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I am 8 weeks Pregnant and can't even COOK without getting nauseous. .HELP

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  1. Also, I do daycare and am SO exhausted at the end of the day
    I feel I have no energy to spend time with my Family!!

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    1. re: amberschindy

      Sleep! You need it. You are growing a person. It's hard work.

    2. I'm linking to a bunch of CH threads addressing this and hope it helps.


      If you have an SO, I'd turn the food preparation over to him/her and maybe you can eat some things that you don't have to cook.

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      1. re: c oliver

        Nausea is your body's way of shutting down some things so it can concentrate it's energy on your babies nutritional needs.' It's nature and you are part of it. Later when your body demands a huge steak in the middle of the night it's your body's why of making sure your baby gets what it needs. Honestly you are just along for the ride now.
        The nausea will pass like it's done for billions of other women.

        1. re: Puffin3

          Morning sickness is likely caused by hormonal changes but as OP says she's looking for suggestions that may help her.

      2. Thanks for the links, I'm hoping to find something helpful :(.

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        1. re: amberschindy

          my mother was hospitalized for 6 months while she was pregnant with littlest brother. It happens to some woman. Checkout the magazine Everyday Food for your SO. Easy recipes with no more than 5 ingredients. altoids help me whenever I feel nauseous.

        2. I understand Millions of woman go through the same thing. I'm only searching for advice on home remedies...what worked for others.
          Thanks though

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          1. re: amberschindy

            Hope you are feeling better soon. I was violently ill (seriously could not even safely drive!) many times per day from about 9 weeks onward. I carried garbage bags in all my pockets and eventually went on meds. Rest does help and so does staying hydrated - tiny frequent sips. Keeping the water icy helped a bit. Oddly the only thing I could eat with any regularity was peanut butter. Even crackers made me feel queasy, though I suspect that was a bit freudian. I ate the peanut butter with apples or bananas sometimes. Occasionally i could tolerate hotdogs - hardly "eating clean" but you eat what you can. I could not hold down most raw veggies. I also found switching up starches worked - for one meal - the next time I'd make mashed potatoes, for example, they were no longer a safe food! Anyway it seems to be a big experiment but eventually it's worth it! Good luck.

          2. That sounds awful. I'll sympathize with you!! Hope it passes quickly. (I'm sorry I have no advice for you, I've never been through it.)

            1. As someone who's had 4 failed fertility cycles since June and no children yet, I'd give anything to have your "problem".

              Do you have a crockpot that maybe you can just throw everything in and leave it for the day to cook itself?

              Hope you are feeling better soon.

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              1. re: thedryer

                I usually would not complain, but being I care for 10 Children every day I was hoping to find a way to calm the storm.

                I am so sorry to hear your not having luck in becoming pregnant. I'm sending lots of positive energy your way! I would do the crockpot although most of the problem is the Odor and the handeling :s eww.

                1. re: amberschindy

                  So was my suggestion of turning it over to your SO, if you have one, not a possibility?

                  1. re: c oliver

                    I could. Although all my husband can cook is cereal ;).

                    1. re: amberschindy

                      Your husband can learn. Write things down for him. Keep it simple. If he loves you, he'll be glad to. And this will pass and you'll love him even more. If you have a garage or backporch the slow cooker can go out there and you won't have to smell. He can prep stuff the night before. Etc :)

                      1. re: c oliver

                        Many crockpot meals were cooked out on the porch during my pregnancies. I couldn't stand the smell of the whole house if cooked inside. Even then, I ate more take out during those months than at any other time in my life. Anybody cooking just made me want to hurl. Unfortunately, even though the nausea eased at 17 weeks, it never really passed. I'm with you, amberschindy, it sucks, but remember that you are growing a human being. Take it easy if you can (or just puke on your husband to remind him that you aren't making this up).

                      2. re: amberschindy

                        Try oatmeal - I was extremely nauseous when I was pg and it was indeed the smell that worsened it. I could deal with oatmeal and pancakes that had ALREADY BEEN COOKED and the kitchen cleaned up after. I was ok with fresh fruit but being the winter time, most of it was citrus that gave me heartburn like a bitch.

                        You'll by fine - good for you for reaching out for answers. It gets better. Lots of sleep when you can and keep your fluids up before you get dehydrated! Wishing you the best!

                  2. re: thedryer

                    I know what you mean... that's one 'problem' I never got to experience. Ginger ale and saltine are the time-honoured suggestions for coping... and cook a bulk meal when you're able to stomach it (in the crockpot?), then you can just reheat it for a few days. Another advantage of the crockpot is that it can do most or all of the 'cooking' while you're out the house so you don't have to smell it.

                    1. re: Kajikit

                      I do daycare, so the crockpot would drive me to insanity I believe. :) Thanks for the advice. Ill try the crackers and ginger-ale!

                  3. Ugh. I've been there. Go for less aromatic and/or quick cooking foods. The smells get me every time. Salads, pasta, maybe a quick steak (cooked by someone else) or chicken. Nothing that has to cook for a long time. I went off of roast chicken and raw onions with my last pregnancy.

                    1. Is there anything, anything at all, that sounds good to you? I found cold food to be my best friend and had a hankering for raspberry sorbet; lived on it for a couple of weeks. Coca Cola was also my friend. Toast with or without butter (depending on ???) was another. Anything that smelled like f-o-o-d was out of the question. Happily, it passed and healthy babies resulted. Remember your vitamins. Take as many naps as you can manage, the exhaustion also lessens with the passage of time.

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                      1. re: Sherri

                        I yi yi! I forgot! TAKE YOUR VITAMINS! spoken from a grandmother that forgets to take her own!

                        1. re: JerryMe

                          A friend described early pregnancy "morning" sickness to me as "the hangover that never ends" and that held true for me as well. (even after several failed fertility cycles, it was bad enough that I could not see the bright side some days....)

                          Talk to your doctor about the vitamins, some women just can't tolerate them. I took mine at night before bed.

                          I drank lots of Coca Cola and ginger ale. Plain crackers as a way of just getting something in my stomach.

                      2. Since I'm assuming this is child #1, I bet there are a lot of things your husband will be learning to do in the coming months and years. Cooking will be one of the first. When I was teaching my kids to cook, I used a couple of those "5 ingredients or less" kind of cookbooks for them to learn their way around the kitchen.

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                        1. re: ricepad

                          It is actually my second but I was 20 with my first and Didn't have any nausea at all. So it was a shock to my system.

                          He is great, just not a cook :). Ill get him a cookbook for Christmas..see how that goes :)

                          1. re: amberschindy

                            Hopefully you'll be feeling back to normal by then.

                        2. Vanilla Milkshakes ~~ Good ones, are what sustained me.
                          I lived near a swensons' Ice Cream store back then.

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                          1. re: laliz

                            This actually sounds great. Ill try this tonight !

                            1. re: amberschindy

                              Good idea re: vanilla milkshakes. I lived off those and peanut butter sandwiches for much of my pregnancy as the smell of anything else put me off much of the time. I found that crystallized ginger candy (can buy at Trader Joe's) helped with the nausea, peppermint too, especially peppermint tea. I never tried ginger tea, but that might help too.

                              Also, just don't cook if it make you sick. SO can do takeout for the rest of your pregnancy and if you have other kids, make pasta, rice, anything without a strong smell that won't trigger nausea. I remember that the smell if meat cooking made me so, so ill. Feel better!

                          2. My daughter is at 14 weeks and just at the point where she can go to the supermarket without wanting to vomit. She relied on bland starches to get her through up until a few weeks ago and now is eating more normally and healthily. Same thing happened with her first pregnancy and the baby is big and healthy! Just listen to your body and eat what you can tolerate right now, knowing that this time will pass.

                            Best of luck to you!

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                            1. re: susan1353

                              I agree. Try bland things that are comforting or soothing and not particularly smelly/flavorful.

                              And if ANYTHING piques your interest/taste buds, go for it. Sometimes you get weird hankerings despite the nausea.

                              I miscarried when I was younger, but had the most god awful nausea for the first couple months. Couldn't even stand the smell of shampoo, but there was a health food restaurant nearby that made this brown rice/veggie bowl (just plain rice, steamed veggies) with teriyaki sauce on the side and I'd that a few times a week.

                              I second the suggestion of saltine or soda crackers. I was eating all sorts of crackers--Ritz, pita chips, water crackers, etc.

                              Toast, sliced French bread, even bagels if you can. Spread with jam, butter or cream cheese if you think you can. Void of nutritional value, but high calories per serving.

                              Baked potatoes aren't stinky and very easy to digest (minus the skin).

                              If you're thinking milkshakes sound good, go for it! Maybe you could also try popsicles or other frozen stuff.

                              Ginger ale is good; you can also try 7-Up or Sprite. They make ginger chews--I've heard Trader Joe's ones are good, as well as ginger or peppermint hard candies specifically for nausea.

                              You can also try "Preggy Pops" (lollipops for morning sickness), Sea Bands (acupressure bracelets for nausea), and if worst comes to worst, ask your doc for a prescription for Zofran to get you through your first trimester.

                              1. re: nothingswrong

                                32 years ago when I was pregnant with my first child, I had terrible morning sickness and with my last child (she's 26), on top of the morning sickness, I had evening sickness also. I lived in NY at the time with the first one and had to take the subway from Queens to Manhattan for work everyday. The thing that would calm my stomach was an Italian ice.

                                I'd get one before getting on the train everyday and one when I got off the train every evening...and I also lived off popsicles, other icy treats, and fresh fruits. Food smells didn't bother me, but perfume/cologne and body odors did. I remember there was this alcoholic who worked in the Wall Street area that would board the same train & car as I everyday on the way to work and the liquor reeked from his pores and I would just get so sick from the smell...

                            2. i feel your pain: i spent two pregnancies like that. I ended up eating silly stuff: i remember clif bars, tuna, and cucumbers. that's about all i could get down for a loooonnng time. i tried so many home remedies it wasn't even funny. nothing worked, some made it worse!
                              2 suggestions:
                              1. go to a homeopath or a DOCTOR of oriental medicine - not an acupunturist. an acupuncturist can't do many needles, but a DOM has much deeper knowledge of the body. i was able to go to a DOM one time, and i was nausea free for a little while! it was such a blessing!

                              2. for what it's worth, if i had to do it all over again, i'd TRY everything i could following Weston A. Price principles of nutrition. I've read tons of articles on what they are "preaching" and i wish i had known it when i was pregnant! i'm not saying it will definitely help the nausea, but it's so "out there" i'd definitely give it a try.

                              also, i used to do things like try and assess what might work: i talked to myself a LOT, asking if I could stand broccoli for example (nope) or a tamale (yes, but that lasted for only 1/2 hour. by the time i got it, i couldn't manage it). anyway, i would try to see what i could visualize eating, and it helped a little. I kept waiting for those lucille ball cravings.. but they never really materialized, except for the single tamale incident! sometimes single, simple things worked like carrots, other times not so much. i kept smells to a minimum in the house as well - no perfume of any kind, including the aromas of cooked foods!

                              all i can tell you is it only lasts for 9 months (or maybe less!!) the "pain" of childbirth was a snap compared to 9 months of continuous nausea for me. the night my first was due, i went out and had the thai food that i had been missing so much: i knew it was going to make me sick one way or another so i just went for it! good luck. really.

                              1. I lived on ginger ale for a good 2 weeks while pregnant, it was the only thing that was appealing to me. I also did a steeped ginger water for other times. Basically heat up some water and put in a slice or 2 of fresh ginger, and sip like tea. My grandmother claimed peppermints (the starlight ones) would cure any nausea, but I was at 50% success with that.

                                1. If the issue is cooking itself, and your SO for some reason can't or won't cook, is there a reason you can't order in, or get decent ready-to-eat food at the market? (salad bar, soup bar....?)
                                  If the issue is eating, period, you need to figure out some foods that will sustain you and the baby until such time as this eases up for you, which it pretty much always does, and pretty soon, too. (Though I realize an hour feels like a day when you're trying not to hork ): and perhaps let that SO fend for himself. I'm talking basics like: plain baked skinless chicken, chicken broth with rice and/or noodles, bananas, applesauce, toast, milk, puddings, sherbet and ice cream, peanut butter if you can handle it, baked potatoes. Noodle pudding; rice pudding; you get the idea. Sort of an enhanced BRAT diet, to get you over the hump and keep you hydrated. This is not going to keep you in optimum pregnancy health for long, though, and if the nausea continues to be an issue you really need to address it with your obstetrician.

                                  1. It'll get better. Your first pregnancy? I can only tell you from experience that A. I only got nauseous in the evening after I came home from work. The smell of meat would literally make me ill. So..the first three months I ate mostly pasta and peas. No lie. Suddenly when I hit that four month date..my meat appetite came back full force and the cooking resumed..so much to the point the weight gain was 80 pounds and the baby was 10..but lots of breast feeding dropped the weight in record time.
                                    At the end of the day, go home. get changed and make your so/hubs/partner prepare your dinner. Then sleep. You need it. Lots of it!
                                    Best of luck. Pregnancy does get a lot better:)

                                    1. Can you tolerate soups or simple broths? I'm not pregnant but have been sick recently and the thought of most food makes me nauseous but I've been guzzling chicken stock and find it quite soothing.

                                      1. Ginger tea made from fresh ginger rand saltines sustained me for my first trimester.
                                        I felt no obligation to cook for my husband and if I remember correctly he was not allowed to cook any food at all for about s month.
                                        Then I went through a vanilla milkshakes phase. Then all was good and all I wanted was red meat.

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                                        1. re: magiesmom

                                          I once stayed with a friend who was PG and having pretty bad morning sickness... one night I made a late night snack of a veggie burger, and she was so sensitive to smells that it woke the poor girl up even though to me it had almost no odour at all!

                                        2. My baby is 6 months and she gave me horrible nausea. Smells would drive me crazy. I feel your pain.

                                          Ginger was helpful. I'd make ginger tea by slicing it and putting a few in hot water with sugar to taste. There is ginger gum near the sea bands at CVS or Walgreens. Tj maxx usually has choc covered ginger and Asian markets for crystallized ginger.

                                          Mashed potatoes. Instant can be made with no smell and quickly. When no one else is around.

                                          Plain toast. Rice with a small pat of butter and salt. The lean cuisines top chef steamer ones were also edible. Just don't eat more than 2/day (the salt).

                                          Clementines/oranges. Cold and peeled.

                                          My mom came to town during a particularly bad spell of it and she made stuff from childhood. It helped - not sure if you have a loved one that could do that for you.

                                          What to Eat When you are Expecting was a great book to give a guide of what you need and ways to get it. It also stressed the fact that when you are sick, don't worry about what you're eating just eat whatever canstay down. So like someone said if its milkshakes - eat that.

                                          Congrats, the time flies, and it does get better.

                                          1. OK, so this is not really food advice. I had three big healthy babies, and I threw up for 8 months with all of them.

                                            My counter-intuitive advice is: get used to the idea, don't fight it, go ahead and give in to being sick, (it only takes a few minutes, after all) and you will soon feel better.

                                            Crackers and toast can help, eaten in bed before sitting up.

                                            Ginger tea can help.

                                            I discovered in my last pregnancy that Sea Bands help a lot.

                                            But really, just give in, get it over and move on.

                                            By the way, I read a study once that showed that nausea during pregnancy is adaptive. Women who were touchy about what they could eat or keep down were less likely to eat bad food, and more liklely to carry healthy babies. It may not be true, but it is comforting.

                                            1. Then don't cook.
                                              Make smoothies, or do chop and assemble meals like a salad with canned beans, nuts and avocado.
                                              Peanut butter in oatmeal with banana is a good quick not too stinky meal.

                                              If you can handle the "smell" of boiling pasta or making rice those are a versitile base to create a meal from and even the non-cook SO can figure it out.

                                              Ginger tea made from sliced mashed ginger root with a touch of honey or agave will help with the nausea.
                                              Stonybrook yogurt (according to something i read) has a huge variety of probiotics that can also help settle your stomach

                                              Don't hesitate to ask for help, and take advantage of premade proteins from the store if that is the most offensive smell right now.

                                              1. I totally hear you.

                                                Been there. Done that.

                                                1. You've gotten good suggestions and links to prior threads on the topic, but I haven't seen mentioned the single thing that got me through being pregnant: Dried Papaya Pills. Papaya has an enzyme that aids digestion and for many people, quells nausea. I was at a Walgreen's the other day and noticed they do sell them in the vitamin section - I always had to go to a health food store.

                                                  The other suggestion (if you usually feel ill upon awakening) - do not get out of bed or move until you put one saltine in your mouth and just let it dissolve. I know this sounds strange but for some reason it works for many. I believe that was a suggestion from my midwife. It worked for me. Good luck.

                                                  1. When I was pregnant, even some of my favorite foods smelled disgusting. It helped me to eat cold or room temp things ( less scent) : cheese and crackers, salads, sandwiches, room temp grain or bean salads, pasta salad, wraps, soba noodles.

                                                    As mentioned by others, just go with it -and get it over with. After 2 children...I became a pro at vomiting...bada bing, bada boom. I didn't even smudge the make up after practicing a few hundred times :/

                                                    1. what got me through was 1) switching my vitamin (the sugary gummy ones from target i could tolerate, others not so much); 2) eating small amount frequently; 3) high protein snacks--hardboiled egg, almonds, walnuts; 4) bland and straightforward--scrambled egg, oatmeal, plain yogurt with nuts/flax seeds/jam, bananas. This will pass! Good luck!

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                                                      1. Newman's Own ginger snaps combined with Sea-Band wrist bands. The reason for the nausea is your center of balance is off - sea bands can really help with this, and you can put them on and take them off whenever, you don't have to wear them all the time and no side effects like a medication. real ginger is a natural helper for nausea. IMO eating these cookies all day long a little bit at a time is WAY better for pregnancy than saltines, as not only are you keeping "something in your stomach," you're combatting the nausea.

                                                        This phase passes, don't worry. Then you'll be eating PLENTY. I promise.

                                                        1. Have any of these suggestions provided any relief? I hope so, let us know..

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                                                          1. re: holypeaches

                                                            Yes they have thanks!

                                                            Gingerale and cold foods seem to do the trick! I am now addicted to Vanilla shakes :).

                                                            Thank You all!

                                                              1. re: amberschindy

                                                                Oh good!!
                                                                Can you handle nutbutter? A glob of peanut butter in the shake would be a great source of healthy fats and some protein- and delicious :)

                                                            1. See if you can find some "Gin Gin" candies by the Ginger People. Also try to find "real" ginger-ale made by the same company. Both of these were lifesavers when the nausea hit hard at work, in the car or when I was overwhelmed with the smell of food. Whole Foods, Trader Joes and some health food stores carry both or their own brand versions.


                                                              Also, as others noted making your own ginger tea is wonderful and soothing.

                                                              You can also make your own real ginger ale. Make ginger simple syrup (combine equal parts sugar and water with a large piece of ginger, sliced into thin coins. Bring to a boil and then turn off heat and let steep for 30 minutes to an hour. Strain and refrigerate. Add this club soda/seltzer to taste.