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Jan 23, 2014 10:42 AM

Would you attend a mid-week, homemade dessert gathering?

I love having people over, but sometimes a full-on dinner party mid-week is a lot more work than I'd care to tackle. I love making desserts from scratch and was thinking it would be fun to have larger groups of people (8-12) over for dessert/coffee/port gathering from time to time. Sort of like a mini-party, but not really a dinner party. I'd have a variety of desserts (probably 3 choices) on hand.

But, that got me thinking if I would even attend something like that (from a health standpoint)....

What are your thoughts? If you knew the desserts would be good - would you be inclined to attend? Or, would a health-conscious state of mind make it unappealing?

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  1. Given the answers over on this "How many nights a week do you eat dessert?" thread, seems like the people who actually eat dessert these days are in the minority.

    Persoanlly, I dislike any kind of midweek gathering after work; I am so physically tired and tired of talking to people all day that I treasure my weeknights home.

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    1. re: ttoommyy

      I missed that thread entirely! Thanks for linking it!

      I recently had a party and made two different desserts. I was going to make a third, but figured no one is eating desserts these days. I was floored when there wasn't a crumb left (which is what got me thinking about the gathering).

      Also - I definitely know what you mean about a mid-week gathering and treasuring the peace of home!

      1. re: The Oracle

        I'd come, no question…especially if you're known for your wonderful desserts :).

        I had to chuckle when you mentioned 'there wasn't a crumb left'.
        I have noted friends who 'never eat dessert'…
        I plan accordingly, when having them for dinner, and they're always the ones, who not only eat dessert but ask for seconds.

        1. re: latindancer

          latindancer: when i say i "never eat dessert," what i MEAN is:

          "i never eat dessert unless the dessert is so amazingly wonderful that it is REALLY WORTH the calories.

          if those cookies just taste like suger and hershey's chocolate chips, i won't even finish a second bite. on the other hand, if i taste valrhona chocolate in the cookies, that's another thing entirely. . . .

          1. re: westsidegal

            Ah, but that's the same calculus that most people make. The only difference is the threshold!

            1. re: westsidegal

              <I never eat dessert unless the dessert is so amazingly wonderful that it is REALLY WORTH the calories>

              I completely understand and concur.
              Just yesterday I was in the mood for creme brûlée when I happened to see it on the menu where I was dining.
              Now, this dessert MUST be stellar for me to even go past the tasting bite.
              This particular one, yesterday, wasn't up to standard. I tasted it, took another bite to make sure, and left the entire dessert uneaten. Too many calories, not good enough.

              1. re: westsidegal

                That chocolate makes all the difference, doesn't it?
                Proof Bakery/Atwater, has a chocolate chip cookie I pull over and purchase (may 2 or 3) if I'm in the area.
                If I could manage to duplicate those at home I'd easily be on a diet 24/7 because of them.

                1. re: latindancer

                  I order Valrhona chocolate from amazon and use it primarily for brownies and flourless chocolate cake.

                  Worth every calorie.

                  1. re: sedimental

                    <Worth every calorie>

                    Amen to that :`).

                    1. re: sedimental

                      the iced blended mocha i make for myself every morning is made with valrhona cocoa powder.
                      once one gets used to valrhona, it's impossible to drink the stuff turned out by the national coffee chains with their low quality chocolate, their weird thickeners, and their way too high sugar content.

                      1. re: westsidegal

                        Iced mocha sounds great.
                        I used the Valrhona is a hot chocolate cinnamon whiskey drink for friends the other night....they swooned :)

            2. re: ttoommyy

              I'm one of the folks who replied to that thread that I never have dessert unless it's an event. This sounds like an event to me. ;>

              I'd do it! It sounds like a novel approach to light entertaining.

              1. Nope.Wouldnt interest me at all. But then I'm one of the people who has posted on the other thread saying I rarely eat dessert. Rarely at home, even rarer in restaurants.

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                1. re: Harters

                  You could have a beverage, tea, or coffee and skip the dessert option.

                2. Sounds like fun. Health considerations wouldn't stop me but scheduling issues mid-week might. I can see the folks who are concerned having coffee or a sip of dessert wine and enjoying the conversation.

                  I say go for it! Those for whom it's practical will come and those who have early-morming issues won't. If you do it a couple times you'll probably get a good feeling for what percentage of invitees to prepare for. Just concentrate on things that freeze well for your first several efforts.

                  Hope you'll post the results.

                  1. On a weeknight? No. Not because of the desserts or anything, but because weeknights are just too hectic to take time to have dinner, then go somewhere else to have dessert.

                    Also, for me, I have a puppy at home, so I'd have to go home first, let the puppy out to run around for awhile, eat dinner, then go to your house to have dessert... just not appealing. I realize not everyone has these circumstances, although I guess it would be similar for someone w/ children.

                    Weekends would be fun though. Might be a nice Sunday early evening activity.

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                    1. re: juliejulez

                      Yeah, honestly the food portion of it doesn't sound bad. But going home and then leaving again after dinner on a work night has zero appeal to me. I can do apps or a meal right after work, no problem, but getting home and going back out is a non-starter.

                      1. re: juliejulez

                        I agree, weekend would be nice. I'm not even a dessert person and would go, on a weekend. Monday through Thursday and 9/10 Friday I just want to go home and stay there.

                        1. re: juliejulez

                          I'm with you JJ. I don't get home from work until 5:45ish. Once home I have 2 dogs that need to be walked and fed along with a12 year old who has homework, etc. And then there's dinner. I would be too exhausted, never mind that one of us would have stay home with the boy.

                          If we are going to go out on school night it's going be all 3 of us for an early dinner and that is still pretty rare.

                          Now if it was weekend, we love it!

                          1. re: juliejulez

                            juliejulez: in my experience it is even MORE trying if you have kids (not to mention what it would be like if you had a puppy AND had kids).

                            getting the homework done and checked.
                            piano practice.
                            supervising the kids doing their chores
                            brownies/cub scouts
                            emptying and cleaning their lunch boxes

                            now that my kid is grown and my dogs are no longer puppies, i could easily arrange going to a "dessert party."

                            it all depends on the stage of life you're in. . .