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Social media - do you know CHs who are also friends on social media? And does it add to the experience?

A current thread brought up FB in particular, comparing it to CH. That's its own discussion. But it made me think about the fact that I have a few FB friends who I also know from CH. And I really like that. Hopefully most of us are about more than just food and FB (others also, I'm sure) allows me to know more about them, whereas most of that would be off-topic here. I know about their families, their politics, their hobbies, their travels. As well as food. One in particular shares the most wonderful pictures (fine art, photos, you name it). And knowing them better off CH gives me a different, sometimes better, appreciation of them. Any of you have this experience and how does it work for you?

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  1. Interesting topic. I don't participate in any other social networking community for the sheer pleasure of another person's online company. Having the opportunity to talk about non food topics or topics often referred to as OT on CH makes perfect sense. Also if you have had the experience of meeting people face to face I have no doubt that that opportunity does offer another benefit altogether and creates diff relationships going forward.

    The only differences I see btwn a social network like FB and food based forums like CH is the membership parameters for controlling discussion (how you handle your personal profile, who you friend/unfriend and how many pages you join to broaden your experience) is managed by you and the oversight/moderation of communicating of course is very different.

    I have not joined FB because I don't need another outlet to get my online discussion fix. CH fits the bill.

    1. AFAIK it's at 2 (who knows what friends IRL may be out there lurking) 1 is halfway around the world (so no chance of either of us being a weirdo showing up on the doorstep) and whip-smart-funny and it's cool to get a world perspective from another continent. another, also fun, is from my hometown whose tastes coincide with mine, and as it turns out, we did run in the same circles many many years ago, just never F2F.

      I like the contrast in that.

      although c oliver I'd add you. I'd simultaneously take out a restraining order, but I'd add you (smirk) - see it's funny as even with GPS and a valid address it's hard to find me, oh god when you have to explain a joke it just dies.

      1. Ha!! You guy's think I'm a trouble maker on here!! I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be friendly with me anymore on Chow if you were my Facebook friend.

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        1. re: jrvedivici

          I have had good experiences making friends with many CH's by e-mail, with only one exception.
          No Facebook in my future.

          1. re: Veggo

            Just out of curiosity, "No Facebook in my future", do you mean no Facebook in general, or no crossing between Facebook and Chow?

            1. re: jrvedivici

              I have no urge to sign up on Facebook. It sounds like an endless waste of time with zero intellectual benefit.

              1. re: Veggo

                It's an easy way for me to keep up with my friends, as well as acquaintances. I enjoy knowing what people are up to. It's also a very informal and easy way to get to know people better. I've met lots of people while out and then became Facebook friends with them, and over time, built a real friendship with them via fb interaction. Had I just met them out that once, that interaction alone probably wouldn't have been enough for the comfort of actually exchanging numbers and hanging out right away. But like I said, fb is a very casual way of building these friendships over time.

                I enjoy sharing pictures, sharing my thoughts, etc. it's a fast way to reach lots of people. For instance, if I post asking for a recommendation for a hair salon (which I actually did last week) I'm getting responses from people I never would've thought to call and ask. You don't always know who has the answer.

                1. re: SaraAshley

                  Doesn't anyone use email anymore? I accomplish everything you are describing SaraA by using email. I don't understand why FB is necessary to communicate when we now have texting, email, phones?

                  What does FB offer that these basic tools don't?

                      1. re: Veggo

                        Poking via email is like kissing your cousin, just not the same.

                        1. re: jrvedivici

                          That's close enough. And jr, in the future try to do a better job washing those "hard to reach places".
                          See! It even works here...:)

                      2. re: jrvedivici

                        And the Apps out there pretty much take care of any poking you wish, don't they..

                        1. re: HillJ

                          Hey HillJ!! Do I need to look at your phone? You have "poking" apps? Hmmmmm???

                          1. re: jrvedivici

                            Oh jrv, you shouldn't be surprised at what the folks in my life are teaching me in the least. If I don't stay current, how will I ever stay relevant? LOL!

                      3. re: HillJ

                        Well......I have over 400 friends on fb (which isn't even considered a lot, I know plenty of people who have double that), but anyways, I would never think to email a group that big, ever. I'm not going to send an email to 400 people asking a simple, trivial question, but I would post one on fb. If you think email is informal, fb is even more so. It's not necessary to communicating, but it does add another outlet for communication. I'm a very communicative person who thrives on social interaction, so for me, fb is great.

                        1. re: SaraAshley

                          Unless it was a newsletter, e-vite or some announcement requiring 400 people needing to know, I wouldn't email 400 people at one time either.

                          I only ask the question because of how you were describing FB. If FB gives you some added feature while being able to speak directly to a couple hundred people at the same time with their attention only on your question and the 400 potential friends responding then the big difference is capturing the attention of 400 people ALL at one time over even small interactions. For smaller interactions, info I'd use email, group txt or the phone.

                          1. re: HillJ

                            Well, no. Their attention is never going to be only on your question, your thought, or your picture, but that's what I like about it. I'm sure some people scroll right past without reading everything I say (I know I do sometimes for other people's posts), but I like the surprise of finding out who does read, who agrees, doesn't agree, etc. Again, this is a very informal way of perhaps getting to know someone better, or at least learning something about them. As an example, perhaps I met "John" at a mutual friend's get together. We didn't speak a whole lot, but he remembers me from the party and one day sees my name pop up on his fb, and decides to add me. From there I start posting things as normal, as does he, and I find that I enjoy his opinions and that we have a lot in common, and a friendship begins. Our interaction at the get together was too brief to realize that we even wanted a friendship, but through fb, informally, we discovered this, and now we both have a new friend. :)

                            1. re: SaraAshley

                              Cool, Sara. I hope you live happily ever after and have pretty babies!

                                1. re: jrvedivici

                                  Paul Anka song plays in background....

                                2. re: SaraAshley

                                  I see. Thank you for explaining it.

                            2. re: HillJ

                              FB offers the random (or not so random) encounter that throws a different equation into the mix. ("oh wow your cousin was a neighbor and your great-aunt made the best preserves and then the one my age really screwed up his life")

                              AFAIK not something Ch is here to offer.

                              1. re: hill food

                                I get that different equation over using email but the same type of thing can occur in group emails, group txts and group calls....also Skype. So I'm not won over by FB except to admit that it's popular and lots of folks enjoy using it even if I'm not one of them.

                              2. re: HillJ

                                I find Facebook communication to be faster than email, and much easier for people on the go. For me, a lot of my old friends are moms with young kids, so they don't really have time to sit down and write emails or have phone conversations updating me about their life. One of my very close friends doesn't even have a computer, only a smartphone. But on Facebook, they can post pictures of their kids, and quick snippets of what's going on with them and their families. Also, I like that I can just scroll through my newsfeed and see all the updates at once, whereas with email, I'd have to read through multiple emails, or send multiple emails.

                                One time, a friend (the one without a computer) posted that she was looking for a recipe for pork chops. Through Facebook, I was able to send her links to some of my favorite pork chop recipes. Other people were able to do the same. So, while I could have sent her the recipes via email, she was able to get a lot of input because one question posted resulted in many responses, much like it would here on CH.

                                Also, we used Facebook to plan our Super Bowl party. I guess it's similar to evites, but it was easy to just add our friends and set up the event, collect RSVPs etc.

                                1. re: juliejulez

                                  We use text and IM for all of that right off our phones. Email for other things. Group txt, group IM and group emails. I do the same for book club.

                                  I find txt and IM incredibly fast. As long as you have a cell phone.

                                  Important messages in all forms I just bookmark. Evites I rec' via email.

                                  Glad FB works for you!

                                  1. re: HillJ

                                    I think it's probably a generational thing. I've tried emailing friends and they don't respond, because they don't check their email that often, but check Facebook regularly. Also a lot of people don't have unlimited texting so I try not to text someone if they haven't texted me first. For IM, you have to rely on them having an IM account... most of my friends don't. Because they use Facebook! :)

                                    1. re: juliejulez

                                      Makes sense. The popularity is not lost on me. I just don't need it. I don't believe FB only attracts a certain age group though. You either enjoy FB or you don't.

                                      1. re: HillJ

                                        Another great example for why FB is so great: I organize a weekly jour fixe at one of the numerous Sichuan restaurants in town. What started as a fairly small group has now ballooned into 31 members (no, they don't all show up every week - thank goodness!).

                                        Setting up the event with information on time & at which restaurant we're meeting that particular week is super-easy, as is messaging any or all members of the group.

                                        It is a *lot* more immediate for most of my friends than email, RSVPs are visible for everyone, etc. etc.

                                        I see no downside to FB except for that black hole it sucks you into occasionally. It can be quite the time waster, for sure.

                                        1. re: linguafood

                                          CH's my indulgence for time wasting (spent happily). The book club I belong to doesn't use FB but I'm understanding why some people do...and like me don't.

                                          1. re: HillJ

                                            You have a lot of opinions about Fb, considering you're not on it. Kinda like posting on the Chains board when you don't eat at chains, no?

                                            1. re: linguafood

                                              Yes I do. I've been on FB through the accounts of family & friends, sure. I have a lot of questions about FB. So I'm learning. My only opinion is that the other forms of online communication I do use, work just fine w/out adding FB to the list.

                                                1. re: MamasCooking

                                                  Did I ask one too many questions, lol.

                                                  1. re: HillJ

                                                    Not at all:) Just giggling because I can remember being a school kid in the early 60's and learning long division, fractions etc. by rote and we did not even have calculators. And grocery stores had to punch every item in (like a typewriter keyboard) individually. Fast forward to 2014 where all of us are dependent on technology and loving it. Who could have predicted that?

                                                    1. re: MamasCooking

                                                      As a CH friends says, we have all the knowledge of the universe literally at our fingertips.

                                                      1. re: c oliver

                                                        Sometimes TMI ! Information overload wasn't something I ever thought about in the 60's!

                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                          Totally. I'm such an info junkie so it feeds my disease. I cooked seared duck breast the other night and, lord in heaven, did I find a lot of recipes, on and off CH.

                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                            Information overload is the story of my fucking life these days, especially considering that my brain capacity is the slice of a tiny lima bean.

                                                            1. re: kevin

                                                              kevin - a friend predicted about 10 or 15 years ago that in the future, a high level of un-connectivity will be the new status symbol.

                                                              1. re: hill food

                                                                Was Ted Kazinski your friend? Much of his manifesto said the same thing.

                                                          2. re: c oliver

                                                            But you have to filter through the apropos knowledge when using the Internet and you have to make sure that you are efficient when searching for information on the Internet or else ...

                                                            1. re: kevin

                                                              Not sure I understand, kevin. Or what it has to do with my OP :)

                                                              1. re: c oliver

                                                                in reference to info overload and garnering solid recipes, rather than possibly faulty recipes thru diligent internet research.

                                                                oh, well, i'm confused myself. no worries.

                                                                please disregard.

                                                                1. re: kevin

                                                                  NOW I understand :) When faced with the enormity of even CH recipes, it's overwhelming. Then you leave CH and it gets crazy. Separating wheat from chaff is a good skill.

                                                          3. re: MamasCooking

                                                            And does anyone remember the old abacus to add up stuff ?????????

                                                            1. re: kevin

                                                              Is an abacus the old calculating tool with the sliding figures? I do remember those. Not using one but I think there was one on display somewhere in my elementary school. Maybe the library. As far as using the internet for actual research I did it when I was in nursing school to augment my theory lectures. I used specific medical/science/academic sites though that charged for access.

                                                              1. re: MamasCooking

                                                                Yes that's correct. Every time I went for Chinese food with my Uncle the owner of the restaurant was using a abacus. Late 50's. I haven't seen one in use in decades.

                                                                Google grants for non profits and their Adwords program led to a great deal of research at one point in my career. But I recall using the search engine Alta Vista (now Yahoo) for most of my early online surfing.

                                                                  1. re: kevin

                                                                    Yes, that's the one. When was the last time you saw an abacus in use?

                                                                    1. re: HillJ

                                                                      Probably the last time I saw one used was back when the dinosaurs roamed the earth.

                                        2. re: HillJ

                                          I use FB to keep in touch with old friends from high school, work, college etc. I don't have many I don't know offline. There are a few people i'm "friends" with but don't know in person. However, they are usually some kind of connection from a real live friend. Bc of FB we were able to rehome our baby kittens when all else completely failed. I connected a few friends with employment. I also notice others asking computer help questions and other random questions for help. I also keep in touch with relatives and friends overseas. with a 5 yr old at home as he is in school only part time, it's a good way for me to keep up with friends. Getting on the phone or emailing can get exhausting. I also get to see friends kids pictures and other images I think I'd otherwise probably won't see. My friend passed away last year from cancer and she was basically on FB for her last year bc she was in bed and didn't have the energy to see others in person.

                                          Facebook is for every age but mostly older than younger now. the younger kids may have a FB account but probably more active on instagram and snapchat. I know my in laws and older demographics are jumping on bc it's easy. they're retired and it's a good way for them to connect.

                                          you can also tailor your posts. you don't have to announce your engagement or share your pics with everyone. you can make groups or pick and choose.

                                          1. re: trolley

                                            Wow trolley that's a good deal of reasons you're using FB. If it works for you and those you care about, cool.

                                            I've done all the things you describe using other means of communication and saw no reason to add FB to the list. As I have described already on this entire thread.

                                            One things for sure, fans of FB take the "fan" part to heart!

                                            1. re: HillJ

                                              it works for me especially as a mom to a young child. I can't sit and email individuals bc I don't have the energy or time. nor am i interested in sending a group email and bcc'ing everyone bc some people don't want to share email addresses with people they don't know. I text and FB. I think some comedian said talking on the phone with someone with a child is like talking to someone with tourettes. i don't mean to make fun of people with tourettes but my son seems to have urgent needs the moment i get on the phone to talk. FB is a one shot deal in many ways. it's on my terms as well as yours. win win for this mom. I did think about deleting my account but I recently moved a to a new state and I miss my old friends. But I still get to see them via FB. Not a bad thing.

                                              1. re: trolley

                                                Exactly. My family is fragmented all over the place. All are younger and have busy lives none of them have time to sit and Skype or chit chat so posting updates....pics...news on FB that then comes right onto my news feed is great. And vice versa for all of them. One stop shopping so to speak:) Get all the family news on one feed!

                                                1. re: MamasCooking

                                                  The same time spent typing, reading and uploading photos on CH I can make/take 3 Skype calls from my niece away at college.

                                                  It seems to take the same amount of time for us. It's only a different way of communicating. But what I like about it is even if we aren't in the same room, at least we still make time for each other.

                                                  Everyone's busy these days is such an over used reason for comfortably relying on other methods of staying in touch. I like to actually see & hear from family & friends. We make the time.

                                                  Different strokes, MamasC.

                                      2. re: Veggo

                                        Veggo - and you would be largely right. I use it to keep in touch with farflung friends but also have the privacy set fairly high. too many idjits snattering.

                                        1. re: hill food

                                          My friends know how and when to communicate useful information. We don't care about pictures or stories of last night's meal.

                                            1. re: hill food

                                              Cute critter pics are OK! No salad photos. please!

                                            2. re: Veggo

                                              Yes, please spare me the Facebook Twitter-like updates.

                                          1. re: Veggo

                                            Oh it is, Veggo. It really is. But also a bit of fun too.

                                            1. re: Gio

                                              I've probably learned more about a wide, WIDE range of subjects there than anywhere. With the CH group I see more when I see them on FB. And some food topics that don't really get attention on CH - maybe a great stir fry! - brings it to the forefront for me. I'm not a WFD participant usually so get to see things that I wouldn't ordinarily.

                                    2. Yes I have Facebook. Yes I use it wayyyy too much. I'm only Facebook friends with one person from Chowhound, though.

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                                      1. re: SaraAshley

                                        Which is really what my OP was about and not whether you use or don't or like or dislike. I have a handful of FB friends that I've interacted with on CH for the seven or so years I've been here. I enjoy knowing them more multi-dimensionally ? than "just" food. And I can't remember posting pictures on food on FB as I will on CH.

                                        1. re: c oliver

                                          How do you identify yourselves on FB so you know it's a CH? Do you use the same s/n or do you email each other first? How does that work? Also, since a FB button appears on nearly every CH page how does that fit in while using CH?

                                          1. re: HillJ

                                            That's interesting about the FB "like" button on CH. I've never used it. But I'm guessing if I read something I like on CH and want to share it on FB I just hit "like" and write something. I tried it and it wouldn't post unless I wrote something. For instance, I have several friends who can outcook me any day of the week. But they're not on CH. So I could "like" and they would see that. What I've done in the past is copy a link and email to them. Maybe I'll try this.

                                            All my FB friends use their real names so that made connecting the CH ones pretty easy. If they wanted to 'friend' me, they would send a message and give their CH and real name. I've actually gotten much closer to these people via FB than I ever could on CH. That's not a criticism of CH but it's not the nature of their beast. One friend's wife got a HUGE promotion and I'd never have known about that on CH (and that's how it should be).

                                            I LOVE people and quickly fall into 20 questions mode if given the chance :) Getting to know more about my fave CHs is just nice. Nothing complicated.

                                            1. re: c oliver

                                              Well, when you describe FB that way, it sounds really nice.

                                            1. re: kevin

                                              I started emailing with this person, so that's how we became fb friends. I'm not opposed to being fb friends with other people from CH, but I don't go looking up anyone or anything either.

                                              1. re: SaraAshley

                                                also, hope this doesn't sound wrong but there are more members of the general community on FB than on more super-specific CH.

                                                  1. re: kevin

                                                    Goes without saying :) But it's alright if the "twain" meet!

                                                      1. re: kevin

                                                        twain? well I'd hope you're not just scanning things with OCR and pasting/posting.

                                            2. Well, I'm on Facebook. I rebelled against joining at first but I only have 4 first tier relatives. They live in three different states and only one lives in MA whom I do see on a regular basis. Yes, we did e-mail each other but they are younger than I am and this is their preferred mode of instant communication other than Skype.

                                              As for other C'hounders it's sweet to be able to communicate apart from CH even tho there's some frequent postings and overlaps about food, restaurants, and recipes. Like minded people talking about they like and don't like with no monitoring. I have a number of current and past CH friends on FB. In fact there's a separate FB page specifically for the "disenfranchised" CHs.

                                              On the whole it can be a huge waste of time but if one scrolls quickly through their news feed and only stops to read an eye-catching bit it's an easy way to keep in touch with one's RL friends and relatives.

                                              I belong to a couple of groups other than CH. Immediately important to me is my Green Mountain Rug Hooking Guild. Many updates and pertinent information is on FB even tho there's a website to which we can refer. Having this instant view, if you will, to hear of announcements and the like is essential.

                                              1. No. My FB account is for private family and friends only. I actually refuse friend requests from people whom I am not personally acquainted with. I have deleted many FB *friends* from old jobs....schools etc. and only have 35 FB friends. Almost all are family and they reside all over. I do post a lot of my cooking......baking bread...gardening pics on FB for them to see.

                                                1. I follow and am followed by some hounds on twitter. It makes for a more fun interaction to see photos of a new dish. Interaction to see how they liked it and reminds me to go to a place.

                                                  It's led to getting to know some of them better and more comfortable enough to meet them for a meal.

                                                  I see a lot of people denigrating twitter and Facebook and all I can say to that is it depends on how you use it. Both are just tools. It's up to you to curate and make the connections that give you the content you want.

                                                  I find Facebook immensely helpful for keeping the bonds between close friends who no longer see each other on a daily basis. It's perfect for posting something somewhat throwaway which doesn't warrant an email. Then someone can chime in with a comment and a whole trail starts. It's just like when we'd all see each other and have fun banter.

                                                  It's also a great way to make new friends due to common grounds. A friend of a friend may comment on a post, then start exchanging jokes and comments. Next time I visit the friend, we'll invite the other person I haven't met to join us and we become friends.

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                                                  1. re: Jase

                                                    Oh goodness I hope my lack of interest in joining FB or Twitter isn't taken as a slam against those who do. That's pointless.

                                                    How we communicate with other people isn't the issue. I haven't read one example yet that differs from my own experience without using FB or Twitter. I use plenty of communication tools to keep connected. I just didn't jump on the FB train when it left the station.

                                                    I keep the bonds close with friends by calling them on the phone, writing and visiting. I find FB a substitute for RL. Maybe that's not a fair assessment. Those of you enjoying FB have your own reasons. Cool.

                                                    OTOH, communities like Chowhound have a specific scope of expected conversation that is delightful. I'm not so sure I would wind up discussing what benefits there are to using my freezer with a group of friends over drinks, or where to find the best french toast in NY at great length or why TJ's pumpkin croissants rocked this year.

                                                    But for everything else, I would feel a bit funny writing it down in a FB forum for hundreds of people I don't know personally to read.

                                                    Different comfort level that's all.

                                                    1. re: HillJ

                                                      Email, phone and visits are fantastic but those don't work for quick fun retorts and comments that start a round table discussion. I keep my FB friends to less than 50.

                                                      My friends and I use it to replace those water cooler kind of conversations we used to have when we all worked or lived closer to each other and random conversations would happen as we were walking together and another friend comes along.

                                                      Something funny happens to someone and they mention it. I make a crack about it. Another friend riffs off my comment and off to the races everyone goes. Or I post a funny photo of myself and friends will tease me about it.

                                                      That's not the kind of thing you can do in an email, a phone call or in a visit. Not everyone can participate at the same time. But those are the kind of bonding moments that keep the whole group abreast of each other.

                                                      1. re: Jase

                                                        Something funny happens to someone and they mention it. I make a crack about it. Another friend riffs off my comment and off to the races everyone goes.
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                                                        In my opinion that kind of interaction happens here on Chowhound often, and not in a good way. Sometimes I swear every thread I read is hijacked by the same group of people who spin any subject off into some kind of unrelated happytalk that they think is hilarious and is just tedious for everyone else. There's no need for those posters to use any other social media, because they use Chowhound for everything. Obviously they know they're doing it, because every so often there''s a "let's keep this on topic, so muffin" comment. Every once in a while no big deal. All the time irritating.

                                                        1. re: Samalicious

                                                          The talk about the talk is another reason why FB does not appeal to me. There are enough complaints made about how we discuss topics, gossip, how we spell, who is right, who isn't over food. The idea that I could get that kind of value over subjects like politics, religion, the color of my hair........ha!

                                                          CH has minor flaws, we've all got them.

                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                            I'm sure that happens on FB regularly. But I guess I've chosen my "friends" carefully (I only have about 50) as that doesn't happen. A topic may get discussed in detail but it doesn't veer off into that silliness that happens on CH. One difference between the two is that, were that to happen, anyone in the discussion can call out the 'offerender.'

                                                            1. re: c oliver

                                                              My niece uses FB for college, text too. She had no choice. Professors force you to open a FB page, the college wants their students interacting online via their Univ FB page and the career center shows students how to use Linkedin for resume building. My niece felt it was all a bit too much to demand and then it turned out the school also had their own beneficial reasons for having their students use these marketing tools. Revenue. The IT dept dumps financial aid docs once a week and sometimes those docs don't make the Google house cleaning, which led to FB scandals about record keeping and privacy. Not to mention the new term I learned last month, thumb thugs. People who hassle FB'ers for sport.

                                                              Something so friendly and harmless on the one hand, turns into a real pita for someone else. I have no doubt that keeping your FB profile controlled by you is an important aspect to socializing in that space.

                                                              1. re: HillJ

                                                                I have a busy, professional, young family member (30ish) that just quit FB. Said it took up too much time. Joined linkedin for networking and has a blog for business/ social mix stuff. I thought that was a bold and unusual move!

                                                            1. re: c oliver

                                                              The same has been said about CH's taking a heated discussion too far on some Food Media topics. I'd rather come across a joke than a verbal lashing. We all have our moments.

                                                            2. re: Samalicious

                                                              One can almost guess CH'ers who also do FB, because they forget to change gears and rattle on with nonsensical chitchat on CH which I assume is the norm on FB. Not much signal-to-noise ratio.

                                                              1. re: Veggo

                                                                I don't know what you mean.....
                                                                Be right back...gotta let my corgi out....eat breakfast...

                                                                  1. re: linguafood

                                                                    Admitting my imperfections is the first big step...

                                                                  2. re: Veggo

                                                                    Yeah, boy, those posters who rattle on with nonsensical chitchat on CH sure are annoying. Sure. are.

                                                                1. re: Jase

                                                                  Well FB is only 10 years old. Made the news last night. Email I've been sending for far longer. And a phone call still works. I can call a friend or Skype and hear their voice and we laugh and laugh. If I'm following your description, I would be typing out a joke or linking something fun for them to read. I enjoying hearing my friends voice.

                                                                  Like I said, different comfort levels.

                                                                  1. re: HillJ

                                                                    TOTES as the Valley Girls say :) My OP isn't about whether one forum or another is the best or only. It's about whether you think meeting CHs on a social media site enhances the experience. I do. BTW, my "friends" don't talk about where they're headed to lunch etc. But, again, mine are probably quite a bit older than some. 'Course nowadays I under young people are fleeing FB cause they don't want their parent and grandparents knowing everything they're doing :)

                                                                    1. re: c oliver

                                                                      I don't think the enjoyment of FB has anything to do with age, maturity, anything like that. Some people just enjoy it.

                                                                      1. re: HillJ

                                                                        They do. And for the hours Americans spend on it, Chinese students are busy studying and are filling up the top American Universities, lapping the field of underqualified American students.

                                                                    2. re: HillJ

                                                                      I'm not sure you really grasp the benefits of Facebook, I guess it also depends on your level of voyeurism.

                                                                      For instance probably half of my high school graduating class is on Facebook. Even though I'm not nor ever were "friends" with a lot of them, it's still nice to see how/what everyone is doing, their kids and spouses. If you are someone like me who is somewhat "outspoken" it's a great way to share your feelings or views on things from current events, politics, food, family and or everything in between.

                                                                      My 20 year high school reunion was strictly promoted via Facebook. No paper invitations or notifications. There is an alumni page for my high school, there are various pages for different groups or organizations I belong to or follow.

                                                                      I also have Facebook "fan" pages as they are called for my business and for different restaurants I've been involved in. From the professional stand point you build up a fan base and you share your business information to them with different updates. For yourself, if I recall correctly you own a bed and breakfast, you establish a page for it.....you send fan requests to all your old guests. (via their email addresses) You ask them to share your page with their friends and families.......let's say you want to promote "romantic weekends" during the winter/slower months. You direct market to both your past clients and/or their friends. Remember people are more willing to try accommodations their friends have tried, concentrating on your warm market. All for *free.......trust me it can be a powerful tool, especially in the hospitality field. You can update your information daily you can host unlimited pictures, video's etc. I know several business's who have circumvented the costs of a traditional web site and rely strictly on their Facebook page as their presence on the web.

                                                                      I understand your use of e-mail, skype, phone etc. which is tried and true for individual contact, or potentially group messages, but it lacks networking which is what Facebook is excellent at doing. Putting you in touch with people of similar likes, interests and affiliations as yourself. (it gives you friend suggestions as well each day)

                                                                      I should be ashamed to admit this but there is even an;
                                                                      "(insert my RL name) was a bully in high school" fan page where some of my fellow high school alumni like to gather to reminisce what a jerk I was in high school. (Hard to imagine I know HillJ!!!)

                                                                      *I say it's free but you can pay for upgraded marketing, I have never used any of the pay for marketing, but I do know you can incur costs if you wanted to improve upon their normal posting methods.

                                                                      1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                        My HS graduating class has their own website and we communicate thru it. I haven't visited the page since the last reunion but like when I was in HS the people who want to stay in touch, do.

                                                                        I understand how FB works. And thanks to all of you I understand how you all use it. I work in the hospitality field PRIOR to FB and you know what jr, we managed just fine, ha!

                                                                        My own colleagues meet on a forum to discuss business as members, no FB.

                                                                        I have no fans, should I be sad :)

                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                          That's not true, I'm your fan!!!

                                                                          1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                            First one, should I bake you a cake? :) What a good guy you are.

                                                                            1. re: HillJ

                                                                              All fat kids love cake!!! Although I would prefer a good steak.

                                                                        2. re: jrvedivici

                                                                          "For instance probably half of my high school graduating class is on Facebook. Even though I'm not nor ever were "friends" with a lot of them, it's still nice to see how/what everyone is doing, their kids and spouses."

                                                                          Sh*t, Man, if I wasn't "friends" with somebody while we were held captive together, why the f*ck would I want to know how they're doing now? Maybe that makes me an as*hole, but I don't care, I found a big, wonderful world out there after I served my four years. Life ain't a John Hughes film.

                                                                          That being said, once in a while, it is kinda fun to bump into someone I knew in those days. Ideally, it's a guy who still knows where to get killer weed cheap or a girl who doesn't immediately tell me about her kids (although, once I've ascertained that they are all under twenty-five, I am less anxious about the conversation). Besides, I'll confess, since I still have the same hairline and waste size I did in 1987, the "in person" thing can be pretty fun.

                                                                          As to the fan page, although I have not resorted to Salinger-like seclusion, I have refused to sign autographs for some time now. I realize that it can be off-putting to some, but I'm more comfortable that way (all kidding aside, I did once run across a prom date who asked if I cared if she told people on FB that we spoke in the supermarket checkout line - "Someone posted you were dead!").

                                                                            1. re: MGZ

                                                                              I'm curious what your "waste size" is equivilant to!

                                                                              1. re: coll

                                                                                Excellent. I’d love to blame that one on autocorrect, but I’ll admit it was borne out of haist.

                                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                                            Actually my point is that it's a different type of interaction. Those three channels are 1 to 1 which I enjoy. FB is more of a group conversation. At least the way I use it. I can mention I liked a movie. One friend chimes in about a similar movie. Then another might mention the director and another movie.

                                                                            That's a different kind of interaction than one to one, which we all do.

                                                                            I'm a very agnostic kind of guy when it comes to tools. I use whatever works for what I need. FB, Linked In, Twiiter, email, skype, etc, all are different ways of connecting, there is no right or wrong. It's all in how you use it.

                                                                            It's just like I have Android devices, Apple, Linux and PC's with Microsoft. Each device does certain things better than others. I don't think any one is perfect and I don't tie myself down to any one thing exclusively. I grab what's needed for the job.

                                                                            Same with social media and other communications, use what's needed. Sometimes it is just better to pick up the phone. Other times, It's better to post on FB or tweet something.

                                                                            1. re: Jase

                                                                              Well you managed to re-explain why you use FB while acknowledging all of the reasons I gave for using other forms of online communication. So I think we're in agreement since we both said, whatever works for ya is best.

                                                                              As for right or wrong, never entered my mind.

                                                                              Tonight, I managed to Skype with two friends in Vegas; end a conference call with four people from work, book hotel plans with my sister via txt and email and still get dinner on the table! :)

                                                                    3. Nope. I have no desire to meet anyone on CH in person or to add anyone but family and real life friends to my FB. I keep my FB small and close.

                                                                      But, I really value FB to keep in touch with my peeps far away. I can't imagine going without it now. I love seeing what everyone is up to and probably check it at least once per day, more if I can. CH I go on and off.

                                                                      1. http://www.chow.com/food-news/145924/...

                                                                        If you want the FB experience, head over to CHOW where staffers post a question to discuss with members. Features/Stories, interactive discussion with the CHOW side of the site.

                                                                        1. c o, my apologies for hijacking the actual reason for your post. I saw it as an opportunity to gain insight into FB use by CH's I respect.

                                                                          Now I'm off to deice the Jeep..

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                                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                                            Not at all, HillJ. I just know that that discussion is off-topic and the mods may be inclined to step :)

                                                                            Off to NYC this morning!

                                                                            1. re: c oliver

                                                                              Safe travels, delicious eats await!

                                                                          2. I'm friends with 2 CHs on FB. I wouldn't mind having more but I don't really communicate with anybody else outside of CH. I like having a wide variety of acquaintances outside of who I actually hang out with in "real life". I guess I'm OK with it because I've always participated in online message boards, chat rooms etc since I was a young teenager, so it seems normal to me to have "internet" friends.

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                                                                            1. re: juliejulez

                                                                              So in your experience chatting online is not new at all and FB is one of the newer shiny tools avail.

                                                                              I remember AOL chat rooms for all sorts of topics. Awful lot of trouble with AOL self appointed moderation. Message boards go back quite a ways. None of this was avail to me until say the early 80's but for some reason I just didn't jump on the FB excitement.

                                                                              When I was a teenager, I got on the phone, wrote a letter or biked to meet friend, took a train, plane or bus to visit a friends. All of those opportunities still work too and we have plenty to catch up on when we do.

                                                                              This has been an interesting topic,

                                                                              1. re: HillJ

                                                                                Yeah it's kind of interesting, none of my "real life" friends in jr high/high school were online... I think my family was one of the first to even have a computer (thanks to a genius of a grandpa who built each grandkid one himself). But, I really liked having my online friends or even just random one timer conversations with people. My real life friends all had pretty much the same background as me... my online friends were from all walks of life from all over the US, I found that interesting.

                                                                                Coincidentally, I'm the only one out of my group of real life school friends who moved away from our hometown. They are all still there raising their families.

                                                                                1. re: juliejulez

                                                                                  That is interesting. Sounds like you had a natural tendency towards a grander view of life beyond the end of your own street. I know I did and it worried my parents from day one :)

                                                                            2. There's about 10 of us who all met at CH outings and became good friends. We've all connected on Facebook so we can organize additional outings, share photos and support each other's lives (both food and non-food related). We also follow each other on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest. So in our case, social media has definitely enhanced our friendships!

                                                                              1. I'm friends with a few CHs (and former CHs) on FB, and have met almost all of them in person in the meantime, save for a few folks on the left coast and a lady in MA.

                                                                                I like it.

                                                                                1. There's a CH who is active on the Dish of The Month thread. She will always cross post in case a CH has missed it or if a non-CH is interested.

                                                                                  1. I have one incredibly funny, witty, charming CH friend who has also become a friend on FB, where he is also witty, insightful, and great fun. We found, along the line, that we have a lot of experiences and acquaintances in common (including one fairly epic party we both attended more than twenty years ago) though we never have met in person. And I do believe I need to take the plunge and buy him lunch some time soon, despite my fear that he will find me incredibly dull in person.

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                                                                                    1. re: tonifi

                                                                                      Just do it as the proverbial saying goes.

                                                                                      1. re: tonifi

                                                                                        You've come this far and you have doubts? Go for it! Then come back here and tell all of us had the meetup went :)

                                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                                          Yeah, let us know how the old chow meet goes.

                                                                                        2. re: tonifi

                                                                                          I've met more than one CH F2F and it's been great! Every one.

                                                                                            1. re: tonifi

                                                                                              toni - I'm sure that guy would be happy to go 'dutch'. I bet he just rarely makes it into your city except for family obligations...

                                                                                            2. I think I have a few Facebook friends who are Chowhounds, though I don't think most of them are "active" 'hounds. The one friend who comes to mind when I read your question is one whom I first met here, when he was working on a particular food event. He invited me (and others) to find him on Facebook as well. I do now consider him a friend, and have been pleased to learn more about him and those around him. We've never met in person, though I hope that my frequent work travels will someday change that. Oh, and I've gotten more and different cooking ideas from him on FB than I have on Chow.

                                                                                              1. c o, the only other point I want to make specific to your OP (& I promise! not OT) is this. I've already found a community that rings my bell. It's CH. I don't need another one to connect with people that interest me. And if I want to meet anyone from CH face to face, I would make it known to them. I don't need another midway point (like FB) to get me there. I don't need one fan after another convincing me FB is the bees knees. If I want to meet a CH all I have to do is say so. Right?

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                                                                                                1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                  Right. Now let's get back to doing what we do best: eating.

                                                                                                  1. re: kevin

                                                                                                    Excellent. I'm polishing off the last of the spearmint sorbet with a cup of Oolong tea...while reading. How 'bout you?

                                                                                                  2. re: HillJ

                                                                                                    I think you can tell from MY posts (or I HOPE you can) that I was in no way prosiletyzing on behalf of FB. I was just curious about who, if any, are cross-pollinating :) This e-world is big enough for all to do their own thing.

                                                                                                  3. No crossover for me between CH and FB, not because I'm categorically opposed, it just never happened.

                                                                                                    Athough I do frequent a very few food related FB pages, mostly I use FB to keep up with old friends, stay current with far flung family, and stay abreast of the goings on of groups and organizations I belong to or are interested in. Much easier to get updates from their FB pages than to visit every website to look for updates.

                                                                                                    Despite mocking them in the past, I've become a big fan of Twitter and Instagram.

                                                                                                    1. I don't know many, no, any Chowhounds in person. Just the few here on this site.
                                                                                                      I know many foodies and such, but we seldom agree on Chow.
                                                                                                      FB friends are mostly family and friends that I know have little or no Chow interests as per their posts and such.
                                                                                                      An off post here and there of a slice of cake or pie posted by someone may get a "like" or two from others, but a report of good Chow to be found goes unliked and ignored.
                                                                                                      Looking to eat somewhere in another city where we have friends/family? They just point and ask, "Why", you have all those Big Box NJ style diners by you with 20 pages of "something for everyone".
                                                                                                      ...food for drunks doesn't equal Chow to this Chowhound...

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                                                                                                      1. I have a few FB friends who are on CH, but they are also industry friends.

                                                                                                        FB is an invaluable business resource to me. The cocktail/spirits/food industry has a huge presence on FB and 95% of my FB friends are in the industry. I've gotten huge amounts of work from it. I also know most in person.

                                                                                                        I recently dropped a lot of FB "friends", ones who don't have anything valuable to say. Over the past six months I went from around 2500 FB friends to just under 700. Weeding them out a few at a time. I find this much more workable ever since FB started controlling what you see.