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SD: Places to go if your having an affair. .

Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 06:03 AM

From a classic post on the LA board..

Got me thinking..where in SD, would you send them?
Strictly for fun..happily married.

Hungry Hunter Mission Valley

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  1. Beach Chick RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 09:37 AM

    Golden Acorn Casino dining room
    Iron Door Saloon Ocotillo Wells

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      DoctorChow RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 10:59 AM

      Butterfield at La Casa del Zorro.

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        Beach Chick RE: DoctorChow Feb 8, 2014 05:51 AM

        Love the Butterfield room at the gorgeous resort...
        Have they reopened?

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          DoctorChow RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 10:17 AM

          Yes, it's open now. The Fox Bar and patio area opened first -- last summer.

          It has a more modern look now (and a big TV in the bar area). I liked it better the way it was, especially sans TV. Food was ok but they were just getting re-started.

          I don't know about the look of the main dining room, which used to be pretty formal, or the food -- haven't been.

      2. Gypsy Jan RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 12:40 PM

        The Steak House in Chula Vista


        Cafe la Maze, National City


        Not that I would know anything about this. :)

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          Beach Chick RE: Gypsy Jan Feb 8, 2014 06:00 AM

          ; ~)

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          aliceqfoodie RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 07:26 PM

          Went to the golf course grill at the Grand Del Mar a couple of weeks ago for breakfast with the rents at their suggestion. Would be a great place to go if you're having an affair, because there would be NO ONE there to see you. ;)

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            Beach Chick RE: aliceqfoodie Feb 8, 2014 05:58 AM

            Grand Del Mar..good call Alice!

          2. ipsedixit RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 09:01 PM


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              Beach Chick RE: ipsedixit Feb 8, 2014 05:53 AM

              Had to Google Legend. .
              Is that the infamous Club Legend in Kearny Mesa?
              ; )

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                ipsedixit RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 07:22 AM


            2. Fake Name RE: Beach Chick Feb 7, 2014 09:09 PM

              Just got back from a dinner at Wellington's.

              Classic dark and hushed intimate place.

              Really, really good food, too.

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                Beach Chick RE: Fake Name Feb 8, 2014 05:55 AM

                Sounds like the perfect place..
                I wish more resto's were dark, hushed and intimate.

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                  Fake Name RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 06:26 AM

                  It was.

                  And we lingered like we never would elsewhere. Which means we bought dessert and after-dinner drinks like we never would elsewhere.

                  And enjoyed each other's company like we couldn't elsewhere.

                  Which makes it a restaurant, not a dining hall.

                  1. re: Fake Name
                    Beach Chick RE: Fake Name Feb 8, 2014 06:35 AM

                    Love that you and Mrs. Fakey lingered over after drinks, desserts and conversation..

                    What did you and the the Mrs. have?

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                      ipsedixit RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 07:23 AM

                      Why do you assume it was Mrs. Fakey?

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                        Beach Chick RE: ipsedixit Feb 8, 2014 07:39 AM

                        I know Fakey and he is devoted to the Mrs..
                        Plus, me another chica on this board are his 'girlfriends'!

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                          ipsedixit RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 08:37 AM

                          I hope both you and Fakey realize I was joking.

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                            Fake Name RE: ipsedixit Feb 8, 2014 09:56 AM

                            It was MrsName to whom I'm devoted- she had a quail special that was awesome, the leftovers on which I'm about to pounce.

                            I had the Wellington (Had to try the signature dish) and it was very good- m a y b e cooked a little beyond med-rare, but still flavorful and tender.

                            Two Caesar salads- well executed.

                            A goat cheesecake.

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                              ipsedixit RE: Fake Name Feb 8, 2014 06:31 PM

                              Do they do a table-side Caesar?

                              Dying art ...

                              1. re: ipsedixit
                                DiningDiva RE: ipsedixit Feb 8, 2014 06:48 PM

                                Absolutely a dying art :-(. I've had so many bad Caesars, which is a shame since it's a really nice and simple salad.

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                                  DoctorChow RE: DiningDiva Feb 8, 2014 07:02 PM

                                  I'm glad that Romesco does it right, IMO.

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                                    DiningDiva RE: DoctorChow Feb 8, 2014 07:07 PM

                                    I've had a bad version at Caesar's in TJ!!! Way over dressed.

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                                      DoctorChow RE: DiningDiva Feb 8, 2014 08:03 PM

                                      Yeah, sorry to hear. That bursts my bubble a little...although I've heard that said before.

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                                      P Macias RE: DoctorChow Feb 12, 2014 08:54 PM

                                      This place is so old school and they are trained right. Brings back memories of the old days in Baja, after the races and the jai alai. I love Romesco's. And they know how to mix drinks. Love that Proseco and Campari.

                              2. re: ipsedixit
                                DoctorChow RE: ipsedixit Feb 8, 2014 10:23 AM

                                Should have used my nifty handy-dandy "tongue-in-cheek" emoticon, ipse.

                  2. DiningDiva RE: Beach Chick Feb 8, 2014 08:47 AM

                    Hmmm...if I was having an affair, to me, the most logical thing is to just head south to Tijuana...

                    Chances of running into to someone unforeseen would be pretty slim...

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                      Veggo RE: DiningDiva Feb 8, 2014 09:10 AM

                      I posted Ensenada for the same reason, but it was deleted. Plus, it's a nice ride once you're south of the TJ traffic.

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                        DiningDiva RE: Veggo Feb 8, 2014 09:46 AM

                        It's a beautiful ride. Unfortunately, the most gorgeous part of it slide almost into the ocean right after Christmas.

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                        P Macias RE: DiningDiva Feb 12, 2014 08:57 PM

                        Don't bet on it! I've had a few unexpected run ins there. But not so many now that La Fonda is not the same. Everybody stopped there.

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                          LorenzoGA RE: P Macias Feb 14, 2014 01:38 PM

                          What happened to La Fonda?

                          1. re: LorenzoGA
                            Gypsy Jan RE: LorenzoGA Feb 14, 2014 02:59 PM

                            Joe Dmytri sold/rented it to new investors several years ago.

                            They thought that they knew what they were doing, but the food went downhill and the rooms also went downhill.

                            Last we heard, he was talking about taking it back for non-payment.

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                              foodiechick RE: Gypsy Jan Feb 14, 2014 03:39 PM

                              That is welcome news about his possibly taking it back.

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                                foodiechick RE: Gypsy Jan Feb 15, 2014 10:46 PM

                                Estero Beach. Any update on that old 70's hangout? We saw a travel show that featured it and it looked like someone had bought it and spent some serious $$$ to bring it up to 2014 standards. There was some clue that it could be Hugo that owns RB Hotel.

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                                  Gypsy Jan RE: foodiechick Feb 16, 2014 01:40 PM

                                  I read a good, meaning that they had a good experience, review about the food (always first with me, and the rooms recently.


                                2. re: Gypsy Jan
                                  LorenzoGA RE: Gypsy Jan Feb 16, 2014 07:16 AM

                                  I left SD over 10 years ago, but I recall many great times at La Fonda. It's hard to imagine the rooms had any downhill left to go--they were a bit skanky. But it was all part of the experience.

                                  Joe was the spitting image of my father-in-law, and somewhere there's a pic of them together.

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                                    MrKrispy RE: LorenzoGA Feb 20, 2014 11:24 AM

                                    awww man, I haven't been to La Fonda in about 5 years, and Ms. Krispy and I have been talking about getting Sentri passes and going back to La Fonda and that area. I agree that I wouldn't think the rooms could go downhill short of literally going down that hill. I loved eating on the cliffside though.

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                                      Beach Chick RE: MrKrispy Feb 20, 2014 12:22 PM

                                      Love La Fonda and wonder if the wooden ship is still there on the dance floor..

                                      Of the zillion of times I've been for Mex breakfast, drinks, lobster and guac with beers, never seen the rooms on the Cliffside.

                                      We always had use of a house at Las Gaviotas up the road.

                                      I miss Mexico so much!

                                      Get the sentri pass and take Ms. Krispy and whoop it up for us all.

                                      Take Jan, DD and Foodiechica and you'll have one hell of a time.
                                      ; )

                                      1. re: Beach Chick
                                        foodiechick RE: Beach Chick Feb 21, 2014 02:07 AM

                                        Sweetie...the pirate ship dance floor is at Calafia. But both Calafia and La Fonda both have cliff side hotel rooms. We have only tried La Fonda. Pretty funky. "Taco" beds. ;)

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                                          Beach Chick RE: foodiechick Feb 21, 2014 04:47 AM

                                          LOL. .
                                          I've been mixing these two up for years.
                                          Must be the zillion of times I've been..hee hee

                                          1. re: Beach Chick
                                            Fake Name RE: Beach Chick Feb 21, 2014 07:31 AM

                                            and so rarely sober.

                                            1. re: Fake Name
                                              Beach Chick RE: Fake Name Feb 21, 2014 08:21 AM

                                              ha ha ha..
                                              Who asked for a second martini first at the Rancho Valencia Resort?

                                              ; )

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                                            foodiechick RE: foodiechick Feb 22, 2014 12:08 AM

                                            Taco beds indeed. That was the first place that I heard that phrase!

                            2. Beach Chick RE: Beach Chick Feb 9, 2014 06:38 AM

                              Hernandez Hideaway
                              Bully's East
                              Fish Fry place in Jacumba

                              1. Dagney RE: Beach Chick Feb 9, 2014 09:51 PM

                                Come on guys....Mr A's!

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                                  RB Hound RE: Dagney Feb 9, 2014 09:57 PM

                                  JV's burritos to go; cheap hotel room.

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                                    Dagney RE: RB Hound Feb 9, 2014 10:22 PM

                                    L O L

                                    1. re: RB Hound
                                      Beach Chick RE: RB Hound Feb 10, 2014 07:02 AM

                                      If I'm gonna stray, it's not going to be a JV's burrito and a cheap motel room..

                                      Room service baby at the Grand Del Mar!

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                                        Veggo RE: Beach Chick Feb 10, 2014 07:35 AM

                                        Sounds nice! Do they offer a Siesta Rate?

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                                    RB Hound RE: Beach Chick Feb 20, 2014 10:06 AM

                                    My brain keeps combining this thread with the afternoon tea thread, and the result is that "Afternoon Delight" starts playing in my head.

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                                      Beach Chick RE: RB Hound Feb 20, 2014 12:17 PM


                                      1. re: Beach Chick
                                        Gypsy Jan RE: Beach Chick Feb 21, 2014 11:01 AM

                                        Seconding the LOL!

                                      2. re: RB Hound
                                        DoctorChow RE: RB Hound Feb 20, 2014 04:50 PM

                                        Hmmm...So what song do you get if you combine those two threads PLUS this month's Dish of the Month thread???

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                                          globocity RE: RB Hound Feb 21, 2014 08:20 PM

                                          Well then you gotta watch the episode of Arrested Dev't where Michael and his niece unknowingly sing that song at a corporate function. Good stuff.

                                        2. globocity RE: Beach Chick Feb 21, 2014 08:19 PM

                                          Pal Joey's

                                          The Lodge At Torrey Pines

                                          The West End

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                                            foodiechick RE: globocity Feb 22, 2014 12:06 AM

                                            I don't know, West End is full of local men. I run into peeps at Lodge at Torrey Pines often. ;)

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                                              Beach Chick RE: foodiechick Feb 22, 2014 06:47 AM

                                              I've seen them lined up at West End before 6am..thank goodness its on the PB side vs La Jolla side of the street.
                                              Is its twin, the Night Owl down on Garnet?

                                              The Lodge at Torrey Pines..good call/bad call..depends how you roll in LJ...
                                              2 LJ chicas, we'd have to slum it in Del Mar...hee hee

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                                                globocity RE: foodiechick Feb 22, 2014 12:53 PM

                                                "local" for you maybe!

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                                              DoctorChow RE: Beach Chick Feb 22, 2014 01:45 PM

                                              Hmmmm...Can't help but notice that there have been 58 posts (so far) to a thread about where to drink & dine (and whatever) if having an affair.

                                              Just a casual observation...

                                              1. Divamac RE: Beach Chick Feb 22, 2014 02:02 PM

                                                My first thought upon seeing the title only was going to be Albie's :)

                                                I'm going to add Muzita Abyssinian Bistro to the list. It's small and dark, exotic, and you can feed each other with your hands.

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                                                  globocity RE: Divamac Feb 22, 2014 05:08 PM

                                                  See now Univ Heights is the worst place (next to North Pk) for my hypothetical affair. But I do love me some Muzita.

                                                  1. re: Divamac
                                                    foodiechick RE: Divamac Feb 23, 2014 12:19 AM

                                                    I dunno. Chef Andrew Spurgin is single handedly cheerleading Wednesday nights at Albie's as the new "it" place. Gibsons and a steak dinner.

                                                  2. Beach Chick RE: Beach Chick Jul 9, 2014 06:33 AM

                                                    Jeremy's on the Hill in Wynola/Julian..great food and heard they bought the motel next door.

                                                    Rancho la Puerta in Tecate..love love love this resort..better than Golden Door in Esco. IMHO.

                                                    La Casa del Zorro in Borrego has re-opened and that was always a fun getaway at the Fox den bar and dining at the Butterfield room.
                                                    The casitas were nicely appointed and loved when Helen owned it..
                                                    Wonder who owns it now?

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                                                      phee RE: Beach Chick Jul 9, 2014 09:17 AM

                                                      Last I knew, it was purchased by Jack McGrory and a couple of other guys - both San Diegans. It had lost it's luster after the Copley's sold it, though I can't remember who bought it, but I'm told the new owners are doing it justice. We plan a visit in the fall.

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                                                        Beach Chick RE: phee Jul 9, 2014 10:53 AM

                                                        When we were flying out of SAN to CDG on the morning of 9/11, we weren't going to Paris for my bday/anniversary and I remembered I had a gift certificate to La Casa del Zorro and it was a lovely 3 days of eating and drinking..it was a nice place to get away from all the sadness.

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                                                          littlestevie RE: phee Jul 9, 2014 11:09 AM

                                                          They spent some money, but there was a ton of deferred up keep on the place. Too bad all of the cool old paintings of California history that the old man had commissioned are gone. If I remember, the restaurant was actually pretty good. Hopefully the new restaurant will be good as well, because there were not a lot of dining options in Borrego.. We too plan on a visit this fall.

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                                                            Beach Chick RE: littlestevie Jul 9, 2014 11:21 AM

                                                            All those stunning fresco cowboy paintings are gone?
                                                            That's criminal. .

                                                            We've always had good meals at the restaurant, whether for lunch for the day or for dinner, when staying at the resort.

                                                            I still think the Hotel Bel Air is the place to play...especially, after the remodel..

                                                            Who knew that James Copley renamed the resort to his mistress, who lived nearby..


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                                                              littlestevie RE: Beach Chick Jul 9, 2014 12:40 PM

                                                              The paintings I am thinking of are oil on canvas. In your link, there is an old picture of the Butterfield room and it shows the paintings. I guess his mistress must have been Helen, it is hard for me to think of her as a fox.

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