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Is alcohol almost always a part of your meals/get togethers?

There have been some threads recently about drinking around non-drinkers, family that made me think most CH have alcohol present (doesn't mean they drink) at get togethers and meals. Would it be unusual not to have any alcohol? What percent of your home get togethers do not have alcohol? These threads made me think because it's just as common for us not to have alcohol as to have it. I wouldn't think twice about going to someone's house and not be served wine.

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    1. re: jpc8015

      same here. 100% at my house. And the only events I can think of that I've been to at other people's houses in recent years that didn't include alcohol were a couple of children's birthday parties.

      1. re: cookie monster

        Actually, at the last kids' birthday party I went to (a second one) the host brewed a special beer for the occasion.

        I literally can't think of a party, barbeque or dinner where there wasn't alcohol. Some people don't drink and some drink less/more than others, but yes, in my usual social circles, we like our cocktails (or beer or wine or what have you).

        1. re: LeoLioness

          Sounds like my kind of kids' birthday party! To clarify, I would say that alcohol was indeed served at most of kids' birthday parties I've been to as well, but there have been a few that were dry, and I wasn't bothered / surprised by the host parents' choice.

          1. re: LeoLioness

            I went to some kids' birthday parties when my children were younger where I wish they'd served alcohol!

          2. re: cookie monster

            Same here. 100%, primarily wine, unless it's summertime and we're outdoors. Then there's likely to be beer and mixed drinks as well. I should probably mention, we're all adults. No kidlets running around.

          3. re: jpc8015

            We always have wine or beer with dinner, but rarely serve hard liquor unless a guest asks for it.

            I don't think it's weird not to have alcohol, though. I know plenty of people who don't drink for religious or health reasons, so this seems normal, too.

          4. All get togethers include alcohol. 100%. Somewhere well north of 90% of my meals, whether alone or with others, include alcohol.

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            1. We don't drink alcohol at every meal when it's just the two of us, but if we're having people over for a meal or gathering, there is always alcohol. I would be surprised if I were invited to an evening gathering (other than maybe a child's birthday party) that didn't include alcohol.

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              1. re: biondanonima

                My wife and I also do not drink when we're alone together or we we go out as a couple. When we invite guests over then we try to accommodate their needs and have plenty of alcohol on hand.

              2. We almost always serve wine with any celebratory or social dinner in our home, and typically offer wine & beer in less formal social gatherings in our home. Although we keep some hard liquor in the house, we rarely drink it ourselves; we may offer it to guests but it seems like most of our social circle mainly consume wine & beer.

                1. This is eye-opening. We do normally serve wine when we have people over for dinner. If someone didn't serve wine, I wouldn't notice. I had a brunch, make your own chocolate truffles, w/ moms in the neighborhood and didn't serve alcohol. I was surprised at 11am, that people were asking for alcohol because it never occurred to me that they'd drink before getting their kids off the bus. Moms getting hammered in the middle of the day seemed cliche but I thought it was just a stereotype. Maybe it's me and not them...

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                  1. re: chowser

                    When some people say "brunch" they mean mimosas and bloody marys mid-day.
                    And, just because its a cliche it doesn't mean it isn't true ;)