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Are you boring?

This isn't the insult it sounds like. Recently I was having lunch with a cousin and a cousin in-law, and my cousin (food blogger/cookbook writer) and I started an intense discussion of how to get a sauce to emulsify - add slurry? gelatin? egg yolks? We went on and on until we noticed our in-law's eyes glazed over.

Do you talk about food too much and bore the pants off your friends and loved ones? I know I do! I've been reading books about cheese for the last month, and I think if I bring it up one more time my husband will file for divorce. I guess it's the same as being stuck with fantasy-football enthusiasts, or two people who just Netflixed Lost and can't stop theorizing.

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  1. Conversation is an art, they say, and the art of it includes paying attention to everyone involved, to make sure that they all *are* involved and interested in whatever you're talking about. Sounds like you and your cousin didn't do that, but ignored your cousin-in-law as if he (?) wasn't even there. That's not just boring, it's discourteous and unfriendly.

    Even worse is having a conversation with somebody who isn't even there, by cell phone. But you didn't ask about that.

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    1. re: John Francis

      It's not as bad as it sounds - once we realized she was uninterested we stopped immediately. We are just both so interested in food and assumed she was too. I've been on the receiving end more than once so definitely try not to do that.

      1. I try not to bring up food (and a couple of other topics). I will, of course, contribute if someone else starts that conversation.

        1. Oh, I know I do it to DH..."wanna hear what they said on Chowhound?". "On Chowhound, someone asked about bla bla bla.."
          Though if there's a good clever repartee going, he will let me read the whole thread to him aloud. ( This is especially fun on multi-day road trips). Lucky for me, he is a great audience and a quick wit.

          1. When doing any type of "techno talk" I always do my best to draw in everyone in the audience. It usually works.
            Then again my lovely wife is a computer geek. Two of them get together and: "DBA, Cobal, *$#(^)*&)(*&(*&^*&$&$!!"
            I look around and grab the first person who's eyes are glazing over and start talking about food.

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            1. re: Motosport

              Here, too. Everyone else talks about their hobbies and passions so I consider it OK.

              1. re: Motosport

                Hubs is a computer geek, too, and when he gets wound up, I start with my psych-speak ("trichotillomania's prevalance and the culture-bound syndromes"...ad infinitim)--usually helps to break his chain of computerese.

                I have, though, hit his limits of tolerance with my recent specs recitals of the KA I'm getting next week. However, he's also shopping for computers, so we're cancelling each other out.

                1. While staying at one of my ex-gf's house a few years ago, her dad took me to Burger King for dinner. He didn't understand why she and I had a profound interest in eating, and how people could spend some amount of money on it when something as simple as Burger King was sufficient, in other words, food.

                  That was the third time in my life I'd visited a Burger King, and I couldn't complain because he bought me a Cinnabon Cheesecake. Taking a photo of it was even more confounding to him, but I won't deny that he was pragmatic.

                  1. There are many times that I could, but if I'm not drunk I just try to back off and not talk about the stuff i've been studying since the early 1980s, or even earlier. I've even had a couple of informal mentors along the way. Nowdays it seems like everybody thinks they're a food expert, and sometimes (rarely) I find it funny, and sometimes (usually) it annoys the crap out of me.
                    I have a lunch partner (there's a big group of us) that tends to dominat the conversation with his expertise on food, politics, news, and the quality of the food at the cafeteria where we eat five days a week. Meanwhile, he has not brought his lunch except for one week, which looked like white bread with a slice of ham and some yellow cheese. Look- he's not a foodie, I know, or god forbid a chowhound, but since i'm a captive audience I get tired of his opinions. Sorry to vent, but sometimes nonchows posing as chowhounds get to be too much of a muchness. I was bombarded today at lunch, in case you hadn't guessed.

                    1. Yeah, I can be so boring that I even put myself to sleep.

                      1. There are people who are boring no matter what they are talking about.

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                        1. Sure. I've experienced the glaze over from other people and I've been glazed over when listening to other people...but I'd rather make glaze :)

                          You bring up a good point, know your audience isn't just a cliche. But I think most people have subjects they are uber enthu'sd about and subjects that bore them to tears.

                          1. That happens too often, when the food-subject turns to wines. Eyes glaze over, and excuses are quickly made, that allow the folk to move elsewhere.

                            Hunt

                            1. Food is pretty much all I think about. I try not to talk about it with people who don't care, but even my "food buddy" seems to be getting tired of it. So yeah, I think maybe I am. :(

                              1. A friend of mine assumed I was a top notch cook because I know what mirepoix is. This person is French speaking BTW.

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                                1. re: mtlcowgirl

                                  It's likely that "mirepoix" is quite and uncommon word in normal conversational French.

                                  1. re: Tripeler

                                    A mirepoix on both of your houses, then!

                                    1. re: Uncle Yabai

                                      With a name like Yabai, are you related to Carlos Danger?

                                      1. re: Tripeler

                                        Ah, Carlos, he's sort of fallen off the radar lately, and probably a good thing.

                                        Hunt

                                        1. re: Bill Hunt

                                          Actually, I think he's fallen off the Weiner-mobile. Not to mention the race for Mayor of NYC. Good riddance.

                                        2. re: Tripeler

                                          No, don't know no Carlos Danger. I am the crochety old uncle from your nightmares. Now, get off my lawn!

                                          1. re: Uncle Yabai

                                            You do need to catch up on Carlos Danger, just to stay current.

                                            Hunt

                                            1. re: Uncle Yabai

                                              やっぱり「ヤバイ」だね。

                                    2. My mother used to frequently say "the only time you smile is when you talk about food."

                                      But other than Mom, who is no longer with us, I bore the pants off a lot of people with food chatter... but then if work was interesting these days I wouldn't be on CH right now :-)

                                      1. Over the years, through observation and participation, I've come to learn a thing or more. As pertinent to the instant query, I simply note:

                                        A man should know how to hold a conversation for ten minutes on most any subject; know how to hold his liquor all night; and know how to hold his tongue for as long as possible. And, remember, all three often are essential at the same time.

                                        I offer no opinion as to how the preceding applies to those missing without a Y chromosome.

                                        1. My intense talks about food and food related subjects often turn peoples eyes a blurry glaze. I seem to have surrounded myself with non-food oriented people and the subject for them is nothing more than a quick question of where is the nearest drive-thru.
                                          I have been called a food snob as well by those who listen to me ramble on and on about food all day and all night for weeks, months and years on end, Still do. Still will. Never ending food oriented discussions no matter who or where or what. The conversation will be about food or food Will come up in conversation and many or most in close proximity of my company will have the glazed eyes, argue with me about how "it doesn't matter" and some will walk away from the discussion. Not everyone, I find, is a Chowhound.

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                                          1. re: Gastronomos

                                            I'm pretty good about not overwhelming people with food talk. Most people either have food "issues" or they don't care.

                                            I am most definitely a food snob and don't care who knows it. My actions speak louder than words and that's fine by me. Everyone knows where I stand and I'm pretty extreme about organic, real foods. When friends come to our house to eat, we inevitably start talking about food and that's when I get my chance to verbalize. Otherwise, I just do my own thing and let everyone else catch up, which they are doing.

                                            1. re: sandiasingh

                                              "Most people either have food "issues" or they don't care."

                                              yep