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There have been some threads recently about drinking around non-drinkers, family that made me think most CH have alcohol present (doesn't mean they drink) at get togethers and meals. Would it be unusual not to have any alcohol? What percent of your home get togethers do not have alcohol? These threads made me think because it's just as common for us not to have alcohol as to have it. I wouldn't think twice about going to someone's house and not be served wine.

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  1. Always. 100%

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    1. re: jpc8015

      same here. 100% at my house. And the only events I can think of that I've been to at other people's houses in recent years that didn't include alcohol were a couple of children's birthday parties.

      1. re: cookie monster

        Actually, at the last kids' birthday party I went to (a second one) the host brewed a special beer for the occasion.

        I literally can't think of a party, barbeque or dinner where there wasn't alcohol. Some people don't drink and some drink less/more than others, but yes, in my usual social circles, we like our cocktails (or beer or wine or what have you).

        1. re: LeoLioness

          Sounds like my kind of kids' birthday party! To clarify, I would say that alcohol was indeed served at most of kids' birthday parties I've been to as well, but there have been a few that were dry, and I wasn't bothered / surprised by the host parents' choice.

          1. re: LeoLioness

            I went to some kids' birthday parties when my children were younger where I wish they'd served alcohol!

          2. re: cookie monster

            Same here. 100%, primarily wine, unless it's summertime and we're outdoors. Then there's likely to be beer and mixed drinks as well. I should probably mention, we're all adults. No kidlets running around.

          3. re: jpc8015

            We always have wine or beer with dinner, but rarely serve hard liquor unless a guest asks for it.

            I don't think it's weird not to have alcohol, though. I know plenty of people who don't drink for religious or health reasons, so this seems normal, too.

          4. All get togethers include alcohol. 100%. Somewhere well north of 90% of my meals, whether alone or with others, include alcohol.

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            1. re: MonMauler

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            2. We don't drink alcohol at every meal when it's just the two of us, but if we're having people over for a meal or gathering, there is always alcohol. I would be surprised if I were invited to an evening gathering (other than maybe a child's birthday party) that didn't include alcohol.

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              1. re: biondanonima

                My wife and I also do not drink when we're alone together or we we go out as a couple. When we invite guests over then we try to accommodate their needs and have plenty of alcohol on hand.

              2. We almost always serve wine with any celebratory or social dinner in our home, and typically offer wine & beer in less formal social gatherings in our home. Although we keep some hard liquor in the house, we rarely drink it ourselves; we may offer it to guests but it seems like most of our social circle mainly consume wine & beer.

                1. This is eye-opening. We do normally serve wine when we have people over for dinner. If someone didn't serve wine, I wouldn't notice. I had a brunch, make your own chocolate truffles, w/ moms in the neighborhood and didn't serve alcohol. I was surprised at 11am, that people were asking for alcohol because it never occurred to me that they'd drink before getting their kids off the bus. Moms getting hammered in the middle of the day seemed cliche but I thought it was just a stereotype. Maybe it's me and not them...

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                  1. re: chowser

                    When some people say "brunch" they mean mimosas and bloody marys mid-day.
                    And, just because its a cliche it doesn't mean it isn't true ;)

                  2. Always.110 %

                    1. No, we do not have alcohol, and I don't think it is unusual.

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                      1. re: Steve

                        It's interesting how few people there are here who don't always have alcohol. We do drink and I normally have wine/beer if we have guests over but rarely hard liquor, although my husband will pull out good scotch or whatever if we have company who appreciates it. I honestly don't notice if someone serves alcohol or not. I guess it's more like a soup course to me. Nice to have but not necessary.

                        1. re: Steve

                          We don't usually. SO will maybe 10% of the time. For a party I'd have a few bottles of wine around, but don't keep any at home other than for cooking every other day.

                        2. We rarely have alcohol with meals at home. However, when hosting I always have wine, beer, mixed drinks available. Some guests indulge, some do not. I can't recall not being offered a drink when visiting friends or family, even at kids' birthdays. Sometimes I accept, sometimes not.

                          In fact, this is why I prefer hosting. If I'm hosting I can have a cocktail before the meal, several glasses of wine with dinner and, depending how long folks stay, an additional cocktail or two after the meal. When I'm the guest I limit myself to one or two glasses of wine or beers. I'm very hesitant to get behind the wheel if I've consumed any more.

                          1. If I'm a guest and know the hosts well, I'll know ahead of time if alcohol will be a part of the meal or not at all and I'll go with the flow of the menu and host decisions. If I'm asked to bring alcohol I'll ask what type/preference before shopping for it.

                            If I'm hosting alcohol and non alcoholic drinks will be provided. We have a home bar and it's fun to use it. Guests pour their own drink choices usually.

                            My husband and I probably enjoy some form of alcohol several times a week or more depending on how the week plays out (restaurant, attending a party, work event or family celebration).

                            And if I'm being inclusive of my own habits, then the enjoyment of a spiked coffee, Bloody Mary, Champagne brunch or after dinner drink during book club is part of my routine too.

                            But there are dozens of meals/get togethers where bottled water, fresh juice or hot tea is just as enjoyable.

                            1. The days of "open bar" with hard liquor are long gone in this house. I'll have wine, maybe a pitcher of light cocktails (champagne and St. Germaine) and some imported beer available but plenty of juices, San Pellegrino sodas, Martinelli Cider, and waters. I could not carry the burden of someone not making it home because I did not know about their imbibing problems.
                              CP

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                              1. re: Chefpaulo

                                Oh we've had a few sleepover guests over the years but not in quite some time. I think the laws today keep 'most' people in check. But I can't think of a party that doesn't rap up over coffee and some sobering moments for those who need it. If I thought a guest was in trouble though, I'd call a cab and their car would stay at my place.

                              2. 100 percent for get togethers.

                                80 percent for all regular dinners include alcohol as the main beverage (along with water). We just don't drink other cold beverages for dinner. We are a no soda pop/ sugared beverage house.

                                Sometimes we have hot tea if it pairs better with certain Asian dishes.

                                Brunch includes typical brunch alcohol French 75 or 76's, mimosas, champagne....pretty standard. I would not consider it a brunch with just coffee...it would just be a big breakfast ;)

                                I am always struck with how many non drinkers assume you must like getting drunk if you drink alcohol with your meal. an alcoholic beverage or two does not make most people drunk or unable to drive home.

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                                1. re: sedimental

                                  That's an excellent point actually.

                                  1. re: sedimental

                                    Not only does "an alcoholic beverage or two" with your meal not make most people drunk but the drunkeness occurs when people are not having their drink with a meal - to complement the meal - they are just guzzling and food doesn't even enter into the picture.

                                    I've heard lots of people say that they like to drink but they won't drink with their meals. Well, I think that's the problem in a nutshell.

                                    1. re: prio girl

                                      Yes, that is very true.

                                      Also, I really enjoy food and wine pairing, as well as other alcoholic beverage and food pairing at dinner.

                                      To me, juice, diet coke, sweetened tea does nothing to compliment the dinner foods I prepare, and they give me a sugar rush I don't like. I don't injest that much sugar at dessert. Nauseating.

                                      Sparkling waters are nice, but they don't compliment the meal, they just don't clash with the meal.

                                      A glass of wine, a nice lighter beer, or a well crafted cocktail with dinner always sounds so much better! I have no desire to drink alcohol without food.

                                    2. re: sedimental

                                      True - I had a friend in high school who had never been around alcohol before coming to my house, where my dad was drinking a beer. One beer! I think he went to mow the lawn or something after that and she whispered that maybe he shouldn't do that because he'd been drinking.

                                      I come from a big raucous Italian/Irish/Cathoholic family. Drinks of all kinds are served at almost every occasion. It is extremely rare that anyone gets drunk.

                                    3. get togethers = happy
                                      get togethers with alcohol = happier

                                      1. My parents don't drink, but they sometimes serve wine for guests who do. At regular small dinner parties, there is no alcohol to be found.

                                        My brothers are heavy drinkers, so they bring their own booze when they are home for Thanksgiving/Xmas. My sister might have a glass of wine. I'd say half of my parents friends/colleagues who come for Xmas will drink if alcohol's served, but half won't regardless. They're more of a Diet Coke crowd for some reason.

                                        I don't drink and could care less about alcohol being served. When I host at my home, it's BYOB and nobody seems to care, since many of my friends don't really drink either.

                                        1. My parents were never big drinkers, and neither is my husband's family...but alcohol is always served when we get together. There may be only a fraction of people who actually drink, but it's always offered.

                                          And I actually can't remember a dinner party I've ever been to (with family, friends, or coworkers) where I wasn't offered alcohol.

                                          1. No, not at all and never. I don't drink, my husband doesn't drink, none of his family drinks, only some of my family drinks, so there is zero alcohol at meals and get togethers.

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                                            1. re: LMAshton

                                              Same here. The only alcohol at our meals is when my mother-in-law shows up with a six-pack. That hasn't happened in a while, though.

                                              I do cook with it, but that's something else entirely.

                                              1. re: Kontxesi

                                                You sound like me, except for the mother in law. I always have alcohol to cook and bake with but I've never been much of a drinker. I used to get a drink when we went out but the current alcohol laws and medication that I take has made alcohol an unlikely restaurant purchase.

                                              2. re: LMAshton

                                                My husband and I enjoy the odd drink but I have never served any to my Mom and step father as they have never had alcohol in their lives. They know I have a pantry of alcohol for cooking and we have made it clear we have the occasionsl drink but out of respect for them we never have it at our house when they are part of the scenario. It is not a necessary part of socializing to us.

                                              3. I'm not much of a drinker--but as my better half is French, he has wine with dinner on the weekends. I'll do an aperitif, but if I drink wine after the aperitif, I get sick. My tolerance is way low. That being said, whenever fambly comes over for dinner, or any guests, we always serve wine--but not hard booze. Christmas Day is "Martha Stewart Eggnog Day" and that eggnog packs a whallop! We do have a member of AA visiting this Christmas and he's fine with others drinking...I will serve Seltzer to him.
                                                Now..if I'm a guest at someone's home and they chose not to serve wine/beer/booze--I'm fine with that..no biggie..it's the food and company that is more important!

                                                1. Family get-togethers for lunch or dinner always involve alcohol for those family members who drink it. Of course, there are family members who don't drink at all or don't want to drink on a particular occasion.

                                                  1. No to kiddie birthday parties and no to the annual Christmas breakfast, but yes to pretty much every other get together.

                                                    1. Evening meals, even if it just the fam, are virtually always likely to have wine included. Brunch, lunch, no.

                                                      1. We always have wine and beer at our gatherings. I go to other get-togethers that never do. A dry party doesn't bother me, but I prefer the option of a glass of wine.

                                                        1. Until I was a teenager, almost all family functions were held at my grandparent's place, and they never ever had any alcohol. I'm not sure why, exactly, except perhaps that my grandfather was not a drinking kind of guy. I don't think it was expressly forbidden, but I don't think my grandfather really "approved" of drinking so I doubt anyone would have brought it up. The best way to explain that is that we are descended from Puritans, and my grandfather was living proof of that legacy.

                                                          Didn't strike me as odd until I attended a boyfriend's family parties (very big, Irish family) and booze was *everywhere*.

                                                          Nowadays, there is usually wine/beer at family get-togethers, but I don't think it would be missed if it were somehow omitted. Although, with most of us cousins being over 21, I doubt that is likely to happen! I don't drink myself, for health reasons, so it would make no difference to me!

                                                          1. We have wine with dinner most nights; whether at home, or at a restaurant. When with friends, whatever is being served is appreciated. We serve wine or beer or liquor or water or fruit juice, according to our guests' preferences.
                                                            My mother's family's parties rarely have alcohol of any sort; my father's family's parties ALWAYS have it :)

                                                            1. We have pretty much always had wine every evening with dinner. Then we had a health scare in September and just decided to stop drinking entirely; either for a while or forever - we'll see. We kind of like it. Excellent on the bank account, also.

                                                              1. DH and I don't drink, but we have purchased wine for dinner guests.
                                                                Our best friends don't drink wine - it doesn't agree with either of them. He drinks rum, and she drinks margaritas or good champagne. I do not purchase alcohol when they come over. We eat, play dominoes or cards and have a great time. When we go to their house for dinner, they drink, we don't, and they always have seltzer water for us.

                                                                It never occurred to me to buy hard liquor (or expensive champagne) for guests , when we won't be imbibing. I don't know if that's rude, but our BFFs have never said anything about it. Nor have they ever hesitated at an invitation to our house. I really never even thought about it before.

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                                                                1. re: kitchengardengal

                                                                  I'm puzzled.............................

                                                                  "Our best friends don't drink wine - it doesn't agree with either of them."

                                                                  "she drinks margaritas or good champagne"

                                                                  So, as long as the wine is bubbly and expensive it is agrees with her???????????

                                                                  1. re: bagelman01

                                                                    I don't know how come, but she's sensitive to certain things.. Does champagne have sulfates or whatever is in wine?

                                                                    I know she doesn't ever get 'cheap' champagne. This is beyond my ken - I'd sooner have a glass of wine, myself.

                                                                    1. re: kitchengardengal

                                                                      You absorb champagne differently than wine, through your mouth rather than internally (sorry I don't remember the science behind it, but that's how a teacher of mine described it in class). My mother has terrible problems with sulfites. After I told her what I had learned, she was very happy to discover that it worked for her.

                                                                2. Sometimes if I start with the booze early enough I forget to make the meal! That's the only reason I put olives in my drink, emergency rations!

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                                                                  1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                    I'm jealous, I've never been able to start with the booze early enough.

                                                                    As to olives as emergency rations, there was a night early, last November when I sat in the dark and ate almost an entire jar, lamenting the effect of no power on the contents of my refrigerators.

                                                                    As an aside, you ever have one of those days where after too much time spent getting home, you breathe a sigh and prepare to fuse with the couch and let it all go. Out comes the gin (vodka), vermouth, shaker. You dump the ice, eyeball the pours, stir the elixir, begin to smile, and realize, "Shit! There's no olives!"?

                                                                    You panic briefly. Check the pantry. No more jars. Just a can of black, pitted, olives. "How bad can it be?" You wonder as you open the can and drop one in your cocktail.

                                                                    You sit down. Turn on the TV. And, take that first sip. "Pretty damn bad." You finally answer, aloud, though no one's in the room. Another big swallow to finish the drink, cringing slightly.

                                                                    A moment later, you're heading back for a refill, thinking, "Fuck it. I ain't goin' back out."

                                                                    1. re: MGZ

                                                                      Last November no power is a Sandy memory......my wife and kids called it quits after 2/3 days without power and sought refuge at her parents house. I stuck the remaining two weeks we spent without power in our home. Initially I was driving to Woodbridge for fuel (for car I didn't have a generator) vodka and chef boy ardee in the can.

                                                                      I don't put vermouth in my vodka martini so the olives give the only flavor, slightly salty to my drink. I can't say I have ever used black olives, but I have used dill pickle slices and even a sweet gerkin one time. The sweet didn't taste as bad as you might imagine, but having that thing flopping around in my glass, slapping against my lips, wasn't something I enjoyed.

                                                                      Confessions of a Sandy Drinker. FYI having a fairly well trimmed beard to begin with the 2 plus weeks without being able to trim it left me with a pretty full and unkept appearance. I put a side by side picture of myself and Saddam Hussein (after his capture) on my Facebook. I then called my mom and asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me about her traveling before my birth. Scary

                                                                      1. re: MGZ

                                                                        Me too! Once I was at a friend's restaurant, he wanted to make us martinis but had no olives of any sort...he didn't have an (official) bar there so was short on garnishes. So I said the same thing, except the only thing I could find was a jar of relish. I wasn't so bad until you got to the bottom!

                                                                      2. re: jrvedivici

                                                                        jrvedivici, please do not EVER stop posting here. I realized today just how much I enjoy your posts, Veggo's posts, and your banter. Have you two met IRL?

                                                                        1. re: MrsPatmore

                                                                          MrsPatmore, thank you for the kind words, it's nice to know my attempts at humor are genuinely appreciated. (Hey Mods you reading this!?!??)

                                                                          To answer your question, no I have not had the pleasure of meeting Veggo in person. Although I can't lie and say I haven't dreamed about it. ;-)

                                                                          1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                            Around 2 am last night, suffering my usual insomnia while everyone else slumbered, I was reading a "what are you eating right now?" thread from 2007 (!) and there was a laugh-out-loud comment on there. I looked to see who posted . . . it was Veggo. "Making People LOL Since 2007"

                                                                      3. My sister and I are both in our early 30's and we are THE party planners in our families. I did not drink until recently (no real reason, just did not really see the point) but now that I have been "enlightened", when parties or gatherings happen at my home, I always have hard liquor & beer. My husband, always a moderate drinker, enjoys that I imbibe with him now. My sister was always a drinker and she always seemed to understand that our crowd (cousins/friends in their late 20s-late 30s) expect hard liquor & beer. I do notice when our older relatives are involved, my sister will serve wine but the guests our age do not drink it. When we are really feeling festive, our crowd may do champagne but really have to be in the mood. We generally do vodkas, rums, tequilas and then beers or coolers.

                                                                        Interestingly enough, we spent so much time cooking this Thanksgiving, we sort of forgot the spirits. First question through the door of people our age was "what have you got to 'drink'?" When my sister mentioned we had overlooked the alcohol, we had several volunteers to run and get some from their car or the liquor store.

                                                                        1. Yep! We have several potlucks every year and a couple of sit down dinners with close family and friends. I always offer wine, and for the family/friend dinners I'll get a nice bottle of port, grappa or scotch to enjoy after dinner.

                                                                          1. My experience, with acquaintances who vary from non drinkers to heavy drinkers...

                                                                            Going out with a group of people for dinner ordering alcohol is standard. Usually the person ordering asks who wants beer, and an appropriate number of bottles are ordered for sharing (there's generally only one choice). If no-one wants any, it's not ordered. If the restaurant is more oriented to single drinks, individuals order as wanted. It's fairly rare to go to restaurants that sell wine with a group - the standard offerings are usually beer, sake if it's a Japanese restaurant, and sometimes hard liquour (scotch, brandy, kaoliang liquor).

                                                                            An evening gathering at someone's house - usually served, unless the hosts are not drinkers.

                                                                            Going out for lunch - alcohol is never ordered.

                                                                            Afternoon or lunch gatherings at someone's house - generally no alcohol.

                                                                            At home, I sometimes have alcohol with dinner, mostly not, and sometimes a drink in the evening. My husband isn't a tea-totaller, but doesn't have a large alcohol capacity, and I'm no more than a moderate drinker (three or four drinks a week, on average).

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                                                                            1. re: tastesgoodwhatisit

                                                                              I am puzzled - I don't think I've ever seen a restaurant that sells beer and hard liquor, but not wine - ?

                                                                              1. re: sandylc

                                                                                I'm in Taiwan, and it's very common - a typical smallish local restaurant will stock 600 ml bottles of Taiwan beer, and will have some bottles of hard liquor and rice wine that can be ordered by the full bottle (not single drinks).

                                                                                Fancier western restaurants do sell grape wine, though.

                                                                                1. re: tastesgoodwhatisit

                                                                                  Ah, that 'splains it.

                                                                            2. White wine with pancakes for breakfast, red wine with cookies after dinner, I drink wine.

                                                                              1. My side of the family, never. His side of the family, always - unless it's his cousin's event since she's a Seventh Day Adventist.

                                                                                At her wedding, they served dealcoholized wine and it was bad, baad, baaad. Awful, awful, awful.

                                                                                1. Always

                                                                                  1. Never, no one in my family drinks alcohol.

                                                                                    1. Nope, hardly ever. I can have a 6 pack of hard cider last me over a year. I'm the only wine drinker and even then it's pretty rare. My husband does have beer fairly regularly though. My inlaws don't drink, in their 80s and my parents aren't drinkers either. Sure when we were kids holiday parties included punch and beer but that was a heck of a long time ago.

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                                                                                      1. re: rasputina

                                                                                        My friend brought over a six pack of Bass Ale for a small Labor Day gathering. He had three and I had one. The remaining two bottles stayed in the fridge and eventually got pushed to the rear.
                                                                                        He next came over on the Sunday after Thanksgiving for turkey soup and asked if I had any beer. I told him, "Yeah. There's the two Bass you brought on Labor Day." He looked at me like I had three heads.
                                                                                        CP

                                                                                        1. re: Chefpaulo

                                                                                          I have beer in the mud room from last year's work party. I decided no one was ever going to drink it and I was tired of looking at it so offered it to the Comcast man who came to fix the cable.

                                                                                          1. re: fldhkybnva

                                                                                            That's a nice tip! We did the same to the moving guys on our last relocation, and when they left they drove the giant tractor trailer down the block, tooting their horns and holding up bottles of Bud in tribute to us. They were a riot and made the day a pleasure.

                                                                                          2. re: Chefpaulo

                                                                                            LOL too funny.

                                                                                            1. re: Chefpaulo

                                                                                              That reminds me I have a bottle of Cooks champagne/sparkling wine that someone brought over years ago and it's still in the refrigerator. I should probably do something w/ it. Ideas?

                                                                                              1. re: chowser

                                                                                                Christen a boat?

                                                                                                1. re: coll

                                                                                                  Can I just go down to the pier and do it randomly? ;-)

                                                                                                  1. re: chowser

                                                                                                    Why not? Maybe they'll take you for a ride after. In a good way, I mean ;-)

                                                                                                    1. re: coll

                                                                                                      LOL, or have me arrested for popping cheap champagne on their boat. The rich person's equivalent of egging a house.

                                                                                                    2. re: chowser

                                                                                                      Forced christening

                                                                                                  2. re: chowser

                                                                                                    Buy a box of white grape Jello, follow the recipe for Jigglers but replace the cold water with cold champagne (or sham-pagne). Cut into cubes and serve at your next party.

                                                                                              2. So here's the thing, I go out several times a week for drinks, but I rarely drink alcohol with my meals. Most of the time I'm eating alone though, and unless it's been a really shitty day, I never drink alone. And if it has been a really shitty day, most likely that will be one of the nights I'm going out, so still not drinking alone. If I do have a friend over dinner, typically speaking they will bring a bottle of wine without being asked to, and I will maybe indulge with a glass, but I could definitely live without. My desire to drink totally involves on the environment I'm in. If I'm having more of a party and serving heavy apps (which is basically dinner for most people) then yes, I will be serving alcohol and drinking then.

                                                                                                For get togethers that I attend, whether it be friends or family, there is always alcohol. I drink at the get togethers that my friends host, but rarely at the ones that my family hosts.

                                                                                                1. There is NEVER alcohol at my family get-togethers. You can blame fundamentalist Christianity for that one. Seriously, my Southern Baptist and Pentecostal grandmothers would have a cow if they knew one drink had ever passed these lips...

                                                                                                  Other reasons than religious craziness include my dad being a dry-for-the-last-20-years alcoholic. He was in rehab before I was born, so he's got that fervent "not in my house" thing going on.

                                                                                                  When it's just my mom and stepdad, though, he'll occasionally make me a screwdriver or something now that I'm 21. My mom has stopped drinking completely the past few months. Stepdad enjoys his daily after-5pm bourbon and water.

                                                                                                  1. We always have alcohol at gatherings. Nothing dry about us...lol. Our bar is stocked better than a lot of restaurants.

                                                                                                    1. My family for dinner out or special ocassions usually. For his family never. At our house we serve at holidays, parties and dinner parties. Just the two of us maybe we drink at home 10% of the time and out maybe 5%. For a nice dinner out we will do one cocktail and a bottle of wine which we may cork and take home if we can't finish it.

                                                                                                      1. We usually have beer and wine available, but rarely drink - maybe 1 drink at most if we're feeling particularly celebratory or cranky. No specific reason other than the calories, I guess... though we do cook with both beer and wine. (Guinness beef stew, anyone?)

                                                                                                        1. My family, historically all wine drinkers, now have no booze at family get-togethers due to one family member having had to stop drinking due to an addiction issue. I find it a bit tough, but worth it to help our dear brother in law. We don't talk about it and never have, we just stopped bringing out the liquor when we were told of the issue. Well, we do drink before he arrives, but then hurry up and hide it all.

                                                                                                          1. For the past week alcohol has been the vast majority of my diet, supplemented with Krispy Kreme doughnuts for nutritional value.

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                                                                                                            1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                                                              I'm not sure if sitting alone in your closet watching amateur porn on your laptop actually counts as a "get together". I believe the technical term for it is "me time".

                                                                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                                Don't flatter me, I'm watching the porn on my I-phone. I don't mind though, helps me feel a little larger about myself.

                                                                                                            2. I dont drink and I dont provide alcohol. However at most events i host, some people usually bring some alcohol and we will serve that

                                                                                                              1. I have wine with almost every meal (if I can help it lol). Yes including breakfast. But with my breakfast I have a tiny little breakfast sized wine glass. Wine and eggs go so well together. I like wine with food because you can decide to actually have just a little whereas beer you are pretty much committed to the whole bottle. But unless someone I'm serving has some kind of problem with alcohol being around I always try to get my guests a little tipsy. I feel like life is meant to enjoy so I'm going to try my best to have a little fun while I get to. Another factor is that I live on a small vineyard.

                                                                                                                1. Jesus Christ's first miracle was turning water to wine at the wedding feast at Cana. I think that sets a fine example.

                                                                                                                  I always ask myself "what would Jesus do?" And the answer is - have a glass of wine.

                                                                                                                  1. We have alcohol with about two weeknight dinners and lunch and/or dinner on weekends. Hubby likes the hard stuff, beer and wine. I prefer beer or wine.
                                                                                                                    The odd time, I'll have a martini or something but got a good scare about 4 years ago when I mixed Red Bull and vodka so I tend to stay away from the hard stuff now. I haven't touch a Red Bull since and will never touch another energy drink as long as I live.