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honeybee926 Oct 19, 2013 05:06 AM

What are your go to items to have in the pantry or fridge, to prepare a simple snack or drink for your guy at the end of a long day?

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    vttp926 Oct 19, 2013 05:14 AM

    Since each man is so different, it just depends on his taste.

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      foodieX2 Oct 19, 2013 05:21 AM

      Same things I would want after a long day! A well stocked bar.

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        c oliver Oct 19, 2013 08:50 AM

        Yeah, why would it vary? The other evening Bob had a small wedge of cheese and I had Cheetos.

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        Harters Oct 19, 2013 05:27 AM

        Being a straight guy, I don't have a guy in my life.

        I do have a guyess, though. It was she who worked the long days (before we retired) - the relaxation, then and now, was to cook together, rather than one or other of us preparing food for the other.

        As for drinks, she always makes her own - which suits me fine as I've been on the wagon since 1999. And, before that, she always reckoned that no-one but herself could correctly make a gin & tonic. One of us could always open a bag of cashew nuts, by way of a snack.

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          linguafood Oct 19, 2013 09:22 AM

          I like how you roll, Mr. H. Both of youz.

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          mwhitmore Oct 19, 2013 06:36 AM

          As a guy, I suggest Bazzini pistachios.

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            treb Oct 19, 2013 07:12 AM

            Beer, Bacon, Chips and more Beer! Maybe throw in a BLT for the crunch (lettuce) factor!

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              itsmejessica Oct 19, 2013 07:21 AM

              Popcorn always have it in the house. He loves it. And he loves southern sweet tea made in the Kurieg.

              1. mtlcowgirl Oct 19, 2013 07:30 AM

                When my DH was alive, a nicely aged cheddar and a glass of Merlot.

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                  Beach Chick Oct 19, 2013 07:45 AM

                  Scotch, olives, cheese, crackers..
                  Lounge wear and his slippers.
                  Cheetos and pistachios are my back up.

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                    Veggo Oct 19, 2013 07:49 AM

                    No Saran wrap?

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                      Beach Chick Oct 19, 2013 07:54 AM


                  2. linguafood Oct 19, 2013 09:24 AM

                    My man loves his ice cream, so I usually make sure we have some in the house (some = flavor I don't like).

                    But honestly, he's quite capable of shopping for his own '-)

                    He can even get it out of the freezer without my help and find a spoon!!!

                    Crazy, I know.

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                    1. re: linguafood
                      fldhkybnva Oct 20, 2013 07:56 PM

                      I'm with you linguafood, SO needs beer and ice cream, but like you he finds a way to usually stock and acquire it himself.

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                      gfr1111 Oct 19, 2013 09:40 AM

                      A cold pate of foie gras or duck liver pate, with brandy and lots of pepper in it. Then buttered, toasted bread rounds, toasted, buttered baguette slices, water crackers, or Ritz crackers to slather it on. A dry cabernet sauvignon or a dry sparkling wine.

                      An assortment of calamata, green, and other olives (who names I don't know), very cold feta cheese thinly sliced, blue cheese, almonds, pistachios, Italian hard salami, and fresh, cold apple slices.

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                        c oliver Oct 19, 2013 09:42 AM

                        In our house, that would be called dinner!!!

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                          Veggo Oct 19, 2013 09:43 AM

                          What, pate without cornishons? Just kidding, sounds pretty good!

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                            c oliver Oct 19, 2013 10:34 AM

                            Just reread. I see you make a distinction between foie gras and duck liver pate'. I wasn't aware of any difference here in the US. I didn't know that the few producers here are using anything BUT duck. I'm missing something certainly.

                            Oh, wait, are you talking about fatty vs. regular duck livers? That's probably it. When I have foie gras I just eat it :)

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                              Harters Oct 19, 2013 11:06 AM

                              There would certainly be a difference between foie gras and duck live pate here in the UK.

                              The former is made from liver where the birds have been force fed to enlarge the liver. It is, from its name, unsurprisingly, mainly a French product. The latter is simply a duck liver pate, using normal livers.

                              I'm happy to eat the latter.

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                                pikawicca Oct 20, 2013 04:43 PM

                                I think that most, if not all, of the foie I've had in France has been goose. You can certainly buy fattened Hudson Valley goose liver online.

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                                  sunshine842 Oct 20, 2013 06:32 PM

                                  Goose is easy to find in France, but duck is even easier to find.

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                                    c oliver Oct 20, 2013 06:38 PM

                                    p, I believe that Hudson Valley's is duck. Not aware of any commercially available goose in the US.

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                                      JMF Oct 21, 2013 09:51 AM

                                      Yes, there is no Goose foie gras made in the US. Hudson River is duck.

                              2. Ttrockwood Oct 19, 2013 01:12 PM

                                If it's late we will share a snacky assortment of olives, his current favorite goats milk cheddar with mary's gone crackers, smoked almonds, raw veggies and whatever hummus (hummuses?) are open and call it dinner.
                                But most nights we cook together- our food tastes are very similar.

                                He loves IPA style beers, and since my place is near an awesome grocery store i will pick him up a few new ones to have on hand (i'm a wine girl myself)

                                1. Meowzerz Oct 19, 2013 04:12 PM

                                  Beer, currently just Oktoberfest. For snacks, he (and I) love getting a hodge podge of olives and other goodies from the olive bar, maybe some sliced up baguette rounds, and some dip (buffalo wing dip, pimento cheese dip, artichoke dip). We try to only have dip and bread once in a blue moon, because we eat way too much of it when it's on the table.

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                                    ricepad Oct 19, 2013 04:56 PM

                                    I would love it if we had a regular stash of snack steaks (say, about 6 oz) in the fridge, just ready to go.

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                                      Miri1 Oct 19, 2013 07:44 PM

                                      My last guy was a totalslob whennit came to food. He actually made me s ick to watch him eat sometimes. He'd dump cereal into my jar of peanut butter, pour in some chocolate syrup and go at in, never thinking he was being rude for ruining my whole jar o f pb. Ate anything that wasn't nailed down and combined things that coild have started a nuclear meltdown.

                                      My currrent and most amazing guy is so different. He's into staying healthy and fit and it shows. He loves to eat though, so I make sure to have lots of fruit, vegetables, cheese and eggs around. He rarely eats dessert or chips and never drinks alcohol. Both of us are big on seltzer and both are vegetarian so his snacks usually work out for me, except for my chocolate and occasional cookie :)

                                      The exception to his no fatty food? Pizza. He can pack away an entire large pie on his own. All at one sitting.

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                                        carlee134 Oct 21, 2013 04:07 PM

                                        that peanut butter snack sounds pretty amazing!

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                                      Papuli Oct 19, 2013 10:41 PM

                                      This is the weirdest question I've seen on Chowhound yet.

                                      The guy I'm dating has a weakness for orange Milanos. He opens the bag himself.

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                                      1. re: Papuli
                                        Tripeler Oct 20, 2013 05:35 AM

                                        And presumably he drinks them himself.

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                                          sunshine842 Oct 20, 2013 04:33 PM

                                          or licks the crumbs out of the bag -- they're cookies.

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                                            pikawicca Oct 20, 2013 04:45 PM

                                            But doesn't an "Orange Milano" sound like a lovely cocktail?

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                                              sunshine842 Oct 20, 2013 06:34 PM

                                              why yes, yes it does -- but then orange and dark chocolate sound pretty lovely no matter what it's in!

                                              I'm thinking something with Cointreau, Godiva chocolate liqueur, and a dollop of cream....

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                                                JMF Oct 21, 2013 10:04 AM

                                                I'm thinking that because the cookie isn't actually a super sweet cookie, that the cocktail should go the other way, with no cream for some thing dry that would go well with dessert.

                                                Ferrand Dry Curacao and a good quality white creme de cacao, with maybe just a dash of Biscotti liqueur and a dash of bitters. This with a good portion of vodka to make sure the sweetness level isn't too high. Stirred long over ice and strained into a chilled cocktail glass. If I had some biscotti liqueur I would come up with a recipe.

                                                Off the top of my head...

                                                Orange Milano Cocktail
                                                1 oz. premium vodka
                                                1/2 oz. Ferrand dry Curacao
                                                1/2 oz. White Creme de Cacaao
                                                1/4 oz. Faretti Biscotti Famosi liqueur
                                                1 dash Angostura bitters

                                                Stirred on ice and strained into a chilled cocktail glass.

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                                                  JMF Oct 21, 2013 10:10 AM

                                                  I posted this recipe to the Spirits board.

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                                        kitchengardengal Oct 20, 2013 08:35 AM

                                        Since I often work later than the man in my life, I expect dinner ready to go to the table when I get home.
                                        Not that it's always there of course. Some days he totally forgets that dinner must be made. I'm one of those who plans dinner in the morning, and can't understand 'forgetting' it.
                                        As far as snacks, we always have good cheeses in the fridge, some crackers, home-canned pickled things, and cold bottles of fizzy water. That's all we need.

                                        1. pikawicca Oct 20, 2013 04:50 PM

                                          I think the interesting question is: Do men and women have different snack preferences? I have no idea. In my own experience, DH and I both preferred cheese.

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                                            Veggo Oct 20, 2013 04:53 PM

                                            I would think cheese is the most common denominator. Home made javelina jerky would not make the top 100.

                                          2. MGZ Oct 20, 2013 11:05 AM

                                            Well, Darlin', I've been "your guy" on, shall we say, more than a few occasions. Things that would keep me happy were (a) either a bottle of gin or a bottle of tequila (or two of each), (b) ice cubes, (c) freshly ground beef for a burger, (d) a bag of Cheetos, and (e) my pretty lady, smiling broadly at me when I walk across the threshhold, turning to open the refrigerator, and simply stating, "This is all I've got . . . ."

                                            1. melpy Oct 20, 2013 12:00 PM

                                              Mine snacks after dinner, sometimes known as second dinner If I have made especially meager portions. I only buy when he asks but typically he wants ice cream, large hard or soft pretzels. He enjoys these together. Other favorites are Chewy Chips Ahoy (gag) and iced ginger snaps or oatmeal cookies. The oatmeal cookies are typically for when he thinks he is going to faint.

                                              1. westsidegal Oct 20, 2013 12:59 PM

                                                my last SO always liked to split a good Sancerre at the end of the day.

                                                1. firecooked Oct 20, 2013 01:11 PM

                                                  Interesting that no one has yet posted a new thread of what to have around for the woman in your life! In any case, my DH is working out of town most weeks, and I'm doing the grocery shopping...

                                                  Here is the list of "should always have"
                                                  Bread, peanut butter, apples, bananas, yogurt, granola (homemade), crackers, cheddar cheese, and tortilla chips.

                                                  And there is always wine in the house.

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                                                    Veggo Oct 20, 2013 01:33 PM

                                                    Two ladies in my neighborhood ride their bicycles past my house, one has a bell on her handlebar. When they stop in front of my house and ring the bell, it means they want to come in for a cold glass of sangria so I keep that around. Otherwise, the usual assortments of cheeses, crackers, and fresh fruit unless I'm planning for company.

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                                                      James Cristinian Oct 20, 2013 01:54 PM

                                                      I'll be there in ten minutes.

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                                                        carlee134 Oct 21, 2013 04:09 PM

                                                        that's so cute!

                                                    2. SaraAshley Oct 20, 2013 01:27 PM

                                                      Chicken wings and beer. These 2 have been almost universal with every guy I've ever dated. Other than that, I think it just depends on the guy. My (currently non-existent guy) may like different things than yours. Personally speaking, your question doesn't offend me. I enjoy doing things for the guy in my life, and have no problem stocking the fridge with things he enjoys. I just think it's hard question to answer since individual tastes usually vary, as you can see from the various responses you have already received.

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                                                        MGZ Oct 21, 2013 03:54 AM

                                                        Sara, chicken wings and beer are a fine starting place - in concept. However, if your guy (non-existent or not), is like this old wolf, go with your gut.

                                                        Dance that delicate dance to discern what he likes without showing just how much more you know. Kitchen, Bedroom, Hot Tub, it's all the same (how does one offer a wink on a keyboard?), see?

                                                        Personally, I find your response ideal. If things were different, I'd call you tomorrow. Hell, I kinda suggested essentially the same concept when I first put fingers on the keyboard to chime in on this thread.

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                                                          SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 07:07 AM

                                                          Have you ever heard of the book "Why Men Love Bitches" ? this book is all about women asserting their place with a man, and not offering up too much until a guy has earned it. Their is a section about food. According to this book, women are not to cook anything elaborate for a man in the beginning. She suggests microwave popcorn, if anything. I've never been able to follow this line of thinking. I'm way too giving. When I truly like a guy, (which doesn't happen often, I'm hard to impress) I want to do everything for him and I want to take care of him. I know this may sound like an outdated 1950's way of thinking for a lot of women on this board, but it's what I truly enjoy doing and it's instinct for me.

                                                          It's been hard for me in the past to strike an even balance, though. You do need to know when to pull back a little as to not get taken advantage of. The funny thing is, I am a take no shit type of girl in every other aspect of my life. I just have a strong weakness for the men I love. I always go for the charmers, too. The guy I currently like had a beer bought for him by a MALE bartender the other night for no damn reason. I see this bartender all the time. He has never once bought me a drink, and I'd like to think I'm a little cuter than the guy I was out with,

                                                          To bring this back to the main topic, though, tacos!! Men I know also love tacos!

                                                          1. re: SaraAshley
                                                            jrvedivici Oct 21, 2013 07:22 AM

                                                            HA! What chapter of that book is the only microwaving popcorn? I think my wife must have started that book 20 years ago and put it down after that chapter!!

                                                            No reason for you to feel as if you need to explain or justify your views. If that is how you like to treat the object of your affections, than more power to you! You can burn your bra for woman's rights any time you like, just don't burn the pot roast for dinner!!

                                                            Regarding your current and the drink from the bartender, hey it's an equal opportunity world out there today, you never know where your competition might be coming from. Outside of business a man has never bought me a drink for no reason, and I'm not going to start holding my breath waiting.

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                                                              SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 07:48 AM

                                                              It's a humorous read for sure, and there is some truth to what she writes. One of my favorite things she talks about is if a woman wants to get a man do a chore for her (say, hang a picture) and he procrastinates in getting it done, that instead of bitching at him for not doing it, simply give this chore to another man you know. "If a man isn't doing his chores, give his chores to another man." She believes this will result in him wanting his chores back. She's a big preacher that men don't respond with words, they respond with "no contact."

                                                              I've never made a pot roast, actually, but I promise never to burn the microwave popcorn! :)

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                                                                c oliver Oct 21, 2013 07:59 AM

                                                                That sounds like the most gender stereotyping book of the last several decades :( If he doesn't hang the picture, hang it yourself, for god's sake. It's just a hammer.

                                                            2. re: SaraAshley
                                                              c oliver Oct 21, 2013 07:45 AM

                                                              The way you feel about any current man in your life is how I feel about my family and friends. Love to spoil them rotten with food! Totally equal opportunity :)

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                                                                sunshine842 Oct 21, 2013 03:48 PM

                                                                even in college, my friends joked that I was an Italian mamma reincarnated (even though there's not a drop of Italian blood to be found) -- my mantra is "eat....eat" -- and usually homemade something-or-other to tempt someone with.

                                                                I can't help it -- I love to feed people and hopefully feed their soul a little.

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                                                                  c oliver Oct 21, 2013 04:14 PM

                                                                  A great way to show love is to feed people. Oh, yeah, and the dogs :)

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                                                                    sunshine842 Oct 21, 2013 05:10 PM

                                                                    the way I cook, nobody has to feed the dogs -- they're well fed just chasing down the stuff I drop and spill....

                                                                    Good cook + klutz = fat dog.

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                                                                      c oliver Oct 21, 2013 05:17 PM

                                                                      In our home it's called "Hoovering."

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                                                                        sunshine842 Oct 21, 2013 06:53 PM

                                                                        we've discussed how we should have named the dog Hoover.

                                                              2. re: SaraAshley
                                                                MGZ Oct 21, 2013 12:38 PM

                                                                Miss Ashley, to be fair, do you honestly think I'd have ever heard of a book like that?

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                                                                  c oliver Oct 21, 2013 12:43 PM


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                                                                    SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 12:47 PM

                                                                    Well.....I realize that you aren't exactly the target audience, and I'm sure you can answer the question the title of the book poses just fine on your own, but it was a NY Times best seller. I don't know, that's the best I've got.

                                                                  2. re: SaraAshley
                                                                    westsidegal Oct 21, 2013 06:48 PM

                                                                    <<It's been hard for me in the past to strike an even balance, though. You do need to know when to pull back a little as to not get taken advantage of. >>

                                                                    also, imho, it never is any good to do so much care taking that you become seen as maternal. the most successful relationships i've had were ones that did NOT have maternal elements in them. (i.e. were ones that did not have me acting like a star-struck housekeeper/cook/coddling mother).

                                                                    it's one thing to have a few bottles of his favorite sancerre in the fridge, BUT

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                                                                      SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 06:54 PM

                                                                      Yeah, I hear ya. It's just a natural instinct for me to have that maternal, care-taking instinct with the guys I love. I grew up with a stay at home Mom and the gender roles in the family household have always been old fashioned, so maybe thats where it comes from. My Mom did the majority of the cooking and cleaning and my Dad worked and mowed the lawn.

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                                                                        MGZ Oct 22, 2013 03:53 AM

                                                                        Each day, Sara, I come to love you more and more. Our friend, jrvedvici, still keeps his Oprah Book Club card current and was his usual, gentle, giant self in explaining the difference between Mars and Venus and how far it is between doormats and dreamgirls.

                                                                        I will simply note that I have shared a lot of love and known quite a few bitches. My ultimate takeaway, however, was simply the understanding that it takes a red headed woman to get a dirty job done:


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                                                                          SaraAshley Oct 22, 2013 07:02 AM

                                                                          Aww, shucks! I have no doubt if you were my age (not sure how old you are, I just know you're older) and single, you'd probably get me in a lot of trouble. Actually, the way things have been going, I should probably just change the word "trouble" to "batshit crazy." It sounds weird, but it's actually a compliment.

                                                                          I'm at work right now and I don't trust you enough that the video you are linking me to is work appropriate. I shall check it out later!

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                                                                            MGZ Oct 22, 2013 07:52 AM

                                                                            I've lived a lotta lives. I'm slightly older than the wind and much younger than the incoming tide. All, however, regardless of my sometimes cryptic way of expressing myself, always boils down to the fact that there really are no rules - no right - just folks looking for their preferred warm form under the covers every night.

                                                                            As to the video, it's just a guy I know telling his version of a response to the OP.

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                                                                              jrvedivici Oct 22, 2013 07:58 AM

                                                                              {{hahahahahahahahaha, I just know you're older, hahahahaha}}

                                                                              First time I actually felt a little dirty reading a post on Chow. Yes Sara when MGZ was younger, and had his original hip, he was quite the rabble rouser! Let's put it this way, when MGZ was a kid the Dead Sea had just gotten a little sick.

                                                                              Don't worry about the video I pre-viewed it for you. No harm there.

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                                                                                SaraAshley Oct 22, 2013 08:13 AM

                                                                                Bahaha, oh lawd! You two are something else.

                                                                                Hey, I just realized we all live on the East coast.....party?

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                                                                                  jrvedivici Oct 22, 2013 08:29 AM

                                                                                  We are getting off topic a bit, and the mods somewhat shy against discussion like this, there is an email address on my profile, minus the http:\\.

                                                                                  To answer your question yes we (MGZ and I) are on the East Coast. (for some reason I thought you were west coast). There are often Chow meet and greets, there were a few here in Jersey over the summer.

                                                                                  Just make the plans early cause I got to get MGZ back to the home by 4pm in time for supper.

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                                                                                    SaraAshley Oct 22, 2013 10:11 AM

                                                                                    Well, MGZ might just have to have his curfew extended for this one. Happy hour doesn't even start until 4.

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                                                                    SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 12:53 PM

                                                                    How about what guys don't like? Apparently chili. I just remembered that I invited a guy over for an impromptu dinner last night. He asked what I was making and when I said chili, I was informed that this was not a "meaty" enough dish. Yeah, go figure.

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                                                                      tcamp Oct 21, 2013 01:00 PM


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                                                                        Veggo Oct 21, 2013 01:06 PM

                                                                        Chili wasn't "meaty enough for your "guy"? Did he want to gnaw on a fresh killed wildebeest?

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                                                                          SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 01:25 PM

                                                                          Haha! Damn.....that should of been my response. I asked him this after he had just woken up hung over at 5pm, and he asked me if I would just bring some water and wings to his house instead. Don't worry, I didn't! In all honesty, I'm sensing there are other issues between us than just the food, and that's part of the reason he didn't come over. He didn't come over after dinner either, so that should tell you something.

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                                                                            Veggo Oct 21, 2013 01:29 PM

                                                                            Better luck next time!

                                                                        2. re: SaraAshley
                                                                          Perilagu Khan Oct 21, 2013 01:38 PM

                                                                          Did you serve him vegetarian "chili" perchance?

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                                                                            SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 01:47 PM

                                                                            I've never made chili for him before and I gave him no indication that it would be vegetarian chili. In the past, I've let him raid my fridge of whatever I have, and he's never turned anything down. Oh wellllllll........what Veggo said, better luck next time!

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                                                                              Perilagu Khan Oct 21, 2013 03:03 PM

                                                                              Ah. Perhaps he was being facetious. I mean, REAL chili is meaty enough for even the lustiest carnivore.

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                                                                                SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 03:42 PM

                                                                                I'm not even sure he knows what the word facetious means, so I doubt it. Ha, I kid, I hope he does, anyways.

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                                                                            Gastronomos Oct 21, 2013 02:44 PM

                                                                            Too many beans?
                                                                            Perhaps next time offer him a slice of veal.

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                                                                              SaraAshley Oct 21, 2013 03:43 PM

                                                                              Yeah, chili....definitely not the sexiest dish.

                                                                        3. Gastronomos Oct 20, 2013 04:38 PM

                                                                          As a guy I like a woman who knows how to make meat and 3, daily.

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                                                                            Gastronomos Oct 25, 2013 04:14 AM

                                                                            Ok, I'll make meat and 2

                                                                          2. tcamp Oct 20, 2013 05:03 PM

                                                                            My guy is home long before me as I'm the main breadwinner and he works PT. So no snacks for him, although he is pretty good at scrounging up his own. Sadly, I am rarely greeted at the door with a dry martini and an offer of a foot massage.

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                                                                              c oliver Oct 20, 2013 05:09 PM

                                                                              Forward him this thread :)

                                                                            2. juliejulez Oct 20, 2013 06:27 PM

                                                                              Beer. Seriously that's all he really cares about. I do 99.5% of the cooking in the house and he eats everything I make, and likes 95% of it. So my only "go-to" for him is beer. Otherwise I just buy what I like. He's not much of a snacker though.

                                                                              In terms of quick meals, I do always have the fixings for grilled cheese and tomato soup on hand. He always likes that (and so do I).

                                                                              And BTW, there's nothing wrong with a woman who enjoys preparing snacks, drinks, and meals for her partner. I personally find cooking dinner after a long day relaxing, and he appreciates that I do it. I also do most of the cleaning and the laundry too *gasp*.

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                                                                                linguafood Oct 20, 2013 06:30 PM

                                                                                There is absolutely nothing wrong with one partner who enjoys preparing snacks, drinks, and meals for his or her partner.

                                                                                I do about 95% of the cooking because I like it. Plus, I like doing nice things for my man. Just like he is the master of the grilled cheese when I'm hungover in bed after a late night gig and can't get up (pssst, he serves me my coffee in bed *every* morning! How nice is that, huh?).

                                                                                I think what some posters took offense with was the implication that it is solely the woman's job to do stuff for 'her guy'.

                                                                                We do things for our loved ones because... well, because we love them. And that goes *both* ways, and has nothing to do with sex or gender.

                                                                                1. re: linguafood
                                                                                  juliejulez Oct 20, 2013 08:53 PM

                                                                                  Yeah I didn't read the OP that way at all... maybe that's why I wasn't understanding all the uproar :)

                                                                              2. sunshine842 Oct 20, 2013 06:40 PM

                                                                                thinking back over the men in my life, from Dad and granddads, through boyfriends, husbands, fathers-in-law, brothers-in-law, nephews, and sons for whom I have cooked over the years....

                                                                                ..make them the things that they like.

                                                                                There is simply no way to get any more detailed than that, as all men are different, and there is no broad, general answer that will ever fit every man.

                                                                                If you don't know what the man in your life likes, he's not the man in your life.

                                                                                1. KarenDW Oct 20, 2013 09:59 PM

                                                                                  chocolate... for some reason, he can never find the chocolate in the pantry. Also, gin, vermouth, cheese... basically the same things that I would have anyways. Oh, plus "budget" red wine.

                                                                                  1. The Chowhound Team Oct 21, 2013 08:03 AM

                                                                                    We see this topic has ruffled some feathers, and have removed some posts. Please, let's focus on sharing snack ideas rather than debating whether this is a sexist topic.

                                                                                    1. pinehurst Oct 21, 2013 08:35 AM

                                                                                      Little picky things pre-dinner. A few olives, a handful of good almonds, little thin slices of sopresata or cheese. I always have those things on hand. My H likes those.

                                                                                      My mom always had a fresh pot of coffee brewing for my dad. He'd happily wait for dinner; my H, not so much.

                                                                                      Different tastes, different guys.

                                                                                      1. Marusik Oct 21, 2013 12:29 PM

                                                                                        Hot tea and, if it's not too late, cookies or bread with cheese.

                                                                                        1. cayjohan Oct 21, 2013 02:21 PM


                                                                                          This has been an interesting thread, and even more interesting when I realize that if my (husband/SO/partner/whatever-ya-want-to-call-my-primary-relationship) wants to blow off steam after a particularly grueling work day, he wants to cook for me/us. If he tells me near day's end that he's stopping by *wherever* to pick up *whatever* for dinner, it's a clarion call that he's had one of those days and just wants to chill out in the kitchen. He arrives, bounty in tow, and sets to making cocktails. He cooks, we chat. Frazzled nerves are eased.

                                                                                          I suppose what I keep in stock for an SO's hard day is a sous chef.

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                                                                                            c oliver Oct 21, 2013 02:25 PM


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                                                                                              linguafood Oct 21, 2013 03:14 PM

                                                                                              A man after my own heart. Love it.

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                                                                                                Gastronomos Oct 21, 2013 03:37 PM

                                                                                                THAT is the Ticket. I must admit, mewife is the Best sous chef . And I am very Grateful

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                                                                                                  cayjohan Oct 21, 2013 03:48 PM

                                                                                                  Aaaaand, it works both ways, with hub being my kitchen help when I have had a bad day. I suppose I should be grateful for all the "rough days," as it means we are always supporting the other's cookery. We might have crappy days, but we eat well, no?

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                                                                                                INDIANRIVERFL Oct 22, 2013 08:54 AM

                                                                                                This guy is a sucker for a pitcher of manhattan or martini accompanied by a medium bag of Doritos and a $1 tub of orange cheese glop from Big Lots.

                                                                                                At times the simple things in life are best.

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                                                                                                  tzurriz Oct 22, 2013 10:36 AM

                                                                                                  I swear, my guy is actually a middle school kid sometimes. He wants pepsi, chocolate, and spicy tortilla chips.

                                                                                                  He'll gratefully emjoy whatever is served (except salmon), but if I have those three things in the house - he is a very happy camper.

                                                                                                  But then he'll also grab all three, take them down to the basement, and disappear for the rest of the day. ;)

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                                                                                                    tzurriz Oct 22, 2013 10:37 AM

                                                                                                    The other man in my life (my dad) requires gin, vermouth, anchovy stuffed olives, and stashed away somewhere as a secret, a box of twinkies.

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                                                                                                      Monica Oct 22, 2013 10:42 AM

                                                                                                      My dad loves fried chicken and french fries...

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                                                                                                        Ttrockwood Oct 22, 2013 02:19 PM

                                                                                                        Every single day for decades on end my father comes home, has two handfuls of planters dry roasted peanuts (or mom's cashews if he thinks she won't miss them) and a glass of red wine as he wanders the back yard with the dog picking weeds and playing fetch, and more often than not starting the bbq for dinner

                                                                                                      2. Monica Oct 22, 2013 10:41 AM

                                                                                                        We both work so whatever I make or have in the fridge, he is happy. I try not to buy too much snacks though..he can literally eat the whole thing in one sitting. My man is not a big fan of alcoholic drinks but he does love apple cider beer. I drink more than he does.
                                                                                                        Of course, I don't know any man, straight, bi or gay or whatever, who doesn't like simple grilled steak.

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                                                                                                          linguafood Oct 22, 2013 12:15 PM

                                                                                                          You don't know any male vegetarians?? '-D

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                                                                                                            jrvedivici Oct 22, 2013 12:21 PM

                                                                                                            Isn't that guys who won't eat beef jerky? All other meat is fine, just no jerky, that's a male vegetarian.

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                                                                                                              INDIANRIVERFL Oct 24, 2013 06:22 AM

                                                                                                              And vegans won't even eat smoked fish.

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                                                                                                                c oliver Oct 24, 2013 09:40 AM

                                                                                                                Er, vegans don't eat any animal or any product that comes from an animal,i.e., milk, eggs, cheese, butter.

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                                                                                                                  linguafood Oct 24, 2013 09:41 AM

                                                                                                                  You might have to adjust your sarcasm meter.

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                                                                                                                    c oliver Oct 24, 2013 09:44 AM

                                                                                                                    Oh, he was being sarcastic????? Thanks. I actually know someone who didn't know the things I mentioned :(

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                                                                                                                      Meowzerz Oct 26, 2013 04:13 PM

                                                                                                                      I don't eat meat other than fish, and I routinely am referred to by others as a vegetarian. Previously, when I WAS a vegetarian, people would be like "Oh so you don't eat milk or eggs?". I'd say "No, that's a vegan." They'd say "What's vegan?"
                                                                                                                      I'd guess a pretty large percentage of the population does not know what the difference between vegan or vegetarian is.

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                                                                                                                        sunshine842 Oct 26, 2013 05:57 PM

                                                                                                                        I'm inclined to agree with you -- if I've invited someone for dinner, if they mention that they're a vegetarian, they're inevitably shocked that I ask if they're lacto-ovo -- a couple have mentioned that they rarely come across someone who is even aware of the existence of variations in vegetarianism (for lack of a better term).

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                                                                                                          flavrmeistr Oct 24, 2013 08:13 AM

                                                                                                          Speaking as "the Man":

                                                                                                          1. Beer, wine, liquor--plenty of ice.

                                                                                                          2. Supper on the table.

                                                                                                          If it goes that way a couple times a week, I'm a happy camper. Otherwise, we go out. I cook on the weekends, or as directed.

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                                                                                                            Jerseygirl111 Oct 26, 2013 04:36 PM

                                                                                                            Pepperoni and cheese, cold cuts and sliced cheese for roll ups, peanuts or really any nuts, pumpkin seeds, grapes or a banana. I don't consider something like chili a simple snack. Instead I offer salsa and chips.

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