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Rice...no thank you.

OK, don't know if it's just me but here goes. Husband has a co-worker who we've befriended along with his wife. Very nice people but...in the past when we've dined together at say Thai, or Chinese that is served family-style he always passes on the rice. Doesn't hesitate filling his plate with however many mains we've ordered. BTW the tab has been split equally up until now. Your comments appreciated.

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  1. If you leave feeling satiated, who cares? Not everybody likes rice. Is he really getting so much more that you feel cheated? Maybe he is. In that case, avoid meals that are served family style. There's no real point in bringing it up.

      1. re: pinehurst

        This was my thought. I always pass on the rice.

        1. re: lynnlato

          On the surface that makes sense, but since many favorite American Chinese food menu items are so loaded with sugar anyway, skipping the rice for insulemic reasons seems moot.

          The behavior does seem a bit gauche though, especially if the check is being split equally.

          1. re: The Professor

            Thanks Professor. Gauche is a more precise term than rude.

      2. Although my hubby will eat rice occasionally at home, and preferably Basmati, he will not eat rice out. He just doesn't like it. It is his taste preference not to eat it. Maybe your friend feels the same way. Or maybe he eats low carb.

        1. You should handle this the authentic Chinese way: put on a smiling face at the dinner table, then complain to your family about how cheap he is.

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          1. re: RealMenJulienne

            <You should handle this the authentic Chinese way: put on a smiling face at the dinner table, then complain to your family about how cheap he is.>

            No, the real high-level Chinese way is: Put on a smiling face at the dinner table, then complain to his wife about how cheap he is.

            1. re: Chemicalkinetics

              Even more passive-aggressive... this is some PHD-level Chinese behavior you're espousing

              1. re: RealMenJulienne

                Well, I'm pretty sure Chemical has a doctorate (though in science) and is of East Asian origin; I believe Chinese though she is more than welcome to correct me, or say it is none of my business.

            2. re: RealMenJulienne

              No, but you're getting close. Put on a smiling face at the table, but complain to your wife IN CHINESE about how cheap he is.

            3. As others have commented, maybe he doesn't like to load up on carbs. I have lived in Southeast Asia, am married to an Indian man and love love love all the food, but I too don't like that much rice. Some, but not much. This sounds very petty to me.

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              1. re: sandiasingh

                Oh my goodness, yes! My husband is Sri Lankan and the amount of rice he and every other Sri Lankan eats is astounding! It's at least an inch thick covering the entire plate. When we eat out with other rice eaters, I'll eat some rice just to prevent odd looks, which I get anyway because I eat such a relatively small amount compared to them, but it would be even worse if I ate no rice at all.

                Rice gives me digestive problems. (Along with a lot of other things...) If I can get away with eating no rice, I will.