he'll eat boxed mac and cheese, so I buy the Kraft in a bag because it tastes more homemade... and so on.

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                                                  Sdgirl619 RE: Kajikit Apr 1, 2014 12:45 PM

                                                  Oh I never push foods at him! I try to get him to try things and he just says no and I'm like alright, not going to fight with you to eat this! Lol! I have not given up though!

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                                                    Tokyoite RE: Kajikit Apr 1, 2014 04:53 PM

                                                    Thanks for satiating my curiosity!
                                                    Lots of good suggestions in these posts :)

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                                                    melpy RE: Tokyoite Apr 1, 2014 11:27 AM

                                                    Not to be graphic but we have a complaint at our house that we eat too many vegetables and the sailing is TOO smooth.

                                                    When we eat crap like pizza and grease, things are "as expected".

                                                    What gives?

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                                                      Tokyoite RE: melpy Apr 1, 2014 04:54 PM

                                                      haha sorry, I need to wipe the coffee off my table.
                                                      (thank you for the morning pick me up!)

                                                  3. rudeboy RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 12:34 AM

                                                    Let's just wife swap for a few months out of the year. Not in a romantic way, but for the love of food. For my wife, eating is often just another task that has to be done and over with ASAP.

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                                                      Sdgirl619 RE: rudeboy Apr 1, 2014 05:01 AM

                                                      Ahahahahahaha. If we could, I would! Open up a whole new world to these two! Cooking is such an amazing release. I often hop in the kitchen and whip something up when I'm in a bad mood. Takes all my anger away and helps me focus.

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                                                      roro808 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 01:44 AM

                                                      Meatloaf? With glazed carrots and garlic mash potato should be good for picky eaters.

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                                                        Sdgirl619 RE: roro808 Apr 1, 2014 05:01 AM

                                                        I love it! Thank you!!

                                                      2. LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 06:31 AM

                                                        What about hamburger or beef stroganoff? You said he doesn't like sauce *on* things, but what about having the beef mixed in with the sauce, served over egg noodles?

                                                        Chicken Parm
                                                        Grilled chicken or steak
                                                        Meatloaf
                                                        Roasted chicken
                                                        Pork chops simmered in a homemade BBQ sauce
                                                        Homemade pizza - that way, you can both choose your own toppings from an assortment
                                                        Homemade oven-baked fried chicken
                                                        Steak fajitas

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                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 12:48 PM

                                                          My mom used to make the best beef stroganoff ever! Before he left for a month I made sure to let him know I would be making it when he got home! I have a feeling he will like it, he loves chicken alfredo and I made this crockpot garlic chicken that used cream of chicken soup, cream cheese and a packet of dry italian dressing. It came out pretty delicious and he ate two bowls! Of course I used better versions of the above and it came out great. Oh and I always make homemade pizza! He loves it. Steak fajitas are a good idea, I'll keep all the veggies for myself lol!

                                                        2. hotoynoodle RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 06:44 AM

                                                          my b/f is not big on vegetables, but in certain cases i have found it's a textural issue. for example, zucchini cut into rounds or chunks? no way, no how, not enough butter or cheese in the world. honestly, i don't care much for it that way either. however, i started making this:

                                                          http://food52.com/blog/7500-jennie-co...

                                                          and we both love it.

                                                          if he's used to packaged and processed foods his tastebuds are all hopped up on salt, junk oil and sugar. trying copycat recipes is a great suggestion and eventually his sense of what he likes may broaden.

                                                          for now, don't worry about using some butter, cream, cheese or bacon as a flavor augment. most vegetables can be steamed, pureed and finished with some olive oil or butter and some grated cheese to make a delicious side.

                                                          can you strike some kind of deal where he will try one new food a week? or is he too recalcitrant even for that?

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                                                            Sdgirl619 RE: hotoynoodle Apr 1, 2014 12:49 PM

                                                            Yeah the texture issue has been a thing for him since he was a young one!

                                                          2. C. Hamster RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 06:47 AM

                                                            I'd be seriously concerned that he won't eat vegetable matter, save for steamed carrots.

                                                            I know he's young, but not eating vegetables will bring on health problems like a ton of bricks later in life....

                                                            My BIL is a lot like your husband thanks to parents that have false food phobias and who cant cook. But SIL had a come-to-Jesus talk with him about health and he agreed to try salad and vegetables. He likes salad and broccoli now.

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                                                              cleobeach RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 06:59 AM

                                                              Food issues can be SO much more than just "not liking" something. Where do you think it is coming from? Was he not raised to try new things? Is it a control issue or eating disorder?

                                                              The difference between steamed carrots and baked carrots isn't that great. It is interesting his will-eats are so specific. And boxes pasta sides verse homemade, how can he tell the difference? I can by the taste but I have spoiled/pampered palate.

                                                              Knowing the root of it might be the first step in helping him reach a point where he can at least be open to trying more things.

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                                                                Sdgirl619 RE: cleobeach Apr 1, 2014 08:54 AM

                                                                He had a lot of texture issues growing up so he just pretty much got used to what he liked and that was the end of it.

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                                                                  cleobeach RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:37 AM

                                                                  What about masking the textures? You could puree onions when you make a meatloaf, for example.

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                                                                    Sdgirl619 RE: cleobeach Apr 1, 2014 12:52 PM

                                                                    Yeah, that's why I needed to post this because I wouldn't have generally thought about that. He's so weird, he likes funyuns but he won't touch anything with real onions in it. I LOVE onions lol.

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                                                                      cheesecake17 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:51 PM

                                                                      A friend of mine purées onions and carrots. Her husband won't go near either In whole form, but doesn't complain she it's puréed

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                                                                        Sdgirl619 RE: cheesecake17 Apr 1, 2014 04:17 PM

                                                                        Hilarious, I could see this in my household. I will try it!

                                                              2. weezieduzzit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:33 AM

                                                                First I would tell him that I love him and married him because I want to spend the rest of my life with him but that I don't want it to be one filled with illness and I don't want him to die years and years before me because of poor food choices. You have to get on the same page with this problem. I would see if he would agree to trying a certain number of new things a week and if I could take the same approach often used with picky kids where veggies are added to the current foods (tons of veggies can be cooked, pureed and added to foods that hide them well like spaghetti sauce. Also, pureed butternut squash added in small amounts to mac and cheese or grating zucchini on the small holes of the grater and adding to the ground turkey before making burgers- just peel it first so there is no telltale green!)

                                                                There are books targeted to feeding kids you could get from your library or bookstore. Probably some websites you could investigate.

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                                                                  LindaWhit RE: weezieduzzit Apr 1, 2014 07:42 AM

                                                                  He's an adult. Not sure I would want to hide what goes into his dinners from him.

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                                                                    weezieduzzit RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 07:43 AM

                                                                    You must have missed the part where I said " I would see if he would agree to trying a certain number of new things a week and if I could take the same approach often used with picky kids where veggies are added to the current foods " :)

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                                                                      LindaWhit RE: weezieduzzit Apr 1, 2014 07:49 AM

                                                                      Not sure what purpose it serves, however. Yes, he's aware of the food potentially being in there, but why not see if he'll just try one food item as they are vs. trying to hide them?

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                                                                        weezieduzzit RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 07:58 AM

                                                                        It helps develop a taste for the food without it being in your face bold. It can work very well with kids, I researched it and used it with the man's ex's daughter and she now eats many more things than she did before and she was a freaking nightmare to feed. Considering the number of books using this method I would guess it has quite a bit of success. I think Jerry Seinfeld's wife did one of the books.

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                                                                          LindaWhit RE: weezieduzzit Apr 1, 2014 08:17 AM

                                                                          Yes, I understand what it's *supposed* to do. But hiding butternut squash in mac & cheese doesn't actually give a real taste of butternut squash, or grating zucchini and mixing it into ground turkey doesn't give one a taste for zucchini.

                                                                          And while Seinfeld's wife wrote a book about it, it seemed to be for the purpose of getting healthy vegetables into kids who wouldn't eat the vegetables to begin with. She was purposely hiding them, and covering up their flavor with what the other things with which they were mixed. I personally disagree with that method.

                                                                          Again, the OP's husband is an adult. He should be capable of trying things on their own without them being hidden. If he chooses not to, that's his decision.

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                                                                            weezieduzzit RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 08:24 AM

                                                                            Yep, which is why I said I'd ask. I'm not sure why you're arguing about it, Linda. It was a suggestion for the OP, who can take it or leave it.

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                                                                              LindaWhit RE: weezieduzzit Apr 1, 2014 08:28 AM

                                                                              Not arguing. Just a difference of opinion.

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                                                                                Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 12:54 PM

                                                                                Honestly, lol, I think I would puree something and not tell him until after he started to eat it HAHA. He seriously would probably he like I am not eating that. He doesn't even like his food to touch.

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                                                                                  LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 01:06 PM

                                                                                  I guess I fall more into the honesty end of things vs. hiding something and running the risk of angering him. Tell him you'd like to have roasted Brussels sprouts one evening as a side dish, and ask him to at least try it. You can also make carrots if that's the only veg he'll eat, but at least you're getting something that you want as well that is not the same old, same old.

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                                                                                    Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 01:12 PM

                                                                                    No that's true! I am very honest with him but the only reason I wouldn't tell him until possibly after he ate it is because I know he wouldn't be mad. He would prefer me not tell him if there are things in his meal that he does not like. When I made the chicken with cream cheese and cream of chicken soup he asked what was in it and I told him honestly and he said "why would you tell me that stuff is in it" hahaha. He ate it anyway but I could see the look on his face after the first bite. I definitely always make my own meals but like I mentioned when I answered to someone else, most of my meals last me a few days. I make quinoa, roasted veggies, salads and it lasts me for awhile so cooking for him alone isn't a big deal or out of my way. Lol

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                                                                                      LindaWhit RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 01:18 PM

                                                                                      So he knows he often enjoys the dishes with what he thinks are strange or weird ingredients and won't try it if he *knows* what's in it, but then likes it when he does. He's a tough nut to crack, that one. :-)

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                                                                                        Sdgirl619 RE: LindaWhit Apr 1, 2014 03:27 PM

                                                                                        LOL, that's him! He's crazy (not really, I love him!) but he is so damn picky. Sometimes I wish he would just eat the damn soup I made! But then I think, I have ALL this delicious soup (or whatever else) to myself! I'll get him to branch out, at least a little!

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                                                                                    MidwesternerTT RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 09:09 PM

                                                                                    Reminds me of an Uncle-in-law. He'd been known to order "a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, on separate plates".

                                                                  2. JTPhilly RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 07:59 AM

                                                                    I have a brother who makes your husband's palate sound like Anthony Bordain's LOL

                                                                    He likes a very very limited array of foods even as an adult.

                                                                    forcing and sneaking tend to make picky eaters retreat to the packaged foods they "trust"

                                                                    I would say focus on making healthful simple meals that he will like and include extra sides and sauces that make it interesting and healthy for you - a baked chicken breast can be one thing on your plate and another on his.

                                                                    The limited palate does not mean a lack of appreciation for quality - my brother was terrified to go on vacation to Italy because Italian food is "fear factor" stuff for him - sauce, cheese, pasta - horrors - but he was maybe more than anyone really amazed by the food there - the quality and freshness of the simple things he likes - chicken, potatoes, bread, pizza (plain only) really impressed him.

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                                                                      Sdgirl619 RE: JTPhilly Apr 1, 2014 12:58 PM

                                                                      Oh I try to make everything from scratch. I found a much healthier recipe for his beloved pasta sides. So I'll use whole grain pasta, coconut milk, organic butter, etc. He loved it and it was the same concept so he was getting what he liked but a better version for him. I eat a lot healthier than he does. I love veggies, quinoa, beans, tuna, chicken, etc.

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                                                                        JTPhilly RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 01:20 PM

                                                                        sounds like you are doing pretty well within the constraints. I will never understand the gigantic appeal of pasta sides, certainly something to be improved on by making your own version.

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                                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: JTPhilly Apr 1, 2014 03:26 PM

                                                                          Oh my gosh, right?! They are NOT good. Although I got over being pretty sick a couple of months ago and all we had was a box of the alfredo and I ate the whole thing :X Needless to say I didn't feel too good after that! After I tasted the homemade version, even I was hooked! So much more flavor AND I know what went into it!

                                                                    2. ccbweb RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 08:37 AM

                                                                      Can you rif a bit on some of the things you've mentioned? Chicken parmesan for instance? You could leave the sauce off of his chicken. Meatloaf instead of burgers? What about a tuna, noodle casserole using canned tuna? Would that deemphasize the tuna enough?

                                                                      Cous cous? What about a pilaf with toasted pasta?

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                                                                        Jerseygirl111 RE: ccbweb Apr 1, 2014 10:34 AM

                                                                        The original post said no fish. I love canned tuna but it is fishy tasting.

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                                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: ccbweb Apr 1, 2014 12:55 PM

                                                                          Oh lord, tuna. I guess when he was a child everytime he would eat tuna he would throw up so his parents just gave up on feeding it to him. So tuna is a definite no. I eat it straight from the can lol!

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                                                                            ccbweb RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 09:48 AM

                                                                            Ah well!

                                                                        2. The Chowhound Team RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 09:23 AM

                                                                          Folks, could we try to focus on recipes and ideas that meet the original poster's husband's needs, rather than analyzing their relationship or debating whether it's even a good idea to accommodate picky eaters. Thanks!

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                                                                            Sdgirl619 RE: The Chowhound Team Apr 1, 2014 12:58 PM

                                                                            Lol! Thanks!!!!!!

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                                                                            jujuthomas RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:22 AM

                                                                            When DH and I started dating there were many things he didn't eat because of his mother's cooking. (she's really pretty bad). we made a deal that I'd make things and he'd try them once - for example his mother cooks pork chops until they are sad little bits of jerky. I made my lovely, succulent braised pork chops for him and he like them so much i had to make them twice that weekend. Now he's a more adventurous eater than I am. Perhaps you can make a deal with your hubs like that and help him expand his horizons.

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                                                                              roro808 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:30 AM

                                                                              Oh how I wish I was married to my husband (now deceased) with simple taste.... instead he had such exotic and fine taste in food !!! Was not easy to prepare meals, for sure... especially when we had company.

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                                                                                melpy RE: roro808 Apr 1, 2014 11:29 AM

                                                                                I think I would prefer a little less simple. He likes plain at home and gives no input for meals but then poo poos a nice restaurant because it isn't flavorful enough.

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                                                                                Jerseygirl111 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:38 AM

                                                                                Does he like cake/quick breads?

                                                                                Zucchini bread is a great way to introduce some zucchini without him being confronted with vegetables on the plate.

                                                                                Carrot cake?

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                                                                                  Sdgirl619 RE: Jerseygirl111 Apr 1, 2014 12:59 PM

                                                                                  I have been desperately wanting to make zucchini bread but have not yet! I will give it a try. He loves my homemade bread, pizza crusts, etc. Carrot cake I'm not too sure about. I don't think he is too big of a fan. Thanks!

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                                                                                    cheesecake17 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:52 PM

                                                                                    I've had luck making zucchini bread in cupcake tins. A smidge of cream cheese frosting makes it a cupcake.

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                                                                                      Sdgirl619 RE: cheesecake17 Apr 1, 2014 04:16 PM

                                                                                      YUM! I love it. Thanks!

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                                                                                        cheesecake17 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 05:45 AM

                                                                                        I've learned one important lesson in life - make it in a cupcake and they (husband and toddler) will eat it!

                                                                                        I make a lot of food in cupcake form!

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                                                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: cheesecake17 Apr 2, 2014 06:35 AM

                                                                                          Speaking of cupcakes I made some gluten free vegan chocolate cupcakes for his homecoming! Good idea though, I will give this a try!

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                                                                                  Hobbert RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 10:44 AM

                                                                                  My husband is something of a picky eater and it was pretty frustrating early on. Especially since he also doesn't cook :)

                                                                                  Now I just don't tell him what's for dinner. He likes basic stuff so I use that as a base. You like meatballs? Great, we're having Thai inspired meatballs with yellow curry and rice. He doesn't eat flour so I avoid that but his disinterest in cooking forces him to either eat oatmeal and eggs or try dinner. Don't like it? Cool- now I've got leftovers for work. Not making it into a big deal was helpful. He wasn't rejecting me- he just didn't like my Moroccan stew :)

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                                                                                    cleobeach RE: Hobbert Apr 1, 2014 11:01 AM

                                                                                    Hobbert put into words what I was thinking. Just cook, keeping his palate somewhat into consideration and don't make a big deal about it.

                                                                                    Not unlike how I approach my child. Meatballs go on the plate without a discussion. I don't tell him that they are ground turkey meatballs instead of his preferred beef or whatever the difference is as it relates to his limits. Hopefully small changes will be acceptable.

                                                                                    Treat ingredients the same way. Puree offending things like minced onions so all you are left with is the onion flavor in meatloaf instead of pieces of minced onions or mash garlic to a paste before adding it.

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                                                                                      Sdgirl619 RE: cleobeach Apr 1, 2014 01:03 PM

                                                                                      I actually have gotten him on turkey burgers over beef lately. He loves them! I was pleasantly surprised as I am a big fan of turkey burgers. I made homemade pretzel buns for him to eat with them and it is like a heaven sent meal made just for him lol! If I have a few things to choose from I will text him and ask him what sounds better for dinner, if not I will make something I know he likes. I really don't put myself on the back burner which I feel like a lot of people on this post think I am doing. My meals are a lot easier to cook in advance and last me a few days (quinoa, roasted veggies, beans, tuna, etc.). Or I will bake some chicken, half in buffalo sauce for him and the other half plain for myself and generally I will have leftovers. With my meals being so easily used as leftovers for myself, cooking a completely different meal (that is also simple and easy) isn't that big of a deal. Especially if I can throw it in the crockpot! Even so, I love to cook and spending a few hours in the kitchen preparing and cooking a meal is something I love to do.

                                                                                  2. emily RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 11:00 AM

                                                                                    Pioneer Woman's website might be helpful. People like to criticize her blog, but a lot of her recipes will likely work for your husband. Here's a link to her "Marlboro Man Approved" recipes:
                                                                                    http://thepioneerwoman.com/cooking/ca...

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                                                                                      GlobalTable RE: emily Apr 1, 2014 12:52 PM

                                                                                      I agree - she's got some keepers in there!

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                                                                                        Sdgirl619 RE: emily Apr 1, 2014 01:03 PM

                                                                                        Hey thank you!!! I appreciate that!!

                                                                                      2. GlobalTable RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 11:51 AM

                                                                                        I "made" my picky husband eat a meal from every country in the world (in truth we discussed it and agreed it was a great plan for our family) - by the end of four years he was decidedly NOT picky - in fact he LOVES trying new things now. He looks at food as an adventure, not an attack.

                                                                                        But this success took a lot of patience and love.

                                                                                        Definitely start slow - many things are textural - so if he doesn't like onions, try roasting them and pureeing them (he might like the flavor just not the bits). I used this technique to help him enjoy mushrooms.

                                                                                        I also have a rule - dinner is dinner is dinner. No exceptions. He never tries to buck it, but it helps to have in place with a 4 1/2 year old ;)

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                                                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: GlobalTable Apr 1, 2014 01:05 PM

                                                                                          That's true, I mean the guy loves funyuns so I'm sure the taste of real onions in something will not throw him off too much.

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                                                                                            GlobalTable RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 04:41 PM

                                                                                            Exactly! If you want to see my husband's "approved" recipes from our adventure, let me know. you'd laugh... his first ones were almost all fried, but you'll notice the more recent favorites are way more adventurous than his early ones... Let me know - I can share the link.

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                                                                                              Sdgirl619 RE: GlobalTable Apr 1, 2014 05:18 PM

                                                                                              Please do! I would love to see this! :)

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                                                                                                P_penelope RE: GlobalTable Apr 1, 2014 10:09 PM

                                                                                                I absolutely love this idea and would be thrilled if you'd share the link as well. I may steal your plan for my family!

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                                                                                                  GlobalTable RE: P_penelope Apr 2, 2014 07:51 AM

                                                                                                  Here you both are!

                                                                                                  http://globaltableadventure.com/categ...

                                                                                                  Like I said - his most recent favorites are more adventuresome - but peppered in there you'll see things like a Uruguayan hot dog, Ukranian pasta bake (made with bacon), scones, and all kinds of stuff. The key is to make it fun! Invite people over and give your loved one some friendly peer pressure.

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                                                                                                    melpy RE: GlobalTable Apr 2, 2014 08:41 AM

                                                                                                    This sounds super fun. My husband used to be very picky is always asking to try new cuisines. Ultimately his favorite things are still pretty plain or meat heavy but I can't wait to peruse your blog.

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                                                                                                      GlobalTable RE: melpy Apr 2, 2014 09:05 AM

                                                                                                      Thanks melpy... There are some GREAT meat dishes we've tried from around the world - one of them is Suya - it sounds strange to some but whenever they try it, they're instantly won over ... The grilled beef skewers have a crust of peanuts, ginger, garlic, and spices...

                                                                                                      http://globaltableadventure.com/2012/...

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                                                                                                        LindaWhit RE: GlobalTable Apr 2, 2014 10:24 AM

                                                                                                        That sounds amazing!

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                                                                                                          weezieduzzit RE: GlobalTable Apr 2, 2014 10:38 AM

                                                                                                          That looks really good! What could I sub for the bouillon cube? Is it there to be salty? I just can't do the taste of bouillon cubes.

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                                                                                                            GlobalTable RE: weezieduzzit Apr 3, 2014 08:22 AM

                                                                                                            The bouillon cubes are very traditional in west African cooking - it provides some salt, some chickeny flavor. For a substitute you might try using a spoonful of the chicken bouillon paste (the flavor is bold and fresh - you store it in the refrigerator). The recipe would be a tad more moist, but I think it would work!

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                                                                                                              weezieduzzit RE: GlobalTable Apr 3, 2014 08:54 AM

                                                                                                              Unfortunately, I can't stomach the paste either- it all tastes metallic and chemically to me, event the "better" brands. Thanks for the suggestion, though. I'll check some other suya recipes and see if I can figure something out, your pics and description of it have put it near the top of my list of things to try and we already like a lot of African food. :)

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                                                                                                                ccbweb RE: weezieduzzit Apr 3, 2014 09:04 AM

                                                                                                                This looks like a tasty alternative someone came up with: http://myfrenchcuisine.blogspot.com/2...

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                                                                                                                  melpy RE: weezieduzzit Apr 3, 2014 09:12 AM

                                                                                                                  Can you reduce a homemade broth until it is gelatinous and season it well and use that as sort of a homemade "better" type. I think it would freeze well.

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                                                                                                                    Westminstress RE: weezieduzzit Apr 3, 2014 09:22 AM

                                                                                                                    I think you could leave out the bouillion cube and just add salt to taste. If chicken flavor is essential, you could add a little chicken fat or jus (harvested from the pan next time you roast a chicken).

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                                                                                                            MamasCooking RE: GlobalTable Apr 3, 2014 08:00 PM

                                                                                                            LOVE your food blog!!!!! Enough to make me try to experiment a bit:)

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                                                                                                              P_penelope RE: GlobalTable Apr 5, 2014 10:44 PM

                                                                                                              Oh, WOW. That global food adventure is amazing! Thank you for sharing it with us. I'm totally trying this with my family.

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                                                                                                      pedalfaster RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 11:54 AM

                                                                                                      My guess is that *you* are bored with the pizza, turkey burgers, spaghetti etc.

                                                                                                      Your husband is most likely perfectly happy with his diet.

                                                                                                      Cook what YOU want to cook. Make enough so that hubby can have a portion. He's a grownup ( I hope) and if he doesn't like dinner, he can fix himself a PB&J.

                                                                                                      If it helps any, take comfort that often it is the "super tasters" who have a very limited diet. Their palates can not handle the overload of new tastes.

                                                                                                      A limited diet also has no bearing on your husband's intelligence. Many super-duper smart people are simply not all that interested in food-for-food's-sake. As long as they get enough calories to chug along, they are content..and it frees up their minds to focus on more important things.

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                                                                                                        Sdgirl619 RE: pedalfaster Apr 1, 2014 12:39 PM

                                                                                                        I think your post is one of my favorites and so spot on!!! I eat lots of other things, quinoa and vegetables, baked chicken mostly. Oh he is very smart! He just doesn't like most things but I think if I just get better at throwing things together I can make some pretty decent meals that he will enoy! Thank you!

                                                                                                      2. MamasCooking RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 02:36 PM

                                                                                                        I am LOL. I had a B/F whose Japanese mother was a gourmet cook. She could butcher animals,fish, debone an entire turkey,duck,chickens,etc. and create wonderful beautiful exotic foods. His father (her husband) ate the same turkey sandwich every day of his life (when he was at home or work) for 25 years:) I say feed your husband what he likes. That way you know he is eating, right?

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                                                                                                          Sdgirl619 RE: MamasCooking Apr 1, 2014 03:32 PM

                                                                                                          Oh I do! and I agree!! I just want to be able to provide him a few more recipes and meals to choose from rather then the same thing every week. So let's say I have 5 new recipes to add to my already maybe 10, that's 15 different meals already. :)

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                                                                                                            MamasCooking RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 04:09 PM

                                                                                                            Variety is good but maybe he only likes certain things. Some people are super picky. I am very picky too but luckily I do like a wide variety of foods.

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                                                                                                          cheesecake17 RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 03:55 PM

                                                                                                          One thing that worked in expanding my husband's tastes was making something that was open to interpretation.

                                                                                                          Husband and daughter both love taco night- they like ground beef, I like beans. I also make a variety of fresh salad and salsa toppings.

                                                                                                          On pizza night, make two trays. One with his preferred choices, one with yours. My husband's new favorite pizza is white pizza with a fried egg. (When I married him, eggs were only scrambled and served on a bagel)

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                                                                                                            valerie RE: cheesecake17 Apr 1, 2014 05:01 PM

                                                                                                            Totally agree with this. My husband doesn't like most vegetables. I often make things like fajitas with chicken or steak. I put lots of onions and peppers in the pan as well. My daughter and I eat the fajitas with the peppers and onions, husband and son only eat the chicken or steak...and cheese. Same thing goes for tacos.

                                                                                                            Sdgirl619, you mentioned that he likes buffalo chicken. What about buffalo chicken meatloaf? My husband wouldn't have gone near meatloaf with a 10 foot pole, but when I made buffalo chicken meatloaf (or meatballs), he liked it. Same for BBQ chicken meatloaf.

                                                                                                            And speaking of meatballs, my husband doesn't like regular beef meatballs, but he likes thai chicken meatballs.

                                                                                                            My husband eats 1,000 more things than he did when I met him. I don't try to force vegetables on him, but it doesn't stop me from eating them or making them for my kids.

                                                                                                            What about chicken sausage? We eat that over pasta. I add roasted vegetables or spinach or other vegetables to mine, my husband just has parmesan cheese on his.

                                                                                                            Or tonight I made a roast turkey breast with roasted red potatoes. Again, I have roasted carrots, cauliflower and onion, my husband does not.

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                                                                                                              Sdgirl619 RE: valerie Apr 1, 2014 05:16 PM

                                                                                                              BUFFALO CHICKEN MEATLOAF? He may have died and gone to heaven with this! I will try it!!! I didn't even know such a thing existed, you genius! He hasn't tried chicken sausage yet. Yum

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                                                                                                                valerie RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 1, 2014 05:54 PM

                                                                                                                Here's the buffalo one and the bbq one. The bbq one calls for turkey but we prefer it with ground chicken breast. Oh, and my husband does not like big pieces of onion in anything so whenever I use onion, I just dice it very small.

                                                                                                                http://traceysculinaryadventures.com/...

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                                                                                                                cheesecake17 RE: valerie Apr 2, 2014 05:46 AM

                                                                                                                My husband loves stir fried broccoli and spicy sausage. I add in cubes of chicken breast for myself. It's always a winner

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                                                                                                                  Sdgirl619 RE: cheesecake17 Apr 2, 2014 06:36 AM

                                                                                                                  Broccoli is probably one of my favorite vegetables but I have not tried anything like that with him! Will have to try and expand with veggies and the way I prepare them.

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                                                                                                                    melpy RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 2, 2014 09:54 AM

                                                                                                                    Besides corn (a grain), peas, lettuce and baked beans, broccoli was one vegetable my husband at when I met him. It can be used in lots of different ways. It lends itself well to cheesey things which can ease you into the flavor. Spinach is another vegetable that can be be eased into. Like in a pasta sauce or cheesy quiche.

                                                                                                                    The key to vegetables if finding the sweet spot for doneness.

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                                                                                                                      valerie RE: melpy Apr 2, 2014 12:31 PM

                                                                                                                      I gave up on trying to get my husband to eat vegetables. He eats broccoli (cooked) and baby carrots (raw) and corn. Spinach and lettuce, not in a million years. But that's okay, it doesn't stop me from eating them.

                                                                                                                      My husband did actually agree to try buffalo roasted cauliflower. He didn't like it, but he at least tried it. He NEVER would have agreed to that when we met 14 years ago.

                                                                                                                      http://www.closetcooking.com/2013/01/...

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                                                                                                                        cheesecake17 RE: valerie Apr 2, 2014 01:19 PM

                                                                                                                        My husband refuses salad also. It's a "waste of space" he claims.
                                                                                                                        But after 7 years, he will pretty much any cooked vegetable or crudités (except green peppers and raw tomatoes)

                                                                                                            2. Teague RE: Sdgirl619 Apr 5, 2014 11:00 PM

                                                                                                              During my marriage, I ended up cooking two meals, one for him and one for me. I just couldn't deal with the strict limitations of my husband's diet, that way he got what he wanted and so did I. It worked out fine. It helped that my meals were often frozen vegetables and his were pork chops, not too hard to do.

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