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Dec 6, 2013 11:01 AM

Do You Think That Many Chowhound Posters are Loners, and/or Recluses IRL?

And are you one? Just curious! Somebody here thinks that there are. wasn't me that said it. :) Personally, I don't know. Lots of posters on here speak of friends and family and social events IRL. I tend to take their word for it, which gives me the impression that most posters on here are like me and aren't loners. Opinions? Hey, it's Friday, let's have some fun! :)

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  1. Hardly. I have to keep a lid on it or I would run myself into the ground. We have a large social group locally, nationally and internationally, so keeping up with everyone is a full-time job.

    1. Why would you think people would discuss it if they were?

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      1. re: Karl S

        Hey, you never know! And Karl, does your response mean that you are one? Jk...a little Friay fun, right! :)

        1. re: Karl S

          I don't know if you meant to imply it Karl, but there's no shame in discussing it... it takes all types, right?

          I'm somewhat reclusive, due in part to my partner being an out and out hermit - but I have an active online social life, which is actually something that works very well for many people with Asperger's (which is probably why I'm not a party animal in real life - I'm pretty shy and horribly socially awkward).

          I love cooking and trying new recipes and sharing them with family and friends, and I love going out to eat - just not in huge groups, usually only with one or two other people - family and friends.

          Reading through other responses, it occurs to me that Chowhound might mean something a bit different for me than many other, more sociable types. This is as much a social outlet for me as a night out on the town with friends might be for others.

          Don't get me wrong, I have friends and colleagues who I enjoy conversing with fairly regularly, but yes, many would consider how I live as reclusive.

          1. re: ursy_ten

            I so sincerely thank you for posting this. You bring up something that no one else ever has that I'm aware of. Good for you.

            1. re: ursy_ten

              I appreciate your honest and candid response, as well. You're exactly right, it does take all types. Although I'm quite the opposite of you IRL and am very much the extrovert that enjoys being around a lot of people, I enjoy this site for a different type of interaction and conversation that I don't get from the people in my every day life.

              1. re: ursy_ten

                INTJ (100% 'I' and 'J', very high NT) with Asperger's here. i consider reading forums being 'social'. otherwise i do go to my regular pub alone.

                well, carry on, everyone. :)

                1. re: Pata_Negra

                  Ah, INFP here, pleased to make your acquaintance :)

                2. re: ursy_ten

                  I'm normally outgoing, but lately have been more reclusive. I think these categories tend to change as we meet the bumps in the road of life.

              2. Hi Sara! No and no. Food is such a communal experience, I would think most of us aren't recluses. Maybe some of us are more introverted and some more extroverted, but I don't think there are many foodie recluses.

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                1. re: pinehurst

                  Hmmm......I wonder if the person who told me this will respond. Again, this was not my idea!

                              1. re: Wahooty

                                No escape from reality
                                Open your eyes...

                          1. re: SaraAshley

                            Yes, Sara, I'm a loner.

                            And what does IRL mean ? Is that kind of like a URL ?????

                            1. re: SaraAshley

                              I have to admit, SaraAshley, I didn't know what IRL was, either.
                              You'll have to forgive some of us for not knowing all the acronyms out there. We're not all in our twenties!

                              1. re: kitchengardengal

                                Bookmark It has all the new jargon for ya. Very usefull.

                                I'd put the link here but I'm work and it's blocked.


                                1. re: Davwud

                                  Yep, I've used for years. Even posted definitions in it myself.

                                  While reading a nicely worded and articulate post, it's a bit inconvenient to have to look up a phrase that would have been just as easy to spell out.
                                  What do you do at work, then, if UD is blocked?

                                  1. re: kitchengardengal

                                    Most times I can figure it out. If I can't, I highlight, right click and hit "Google search for "_____""
                                    It's rare that I can't solve it with either of these 2.


                                    1. re: Davwud

                                      I love that Google search feature. It's handy when I'm researching products for clients, instead of typing out or even copying and pasting.

                                2. re: kitchengardengal

                                  "We're not all in our twenties!"

                                  I knew, and I have had this "screen name" for at least that long! Who here remembers the Compuserv Listserv?

                                  But then I spend too much time on forums! Not a recluse really, but perhaps a limited repertoire of extreme interests.

                                  "Fixed that for you/FTFY" is the one my son just came home with. That one, and "LMGTFY/Let me google that for you" are kind of obnoxious to me.

                                  1. re: Shrinkrap

                                    LMGTFY is indeed kind of obnoxious.

                                    I will admit to having used on another forum when someone posted a question that could have been easily Googled rather than registering for the site and making a form post. (trust me -- it was one a child could have found...


                                    It's funny, in a rather pointedly snarky way. You go to the site, enter the blindingly obvious search terms, and it then gives you a code to post.

                                    The unsuspecting click on it, thinking it's like TinyURL or -- and it plays a little movie, showing the search terms being entered, the mouse clicking on "I'm feeling lucky" - and it really does link up to the first site returned in a Google search.

                                    1. re: sunshine842

                                      LMGTFY is an appropriate response (not on this site of course, but others that don't see its use as a "hark hark the snark" delete worthy post) when someone describes (for instance) the street, city and name of a restaurant and someone else replies to say "What's the address of that restaurant?"

                                      Now I don't know about you, but I don't know the street address of even a single restaurant I eat at. Even ones I've been going to for years and years. So that means someone is going to "literally" have to Google that for you. Idiocy to the Nth degree...

                                      1. re: Servorg

                                        Slothful idiocy, with a side of ignorance.

                                3. No. But would this be a problem if they were?

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                                  1. re: Leepa

                                    Yes, I only like to interact with people on the internet that are at the top of the food chain socially IRL, like myself. Totally jk....of course it wouldn't be a problem. I don't care how you are IRL if my interactions with you are strictly internet based and I enjoy those interactions with you. But you know, some honesty would be nice.