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SD: Places to go if your having an affair. .

From a classic post on the LA board..

Got me thinking..where in SD, would you send them?
Strictly for fun..happily married.

Hungry Hunter Mission Valley

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  1. Golden Acorn Casino dining room
    Iron Door Saloon Ocotillo Wells

    1. Butterfield at La Casa del Zorro.

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      1. re: DoctorChow

        Love the Butterfield room at the gorgeous resort...
        Have they reopened?

        1. re: Beach Chick

          Yes, it's open now. The Fox Bar and patio area opened first -- last summer.

          It has a more modern look now (and a big TV in the bar area). I liked it better the way it was, especially sans TV. Food was ok but they were just getting re-started.

          I don't know about the look of the main dining room, which used to be pretty formal, or the food -- haven't been.

      2. The Steak House in Chula Vista


        Cafe la Maze, National City


        Not that I would know anything about this. :)

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        1. Went to the golf course grill at the Grand Del Mar a couple of weeks ago for breakfast with the rents at their suggestion. Would be a great place to go if you're having an affair, because there would be NO ONE there to see you. ;)

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            1. re: ipsedixit

              Had to Google Legend. .
              Is that the infamous Club Legend in Kearny Mesa?
              ; )

            2. Just got back from a dinner at Wellington's.

              Classic dark and hushed intimate place.

              Really, really good food, too.

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              1. re: Fake Name

                Sounds like the perfect place..
                I wish more resto's were dark, hushed and intimate.

                1. re: Beach Chick

                  It was.

                  And we lingered like we never would elsewhere. Which means we bought dessert and after-dinner drinks like we never would elsewhere.

                  And enjoyed each other's company like we couldn't elsewhere.

                  Which makes it a restaurant, not a dining hall.

                  1. re: Fake Name

                    Love that you and Mrs. Fakey lingered over after drinks, desserts and conversation..

                    What did you and the the Mrs. have?

                    1. re: Beach Chick

                      Why do you assume it was Mrs. Fakey?

                      1. re: ipsedixit

                        I know Fakey and he is devoted to the Mrs..
                        Plus, me another chica on this board are his 'girlfriends'!

                        1. re: Beach Chick

                          I hope both you and Fakey realize I was joking.

                          1. re: ipsedixit

                            It was MrsName to whom I'm devoted- she had a quail special that was awesome, the leftovers on which I'm about to pounce.

                            I had the Wellington (Had to try the signature dish) and it was very good- m a y b e cooked a little beyond med-rare, but still flavorful and tender.

                            Two Caesar salads- well executed.

                            A goat cheesecake.

                            1. re: Fake Name

                              Do they do a table-side Caesar?

                              Dying art ...

                              1. re: ipsedixit

                                Absolutely a dying art :-(. I've had so many bad Caesars, which is a shame since it's a really nice and simple salad.

                                1. re: DiningDiva

                                  I'm glad that Romesco does it right, IMO.

                                  1. re: DoctorChow

                                    I've had a bad version at Caesar's in TJ!!! Way over dressed.

                                    1. re: DiningDiva

                                      Yeah, sorry to hear. That bursts my bubble a little...although I've heard that said before.

                                    2. re: DoctorChow

                                      This place is so old school and they are trained right. Brings back memories of the old days in Baja, after the races and the jai alai. I love Romesco's. And they know how to mix drinks. Love that Proseco and Campari.

                              2. re: ipsedixit

                                Should have used my nifty handy-dandy "tongue-in-cheek" emoticon, ipse.

                  2. Hmmm...if I was having an affair, to me, the most logical thing is to just head south to Tijuana...

                    Chances of running into to someone unforeseen would be pretty slim...

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                    1. re: DiningDiva

                      I posted Ensenada for the same reason, but it was deleted. Plus, it's a nice ride once you're south of the TJ traffic.

                      1. re: Veggo

                        It's a beautiful ride. Unfortunately, the most gorgeous part of it slide almost into the ocean right after Christmas.

                      2. re: DiningDiva

                        Don't bet on it! I've had a few unexpected run ins there. But not so many now that La Fonda is not the same. Everybody stopped there.

                          1. re: LorenzoGA

                            Joe Dmytri sold/rented it to new investors several years ago.

                            They thought that they knew what they were doing, but the food went downhill and the rooms also went downhill.

                            Last we heard, he was talking about taking it back for non-payment.

                            1. re: Gypsy Jan

                              That is welcome news about his possibly taking it back.

                              1. re: Gypsy Jan

                                Estero Beach. Any update on that old 70's hangout? We saw a travel show that featured it and it looked like someone had bought it and spent some serious $$$ to bring it up to 2014 standards. There was some clue that it could be Hugo that owns RB Hotel.

                                1. re: foodiechick

                                  I read a good, meaning that they had a good experience, review about the food (always first with me, and the rooms recently.


                                2. re: Gypsy Jan

                                  I left SD over 10 years ago, but I recall many great times at La Fonda. It's hard to imagine the rooms had any downhill left to go--they were a bit skanky. But it was all part of the experience.

                                  Joe was the spitting image of my father-in-law, and somewhere there's a pic of them together.

                                  1. re: LorenzoGA

                                    awww man, I haven't been to La Fonda in about 5 years, and Ms. Krispy and I have been talking about getting Sentri passes and going back to La Fonda and that area. I agree that I wouldn't think the rooms could go downhill short of literally going down that hill. I loved eating on the cliffside though.

                                    1. re: MrKrispy

                                      Love La Fonda and wonder if the wooden ship is still there on the dance floor..

                                      Of the zillion of times I've been for Mex breakfast, drinks, lobster and guac with beers, never seen the rooms on the Cliffside.

                                      We always had use of a house at Las Gaviotas up the road.

                                      I miss Mexico so much!

                                      Get the sentri pass and take Ms. Krispy and whoop it up for us all.

                                      Take Jan, DD and Foodiechica and you'll have one hell of a time.
                                      ; )

                                      1. re: Beach Chick

                                        Sweetie...the pirate ship dance floor is at Calafia. But both Calafia and La Fonda both have cliff side hotel rooms. We have only tried La Fonda. Pretty funky. "Taco" beds. ;)

                                        1. re: foodiechick

                                          LOL. .
                                          I've been mixing these two up for years.
                                          Must be the zillion of times I've been..hee hee

                                            1. re: Fake Name

                                              ha ha ha..
                                              Who asked for a second martini first at the Rancho Valencia Resort?

                                              ; )

                                          1. re: foodiechick

                                            Taco beds indeed. That was the first place that I heard that phrase!

                            2. Hernandez Hideaway
                              Bully's East
                              Fish Fry place in Jacumba

                                1. re: Dagney

                                  JV's burritos to go; cheap hotel room.

                                    1. re: RB Hound

                                      If I'm gonna stray, it's not going to be a JV's burrito and a cheap motel room..

                                      Room service baby at the Grand Del Mar!

                                      1. re: Beach Chick

                                        Sounds nice! Do they offer a Siesta Rate?

                                  1. My brain keeps combining this thread with the afternoon tea thread, and the result is that "Afternoon Delight" starts playing in my head.

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                                      1. re: RB Hound

                                        Hmmm...So what song do you get if you combine those two threads PLUS this month's Dish of the Month thread???

                                        1. re: RB Hound

                                          Well then you gotta watch the episode of Arrested Dev't where Michael and his niece unknowingly sing that song at a corporate function. Good stuff.

                                        2. Pal Joey's

                                          The Lodge At Torrey Pines

                                          The West End

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                                          1. re: globocity

                                            I don't know, West End is full of local men. I run into peeps at Lodge at Torrey Pines often. ;)

                                            1. re: foodiechick

                                              I've seen them lined up at West End before 6am..thank goodness its on the PB side vs La Jolla side of the street.
                                              Is its twin, the Night Owl down on Garnet?

                                              The Lodge at Torrey Pines..good call/bad call..depends how you roll in LJ...
                                              2 LJ chicas, we'd have to slum it in Del Mar...hee hee

                                              1. re: globocity

                                                Pal Joey's????

                                                Not the first place I'd think of if I were having an affair, but you'd not be found, that's for sure :-D

                                              2. Hmmmm...Can't help but notice that there have been 58 posts (so far) to a thread about where to drink & dine (and whatever) if having an affair.

                                                Just a casual observation...

                                                1. My first thought upon seeing the title only was going to be Albie's :)

                                                  I'm going to add Muzita Abyssinian Bistro to the list. It's small and dark, exotic, and you can feed each other with your hands.

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                                                  1. re: Divamac

                                                    See now Univ Heights is the worst place (next to North Pk) for my hypothetical affair. But I do love me some Muzita.

                                                    1. re: Divamac

                                                      I dunno. Chef Andrew Spurgin is single handedly cheerleading Wednesday nights at Albie's as the new "it" place. Gibsons and a steak dinner.

                                                    2. Jeremy's on the Hill in Wynola/Julian..great food and heard they bought the motel next door.

                                                      Rancho la Puerta in Tecate..love love love this resort..better than Golden Door in Esco. IMHO.

                                                      La Casa del Zorro in Borrego has re-opened and that was always a fun getaway at the Fox den bar and dining at the Butterfield room.
                                                      The casitas were nicely appointed and loved when Helen owned it..
                                                      Wonder who owns it now?

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                                                      1. re: Beach Chick

                                                        Last I knew, it was purchased by Jack McGrory and a couple of other guys - both San Diegans. It had lost it's luster after the Copley's sold it, though I can't remember who bought it, but I'm told the new owners are doing it justice. We plan a visit in the fall.

                                                        1. re: phee

                                                          When we were flying out of SAN to CDG on the morning of 9/11, we weren't going to Paris for my bday/anniversary and I remembered I had a gift certificate to La Casa del Zorro and it was a lovely 3 days of eating and drinking..it was a nice place to get away from all the sadness.

                                                          1. re: phee

                                                            They spent some money, but there was a ton of deferred up keep on the place. Too bad all of the cool old paintings of California history that the old man had commissioned are gone. If I remember, the restaurant was actually pretty good. Hopefully the new restaurant will be good as well, because there were not a lot of dining options in Borrego.. We too plan on a visit this fall.

                                                            1. re: littlestevie

                                                              All those stunning fresco cowboy paintings are gone?
                                                              That's criminal. .

                                                              We've always had good meals at the restaurant, whether for lunch for the day or for dinner, when staying at the resort.

                                                              I still think the Hotel Bel Air is the place to play...especially, after the remodel..

                                                              Who knew that James Copley renamed the resort to his mistress, who lived nearby..


                                                              1. re: Beach Chick

                                                                The paintings I am thinking of are oil on canvas. In your link, there is an old picture of the Butterfield room and it shows the paintings. I guess his mistress must have been Helen, it is hard for me to think of her as a fox.

                                                        2. Tobey's@19th hole at Balboa Golf Course..
                                                          One of my fave places and the comfort food is sublime.

                                                          Barrett Junction for the fish fry on the way to Tecate..

                                                          Jalisco's Cafe

                                                          1. The Galley at the Chula Vista Marina

                                                            The Hob Knob Hill

                                                            Old Trieste

                                                            Also, thanks for the walk down Baja memory lane. SENTRI is a must if you make even one trip across and back each year. Plus, you'll be enrolled automatically in Global Entry and TSA Pre-check.

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                                                            1. re: Susangria

                                                              Hah...Old Trieste. I would be busted in a nanosecond there. Old industry haunt, especially at lunch.

                                                            2. Please correct me if I am wrong, but aren't the Indian casino/hotel properties easy to get lost in the crowd in, plus they are loud, with lots of distracting lights and very noisy?

                                                              Even if ya get caught, nobody can prosecute or sue ya, not that I know diddly about that.

                                                              P.S. Also how about the Warner Springs Ranch, Palomar, the Ayres Inn, Alpine, and the two grand old nearby-but-out-of-the way places in Baja Norte - the Meling Ranch and Mike's Sky Rancho. Nobody would ever believe that you are having an affair, "Need some outdoor manly time, I'm just going hunting for quail, baby."

                                                              1. For the record, I'm very happy with MrsName.

                                                                That typed, if I was not, I'd need to go to Siberia or even Berlin because that known circle is simply too wide.

                                                                I'd be busted in an instant. And deservedly so...

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                                                                1. re: Fake Name

                                                                  You'd get busted even north of the 52?

                                                                  1. re: RB Hound

                                                                    Oh, yeah. And south of the border.