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Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 09:00 AM

Do you have friends who love to cook but are terrible at it? We have two couples that we know and socialize with. We’ve been invited over to dinner at both of their homes. They go through great pains to prepare elaborate meals. The problem is that their cooking is bad. Not just meh, but out and out awful. Painful in the same way when you hear a kid learning to play the clarinet and those off key notes just make you wince. We’re polite and eat what we can, but some of the things that have been prepared were nearly inedible. Its bad enough now that when we’re faced with an invitation from either family, our kids say they’re not going and I’m trying to figure out how we can turn the invitation into a group dinner at a restaurant. They’re wonderful friends, but I think they’ve gotten caught up in the mass foodie culture and want to cook but just can’t seem to figure it out. This is despite classes and professional intervention. So we must grin and bear it. So when I read all these threads that ask how can people not cook and eat out all the time or those who complain about how they host guests at home but never get a reciprocal invitation, all I can think is thank your lucky stars they don’t have you over to their home. They may just be really bad cooks.

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    Big Eater RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 09:02 AM

    Wow. Just wow.

    1. pinehurst RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 09:06 AM

      Short answer: no. I have friends who don't cook my style of food (say, they use lots of processed stuff), but I eat it every once in a while.

      The only thing that would keep me from eating a true friend's cooking would be if they consistently served things that would make me sick--ignoring a life-threatening allergy or undercooking chicken, etc.

      They've taken classes. They haven't killed themselves or others yet. How bad can their food be? Seriously? Mushy pasta? Ambrosia salad with pineapple jello?

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        Bkeats RE: pinehurst Dec 16, 2013 10:00 AM

        Thing like battered chicken that is dropped into barely warm oil so that it starts by gently poaching in the oil allowing sufficient time to allow oil to soak completely in and then leaving it on the burner as the oil heats up until its now overcooked so that you get this dark brown crusted piece that's oozing oil all over your plate. Mushy pasta ain't got nothing on this.

        Then there was the time for the baked chicken dish. Guests come over and we notice no cooking going on at all. No cooking odors or mess. Chatting over wine for 1-2 hours. Then they pull a tray out of the oven that has been in a low temperature since the morning. Proper ambient temperature to encourage bacterial growth I imagine. Chicken was desiccated mess and I got one of the worst cases of food poisoning ever. As soon as I got home, I was driving the porcelain bus. I wasn't the only one. Crowded bus during rush hour.

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          pinehurst RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 10:33 AM

          Okay, then they need an intervention with The Truth before they kill/hospitalize a guest. If they're your friends, they need to know.

          "Jack and Diane, you know we love you guys. The last time you made baked chicken, Peter, Paul, Mary and I all got horribly ill. We know you like to experiment with cooking, but you do know that you can't simply "warm" raw chicken. We love you guys, but we don't want to die. How about we handle the main courses next time and you guys cook the veggies?"

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            ricepad RE: pinehurst Dec 16, 2013 11:57 AM

            "...plus, the Everly Brothers both had to go to the Medicine Show to see Doctor Hook..."

            (Sorry...got carried away with the musical references.)

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            akalish RE: Bkeats Dec 26, 2013 07:58 PM

            THIS. I was just about to ask for examples (because what's a post like this without a little schadenfreude). Thank you.

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              Gastronomos RE: Bkeats Dec 27, 2013 05:14 AM

              off-topic, maybe, but if anyone makes a claim that they get the runs from food soon after they eat it in a restaurant, the masses stone them to death. "it's too soon" "it's gotta incubate for a few days" "it's NEVER the restaurant" "It's you".
              but if it's a home cooked meal, it's ok.

              *?*

              I've had a bad meal or two from a restaurant that gave me the same symptoms as you. And I know I ain't the only one.

              I guess it's cause we gotta name the restaurant to state where we got this food born illness?

              Simple, if I get sick, you suck.

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                Bkeats RE: Gastronomos Jan 2, 2014 03:52 PM

                Err. The driving the porcelain bus metaphor does not coincide with the runs. Lunch came back in the direction from which it came. Usually a tighter correlation to cause and effect in that direction. Different symptom.

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            HillJ RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 09:07 AM

            How else will they improve? First time I picked up an instrument (I play guitar, drums and harmonica) I wasn't ready for a concert arena. So I'm not keen on the analogy. If you want to get good/better at something, you do it more not less.

            Good friends you say? Enjoy their experiments and encourage friendly improvements. Do you have the impression they want to learn how to be better cooks? Can you help them become better?

            Or, find a way to be honest.

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              Bkeats RE: HillJ Dec 16, 2013 10:03 AM

              Not everyone can learn to play an instrument competently. If that wasn't true, the childhood experience of taking lessons in the instrument of choice would create a nation full of orchestras and bands instead of the trauma that many people can relate. If playing instruments was so easy, we wouldn't be amazed by anyone's skill at it.

              Don't think we haven't tried to help. They look at me a a fairly competent home cook and ask for advice but no matter what we try to do to help, the train goes off the rails.

              They really want to cook. The group we are part of has some great home cooks. The others are trying to contribute in their way. Great people just not great cooks.

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                HillJ RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 10:23 AM

                You kinda missed my point about practice. I was trying to convey that it isn't easy to learn anything without practice, A great many people quit learning how to do something well or better than when they started by quitting instead of practicing.

                You're suggesting your friends are tone deaf. I'm suggesting they can learn a better work around.

                You know these nice folks, if it was a couple we knew we'd find a way, a humorous way, to either help them through some basic cooking skills or count on them for the wine.

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                  Jacquilynne RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 11:50 AM

                  If they acknowledge that their cooking is poor and look to you for advice, perhaps you could plan some events where you cook *with* them? That way you could constantly be reminding them of the little things that they might otherwise be doing wrong.

                  It might also be worth providing them with a set of really detailed recipes -- possibly one of the Cooks Illustrated books -- and suggesting they work the recipes exactly as written. If you do this and spend time during a 'cooking together' afternoon going over the recipes and making sure they see what needs to be done in advance, it might help.

                  When I'm cooking elaborate meals, I create little spreadsheets in advance of everything I need to do, including timings, and including things like when to switch the oven on and what temperatures to set it at, so I can follow my flow, rather than trying to figure out how to cook 5 recipes at the same time. They might benefit from something like that, as well.

                  Otherwise, I think the best you can do is eat the stuff that probably won't kill you, and push the stuff that will around on your plate but don't eat it. Or just make them the friends with whom you go hiking or bowling or to the movies -- anything but dinner at home.

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                    melpy RE: Jacquilynne Dec 16, 2013 02:24 PM

                    We do this often. I have a friend who is learning to cook and we cook together. We make it fun with a theme. Typically it is for a movie night so we choose the menu based around the movie. We have "caught" lots of potential mistakes this way, like not putting the cooked chicken back on the raw chicken plate.

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                mwhitmore RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 09:47 AM

                Professional intervention? I'm trying to picture this---a squadron of white-coated interventionists with a bullhorn: "Put down that spatula NOW!"

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                  Bkeats RE: mwhitmore Dec 16, 2013 10:04 AM

                  One friend works in the food industry but not as a cook (obviously). A chef friend once came over and tried to help out but no amount of tips, pointers, hints, or direction stuck.

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                  Big Eater RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 11:14 AM

                  The ability to cook is is part training, part genetically determined. So let's ask this another way, if your friend was born without a leg would you make belittling online comments about his tennis skills?

                  In the larger scheme of life food is just not that important. The corporate takeover of the American government and the subsequent impoverishment of the American people is important. The unceasing, tragic conflicts in the Middle East and Africa are important. The rise of China as a global power is important.

                  Despite what people with empty lives try to turn it into, food is not scientific discovery or theological enlightenment, it's not a signifier of how smart, or cultured, or worthwhile you are as a person. Food is just dead animals and plants pulled out of the ground combined with heat.

                  You have two choices. You can either smile and clean your plate or you can stop being friends.

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                    mike0989 RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 11:49 AM

                    <You have two choices. You can either smile and clean your plate or you can stop being friends>

                    You've got to be kidding. The OP already indicated that they are great friends and want to continue getting together with them. They have also indicated that their skills are bad enough to make people ill. The question being posed is how to continue the former, without being subjected to the late.

                    And yes it is important in the larger scheme in life. With out friendship and realtionships. what the hell is the point of being here.

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                      Big Eater RE: mike0989 Dec 16, 2013 12:34 PM

                      Agreed that relationships are important, but a big part of successful relationships is adjusting your expectations to the shortcomings of your friends. And if they were really "great" friends she wouldn't be complaining.

                      Let's all think back to Ruth Reichl's first memoir and how her mother's cooking actually did give people food poisoning. Yet people still came to dinner and Ruth herself seems to have come out OK. So you see it is possible to eat other people's dreadful meals and not be an everloving bore about it.

                      The bottom line is that cooking talent is partly or wholly genetic and these people clearly did not get the gene. There's nothing anyone can do to improve their food....

                      Therefore, the OP can either behave like a friend and eat their horrible food and stop gossiping about them, or she can decline their invitations and let the chips fall where they may.

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                        Chowrin RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 06:53 PM

                        I would NEVER advise someone to go to someone's house in order to have fun and get food poisoning.

                        That's an awful, awful time.

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                          SuzannaK RE: Big Eater May 31, 2014 01:16 PM

                          Though both my husband and I are not picky eaters, we have one couple who we're good friends with who aren't good at cooking but the worst part is that they are slovenly as well. I don't mean "untidy" I mean there are opened jars of salsa and marinara sauce sitting on their counters for weeks (waiting to be served to us), all flour and other baking ingredients left open for mice and bugs. I have been sick more than once from eating over there so please don't wag your finger at the author of this article for being a "bad friend". I simply don't eat over there. We hang out but I always say I've already eaten. Problem solved!

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                            16crab RE: SuzannaK Jun 3, 2014 07:35 AM

                            So how do you deal with it if say, on a Tuesday, your friend calls you and invites you to come for dinner on Saturday? You can't have already eaten 4 days in advance. It seems that that is the solution this OP is looking for. The dinner invite comes, she loves the friend but the dinner is unbearable.

                            I think you can try to tactfully 're-direct' it for a while ("You guys host us all the time, it's our turn" or "I hate you doing so much work, how about we potluck?" or "We want to take you out to thank you for all the dinners") but eventually you have to let the friends know, lest they unknowingly food poison someone else. Though feelings may be hurt initially, I would really think they would want to know it's not good.

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                        HillJ RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 12:33 PM

                        Yeah your suggestion is a bit extreme.

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                          tastesgoodwhatisit RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 06:44 PM

                          If the cost of a friendship is deliberately poisoning myself, I know which one I'll choose.

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                            ratgirlagogo RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 07:37 PM

                            "food is not scientific discovery"

                            Actually, of course it is. It just happened so long ago in human history than Nobel Prizes were not given to the great scientists (many of them female, I'd bet) who discovered and cultivated most of our foods. You should read Nicolai Vavilov. Food is right there behind air and water as a basic human requirement for physical survival. None of the global geo-politics you reference can happen unless people are breathing, drinking, and eating.

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                              ratgirlagogo RE: Big Eater Dec 16, 2013 07:43 PM

                              "or theological enlightenment"

                              Yet Jesus' first public miracle was turning water into wine at a friend's wedding, and his final get-together with his friends was a meal. Not to even mention multiplying loaves and fishes.

                              Food is as basic as it gets.

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                              DowntownJosie RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 12:22 PM

                              I went to a friends house and she dressed her salad, greens and avocados, in the morning so by dinner it was soggy and brown. I couldn't eat it...I dread that invitation.

                              1. Gastronomos RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 02:34 PM

                                we have a relative who could starve a cloud.
                                she really wants to cook for her family, so she bought some cookbooks. william sonomas I think.
                                she follows the recipes with disregard to techniques.
                                she will add both pounds of "beef stew" meat to a cold pot and turn it on... etc...
                                her food is usually rich in cheese. I want to believe that her cooking philosophy is "everything tastes better with LOTS of cheese"...

                                and... since we cook at home and entertain a lot, eating out is not as common. my regional board doesn't offer anything worth while, and if there is anything out there it seems that most are keeping it to themselves and not sharing the good Chow.

                                I would rather a poorly cooked homemade meal than not be with my friends and family.

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                                  DebinIndiana RE: Gastronomos Dec 19, 2013 09:36 AM

                                  Largely true that everything does taste better with cheese.

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                                    Gastronomos RE: DebinIndiana Dec 25, 2013 07:25 PM

                                    and then there's this:

                                     
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                                      DebinIndiana RE: Gastronomos Dec 26, 2013 04:48 PM

                                      I will admit to having had hot dogs with cheese. They did not look quite like those ^^!

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                                        foiegras RE: DebinIndiana Dec 26, 2013 07:41 PM

                                        I was thinking the same thing ;) A favorite when I was a child, even better if I could get my hands on some bacon! Good times.

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                                        KaimukiMan RE: Gastronomos Dec 27, 2013 04:40 PM

                                        I've had far worse things served me than this.

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                                    foiegras RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 07:45 PM

                                    I don't have this problem with friends, only family. It's usually not sooo awful. In cases where it is, no one is offended if I leave some on my plate, so it's all good. Typically there are multiple dishes, and something is edible, so I'm never in danger of actually starving.

                                    Wrt food poisoning, that has never happened. If I get sick at a restaurant, I never go back. I would not eat meat from that kitchen again, and I would be at pains to make other plans--eat at a restaurant, my house, etc.

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                                      bagelman01 RE: foiegras Dec 27, 2013 03:27 AM

                                      eldest SIL is a vile cook! actually she is just plain vile <VBG>

                                      Her married children and grandchild were in from out of state this week, so the family was invited for dinner. Only the 2nd time I've been in her home in 8 years, as a single live alone, she is usually the invitee.

                                      She made her 'famous' chicken marsala. I cut into my chicken and quickly announced to the table (all close family) "everyone stop eating the chicken" they looked at me in shock.....I said; "The chicken is completely raw inside."

                                      SIL had browned the outside of the chicken breasts (she hadn't pounded them thin, as they should be, sauced and served.

                                      the mains all went in the trash, SIL then served her home made apple pie and coffee. The pies looked beautiful, but one bite and the taste of raw dough was nauseating.

                                      Hopefully we won't be invited back for another 10 years. Now I know how she keeps her size 2 figure. Her food is inedible.

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                                      sedimental RE: Bkeats Dec 16, 2013 10:19 PM

                                      I have only had this happen a few times (food so terrible, I couldn't choke it down). I know it sounds extreme....but tell the truth. When I couldn't eat the lemon chicken that was "curdled" in a weird lemon sauce, and undercooked....I simply said "I am really sorry, but I can't eat this". ..."the salad is really nice though". I don't think it really does anyone any good to either lie about it, or be rude. Honesty really is not the end of the world.

                                      A real friend might feel bad that you can't eat all the dinner,
                                      but at least there won't be a lie between you all the time, or a dread about how to choke down the next meal.

                                      1. Withnail42 RE: Bkeats Dec 19, 2013 07:54 AM

                                        I posted a similar issue years ago.

                                        We had friends to loved to cook, and loved their horrible food more. An evening with them would result in various stomach maladies. One typical low light occurred when the hostess had actually made a decent meal. Only to state that it was incomplete. She emerged from the kitchen with a bottle of white truffle oil and proceeded with out asking to liberally douse all our plates with it. The oil was quite rancid. (One could tell as soon as she opened the bottle). They then devoured everything, rancid oil and all, and talked about what great cooks they were.

                                        We offered to host. We suggested group cooking classes. Offered to take them out to various restaurants. The trouble was they were cheep and thought too highly of themselves and their cooking skills. They felt is was their gift to share.

                                        The friendship drifted not due to the cooking but to their huge egos and constant bragging. Eventually they moved and, I can only assume, are out in the burbs inadvertently poisoning all the neighbors.

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                                          mastergardener RE: Bkeats Dec 19, 2013 08:36 AM

                                          I'm a good cook (not a baker), and I know how to follow recipes. I could see, though, where some diners just might not find the taste of my dishes agreeable.

                                          I changed my diet about two years ago. I now eat from a paleo template, but with plenty of dairy.

                                          I constantly have to watch and give some thought to what I am preparing, because I have found that my taste buds changed rather radically after giving up wheat, and eschewing most processed foods.

                                          Some folks just can't understand when I say that pink Himalayan salt or Celtic sea salt is so great that they'll never go back to Morton's. Additionally, red peppers taste incredibly sweet to me, but may not to the average person who consumes lots of preservatives and HFCS in his/her diet.

                                          I have found that the best way to find an agreeable dish that most will like is to take a dish to a potluck, or a snack to church. This you can very often do quite anonymously. If it goes over well, there's your answer.

                                          In general, I believe some bad cooks may be cooking outside their typical ethnic fare, and don't know, say, how to prepare mashed potatoes. They make a mess out of those.

                                          Some other cooks simply won't follow recipes, in the same way that they cannot properly fill out a job application. They disregard some important elements.

                                          There is both science and art in the creation, timing, and presentation of food. I am very good at this, and can juggle many tasks at once, but some cooks cannot. There is a certain order and flow to creating a good meal, especially for guests. Maybe you either have it, or you don't.

                                          I don't know how you fix the problem of mediocre to bad cooking. Michael Pollan says that people love those cooking shows on Food Network, but little actual cooking is done in the households of those viewers.

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                                            Puffin3 RE: mastergardener Dec 22, 2013 06:39 AM

                                            We have friends who also can't cook. We got around the problem by one time suggesting we all have a 'lasagna making party' when they invited us over for dinner. We all had a few glasses of wine and really enjoyed the experience. Everyone loved the lasagna. The next time we had them to our house and had a 'KFC' party. Then when it was their turn we said: "You know. We are really on to something here!". This is so much fun let's have a 'pizza making party".
                                            I'm sure we'll never run out of 'party themes' to have with them.
                                            And it really is fun.

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                                              hill food RE: Puffin3 May 31, 2014 02:28 PM

                                              a pizza party - once you've mastered a good crust recipe or 2 (hey I'm open-minded) is an 'evergreen' idea.

                                          2. Michelly RE: Bkeats Dec 24, 2013 11:26 AM

                                            We have very sweet neighbors who serve the worst food; not the food-poisoning level (thank goodness!), but the barely edible kind, swimming in grease..ack!

                                            So whenever we get an invite, our family eats beforehand, and we tell them that either we are having stomach troubles and eat just a little, or that we all had a very late lunch (which in fact, is exactly what happened) and eat little or nothing.

                                            But, like I said, my neighbors are not in danger of actually killing someone with their food. The OP has to be brutally honest, along with everyone else who got sick (so it doesn't seem like it's only the OP who's having problems with the food).

                                            Plan B is to warn EVERYONE and have all the guests turn down the food. Always. Perhaps if NO ONE is willing to eat their food, they might get the message, and if not...well, no one will get sick and/or die, yes?

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                                              Pookipichu RE: Bkeats Dec 24, 2013 11:41 AM

                                              I've been in similar situations. Cooking is just not easy for many people. I have friends who stock their kitchen with the best equipment, have great cookbooks, buy ingredients only form Whole Foods and follow recipes religiously, watch cooking shows, and they are terrible cooks that make unpleasantly edible food. I'm not even sure why their food comes out badly since they follow recipes and are careful, intelligent people. Whatever the reason, their food never comes out well. It gives me a lot of respect for those who consistently cook great food.

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                                                wincountrygirl RE: Bkeats Dec 27, 2013 03:46 AM

                                                We have friends like that. Last time we were there she made her "famous" brisket. The brisket was made in an aluminum foil pan (sounds like a quickfire challenge on top chef!) and made way ahead, which is normally fine for brisket. BUT - oh, the layer of grease on top. Everything else was nuked, yes nuked. Appetizers, potatoes, all of it. The brisket was so awful and the platter was right in front of me through the meal. The smell was causing me to gag. I politely had one piece and - btw - was sick the next day. Oh, and the hors d'eouvre (I can never spell that) were all made probably that morning and served on a leaf of wilted lettuce. I still get nauseous thinking about it!

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                                                  ricepad RE: wincountrygirl Dec 27, 2013 09:51 AM

                                                  Things can be famous for many varied reasons!

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                                                    wincountrygirl RE: ricepad Dec 27, 2013 10:51 AM

                                                    Or infamous!

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                                                    hill food RE: wincountrygirl May 31, 2014 02:56 PM

                                                    very few in the US spell "hors d'eouvre" right, but we know what you meant.

                                                    greasy brisket? wow, never heard of that adjective - 'dry' 'shoe leather' 'like your Nana's tussy' all those and worse, but greasy?

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                                                      wincountrygirl RE: hill food Jun 1, 2014 05:57 PM

                                                      Didn't know I'd be facing the spelling police. Glad someone can spell that pesky word - congrats. Yes, greasy - oil sitting on top of the "sauce." It was not dry, it was greasy.

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                                                        sunshine842 RE: wincountrygirl Jun 1, 2014 06:01 PM

                                                        actually, it's hors d'oeuvre -- literally, "outside of the work", since this is the second time it's come up.

                                                        No biggie -- we knew what you meant.

                                                        (web searches work better with proper spelling, though)

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                                                          hill food RE: wincountrygirl Jun 1, 2014 07:08 PM

                                                          hey I just copy/pasted your version, ain't no spelling police 'round here, but grammar nannies abound.

                                                    2. Ttrockwood RE: Bkeats Jan 1, 2014 06:38 PM

                                                      What about suggesting a semi-fool proof interactive meal? Something like mentioning this great tv show/article/whatever about a make your own pizza/baked potato/chili party? Or perhaps insisting you are able to contribute a dish to the meal....to "take the burden of hosting off of them" or "so i can bring my new favorite.......to share with you"
                                                      If all else fails vegetarianism would at least eliminate the issues from improperly cooked meats......;)

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                                                        Big Eater RE: Bkeats Jan 2, 2014 05:27 PM

                                                        Enough caviling and persiflage. Just email me their phone number and I'll call them. They HAVE to be set straight before they kill someone who is either elderly or has a compromised immune system. You don't want that on your conscience and neither do they. I'm standing by.

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                                                          hill food RE: Big Eater May 31, 2014 03:01 PM

                                                          you're a mensch. I once offered to my aunt I'd hunt down one of the last actual coin-operated payphones to tip off the cops on a guy who had ripped her off on a contracting roofing job knowing he dealt drugs on the side (and by a school no less) I'd have paid the .50 myself just for the fun of it.

                                                          but most people won't take you up on such an offer (hey it's not like I was going to 'knee-cap' the jerk - too messy)

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                                                          smartie RE: Bkeats May 31, 2014 06:07 PM

                                                          Yes I have a step sister who CANNOT cook. Undercooked or overcooked chicken and a bag of salad or microwaved vegetables is her thing. She doesn't like food so it's no surprise. Supermarket fruit bought 3 days ago for dessert.
                                                          Unfortunately she has the best house for our rather large family to congregate. So we all hit on an idea. She would provide the venue and we would provide the food, but she also provides the bagged salad. Potlucks are the best way, with the family discussing amongst ourselves who's bringing what.

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                                                            kooshball5 RE: smartie Jun 2, 2014 06:52 AM

                                                            "Doesn't like food"...these words do not compute...

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                                                              sunshine842 RE: kooshball5 Jun 2, 2014 05:53 PM

                                                              but these folks exist...I don't think anybody who posts on CH can really get their head around it.

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