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greygarious Sep 15, 2013 09:28 AM

I guess it's my credential for AARP membership, but I agree with people who bristle when younger generations say "no problem" instead of "you're welcome", "coming right up", or something else appropriate to the circumstance. On this week's Prairie Home Companion, there's a humorous sung prayer including a request that young people stop using the phrase, and on today's CBS Sunday Morning, it was essayist Bill Flanagan's (sp?) topic. "No problem" is a nice response when someone thanks you for doing something thoughtful that you were not obliged to do, like help a stranger lug a heavy item up a flight of stairs. It is not appropriate when someone thanks you for doing something that is part of your routine job duties, like a barista dispensing coffee, or a waiter filling your request for a glass ot water. Flanagan addresses people born after 1980, advising that if they want good tips, or simply to avoid pissing off people who wre born BEFORE 1980, they should only say "no problem" when the thing they did, or are about to do, can be rightly construed as presenting a difficulty.

Amen, I found myself thinking. But I've never said such a thing to anyone in a younger generation. I wonder if they would appreciate being clued in, or just think it's a ridiculous geezer thing. Does the conflation of
"no problem" with "you're welcome" bug you and if so, do you speak up?

  1. paulj Sep 15, 2013 09:36 AM

    Do you put as much thought into your response to 'How are you?'

    I haven't heard 'no problem' much, though it does not sound odd. It sounds as though it has become, in some circles, one of those automatic responses (like 'finethankyou').

    If you are this barista's boss or English teacher, by all means, correct her. If a customer, I'd say, just move on and let the next customer order.

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      rainey Sep 15, 2013 09:37 AM

      It sounds like I'm about the same age and I have no problem (sorry, there's no other way to say that) with "no prob".

      I use it myself. It means happy to be of service in a variety of circumstances and communicates that just fine. Especially accompanied by a smile.

      Language is a fluid thing. Flow with it. ; >

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        t19103 Sep 15, 2013 09:48 AM

        Its informal and therefore fine for informal restaurants.

        May I ask your age?

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          GH1618 Sep 15, 2013 09:56 AM

          It's good for geezers (I include myself) to uphold correct use of standard English, but it is ridiculous to "bristle" at the casual use of the language by others, whether by young people or others. If you clue them in to their use of "no problem" they most definitely will not appreciate it but will merely think you are a (insert pejorative term of your choice here).

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            bonoeuf Sep 15, 2013 09:56 AM

            I do not care for the use of "no problem", "not a problem", (uh, thanks? i guess i didnt realize I might be creating a problem for you...) and the cringe-worthy "my bad" in place of "I'm sorry".
            I also admit to having a snobby reaction to it, internally. Can't help thinking the speaker just doesn't know any better, missed out on good training. (I know, who do I think I am? :) ).

            Still, I try to focus on the intent and let it go. UNLESS you're one of my kids. Then I can't help at least discussing it so they know that it isn't considered polite by some.

            God help us, they don't even teach cursive in the schools anymore. How's a curmudgeon like me supposed to sleep at night? :)

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              SaraAshley Sep 15, 2013 10:11 AM

              I really don't think it has anything to do with good or bad manners, and I think the intent is usually well meant on the person using them. I really do think its a generational gap. It seems that over time language has become more casual, for good or for bad depending on who you are. I will say that I'm extremely good at subconsciously adapting my language to who I'm speaking to.

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                bonoeuf Sep 15, 2013 10:19 AM

                Completely understand. That's why I said I go with intent.
                I will say, however, that it isn't as much the informality that bugs me as it is the inference.

                To respond to my gratitude by stating that I wasn't a problem just doesn't seem gracious to me.
                To each his own, though. I'm not trying to apply my standard to others, though I do have a personal opinion about it.

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                  SaraAshley Sep 15, 2013 11:04 AM

                  When taken literally to the point that "no problem" really is implying that you weren't a problem to them, I can see your point. I sort of see "no problem" to imply the same as "my pleasure." Which when taken literally, it doesn't mean the same thing, but that's just how I've always thought of it.

            2. SaraAshley Sep 15, 2013 10:01 AM

              Interesting. I had never given it much thought, but after reading your post, now I'm trying to think of the last occasion where I've used "you're welcome" in a similar way that you're describing. I don't work in a restaurant, but I do deal with customers, as well as clients. Most of my communication with both is via email and if I receive a respone back from either just saying thank you for something I did, I don't respond with anything. If I were to receive a response back saying something like "thank you Sara and I hope you have a great weekend" (which I sometimes do receive these responses) I would respond with "no problem, thank you and I hope you enjoy your weekend, as well." I would say I'm more likely to say "you're welcome" in person, but again I can't remember the last time I did.

              As far as non-professional communication, like with friends, I also almost always say "no problem" and a lot of times since its via text, I abbreviate and say "np." The only time I ever say anything similar to "you're welcome" to them is when telling them my plans for the evening and I say "you're more than welcome to join." I also know I frequently respond to a thank you with saying thank you back. Like "thanks so much for having me over Sara" "no, thank you for coming, it was fun."

              If it matters, I'm 28.

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                juster Sep 17, 2013 06:29 AM

                A little OT, but just something to think about: Maybe it's just me, but when someone, even my SO, says, "You're more than welcome to join us/come along," I feel technically welcome, but really like an afterthought who wasn't wanted in the first place. Often this will deter me from going, because I feel like a tag-along. I feel more welcomed if someone says, "Can you join us?" or "Will you be able to make it?", etc.

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                  jrvedivici Sep 17, 2013 08:52 AM

                  Very astute observation of the use of language. As I often tell people the devil is in the details.

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                    alwayshungrygal Sep 17, 2013 12:40 PM

                    "You're more than welcome to join us." I feel the same way--why wasn't I invited in the first place? I'd rather hear "Would you like to join us?" or your suggestions.

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                      pine time Sep 18, 2013 11:20 AM

                      I agree on the "you're more than welcome" invite--it feels like a one-off. Maybe not exactly passive-aggressive, but definitely B-list invitee. I'd say 'why don't you come with us?'

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                      MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 08:30 AM

                      You're more than welcome is a passive aggresive way of saying we really don't want you to come.

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                        sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 08:56 AM

                        It is?

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                          small h Sep 18, 2013 09:04 AM

                          Can you offer an example that illustrates what you mean? Because if I make plans for Friday night with Person A, and Person B subsequently asks if I'm free that evening, I will say "I'm going out with Person A, but you're more than welcome to join us." I'm not being passive aggressive in any way, shape or form. I'm just opening up the guest list to someone I just learned wanted to be on it.

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                            MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 09:12 AM

                            Yes, it seems as if you don't really want the person there. It is the offer given when it is expected but not really wanted. It isn't always used in this manor and is sometimes sincere but mostly it comes across as phony

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                              small h Sep 18, 2013 09:16 AM

                              Well, it beats the hell out of "you're less than welcome," if you ask me. I've never used the phrase insincerely. I wouldn't ask someone to join me if I didn't want her there.

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                                MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 09:41 AM

                                Don't take it personally. I am sure you sincerely mean it but I have encountered many people who don't. Unfortunately there are those times you run into someone you are acquainted with but don't really like. Sometimes common courtesy dictates that you invite that person where you are going(drinks, etc.) and that phrase is what has been uttered. People in awkward situations do awkward things sometimes.

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                                  small h Sep 18, 2013 10:16 AM

                                  Oh, that I could definitely see. "Oh, hi! What a surprise to run into you. We were just on our way to dinner. You're...welcome to join us." But that's not really passive aggressive. It's just fake-friendly.

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                                    MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 11:22 AM

                                    Fake friendly sounds better

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                                    Billy33 Oct 12, 2013 07:43 PM

                                    I agree with you. I think it's the formality of the wording ,"You're more than welcome...". It makes the invitation feel forced whereas ,"Hey, come with us." or those other alternatives feel warmer and more sincere.

                      2. westsidegal Sep 15, 2013 10:11 AM

                        speaking as an old geezer myself,

                        i would agree with those that think this issue ACTUALLY IS a <<RIDICULOUS GEEZER THING.>>

                        1. Delucacheesemonger Sep 15, 2013 10:12 AM

                          Yikes, my Australian, and l am not Australian, 'No worries' may be yet another thing l am doing incorrectly. l thought l was OK as l never added the 'mate'.
                          Please crucify me on this one as well as No Prob if appropriate.

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                            EarlyBird Oct 1, 2013 02:41 PM

                            Well, I went off on "no worries," before I read your post. Here's the thing:

                            "You're welcome" communicates, "You, Mr./Ms. Customer, are important to me and I'm glad to be serving you." "No worries" or "no problem" communicates, "You're less than my top priority, I've got bigger fish to fry, but you didn't get in the way."

                            Put another way, would an old school, high class professional waiter answer "no worries" or "you're welcome" to a customer's "thank you"?

                            Yes, it's a little detail, but society is made up of little details. Isn't this how Rome fell, after all?

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                              cowboyardee Oct 1, 2013 04:18 PM

                              "Yes, it's a little detail, but society is made up of little details. Isn't this how Rome fell, after all?"
                              ______
                              It's more accurate to say that Rome fell from an accumulation of big details.

                              Put in perspective, these big details would be less like a change in colloquialisms and more like generations of young people screwed ruthlessly by economic and social policy while everyone older pretends it isn't happening and hates on them because they're 'entitled' and prefer to use laid back-sounding idioms in customer service situations.

                              (ok, mods, I probably have this deletion coming)

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                                EarlyBird Oct 2, 2013 08:33 AM

                                Relax, Cowboy.

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                                debbiel Oct 1, 2013 09:38 PM

                                Goodness. "No worries" does not communicate that to me at all. Not at all. Not even close. And "You're welcome" communicates a wide range of things, not always as pleasant as you have written. Often, it communicates a robotic response to thank you.

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                                  nocharge Oct 1, 2013 10:24 PM

                                  Include me among the people who are skeptical of the idea that Rome fell due to "faulty" idiom usage.

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                                    GH1618 Oct 2, 2013 02:19 PM

                                    "No worries" typically is a response to an unnecessary apology. It's no problem as far as I am concerned.

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                                      Jase Oct 2, 2013 02:46 PM

                                      Context and intent is what is important to me. When I pass on ordering any alcohol, I'll take a cheery no problem over a stilted thank you for your order anytime because the waiter is unhappy over a smaller bill and tip.

                                      Never mind that we are ordering more food and a bigger bill than the table next to us who only got two entrees and a $20 bottle of wine.

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                                    HillJ Sep 15, 2013 10:25 AM

                                    I caught the same essay on CBS Sunday Morning with Bill the first time it aired.

                                    Knowing that Bill is also a music industry mogul who helped bring MTV and the music video genre to television makes me smile; to witness his take on aging and generational differences. I can relate. And relate often to his pov.

                                    However, the term does not bother me. I use "no problem" and np correctly and incorrectly (according to Bill) and I'm a youthful geezer.

                                    No problem is just one in a long line of revamped terminology. What's OLD is NEW (again). But at the end of it all (for me anyway) life is too short to stand on ceremony. And, fwiw, I miss the musical reviews Bill provided on CBS Sunday Morning more.

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                                      latindancer Sep 15, 2013 10:27 AM

                                      I'm only concerned with what I do.

                                      I'm of the 'older' generation.
                                      I say 'thank you' and when someone thanks me I respond with 'you're welcome'.
                                      I've never said 'no problem'.
                                      'You're welcome' does the job for me and there's closure.
                                      'No problem' leaves the exchange a little open-ended for my taste.
                                      I would, however, never 'clue them in'.
                                      I don't find it a problem.

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                                        thegforceny Sep 15, 2013 11:09 AM

                                        Is this in response to you yelling 'Hey you kids, get off my lawn!" ?

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                                          bonoeuf Sep 15, 2013 11:17 AM

                                          While launching an old shoe in their general direction...

                                        2. Meowzerz Sep 15, 2013 11:11 AM

                                          Sometimes I think it is more humble to say 'No problem'. It's hard to explain but sometimes if someone thanks me (for doing my job) a "You're welcome" almost seems like "Yes you should be thanking me." Am i cuckoo? Anyways, I also says "No problem" as a reflex sometimes. This is just one of those circumstances where the general meaning behind the words is more important that the words themselves.

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                                            juliejulez Sep 15, 2013 12:26 PM

                                            This is how I feel. I use "no problem" at work all the time when a client thanks me for doing something I should be doing anyway. To me, "no problem" says "No need to thank me, I'm here to serve you.". I'm 31.

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                                              pollymerase Sep 15, 2013 02:47 PM

                                              Very well said. I was struggling how to describe my use of the term, but this sums it up well.

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                                                MrsJonesey Sep 15, 2013 05:04 PM

                                                This is the way I've always assumed it was meant. I'm 56. I think I've even said it myself.

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                                                  Meowzerz Sep 15, 2013 05:35 PM

                                                  I'm similar to you in age and thinking.

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                                                    tcamp Sep 16, 2013 05:42 AM

                                                    I'm 20 years older than you and feel exactly the same way.

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                                                      EarlyBird Oct 1, 2013 02:45 PM

                                                      Oh yeah?! Well, young whipper snapper, in my day...!

                                                      Actually, I don't like "no problem" or its variants, but if this is what you youngsters with your hip hop and your I pads are meaning when you use that phrase, I can deal. (It's just "deal," right?)

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                                                        debbiel Oct 1, 2013 09:39 PM

                                                        I'm super psyched that I' a youngster now. Even though I don't use an iPad.

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                                                      calumin Sep 16, 2013 07:09 PM

                                                      In Japanese, when students learn the language they are taught that the right way to say "you're welcome" is "doo itashimashite". However, people don't say that very often, because it does not sound sufficiently humble -- it sounds like the person is asking for some kind of appreciation. Literally it means something like "how (or what) can I do".

                                                      It's more common for people to just say "iie iie", which literally means "no no".

                                                      Maybe the Japanese have made this linguistic change a few generations before Americans.

                                                    3. ipsedixit Sep 15, 2013 11:19 AM

                                                      #FirstWorldProblem

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                                                        chartreauxx Sep 15, 2013 02:01 PM

                                                        #firstworldnoproblem

                                                      2. JoanN Sep 15, 2013 11:43 AM

                                                        I’m with you, grey. Drives me nuts. The younger doormen in my building hold the door for me. I say “Thank you.” They say “No problem.” I want to say, “Damn right it’s not a problem. It’s your JOB!”

                                                        Yes, I’ve been collecting social security for a while. I also offer as an excuse that I was an editor for more than 40 years. So “awesome” drives me equally nuts. Whatever is spoken of as being awesome is rarely awesome. And whatever is spoken of as being fabulous is practically never fabulous. And don’t get me started on eager/anxious, which/that, nauseated/nauseous, over/more than. But do I ever mention it? Only when I’m being paid to do so.

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                                                          pilotgirl210 Sep 16, 2013 11:28 AM

                                                          OMGosh....I'm a retired editor, too, of a UPI daily and your examples of word usage are exactly my pet peeves, especially which/that and over/more than. A dog jumps over the fence. The planned budget is more than $2,000. It is NOT over $2,000. Unless the dog jumps over $2,000 in one-dollar bills...tee hee.

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                                                            paulj Sep 16, 2013 11:51 AM

                                                            While the first definition of 'over' (in the American Heritage Dict) is positional,

                                                            prep. 9. More than in degree, quantity, or extent: over ten miles

                                                            adj 2.a. In excess; excessive

                                                            There are many words and phrases that use 'over' in connection with a monetary quantity: overbudget, overcapitalize, overdraft, overestimate, overhead (both positional and monetary uses), overpay.

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                                                              pilotgirl210 Sep 16, 2013 12:00 PM

                                                              True, paulj. I don't disagree. I was, however, required to follow the UPI style book, which set the standard that *over* is, as you say, *directional* while *more than/less than related to quantities. My favorite style rule: *Burrow is a hole in the ground. Burro is an ass. As a journalist, you're expected to know the difference.*

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                                                                maria lorraine Sep 16, 2013 02:10 PM

                                                                << As a journalist, you're expected to know the difference.>>

                                                                +1. Or, any good writer.

                                                                My sense is that grammar mistakes repeated over and over become "acceptable" over time, but really should never be acceptable in writing for publication (or writing for any venue) or even speech.

                                                                The stylebooks (UPI, New York Times, Washington Post, etc.) are a great instruction in proper usage. Strunk & White's "The Elements of Style" is still brilliant.

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                                                                  paulj Sep 16, 2013 03:21 PM

                                                                  http://chronicle.com/article/50-Years...
                                                                  claims the White was a good writer (Charlotte's Web), but a terrible grammarian. The style advice is 'mostly harmless', but 'the grammatical advice ... is so misplaced and inaccurate that counterexamples often show up in the authors' own prose on the very same page.'

                                                                  Is it coincidence that S&W became a Style standard in the mid 20th century, about the same time that "You're welcome" appeared in print?

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                                                                    maria lorraine Sep 16, 2013 03:27 PM

                                                                    When you write for publication, you have to follow the usage rules of the stylebook used by the publisher or employer.

                                                                    But the stylebook rules are very useful for everyday writing and certainly writing for work/business writing.

                                                                    There's so much great stuff in "The Elements of Style." E.B. White could teach us all a thing or two about writing. I found the Edinburgh professor's article you linked to curmudgeonly. But I don't wish to argue about this -- you either value the book, or you don't. If that stylebook doesn't work for you, find another to use to make your writing better.

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                                                                    pine time Sep 18, 2013 11:23 AM

                                                                    "My sense is that grammar mistakes repeated over and over become "acceptable" over time" -- what's grating on me these days is the accepted use of "I" and "me" incorrectly, as in "Joe and me are going out," or "give it to Joe and I." Seems most folks don't care, but it's fingernails on the blackboard time for this oldster.

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                                                                      MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 11:41 AM

                                                                      Grammar mistakes/idioms repeated over time are language development. It's the reason we don't speak Olde English or Proto West Germanic.

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                                                                        ratgirlagogo Sep 26, 2013 12:00 PM

                                                                        Yes indeed. And my mother was an English teacher! I heard plenty of this kind of finger-wagging growing up. But the older and more geezerly she got, the more she took this evolutionary line on English useage.

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                                                                          sandylc Sep 26, 2013 02:22 PM

                                                                          MVNYC: Yes, sigh, you are right. I tell myself this every time I hear, "these ones" and "diddent", and when I see, "the car's are pretty". I doesn't always work for me, though.

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                                                                          alwayshungrygal Sep 18, 2013 12:16 PM

                                                                          It's fingernails on the blackboard for me too.

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                                                                            paulj Sep 18, 2013 12:42 PM

                                                                            http://www.alphadictionary.com/articl...

                                                                            discusses this I/me error. It suggests that the use of I in 'give it to Joe and I' is a result of over emphasis on correcting 'Me and Joe are going out', correcting that was done without explaining the nature of the error(s). But it also concedes that
                                                                            " This error may be an indication that English is losing the distinction between "I" and "me" for this confusion was also a problem in Shakespeare's day."

                                                                            2nd person has already lost most distinctions it might have had, with 'you' working for both singular and plural, subject and object (as well as the formal/familiar).

                                                                            This I/me usage has to be drilled into kids in school because it does not carry much of an information load. In the example sentences, 'Joe' does not change, even though its function does. If other nouns don't change, why should the pronouns?

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                                                                              pine time Sep 18, 2013 02:05 PM

                                                                              Back in the Dark Ages, when I was in school, we were taught to "drop" Joe and decide which to use, i.e. in, "Me and Joe are going out," would you say "I am going out," or "Me is going out"--whichever is correct without Joe is correct with Joe. Rather than getting into long didactics, it was a simple way of teaching.

                                                                              I guess to keep this food-related, maybe Joe and me/myself/I are going out to a restaurant!

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                                                                                paulj Sep 18, 2013 02:23 PM

                                                                                Yes that is a way of checking it. It probably is still taught that way. But I'm not going to use that test unless there is a little seed of doubt about the incorrect use.

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                                                                                  alwayshungrygal Sep 18, 2013 04:13 PM

                                                                                  I learned the usage of I/me the same way. I wish it were still taught that way. Perhaps grammar, like cursive writing, isn't emphasized anymore, in favor of creative thinking etc.

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                                                                                    greygarious Sep 19, 2013 09:02 AM

                                                                                    Currently there's a TV brouhaha because a Wheel of Fortune contestant trying to solve the puzzle pronounced "corner curio cabinet" so unintelligibly that his answer was rejected and his opponent won. Either he was nervous or really didn't know the correct pronunciation. Public opinion seems to be on his side, but in real life, you don't get a trophy for participating. The line here may have been drawn in draconian fashion, but do you really want your chef to be the product of a culinary program wherein theory is more important than execution?

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                                                                                      sandylc Sep 18, 2013 05:20 PM

                                                                                      I still remember my first shocked moment in education when my son's teacher gushed excitedly about how they allowed "creative spelling" so that the children's imaginations wouldn't be crushed by criticism.

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                                                                                  sandylc Sep 18, 2013 01:27 PM

                                                                                  Don't forget that goodie: "Thanks for inviting Joe and myself."

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                                                                                    jen kalb Oct 8, 2013 07:54 PM

                                                                                    my PhD candidate daughter talks this way. Why? Its horrid.

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                                                                                      paulj Oct 9, 2013 03:54 PM

                                                                                      Are you referring to the 'me and joe' usage? My guess is that it is a speech pattern that became ingrained during toddler years. Grade school teachers can change how we write things, especially for formal use, but they don't change how we speak. I learned to speak English from my parents, not my teachers.

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                                                                                        sal_acid Oct 10, 2013 09:07 AM

                                                                                        Kids also learn from their wretched little friends.

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                                                                            sandylc Sep 18, 2013 01:24 PM

                                                                            Don't forget less/fewer. Or bring/take.

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                                                                            LeoLioness Sep 15, 2013 11:48 AM

                                                                            You wouldn't be "cluing them in" so much as you'd be just expressing your personal semantics preferences.

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                                                                              greygarious Sep 15, 2013 01:06 PM

                                                                              It's more than just my semantic preference, as evidenced by the media mentions, and the variety of opinions expressed on this thread. I agree that it's a generational difference but since I doubt that many people half my age are devotees of PHC or Sunday Morning, these mentions preach to the choir.
                                                                              It's analogous to unintentionally offending when you are traveling abroad and do not know that in XYZLand it's polite to belch at the end of the meal to indicate that you enjoyed it. If you work in a service industry and respond with "no problem" when someone old enough to be your parent thanks you for doing something that's part of your responsibility, you probably don't realize that s/he may be thinking you are being condescending and think you have much more important things to do than help her/him. If your job involves tip income, you can never go wrong by responding pleasantly to the thanks with "you're welcome", "my pleasure", "that's what I'm here for", etc.
                                                                              The "no problem", on the other hand, MIGHT result in a smaller tip. I see explaining this as doing the "NP" user a kindness. And if I do it, and am thanked for the info, THAT is an appropriate time to say, "no problem". As Flanagan said, in a few more decades today's geezers will all be dead, and the future geezers can NP to their hearts' content.

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                                                                                sunshine842 Sep 15, 2013 01:15 PM

                                                                                there is no way that anyone on the planet can live their life without offending someone -- intentionally or not.

                                                                                There's simply no way to accommodate people who choose to be offended.

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                                                                                  EWSflash Sep 15, 2013 02:08 PM

                                                                                  You hit that nail right on the head, sunshine.

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                                                                                    HillJ Sep 15, 2013 02:17 PM

                                                                                    Ditto (gosh I hope the word ditto isn't offending someone on the planet)!

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                                                                                      bulavinaka Sep 15, 2013 02:34 PM

                                                                                      It has to - there are those on Chowhound who are offended when someone agrees with a post and issues a, "+1". Life's too short.

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                                                                                  calumin Sep 15, 2013 01:55 PM

                                                                                  What I find interesting is why, of all the things in this world (or even of all the linguistic idioms we use in American English) -- you pick "no problem" as one deserving of special disdain. What's so offensive?

                                                                                  In your example, you say "no problem" should not be used as a response to "thank you" when the action is a normal part of one's duties -- I don't get it. The real question in this situation is -- why is one saying "thank you" in the first place? In this situation, "no problem" is the perfect answer, because both parties actually agree that it really is no problem, and the person saying "no problem" is simply responding to an incorrectly-placed "thank you" and would rather not play out an artificial exchange to highlight one's own effort.

                                                                                  In Spanish, when someone says "gracias" ("thank you"), the most commonly-used response (across all generations) is "de nada" (which means "you're welcome" but more literally means something like "it's nothing.") Would you have a similar issue with virtually all Spanish people who use this phrase?

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                                                                                    sunshine842 Sep 15, 2013 02:19 PM

                                                                                    and "de rien", the common-use French for "you're welcome" is literally translated as "from nothing"

                                                                                    the highly-formal "je vous en prie" is almost never heard in day-to-day conversation.

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                                                                                      Wahooty Sep 15, 2013 09:50 PM

                                                                                      Or "de nada" in Spanish.

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                                                                                        sunshine842 Sep 16, 2013 03:55 AM

                                                                                        see calumin's post just above mine.

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                                                                                          Wahooty Sep 16, 2013 06:05 AM

                                                                                          And it was also mentioned below - apologies for not reading carefully before posting. My post brought to you by the Department of Redundancy Department.

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                                                                                            Kalivs Sep 17, 2013 12:20 PM

                                                                                            That's my favorite department

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                                                                                        antimony Sep 16, 2013 05:57 AM

                                                                                        That was the first thing I thought of. (I don't know Spanish. :) )

                                                                                        All of these are little polite formulae -- they mean "I am adhering to a social script". "No problem" is just a different version of the script. The problem comes when people's scripts don't match -- then we actually notice the words.

                                                                                        After all, who actually thinks "yours truly" on a letter means that you're saying you belong to the addressee? Etc.

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                                                                                        debbiel Sep 16, 2013 09:54 AM

                                                                                        I immediately thought of "de nada" when I read the OP. I think I have used "no problem" here and there for many years (I'm late 40s), but I would guess it has increased since I started working on my Spanish and visiting Spain.

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                                                                                          tcamp Sep 18, 2013 05:26 AM

                                                                                          Me too. I think I'm going to start using "de nada" from now on since "no problem" has the potential to irk many.

                                                                                  2. sunshine842 Sep 15, 2013 12:32 PM

                                                                                    I have no problem with "no problem", either.

                                                                                    I'm usually delighted to have someone who's either doing his/her job or (shock) doing a little something extra..."No problem" means that they didn't find it a problem (even if it was part of their job) and that they're capable of spoken communication.

                                                                                    1. paulj Sep 15, 2013 01:49 PM

                                                                                      Where does 'you're welcome' come from?

                                                                                      "You're welcome as a formulaic response to thank you is attested from 1907"
                                                                                      http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=welcome

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                                                                                      Think for minute about the etymology of 'welcome'. "one whose coming is pleasant, a welcome person or thing, a guest" (Wikidictionary). In Spanish 'bienvenido' this connection with 'welcoming a guest' is a little more obvious.

                                                                                      'no problem', while not conventional by earlier standards, may actually be more thoughtful.

                                                                                      The Spanish “de nada” conveys a sense of 'you con't owe me anything', the service was freely given, it's nothing, it was not a problem.

                                                                                      http://www.wikihow.com/Say-You'r...
                                                                                      gives a number of Spanish equivalents, including a 'no es nada', which is even closer to 'it isn't a problem (or is nothing)'.

                                                                                      1. mrbigshotno.1 Sep 15, 2013 02:10 PM

                                                                                        I know where you are coming from grey, mine is "Awesome".

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                                                                                          Hobbert Sep 15, 2013 02:11 PM

                                                                                          Often, when I'm at work, my response to "thank you" is "yes, ma'am/sir". Haha I have no idea if that's more or less annoying than "no problem". I must admit I don't care.

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                                                                                            sunshine842 Sep 15, 2013 02:21 PM

                                                                                            you've responded with actual words and acknowledged the "thank you".

                                                                                            No problem.

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                                                                                              Hobbert Sep 15, 2013 02:51 PM

                                                                                              True. I suppose that's the important part. I have no problem with "no problem".

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                                                                                            miss_belle Sep 15, 2013 03:55 PM

                                                                                            I have no prob with "no problem". OTOH an older woman I work with always says "no worries". That worried me for a bit but it doesn't me worry me any more..

                                                                                            There was also that teenage girl at my local grocery store who called me " honey or sweetie".

                                                                                            Some things you just need to get over and not let it bother you too much.

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                                                                                              Shrinkrap Sep 15, 2013 05:44 PM

                                                                                              Oooo....my office assistant called me sweetie at first. I didn't say anything but she stopped.

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                                                                                              kitchengardengal Sep 15, 2013 05:18 PM

                                                                                              I see that many here disagree with greygarious, but to me the term 'no problem' sounds like a short version of "I thought you were going to be a problem, but you weren't".

                                                                                              Yes, I know , that's not what you young 'uns are saying at all, but some of us who perhaps were raised with a bit more formal way of speaking have a 'problem' with some overly casual speech habits these days. Our bad.

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                                                                                                mrsfury Sep 15, 2013 05:25 PM

                                                                                                "Our bad." HA HA HA... good one. I use no problem sometimes when a guest thanks me over and over again. I doubt I will use it in the future.

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                                                                                                  sunshine842 Sep 15, 2013 07:57 PM

                                                                                                  "No problem" is no problem for me, but "my bad" makes my teeth itch.

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                                                                                                    kitchengardengal Sep 15, 2013 08:23 PM

                                                                                                    Ditto. ;-)

                                                                                              2. girloftheworld Sep 15, 2013 05:25 PM

                                                                                                I usally respond with " sure thing, Of course It is what I do, anytime or happy to have helped" Not a problem seems awkard to me..

                                                                                                1. TeRReT Sep 15, 2013 05:53 PM

                                                                                                  It's not a problem for me at all. Every English country in the world has it's differences in language and now with internet and ease of travel the already fluid language changes faster.

                                                                                                  Aa long as they are acknowledging my thank you, you are welcome, No problem, no worries, etc does not bother me in the slightest.

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                                                                                                    Steve Sep 15, 2013 06:16 PM

                                                                                                    Doesn't bother me in the least since I'm used to the French and Spanish versions.

                                                                                                    1. globocity Sep 15, 2013 08:07 PM

                                                                                                      I am a petulant Gen Xer, and in coastal Southern CA (land of coeds), I am an old geezer. "No problem" does not come off poorly to me. Their reply is at least a courteous, albeit informal and newish, remark. It seems to be the vernacular and I've found myself uttering it.

                                                                                                      What I do have a problem with is "uh hm" in response to my "thank you."

                                                                                                      When the person can not be bothered to utter an actual word, it curdles my blood.

                                                                                                      And while I'm on this topic, I will also express (yet again) my disdain for NO response to a greeting. This has happened rarely in the food service I dusty, mostly in retail.

                                                                                                      Cheers.

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                                                                                                        SaraAshley Sep 15, 2013 08:42 PM

                                                                                                        Going a bit off-topic, but what really peeves me are random courteous gestures that I do for strangers and don't receive a thank you for. Such as holding the door open for them.

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                                                                                                          Violatp Sep 15, 2013 10:00 PM

                                                                                                          Me, too! As though you work for them so of course you're holding the door, or whatever.

                                                                                                          I see a variation of this on the CTA all the time. People situate themselves in the aisle in such a way (even if there is room for them elsewhere) that you are forced to say excuse me or whatever, to make your own way on, off, or through the bus.

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                                                                                                            SaraAshley Sep 16, 2013 06:07 AM

                                                                                                            Yes!! That is exactly how I feel about it. As if they're entitled to it, and therefore don't owe you a thank you. Makes me want to yell "you're welcome" back to them, haha, ironic!

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                                                                                                            MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 08:35 AM

                                                                                                            This is actually the only time I say "you're welcome". Usually with a snarky tone.

                                                                                                            Other than that, it really is "no worries or no problem"

                                                                                                        2. paulj Sep 15, 2013 08:45 PM

                                                                                                          More on the history of 'you're welcome'
                                                                                                          http://www.grammarphobia.com/blog/200...

                                                                                                          From Shakespeare
                                                                                                          Lodovico: Madam, good night; I humbly thank your ladyship.
                                                                                                          Desdemona: Your honour is most welcome.

                                                                                                          From 1907 short story
                                                                                                          “Thank you,” said the girl, with a pleasant smile. “You’re quite welcome,” said the skipper.

                                                                                                          and

                                                                                                          The earliest reference in the OED is from a 1960 newspaper article

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                                                                                                            Violatp Sep 15, 2013 10:02 PM

                                                                                                            The more I think about it, the less "you're welcome" makes sense. What are they welcome to? Your time? Your work? Your good will?

                                                                                                            Something along the lines of "It's my pleasure" makes more sense, I think.

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                                                                                                              sunshine842 Sep 16, 2013 04:00 AM

                                                                                                              I agree with you -- the formal French "je vous en prie" translates literally to I pray to you or I beg you....so I did something for you, but I'm begging *you*?

                                                                                                              Doesn't make a lick of sense from a logical standpoint, but it is what it is (and it's very formal, so when you hear it, it's probably not a good time to question the motives of the speaker).

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                                                                                                                NanaMoussecurry Sep 16, 2013 06:02 PM

                                                                                                                I would venture to say that "je vous en prie" could mean "please let me ( i beg you to let me) have the pleasure/honor to help you"

                                                                                                                (It is very classy and not a lot of people use it anymore, unfortunately)

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                                                                                                            robt5265 Sep 15, 2013 09:56 PM

                                                                                                            How about "hows it tasting for you?", "melty", if I want a call brand at the bar, I will ask for one, "change it up", even "to die for", I could go on for days........

                                                                                                            1. maria lorraine Sep 16, 2013 12:16 AM

                                                                                                              Repeated this morning on CBS Sunday Morning...

                                                                                                              Commentary by Bill Flanagan:

                                                                                                              "No problem: Yes, it's a BIG problem"

                                                                                                              Video at:
                                                                                                              http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2E8wm...

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                                                                                                                kitchengardengal Sep 16, 2013 12:57 AM

                                                                                                                Thank you!!

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                                                                                                                  mrbigshotno.1 Sep 16, 2013 08:22 AM

                                                                                                                  I just sent that link out to about 15 people, Thank you!

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                                                                                                                    paulj Sep 16, 2013 09:17 AM

                                                                                                                    http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-3445_162-...

                                                                                                                    "PLEASE, only say "No problem" when there is a reasonable expectation that the task you are performing might be PROBLEMATIC."

                                                                                                                    And only say 'welcome' when greeting a guest?

                                                                                                                    Is his ending use of 'welcome' appropriate?
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                                                                                                                    Just hold off till then, okay? Okay.

                                                                                                                    You're welcome.

                                                                                                                  2. jrvedivici Sep 16, 2013 06:44 AM

                                                                                                                    I do not have a problem with "no problem". The American English language is truly a work in progress, which is demonstrated by annual addition of words into the Oxford dictionary each year. Along with new words new phrases or ways of expressing yourself come and go as well. My most recent adoption into my vocabulary was the term, "my bad", a phrase to be used in exchange of "I'm sorry".

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                                                                                                                      Pwmfan Sep 16, 2013 06:48 AM

                                                                                                                      I am a geezerette and have no problem with "no problem". I actually used to use it myself after multiple visits to Jamaica decades ago, where it was the reply to just about every question.

                                                                                                                      As far as lecturing the Gen X and Yers who use it instead of "You're welcome", I don't think so. I would guess they could no more fathom the implications of this phrase than I could my use of "You're welcome" (at least prior to reading this thread-Thanks, Chowhounds!).
                                                                                                                      I'm just pleased to receive an acknowledgement of my "Thank
                                                                                                                      you".

                                                                                                                      My pet peeve is "amazing". I may very well enjoy and
                                                                                                                      appreciate a cup of coffee, a walk in the park and a new pair of jeans but I sincerely doubt that I will be amazed by any of them. Sadly, this usage is not confined to the youngsters; my group of fellow geezerettes are guilty of this as well.

                                                                                                                      Now get off my lawn!

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                                                                                                                        latindancer Sep 17, 2013 08:18 AM

                                                                                                                        I rarely use the word 'amazing'. For me, it's saved for...

                                                                                                                        A sky full of bright stars, a sunset or a beautiful rainbow....
                                                                                                                        I suspect all of these words/phrases i.e.:

                                                                                                                        "Amazing", "whatever", "no problem", they all trigger something different in everyone, no matter what the age.

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                                                                                                                          Violatp Sep 17, 2013 08:27 AM

                                                                                                                          If everyone stopped using words like fantastic, awesome, fabulous, terrific, etc. in their modern usages, I don't know what we'd have to replace them!

                                                                                                                          As an off-topic sidebar, and because etymology sometimes fascinates me, doesn't the word "defenestrate" sound far more sinister than it is? I mean, it's bad, don't get me wrong. But it sounds just vile!

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                                                                                                                        elenacampana Sep 16, 2013 07:02 AM

                                                                                                                        I'm old, but I'll take "no problem" over "I'm good" any day.

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                                                                                                                          latindancer Sep 17, 2013 08:19 AM

                                                                                                                          Interesting.

                                                                                                                          That one doesn't bother me at all.

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                                                                                                                            tcamp Sep 18, 2013 06:41 AM

                                                                                                                            Me: "Would you like a sandwich before you leave for baseball practice?"

                                                                                                                            Son: "I'm good"

                                                                                                                            Me: The correct answer is either "yes, please" or "no, thanks."

                                                                                                                            Son: "Chill, mom."

                                                                                                                            Drives me a tad crazy.

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                                                                                                                              kitchengardengal Sep 18, 2013 10:54 AM

                                                                                                                              I still don't know if he wanted a sandwich!

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                                                                                                                                ricepad Sep 18, 2013 06:40 PM

                                                                                                                                He wants his sandwich cold.

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                                                                                                                                  tcamp Sep 19, 2013 05:56 AM

                                                                                                                                  Well, he didn't get one from me.

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                                                                                                                              WNYamateur Sep 16, 2013 08:14 AM

                                                                                                                              They don't mean the same thing, or at least, they don't imply the same thing.

                                                                                                                              "You're welcome" implies that the person was happy to oblige; "No problem" implies that they did it only because it was easy.

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                                                                                                                                paulj Sep 16, 2013 09:11 AM

                                                                                                                                I think it is a mistake to read any meaning into either response.

                                                                                                                                We were taught to say 'You're welcome' in response to 'Thankyou', as the polite thing to do, not because we felt one way or other about the task. It's as meaningful as 'Fine, thankyou' in response to 'How are you'.

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                                                                                                                                  Kalivs Sep 17, 2013 12:27 PM

                                                                                                                                  I was taught to say thank you in response to thank you

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                                                                                                                                    paulj Sep 17, 2013 01:03 PM

                                                                                                                                    Is it "thank you's" all the way down? :)

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                                                                                                                                  debbiel Sep 16, 2013 09:59 AM

                                                                                                                                  That certainly is not how I interpret "no problem."

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                                                                                                                                    LeoLioness Sep 16, 2013 10:02 AM

                                                                                                                                    If you think really, really hard about it, I suppose it might.

                                                                                                                                    Next topic. Someone replies "fine" when you ask "how are you?" WHAT DO THEY REALLY MEAN???

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                                                                                                                                      paulj Sep 16, 2013 10:06 AM

                                                                                                                                      'fine' means 'the state of my health is none of your business!'. :)

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                                                                                                                                    FishTales Sep 16, 2013 08:35 AM

                                                                                                                                    Language changes, I know this... sametime, 'no problem' instead of 'you're welcome' grates in my ear every single time I hear it.

                                                                                                                                    Cheers!

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                                                                                                                                      paulj Sep 16, 2013 09:07 AM

                                                                                                                                      We aren't talking about 'no problem' instead of 'thankyou'.

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                                                                                                                                      beevod Sep 16, 2013 08:41 AM

                                                                                                                                      How about the more formal, "Not a problem."

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                                                                                                                                        INDIANRIVERFL Sep 16, 2013 12:41 PM

                                                                                                                                        Whatever.

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                                                                                                                                          Worldwide Diner Sep 16, 2013 12:44 PM

                                                                                                                                          It's only a problem when people want to create a problem where none really exist. I personally think people who nitpick perfunctory responses have a problem.

                                                                                                                                          1. Kajikit Sep 16, 2013 01:48 PM

                                                                                                                                            Sorry... sounds like a bad case of grumpy-old-git-itis... 'no problem' 'no worries' 'of course' 'coming right up' etc etc are all equally good. (and I was born ten years before your cut-off date...)

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                                                                                                                                              debbiel Sep 16, 2013 03:52 PM

                                                                                                                                              Oh yeah. The 1980 thing. I was born before 1970, and I have no problem with "no problem."

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                                                                                                                                                sunshine842 Sep 16, 2013 06:06 PM

                                                                                                                                                *pulls up a chair and sits at the table with the geezers with no problems*

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                                                                                                                                              alwayshungrygal Sep 16, 2013 05:41 PM

                                                                                                                                              My boss has a thing about not saying or implying a negative to a client or guest, so "no problem" is not to be said. Better to just say "you're welcome" or anything positive.

                                                                                                                                              My language issues have to do with people saying "I had xxx happen to me." As in "I had my house robbed." Really? You caused your house to be robbed? Have/had is a possessive word, so it implies that you initiated the action. Drives me nuts to hear it used incorrectly.

                                                                                                                                              I don't know if I qualify as an "old geezerette" but I'm in my late fifties.

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                                                                                                                                                paulj Sep 16, 2013 06:07 PM

                                                                                                                                                'have' can also mean 'experience'

                                                                                                                                                I had a good good meal there.
                                                                                                                                                I had trouble finding that restaurant.
                                                                                                                                                I had a bad experience there.

                                                                                                                                                'My house was robbed' does sound more natural, but 'I had my house robbed' puts more emphasis on the experience, and less on 'the house'.

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                                                                                                                                                  alwayshungrygal Sep 17, 2013 12:36 PM

                                                                                                                                                  "I have experience" is still a possessive action. "I" initiated or caused the action, or it actually happened to me. Not the same at "I had my house robbed." "My house was robbed."

                                                                                                                                                  I'm not an English teacher, and can only wonder what grammar is being taught today. Admittedly, language does change and I see media as a force of change. Another thing that rankles: "xxx restaurant, anyone been?" instead of "xxx restaurant, has anyone been there?" or similarly chopped verbiage. "Want a new car?" instead of "Do you want a new car?"

                                                                                                                                                  I know I shouldn't sweat the small stuff (and really, I don't) but if we're talking language issues, these are mine.

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                                                                                                                                                    paulj Sep 17, 2013 01:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                    How about: I had a car wreak.?

                                                                                                                                                    Is this closer to 'I wreaked my car' or 'My car was wreaked'?
                                                                                                                                                    Or in some way distinct from both?

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                                                                                                                                                      sunshine842 Sep 17, 2013 05:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                      I've wreaked havoc a few times, but I don't think I've ever wreaked my car....

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                                                                                                                                                        maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 05:53 PM

                                                                                                                                                        It's the havoc I'd like to hear about... :>)

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                                                                                                                                                          paulj Sep 17, 2013 05:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                          'wreak' did look a bit odd, but it passed the spell test. :) Without the spell checker you'd see a lot more that in my posts. With it I'm more likely to omit little words - ones that escape my attention during editing.

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                                                                                                                                                            Violatp Sep 17, 2013 06:00 PM

                                                                                                                                                            I blame spell check for the loser vs. looser epidemic.

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                                                                                                                                                              ricepad Sep 17, 2013 06:01 PM

                                                                                                                                                              I think you give people too much credit. Lots of people are simply crappy spellers.

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                                                                                                                                                                Violatp Sep 17, 2013 06:13 PM

                                                                                                                                                                So many people...so many people...

                                                                                                                                                                Now "payed" is making its way in there, too. I weep.

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                                                                                                                                                              sunshine842 Sep 17, 2013 07:18 PM

                                                                                                                                                              Evan win ewes thee smell chucker, ewe kin steel mike miss steaks.

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                                                                                                                                                                paulj Sep 17, 2013 08:27 PM

                                                                                                                                                                do it all the time.

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                                                                                                                                                                  jrvedivici Sep 18, 2013 04:12 AM

                                                                                                                                                                  Me two!

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                                                                                                                                                            alwayshungrygal Oct 2, 2013 05:26 PM

                                                                                                                                                            "I wrecked my car" would be correct, if I caused the action (I hit something).

                                                                                                                                                            "My car was wrecked" would be correct, (a) if someone did it to my car, but (b) it could also be possessive, if there is an explanation that should follow if I caused the action.

                                                                                                                                                            (a) "My car was wrecked when an idiot in a Mercedes hit my car when I was stopped at a traffic light."
                                                                                                                                                            (b) "My car was wrecked Saturday night when I hit a tree."

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                                                                                                                                                            debbiel Sep 17, 2013 01:23 PM

                                                                                                                                                            I agree that, "My house was robbed" is clearer. But "I have" as experienced is not really possessive. It is not "I have experience...." It is, "I experience(d). In our home invasion example, it would be better stated as "I had (experienced) my house being robbed" than as "I had my house robbed."

                                                                                                                                                            So with food,
                                                                                                                                                            I had an amazing meal last night does not mean that you possessed an amazing meal; it means that you experienced an amazing meal.

                                                                                                                                                            Or something like that.

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                                                                                                                                                              alwayshungrygal Sep 18, 2013 12:23 PM

                                                                                                                                                              I see your point and would go so far as to further clarify my intent on possessives: "I had an amazing meal." I had the meal/experience, no one else had it in the context of the sentence, and other than the cook/service staff/etc no one else caused the action. I wouldn't say, "an amazing meal happened to me." "I had an amazing meal" is correct in all contexts. IMHO.

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                                                                                                                                                          kitchengardengal Sep 16, 2013 07:22 PM

                                                                                                                                                          "My boss has a thing about not saying or implying a negative to a client or guest, so "no problem" is not to be said."

                                                                                                                                                          That's a good point that nobody's really touched on. I agree entirely with your boss. When I write a proposal for a kitchen cabinet project, I don't ever say "such and such not included". I say "such and such to be provided by builder". This leaves a positive impression with the client.

                                                                                                                                                          Perhaps our dislike of the "no problem" response has something to do with our perception of negativity in the words. Interesting thought to chew on....

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                                                                                                                                                            maria lorraine Sep 16, 2013 08:30 PM

                                                                                                                                                            Appropriateness is the issue with "No problem." It's said in response to something that may be a problem for the person saying it, but then isn't.

                                                                                                                                                            The video goes into that appropriate usage and the lack of it:
                                                                                                                                                            http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2E8wm...

                                                                                                                                                        3. NanaMoussecurry Sep 16, 2013 06:19 PM

                                                                                                                                                          I am surprised with the kind of answers this Q had.
                                                                                                                                                          I don't have an issue with the 'no problem' thing but it's like a bunch of people fell ass backwards trying to prove that someone who didn't agree with them was a "geezer"......

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                                                                                                                                                            debbiel Sep 16, 2013 07:13 PM

                                                                                                                                                            I am guessing that many folks, myself included, were joshing around because of the OP's use of the AARP credential phrase, and the "ridiculous geezer" phrase.

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                                                                                                                                                              HillJ Sep 16, 2013 08:52 PM

                                                                                                                                                              http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NxYW5...

                                                                                                                                                              I'm surprised we're even attributing Bill Flanagan with such insight and wisdom. Bill is Mr. MTV/VH1 guy. An early video pioneer; a music Exec. A younger Bill would have scoffed at this older guys take on wordsmithing.

                                                                                                                                                              Bill once held a different perspective; a much more relaxed view. So maybe the take away here is that time sometimes changes our perspective. Once we were the youthful, hip fellow and then one day we realize we've become the shaky finger pointing at the younger generation with impatience.

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                                                                                                                                                                maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 10:39 AM

                                                                                                                                                                Bill Flanagan has covered the rock scene and been a music writer his entire professional career. He's been an essayist on CBS Sunday Morning for many years. He's an astute observer of culture. Of course, he's changed as he's grown older, as life changes us all. He's still hip.

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                                                                                                                                                                  HillJ Sep 17, 2013 01:41 PM

                                                                                                                                                                  As I said (twice on this thread).

                                                                                                                                                                  Still hip and now pointing his finger at a younger culture. That's my point. He's made a living on his generation and generations that came after. Lighten up, Bill.

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                                                                                                                                                                    maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 02:08 PM

                                                                                                                                                                    I like that Flanagan pointed out that "No Problem" was a usage error.

                                                                                                                                                                    Doesn't have to do with being old, or older, young or younger, tight or light, hip or not. Has to do with usage.

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                                                                                                                                                                      HillJ Sep 17, 2013 02:16 PM

                                                                                                                                                                      On that we will disagree. I am older, my oldest child is 43. And when I see such debates play out I most certainly believe age has everything to do with perspective. I don't believe having Bill express his opinion is random on CBS SM. He speaks for a certain generation and his context as a writer and music mogul comes with those expressed opinions.

                                                                                                                                                                      And, ml I can respect yours as well.

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                                                                                                                                                                        maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 03:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                        Yep, back atcha with respect.

                                                                                                                                                                        I'll tell you what gets me about this. Perhaps another person has brought it up already, but I'll share my perspective. The first part of this Flanagan touched on as well.

                                                                                                                                                                        Used correctly, "No problem" is said in response to something that might be a problem, but isn't. That's the usage parameter.

                                                                                                                                                                        So when I order something at a restaurant or at a counter, like a coffee, and the waitstaff says,"No problem," the phrase is used incorrectly and doesn't make sense. Of course it's not a problem for you to get me my coffee: it's **your job** to get me my coffee.

                                                                                                                                                                        But "No problem" is also used incorrectly from a customer service/business perspective because it truncates the sales transaction.

                                                                                                                                                                        During a sales transaction with an employee delivering an item or providing a service, the better response is something like, "Coming right up." Or, "Should be just a minute."

                                                                                                                                                                        Meaning, I'll get what you're paying for efficiently so that you'll be a repeat customer during the busy morning or at lunchtime when time is tight.

                                                                                                                                                                        OR, another phrase that's better for the business and upselling: "Would you like anything else with your coffee? Our baker made his famous low-fat carrot muffins this morning."

                                                                                                                                                                        Or, "May I help you with anything else today?" Meaning, can I sell you anything else so that the company I work for makes a bit more profit?

                                                                                                                                                                        "No problem" is a flat phrase. It lacks this solicitousness, and usually ends the sales dialogue rather than furthering it.

                                                                                                                                                                        The phrase doesn't work in sales transactions. It's not the best choice from a customer service/business angle, besides being incorrect from a usage perspective.

                                                                                                                                                                        I think teaching employees not to use the phrase "No problem," and instead teaching them phrases that are better for sales and repeat business should be part of employee training.

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                                                                                                                                                                          HillJ Sep 17, 2013 05:28 PM

                                                                                                                                                                          I would point to the business casual in all its forms as a participant in casual speech.

                                                                                                                                                                          We aren't the formal business society of generations ago. Sometimes I'm still struck by the casual way my own work is accomplished today. I'm old school in a new format...learning to fit.

                                                                                                                                                                          Casual isn't going away.

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                                                                                                                                                                            bulavinaka Sep 17, 2013 05:34 PM

                                                                                                                                                                            Office dogs, food truck fridays, beers/cocktails in the full service office kitchen, office bikes - it sure is a much more casual environment.

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                                                                                                                                                                              HillJ Sep 17, 2013 05:43 PM

                                                                                                                                                                              Last week I sent my work into the office while at the gym, while at a honey farm and while in a bakery. Logged hours on the ride to PA and on the ride to VT. In jeans and a t-shirt while catching up on CH and buying new furniture online.

                                                                                                                                                                              Casual =as all get out!

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                                                                                                                                                                                tcamp Sep 18, 2013 06:43 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                I love office dogs. There is a cute Papillion who belongs to the controller out in the hallway now.

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                                                                                                                                                                              nocharge Sep 17, 2013 05:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                              I think some people interpret "no problem" too literally when it's really just an idiom for acknowledging a "Thank you!" It has nothing to do with whether there actually was a problem or not or with whether any act involved was potentially problematic.

                                                                                                                                                                              There are tons of expressions that shouldn't be interpreted too literally. Consider the somewhat archaic greeting "How do you do?" in British English, which was not meant as a question, just as an idiomatic way of saying "Hi!"
                                                                                                                                                                              http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/ho...
                                                                                                                                                                              Although I'm sure Mr. MTV would consider this usage incorrect and impolite since nobody answered the other person's "question."

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                                                                                                                                                                                maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 06:17 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                I doubt most people who say "No problem" even think about what they're saying. It's a kind of brainless, unexamined usage. Language has nuance, and the nuance is lost when "No problem" is used incorrectly.

                                                                                                                                                                                You have to understand its proper usage to understand how it's misused.

                                                                                                                                                                                << It has nothing to do with whether there actually was a problem or not or with whether any act involved was potentially problematic.>>

                                                                                                                                                                                That's the problem. It actually has everything to do with that.

                                                                                                                                                                                Sure, lots of people say "No problem," and use it in error. It's caught on, but it's not any less an error because it's caught on, just like "alright" is not a proper spelling for "all right" even though many people spell it that way.

                                                                                                                                                                                "No problem" is not an idiom, nor are other people taking it "too literally" when they think the usage is incorrect and inappropriate, just like people should not "get over" alright spelled incorrectly.

                                                                                                                                                                                "How do you do?" is a question, asked when meeting someone for the first time. It's a cousin of "How are you?," which can be asked when meeting a person for the first time and also after previously meeting someone. See the difference? More nuance. Both questions are meant to be answered. Very well, thank you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  nocharge Sep 17, 2013 06:44 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                  No, "How do you do?" as it was commonly used in Britain was not a question that would require an answer but a greeting that would be reciprocated with another "How do you do?" like in the Oscar Wilde dialog in my link.

                                                                                                                                                                                  As for "no problem," if people are commonly using it without thinking and regardless of the circumstances, it has indeed become an idiom for acknowledging a "Thank you!"

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                                                                                                                                                                                    Violatp Sep 17, 2013 06:51 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                    Howdy must have come from "How do you do..."

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                                                                                                                                                                                      maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 07:49 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                      Violatp,

                                                                                                                                                                                      The evolution of howdy is found at the bottom of the page:

                                                                                                                                                                                      http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/ho...

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                                                                                                                                                                                        Violatp Sep 18, 2013 06:42 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                        I could see that. Especially since we really have no way of knowing what accents/dialects actually sounded like and how some of these words and phrases were actually pronounced.

                                                                                                                                                                                        I learned once that some people in deepest Appalachia and other remote East coast parts of the country had the closest link to old English dialects due to no exposure to other languages/people.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 07:41 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                      I disagree.

                                                                                                                                                                                      How do you do?
                                                                                                                                                                                      and
                                                                                                                                                                                      How are you?

                                                                                                                                                                                      are inquiries into another's well-being or health. They're meant to be answered, and the asker is supposed to wait for the answer. These are two questions that have always meant to be answered.

                                                                                                                                                                                      <<it has indeed become an idiom for acknowledging a "Thank you!">>

                                                                                                                                                                                      But that's only one way it's being used incorrectly. It's used incorrectly other ways as well. For example, it's said to the customer in response to a coffee order, or after ordering a meal. That's wrong, on at least two counts.

                                                                                                                                                                                      It it worked, I'd be all for it. I love slang; I love idiom; I love expressive language. But "No problem" doesn't work for several reasons.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        nocharge Sep 17, 2013 09:55 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                        "How do you do?" as used traditionally in Britain was a greeting, not an actual question where an answer was expected. Very different from, say, asking "How are you?" in the US today. Here is some discussion:
                                                                                                                                                                                        http://english.stackexchange.com/ques...

                                                                                                                                                                                        When it comes to idioms, does "you're welcome" really make a whole lot of sense if you pick the words apart? It just happens to be a firmly established idiom in response to a "Thank you!" It's a meaningless phrase used routinely without much thinking. Just think of "no problem" the same way.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 10:02 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                          If "you're welcome" is a tired or worn-out phrase for you or anyone, use another phrase, but make your language FRESH and MEANINGFUL.

                                                                                                                                                                                          Say something in response to being thanked that actually has meaning, not some meaningless, loser phrase like "No problem" that reflects poorly on you.

                                                                                                                                                                                          Try to say "Thank you" in a fresh way, using different words, that truly convey appreciation. Something that's really heard. It will be a better interaction with that other person, I promise.

                                                                                                                                                                                          Ask "How are you?" using fresh words that are really heard, and responded to. Even "How has your day been going so far?" shows genuine interest. You get the idea. Don't waste language!

                                                                                                                                                                                          (BTW, I've researched the history of "how do you do, " and wrote about it, so I disagree again with you.)

                                                                                                                                                                                          "No problem" doesn't convey anything meaningful. Throw it out! Don't use it! It's a waste of language! It's used incorrectly!

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                                                                                                                                                                                            nocharge Sep 17, 2013 11:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                            I don't want many of these phrases to be "FRESH and MEANINGFUL" since you use them mainly as a point of etiquette. If I'm asked "How are you?" I would probably respond with "Fine. How are you?" which would be a very common response that wouldn't convey anything meaningful. And what's wrong with that? I may not be in the mood to disclose private information about my well-being to strangers nor may I be interested in hearing detailed descriptions of their current health problems. When people say "thank you" it usually just signifies an acknowledgement of the conclusion of some form of interaction rather than heartfelt gratitude, so why try to use some other wording that truly conveys appreciation if no non-trivial appreciation exists?

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                                                                                                                                                                                              maria lorraine Sep 18, 2013 12:04 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                              What I am referring to is using language that is sincere and respectful of your fellow human beings, no matter how small the transaction, because that lubricates life's machinery and makes the day a bit nicer for everyone.

                                                                                                                                                                                              It's not my job to convince you of this. But I can hope that the merits of speaking meaningfully to others, in a way that truly connects and respects, rather than speaking in lame and meaningless platitudes, will be revealed to you one day.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                debbiel Sep 18, 2013 06:55 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                So "no problem" is insincere and disrespectful?
                                                                                                                                                                                                Is "de nada" also insincere and disrespectful? Or other similar responses from other languages that have been identified in this thread?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  Motosport Sep 18, 2013 07:04 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                  I always thought "de nada" was loosely translated to "you're welcome" even though it actually means, it's nothing.
                                                                                                                                                                                                  "No problem" is used so often that it is meaningless.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    debbiel Sep 18, 2013 07:10 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                    Is "no problem" used more than "you're welcome" is used? Or was used at its peak? It certainly isn't used more than "de nada" is used in the parts of Spain I've spent time in.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    I would think that you translate "de nada" as "you're welcome" because it is used in the same context. So yes, it means the same thing, but it does not mean "you're welcome."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      Motosport Sep 18, 2013 07:43 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      My best guess is that de nada means "it was nothing" after a "gracias" (thank you). In other words: No need to thank me as I did nothing special that I would not have done otherwise. Even though de nada would be used after performing a major task for someone. It is a show of humility. Perhaps a Hispanic trait.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        debbiel Sep 18, 2013 07:50 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "Thank you."

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "No problem. No need to thank me as I did nothing special that I would not have done otherwise."

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "De nada" is used after performing major and minor tasks. Used on the Barcelona metro when said "gracias" after I nearly fainted, had to lie on the floor of the car, and had a stranger watch over me and my belongings until I was okay. Used after a stranger in Madrid went out of her way to walk me to a little cafe I was having difficulty finding. Used pretty much every single time I said "gracias" after having a door held for me, having food or wine or coffee brought to me, or experiencing any of those other little small acts of niceness that occur throughout our days. Much like "no problem" is used after performing major and minor tasks.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          Motosport Sep 18, 2013 07:58 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          I guess because I am an old f#*t "no problem" just does not resonate. Maybe I take the word "problem" too literally? Especially when the other shoe drops and a "problem" arises.
                                                                                                                                                                                                          Such is life!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          pollymerase Sep 18, 2013 07:58 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Right. Much how people currently use the phrase 'no problem' in the English language (as many have stated in this thread).

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            Motosport Sep 18, 2013 08:06 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Then again, "No problem, Dude!" really gets to me. Unless of course we are in a surf shop.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 08:58 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            but that's EXACTLY what "no problem" means in commonn usage.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            And "de rien".

                                                                                                                                                                                                            And all the other variations that we've discussed in this thread -- all of which are somehow more acceptable because they're not in English? How does that work?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            JoanN Sep 18, 2013 08:25 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            In my Spanish grammar book “de nada” translates directly as “You’re welcome.” “No problem” translates directly as “No hay problema.”

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              Veggo Sep 18, 2013 08:30 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                              De nada is a Spanish idiom meaning "you're welcome". The literal is of course "for nothing" after being thanked for something.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                debbiel Sep 18, 2013 08:39 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                I would say that "de nada" and "you're welcome" are both idioms meaning the same thing. I would expect a grammar book aimed at English speakers to say that "de nada" means "you're welcome." They are both polite expressions uttered in response to "thank you." As is "no problem."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  JoanN Sep 18, 2013 08:47 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Yes, it's an idiom. But there's no other way to say "You're welcome" in Spanish, is there? One wouldn't say, for instance, "Usted es bienvenido," which means something else entirely.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    debbiel Sep 18, 2013 08:55 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Other expressions used in the same context, in order of most to least frequency in my (unfortunately limited) experience in Spain:
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    con mucho gusto
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    el gusto es mio
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    es un placer

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    But my point in posting about idioms is to point out that most of these expressions are idioms. That none of the literal meanings make much sense. So if we are going to accept "you're welcome" and "de nada," why not accept "no problem?"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Motosport Sep 18, 2013 09:00 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      In Italian: "Prego" means literally I pray but is used as "you're welcome"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        MVNYC Sep 18, 2013 09:14 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        prego is used in more ways than you're welcome.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Motosport Sep 18, 2013 10:02 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Yes, prego is used as "hello, goodbye, goodbye on the phone, excuse me and we have a new pope!!" So much can be said with one little word.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 08:59 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Hmm. so "thanks for nothing", then?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    LOL

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 05:57 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        when I say "how are you" in greeting to someone, I'm only looking for a quick answer.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I really don't want or need a dissertation on the speaker's carbuncles and digestive issues.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "I'm good, how are you?" might not be fresh or meaningful, but it does the job for most of us.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      Steve Sep 18, 2013 02:20 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      Alan Sherman once wrote about this in "The Rape of the Ape."

                                                                                                                                                                                                      When people asked him "How are you doing" as a greeting, he responded "I am at a disastrous crossroads in my life." His response was ignored as if he said "fine."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        kitchengardengal Sep 18, 2013 03:44 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I used to have a neighbor whose usual greeting was, "Are you fine?"

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I liked that! It kind of forces you to answer in some way. She was a sweet lady, too, so it was a good conversation starter.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          sandylc Sep 18, 2013 05:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          This thread has brought to mind the inquiry seen in old movies: "I trust you are well?"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      paulj Sep 17, 2013 10:59 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      A classic example of the British 'How do you do?' as a greeting (without anything like a 'fine thankyou')

                                                                                                                                                                                                      From Pygmalion

                                                                                                                                                                                                      PICKERING. How do you do, Miss Doolittle?
                                                                                                                                                                                                      LIZA [shaking hands with him] Colonel Pickering, is it not? 85
                                                                                                                                                                                                      MRS. EYNSFORD HILL. I feel sure we have met before, Miss Doolittle. I remember your eyes.
                                                                                                                                                                                                      LIZA. How do you do? [She sits down on the ottoman gracefully in the place just left vacant by Higgins].
                                                                                                                                                                                                      MRS. EYNSFORD HILL [introducing] My daughter Clara.
                                                                                                                                                                                                      LIZA. How do you do?
                                                                                                                                                                                                      CLARA [impulsively] How do you do? [She sits down on the ottoman beside Eliza, devouring her with her eyes]. 90
                                                                                                                                                                                                      FREDDY [coming to their side of the ottoman] Ive certainly had the pleasure.
                                                                                                                                                                                                      MRS. EYNSFORD HILL [introducing] My son Freddy.
                                                                                                                                                                                                      LIZA. How do you do?

                                                                                                                                                                                                      http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/ho...
                                                                                                                                                                                                      The proper response to 'How do you do?' was a reciprocal 'How do you do?', as in this exchange from Oscar Wilde's Lady Windermere's Fan, 1892:...

                                                                                                                                                                                                      It also talks about the change from question to greeting.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 11:14 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "How do you do" is a question, it's always been a question, the playwright Oscar Wilde's comedic riff on it notwithstanding. (I linked to the same webpage earlier, but you can research others as well if you want to get hung up on it.)

                                                                                                                                                                                                        It's not a question that's always answered, but it is only asked when meeting someone for the first time. That's the nuance of it. All of these phrases have nuance that points to their appropriateness in usage.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          paulj Sep 17, 2013 11:25 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          The intonation is that of a question, but the semantics is not.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          But with regard to the 'Thank you', 'You're welcome' exchange, I don't find anything like it in Pygmalion, The Importance of Being Earnest, or Emily Post (1922). In a few cases, 'thank you' is given as a response to 'thank you'. Post does not suggest anything in response to a 'thank you'.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 11:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            We disagree, and it's OT.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      debbiel Sep 17, 2013 06:59 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      I would argue that it is less in error because it has caught on, or potentially so. Language changes. I don't know where the line is for crossing from error to modern correct usage, but that line exists.

                                                                                                                                                                                                      I would also argue that "No problem" is uttered brainlessly no more a percentage of utterances than is "You're welcome" or "How are you?"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 07:42 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Certainly language changes and evolves. But this is an error on two counts: language and customer service.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 07:51 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          <<I would also argue that "No problem" is uttered brainlessly no more a percentage of utterances than is "You're welcome" or "How are you?">>

                                                                                                                                                                                                          I think you're right. The problem with "No problem" is that it's misunderstood. By the speaker and often by the person to whom it's said. And it should never be used in sales transactions.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      cowboyardee Sep 18, 2013 04:02 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      It's not being used incorrectly though.

                                                                                                                                                                                                      It's an idiom meaning 'you're welcome' that is being incorrectly (or at times pedantically) interpreted literally as 'it could have been a problem but wasn't.'

                                                                                                                                                                                                      Idioms work like that. Of course, customer service situations sometimes demand that certain idioms be avoided. But grammar does not.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        debbiel Sep 18, 2013 06:58 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        "It's not being used incorrectly though."

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Exactly. Thank you, cowboyardee.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          maria lorraine Sep 19, 2013 02:59 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Inexact, inappropriate, incorrect, meaningless, rote, tired, incommunicative, and wrong in customer service.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Some of you feel otherwise.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          I don't care for the meaningless "How are you/fine"-type
                                                                                                                                                                                                          exchanges either. Though it is possible to make even
                                                                                                                                                                                                          those banal exchanges come alive with a special
                                                                                                                                                                                                          inflection or musicality in the voice.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            MelMM Oct 2, 2013 07:56 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Your post reminds me of the characters in Wendy Wasserstein's novel, "The Elements of Style," who would say, "How ARE you?" With quite a bit of inflection and musicality, and yet were as insincere as could be.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        sueatmo Sep 16, 2013 08:19 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                        Yeah, OK. I'm 66 and if someone responds to my thanks, and says "no problem" i have "no problem" with it.

                                                                                                                                                                                        The chief reason for objecting to language usage, IMO, is if you don't get the meaning from the response. We all understand it when someone uses the term, "no problem." Get over it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          mrbigshotno.1 Sep 17, 2013 06:49 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                          "Get over it", another one.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            ricepad Sep 17, 2013 08:54 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                            Ooo. "Get over it". Big Problem. That one has always struck me as negative, rude, and condescending.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              LeoLioness Sep 17, 2013 09:15 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                              Isn't that sort of its intention?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                sueatmo Sep 18, 2013 07:31 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                In this case, yes. I don't mean to be rude, but yes. I think that phrase communicates pretty well, no?

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                                                                                                                                                                                          Bkeats Sep 17, 2013 10:03 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                          I just finished reading all 103 posts at the time I came across this and I have to say this is a thread in search of a point. I am pre-1980 but not of AARP vintage yet and I've been using no problem forever. I find it hard to believe that people are reading so much into that simple response. The issue with that response starts from a dubious point. Thanking someone for doing their job. Its their job, why are you thanking them? But I say thank you all the time, even try and remind the offspring to do it because its polite. But there is way too much meaning being piled onto small everyday pleasantries we all exchange that are of little or no actual meaning. Hate to think what some of you may think when I throw out the casual "thanks" instead of the formal "thank you."

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                                                                                                                                                                                            fara Sep 17, 2013 03:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                            I disagree. I have only read ops post but I think it's a shame we don't say " you're welcome " more often. Never mind enjoy or Bon appetit before eating. Nothing to do with what we do say, but rather what we don't. It is usual to answer a thank you with " mmmhmmm".

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                                                                                                                                                                                            zillabreeze Sep 17, 2013 05:18 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                            I don't care for "No Problem", but it won't wreck my day to hear it.

                                                                                                                                                                                            OTOH- when someone in the service industry replies to my "Thank You" with "My Pleasure", I feel all cozy and civilized.

                                                                                                                                                                                            1. sunshine842 Sep 17, 2013 05:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                              couldn't find a lot of etymology, but it looks to have been first documented sometime in the 1960s....which means it's been around nearly 50 years -- nearly old enough to belong to AARP itself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                saltylady Sep 17, 2013 05:46 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                MY husband who is 64 has been using that phrase since at least 1980 . The only person who was ever annoyed by it was my dad who was a pain for vocabulary and punctuation ...

                                                                                                                                                                                                Language is fluid and evolving . I guess younger people might want to be "clued " in to how to get higher tips , but might think
                                                                                                                                                                                                that the person offering this clue was out of touch with modern English generally older than most of his customers .

                                                                                                                                                                                                1. Withnail42 Sep 17, 2013 05:56 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                  Not a problem as I don't think that I have ever thought about it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    ricepad Sep 17, 2013 05:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                    For those posters for whom "no problem" is a problem, do you worry about "no worries" as well? I've noticed it creeping into American English usage more and more over the last few years. It doesn't exactly bother me, but it strikes me as odd-sounding, for some reason.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      bulavinaka Sep 17, 2013 06:42 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      "Not a problem," is also a response to "thank you," that I've been hearing a lot lately. I like the brevity and casualness of "no problem." It's weight in conversation seems just right to me. Whereas, "not a problem," seems to rub me the the way that "no problem," does to those bothered by that response.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        sunshine842 Sep 17, 2013 07:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Nope. It's common usage in other English-speaking parts of the world.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Much like saying someone is in hospital vs. someone is in *the* hospital, or you're moving house versus just moving, or "chalk and cheese" rather than "apples and oranges".

                                                                                                                                                                                                        Just a different way of saying the same thing.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        In a world where intentional offense is unfortunately common, I just don't have the energy to try to find offense where none is intended.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        1. maria lorraine Sep 17, 2013 11:47 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Younger people often tend to offer alternative responses when thanked, especially during less formal situations. By saying "no problem," the recipient of the gratitude is actually saying "this act or service did not inconvenience me in any way." The difference is subtle, but for some people "no problem" puts slightly more emphasis on the recipient's personal welfare. A ticket agent who provides an airplane ticket for a customer, for example, is only performing one of his or her normal tasks. If the customer says "thank you," a more formal "you're welcome" would be considered more appropriate than "no problem."

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Some people compound this grammatical and social dilemma by offering even more informal responses such as "no prob" or the pseudo-Spanish "no problemo." While the sentiment might be perfectly acceptable, the informality could definitely be seen as inappropriate to the occasion.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Some etiquette and grammar experts would prefer to see the complete eradication of "no problem" from the popular vernacular, but others believe it is not as offensive as other possible responses or even non-responses.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          So for the foreseeable future, it would be perfectly acceptable to issue a "no problem" in response to a friend's informal expression of thanks, but avoid using it during more formal or professional situations.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          ~ http://www.wisegeek.org/why-do-people...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            JonParker Sep 18, 2013 12:19 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                            I know I'm going to regret replying to this (hi thread! welcome to my profile forever!) but I think it's important. It used to drive me insane when people would use poor spelling, grammar, and inane abbreviations when communicating. But I realized that this is how language evolves, and that remaining mired in the past does me no good at all.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Don't give me the argument that it holds you back professionally -- I had a mid level white collar job where people who earned six or seven times my salary sent out memos rife with misspellings and poor grammar.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            I'd be lying if I said that some of it doesn't bug me ("Y" is not an acceptable substitute for "why"), but that's my problem. Our methods of communication have evolved and so must our mores.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            And in the end, some of it is good. What useful purpose does the it's vs. its division serve? Sure, I know and can use the difference, but are there instances where the meaning is confusing, or is it just annoying to a bunch of spelling perfectonists? As far as I'm concerned, the apostrophe can and should land on the trashheap of langage.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            All changes to the language come down to the traditionalists vs. common usage. I think its (sic) time to accept the inevitable.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              Shrinkrap Sep 18, 2013 01:04 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                              I'll probably regret this this too, especially since I make a LOT of typos, but I think these are simple ways of adding a good or "less good" impression. I'm wondering if being persnickity (sp?) about this a function of reading? I can't imagine how my kids and I ended up so sensitive about this. They LOVE to drive me nuts by saying "first off" and "these ones".

                                                                                                                                                                                                              And in my business, I've learned to almost NEVER ask someone how they are doing unless I sit down, look them straight in the eyes, and MEAN it!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                jrvedivici Sep 18, 2013 04:23 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                Nice to know not only my opinions drive you nuts, but my delivery of them probably does as well! Lol

                                                                                                                                                                                                                This made me think of the well known and popular book "The Fifty Shades of Grey". While I've never read a page of the book, it has been conveyed to me that the grammar and spelling are poor throughout the entire story.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                Many of my female friends who similar to you, are driven crazy by grammatical and spelling mistakes said the book was unreadable.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                That didnt* seem to deter the millions of women who purchased the book and loved it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                * that apostrophe was added to the trash heap in your honor Sir.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 06:00 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I only regret that I can hit "recommend" but a single time.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Well-said, sir, especially the part about people earning big bucks who can't string together a cogent sentence, spoken or written.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  debbiel Sep 18, 2013 07:02 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  So when that ticket agent responds with, "You're welcome," she is saying what? "You are welcome..." to buy a ticket on our airline?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                3. Motosport Sep 18, 2013 06:56 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  "No problem" is never a problem until there is a problem!! It irks me to here those words.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I also find that when I am speaking with a customer service rep regarding most anything they have a habit of ending their statements with "OK!"
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I guess they are prodding me to be in agreement with them which many times I am not so I will say, "No, that's not OK."
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  There is a pause at that point. They may actually have to solve a problem to my satisfaction and then it will be "OK!"

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  1. pinehurst Sep 18, 2013 07:24 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I teach the English language (and faves like Oscar Wilde) for a living, and I think all the posters are great, no matter what.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The fact that people are engaged in a discussion about language, formality, and courtesy makes me so happy that I want to applaud.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    (Side note--in my travels, some days are so horrific in terms of social niceties/common courtesies that when I get *any* vestige of a "thank you" or a "you're welcome", I welcome it. Yesterday I let someone merge into my lane in bumper-to-bumper hell on Route 128, and he waved and shouted thank you. Yes, after I recovered from my swoon I said "You're welcome!" Usually it's just swerve, glower, swerve)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      debbiel Sep 18, 2013 07:44 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      "...a discussion about language, formality, and courtesy..." I think I love you. I'm a sucker for the Oxford comma.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      I do wish there were more waves and thank you's and smiles for small and random acts in our sometimes dreary days. Good on you for letting the other driver in; good on him for acknowledging your act.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        pinehurst Sep 18, 2013 08:26 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        :-)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 09:01 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          a small amusement regarding the Oxford comma: http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/oxfo...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            debbiel Sep 18, 2013 09:20 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                            :) I love that one. I have been public enough about my love of the Oxford comma that FB pals frequently send me these types of posts.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Motosport Sep 18, 2013 07:45 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I usually get a one finger salute!!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            pinehurst Sep 18, 2013 08:26 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Oh, that too, my friend. That too. Or the hairy eye in the rear view mirror.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        3. JoanN Sep 18, 2013 11:16 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Ha! I just sent an e-mail to my mother's estate attorney saying I'd already done something he'd asked me to do and asking if I had to do it again. His complete reply: "No problem." I have no idea whether this means yes I do or no I don't.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 05:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                            now *that* would send me over the edge -- not because of "no problem", but because it's not an answer, and now I have to send another email asking the same question. Again.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              sandylc Sep 18, 2013 06:08 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                              The number of people not reading emails in entirety seems to be growing. Very frustrating.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                sunshine842 Sep 18, 2013 06:39 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                exceeded only by the number of people who don't bother to read a discussion before posting the exact same thing that's been said six times before. (NOT aiming at anyone here...)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  sandylc Sep 18, 2013 06:46 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  "But this one is so-o-o-o long..." she whines....:-)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    ricepad Sep 18, 2013 06:49 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    It's for marinating.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Wahooty Sep 21, 2013 07:52 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      I swear, I'll never skim before replying again. My bad. ;)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  sandylc Sep 18, 2013 01:20 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I am a language curmudgeon. Yes, the phrase "no problem" bothers me. That said, I understand that all languages are living, changing entities.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  My husband deals with non-native English speakers pretty much daily via email. Many times he has come out of his office feeling questioning, worried, or even offended by the wording of one of these emails. After deliberating it, we usually decide that the person on the other end didn't mean what it looks like they meant.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  The same could be applied between different generations or regions using the same language.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Steve Sep 18, 2013 02:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Don't mention it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Seriously, don't.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Bkeats Sep 18, 2013 03:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Geez. Who knew there was such a problem with no problem.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      1. sal_acid Sep 18, 2013 07:55 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        "No problem" is part of the decay in service. No standards are set. I always cringe a bit when a 20 year old server addresses my 50 something wife and me as "you two". Like you know us? We are your peers?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Why not just sit on the edge of the damn table and paint your nails as we chat about whatever the hell is going on in your life?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          debbiel Sep 18, 2013 08:02 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Really? You went from "no problem," a common idiom across ages, to THAT?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            sal_acid Sep 18, 2013 08:18 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Not at all a "common idiom across ages" (whatever that means). Are you over 18?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              debbiel Sep 18, 2013 08:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Ha! Well over 18. "common idiom across ages" means, of course, that it is a common idiom used by people at a variety of ages.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                JonParker Sep 25, 2013 02:04 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                I'm also well over 18, and I really don't care what they call me as long as they're being nice. I can't imagine getting bothered by something minor like that.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              juster Sep 18, 2013 08:27 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              My Gram (@93, rip) and parents (84, 77) were/are always slightly stunned/discomfited by a certain 16-year-oldish server at a local restaurant addressing them as "kids".

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                LeoLioness Sep 19, 2013 10:18 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                So when you make a reservation, note that you prefer being called "your highnesses". Problem solved.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  eastofnevada Sep 23, 2013 06:38 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Well, what would you prefer? Because honestly, it's damned if I do, damned if I don't. I have people who hate "you guys" (which is quite common where I'm from, and not a big deal), and apparently you hate "you two", some people hate "folks", and others hate "you all". "You two" is about as innocent as it comes.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I definitely am not trying to be friends with customers. I'm trying to get them their food efficiently, and be pleasant and helpful at the same time. I didn't realize saying "you two" was like being BFFs.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    ursy_ten Sep 24, 2013 05:53 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I would prefer that servers would just be able to concentrate on doing their job and not have to be mind readers and worry about what possibly might or might not offend somebody.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    You're right, damned if you do, damned if you don't.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    What's just as bad is when your boss thinks you should be doing one thing but your customer thinks you should be doing something different and you get it from both sides. Ahhh... reminiscing about the good old days waitressing in my youth...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    dsg514 Oct 2, 2013 09:11 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    They are trying to be friendly. To be honest, they are probably not spending too much time thinking about your linguistic eccentricities because they are running around serving 10 other tables at the same time while making $2 an hour. How else would you prefer they address you? "Sir" and "Mi'lady"?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  3. paulj Sep 18, 2013 07:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    This afternoon I helped a neighbor get hold of his dog, and he said 'Thank you'. My automatic response was 'uh-huh' (the muttered 'yes'). In effect I acknowledged his thanks in a low key way. 'You're welcome' would have been too formal. 'no problem' might have been appropriate, except I wasn't rendering a formal service, just helping.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      sal_acid Sep 18, 2013 08:20 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Different settings have different expectations. You did well.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      "Uh-huh" from an waiter would be inappropriate.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        greygarious Sep 18, 2013 08:38 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        In this instance, IMO, "uh-huh" comes off as dismissive, as though you grudgingly came to his aid. "You're welcome" would have been entirely appropriate, as would "no problem", because helping him was not something you were required to do. NP in this instance means you don't mind being inconvenienced in this way. NP when what you are being thanked for is something it's your job to do is what is annoying to many of us. Other appropriate responses to being thanked for helping corral the dog include: "My pleasure", "Any time", "It's nothing", "Happy to help", "That's what neighbors are for"....

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        So this bothers you but people who answer "Thank you" with "Uh huh" doesn't??

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          sal_acid Sep 19, 2013 10:07 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Depends all on inflection and circumstances.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          bronwen Sep 19, 2013 10:11 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I hate it, the word "problem" is a negative hard word so it is not very relaxing. Once in a bad mood when the waiter replied "no problem" to everything we said I did call him on it.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Spaniards say "it's a pleasure to serve you" which is very pleasurable!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            paulj Sep 19, 2013 10:21 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            The more common Spanish word is 'nothing', nada.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/9169...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              debbiel Sep 19, 2013 10:22 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              I have never had someone in Spain say, "It's a pleasure to serve you" to me. Maybe I'm just quite unpleasant to serve. I posted this above, but in order of frequency, what I have heard in Spain:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              de nada
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              con mucho gusto (with much pleasure)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              el gusto es mio (the pleasure is mine)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              es un placer (it is a pleasure)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Obviously those last three our similar to what you wrote in that they include the word pleasure, but they are much less formal in that they don't include "to serve you."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              What do you respond when a cashier hands you your receipt and says 'Thank you' (meaning, presumably, 'thank you for shopping with us')?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                sandylc Sep 20, 2013 01:19 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Wrong or right, I will sometimes just say, "Thank You" back to someone who is thanking me. Goes back to a long-ago etiquette class when I was taught that, in social situations where there is doubt about what to say, the phrase "Thank You" can almost always be uttered successfully.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  monfrancisco Sep 20, 2013 03:12 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Oh boy! Heading into the recursive thank-you vortex, yeah. I sometimes respond with a "Thank you" because the cashier has just nicely handed me my bags and receipt. Sometimes I think of my reserved but friendly and invariably polite father who gave a heartfelt "You're welcome," and follow suit. It's a little hitch in my day; I don't have an auto-response.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  In answer to the original question, I don't much like "No problem" and have some hesitations about "You're welcome." I'm in the "My pleasure" camp for the most part.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    nocharge Sep 20, 2013 06:02 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Unlike that MTV guy, I don't suffer from the horrible affliction of taking idioms too literally and dwelling on it. But if I did, I would probably consider "my pleasure" as a response to "thank you" as insincere in many situations. If I say "thank you" when handed my receipt at a supermarket and the guy who gives it to me says "my pleasure" in return, I would highly doubt that there is a lot of pleasure involved on his side unless I believe that he really, really enjoys doing his job as a check-out clerk.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Come to think of it, following the logic of the MTV genius, am I insulting the check-out guy by saying "thank you" when he gives me my receipt? He is only doing his job so thanking him for that seems to imply that I think that he doesn't always do his job and that I'm expressing gratitude that he did in my case.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  thingmaker Oct 1, 2013 02:03 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Good heavens. I was born long before 1980. I can't imagine being offended by the phrase unless it was delivered with a sneer. It's just a phrase and IME is simply intended as a friendly response.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  If it's said with a smile, it's nothing to get one's panties in a wad over.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    globocity Oct 1, 2013 02:25 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I'm having trouble with abbreviations such as "IME" and "IIRC".

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      greygarious Oct 1, 2013 02:53 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      I would be lost without www.acronymfinder.com - or is that IWBLWWWWAFC?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  2. EarlyBird Oct 1, 2013 02:31 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Thank you. Thank you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Add to the list (as I imagine others already have on this thread) "no worries." "No problem"? "No worries"? I was not assuming I was giving you a problem to ask for the check, or another cup of coffee, nor did I expect you'd be "worried" about these requests, either. I was saying "thank you" because I am a polite person who respects others.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Oh, and don't even get me started on "Um-hmm," as the answer to a customer's "thank you. That would be a firing offense if I owned a restaurant, and yes, I've worked in plenty of them.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I don't care if this sounds like I'm getting old (I'm not yet 50). But to quote George Costanza, "We live in a society!"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      greygarious Oct 1, 2013 05:34 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Agreed. I dislike the "no problem" and am iffy on the "no worries" since I equate that one with "hakuna matata", so to me it's more upbeat. Much depends on the inflection with which the response is spoken, and in my experience, the "uh-huh" is delivered in a desultory manner that is nothing if not dismissive of the customer (or whoever it is that said thanks). It's only the slightest of margins better than the sullen grunts with which teens respond to their parents. It's a society, all right.....slouching toward the one in Lord of the Flies.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Veggo Oct 1, 2013 05:57 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I concur. Regrettably, on several occasions on CH, one very recent, I have made reference to the same William Golding novel, and of course not in a flattering context.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        paulj Oct 1, 2013 07:55 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        like this?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/9169...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          EarlyBird Oct 7, 2013 10:46 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sorry, Paul. I don't understand.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        ebchower Oct 6, 2013 06:23 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Not sure if this has been mentioned among the many replies.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        100 Things Restaurant Staffers Should Never Do (Part 1)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        http://boss.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/10...

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        41. Saying, “No problem” is a problem. It has a tone of insincerity or sarcasm. “My pleasure” or “You’re welcome” will do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          sal_acid Oct 6, 2013 07:13 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Excellent list! Eric Ripert has something similar.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Should be posted in every restaurant.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            JonParker Oct 6, 2013 10:09 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            It should be pointed out that the restaurant failed, and that many people took an instant dislike to him because of that list.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              nocharge Oct 6, 2013 08:26 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              I find that list to be largely made up of common sense items, many of them trivial.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "87. Do not stop your excellent service after the check is presented or paid."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              OK, sage advice to be sure.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              But he still manages to sneak in stuff I don't get, e.g.,

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "78. Do not ask, “Are you still working on that?” Dining is not work — until questions like this are asked."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              I get asked that question all the time and I just interpret it as a standard way for a server to ask if it's OK to take away my plate. What is wrong with that? "Dining is not work" Yeah, talk about overanalyzing a phrase. Is the guy who wrote that list related to the MTV genius?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                jen kalb Oct 9, 2013 01:41 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                the fact that they say it does not mean that its an attractive expression - plenty of us find it irritating. Knowing that, its a lot easier for servers to change what they say - they are speaking to patrons with some food left on their plates many times every evening - than for me to adjust my reaction when I hear the statement only occasionally.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  EarlyBird Oct 9, 2013 04:06 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Ripert is attempting to create a certain standard for his wait staff. I understand that.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  I am certainly not bothered by "are you still working on that?," but it is a bit...truck stop. "May I take your plate?" seems a bit classier.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  If I ran a restaurant - and I've worked in numerous ones - I would pay a lot of attention to the little aspects of my wait staff's interactions with customers. Finer points can really make the difference between good service and excellent service.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    nocharge Oct 9, 2013 05:35 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I would be far more disturbed by "My I take your plate?" unless the plate is so empty that it's pretty much obvious that I'm done. A server asking to take away my plate before I'm done would seem to be anything but classy. Better to inquire whether I'm done eating and that's what "Are you still working on that?" seeks to accomplish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      EarlyBird Oct 10, 2013 09:05 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Even better, I prefer the waiter to obviously see some sign of me being done, and just taking the plate.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        ricepad Oct 10, 2013 12:26 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        My grandmother once had a protracted tug of war over a plate that had only a fish head left on it. To the waiter, she was obviously done. To my grandmother, she was just getting to the good part! She was afraid to put down her utensils, because every time she did (to take a drink, for instance), he'd swoop in and try to take the plate.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          greygarious Oct 13, 2013 12:19 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          As a culture we have largely abandoned rules of etiquette that, if employed, make such verbal exchanges unnecessary. Done with your plate? Place the knife and fork across it, spanning from 10:00-2:00, or crossed over each other. A well-trained server knows these are signals that the diner is finished. But these days, it's not likely that either the average diner or server knows them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            sunshine842 Oct 13, 2013 01:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            or side-by-side at 4:00 -- the more common sign.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              nocharge Oct 13, 2013 03:24 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Many years ago, during a business trip to Europe, I was having dinner at a fancy restaurant in Zurich. A colleague seated next to me noted bewilderedly that his plate wasn't removed even though it was obviously empty and the waiter was hovering right behind him. I told him that it was because he hadn't put his knife and fork in the right position for the plate to be taken away. He had placed his knife and fork crossed over each other and he responded that it was the correct position "according to Emily Post." I reminded him that we were in Europe and made him use the correct European position. A split second later, the waiter swooped in and removed the plate.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Just out of curiosity, I dragged the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette out of my bookcase and it only mentions the side-by-side position of the knife and fork, not the crossed-over one. Clearly, this is an area where there is some confusion as to what is "proper etiquette."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                sunshine842 Oct 13, 2013 03:52 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                there was a fairly long conversation about it not too long ago here on the boards -- while there were some who had been taught 8:00 (IIRC, no guarantees), the overwhelming consensus was to place utensils side-by-side. (I've been known to overlap the tines of the fork over the knife if one or both have round handles given to rolling)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      ratgirlagogo Oct 9, 2013 01:15 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      And if you really want to get some perspective on how reasonable and even-keeled Chowhounders actually are (yes, even on the Not About Food Board!) compared to the readers of the online New York Times, set aside some time to read the comments on that blog post. Yowza.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    nocharge Oct 6, 2013 03:29 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    So the blogger thinks that "no problem" has a tone of insincerity whereas "my pleasure" doesn't. Really? Let's say that a guy at a restaurant pours me a glass of ice-water and I say "Thank you!". If his response is "My pleasure!", should it be interpreted as that he finds pouring water pleasurable or that he is just doing his job and needs to work to feed his family? If the latter, does it come across as sincere?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The poor people who suffer from the horrible affliction of taking idioms too literally really need to get their act together when it comes to the "no problem"/"my pleasure" sincerity issue.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      paulj Oct 6, 2013 04:13 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      You don't understand. If it isn't a phrase that I use regularly, then I don't recognize as an idiom, and I'm going to look for all the hidden meanings I can. If I'm in a grumpy mood, I'll see insincerity. The only thing that will satisfy me is a strict adherence to the standards of politeness that I was raised with. :)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Sounds like the trick to being a financially successful server is to quickly and accurately pigeonhole the customers. This one would like an informal friendly greeting. That one expects extreme politeness. Another prefers to be left alone except for the business at hand.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        sunshine842 Oct 6, 2013 05:56 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        so the success of the server (and therefore your tip) depends entirely on the discourse going on in your head, which is entirely dependent upon your mood?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        This server is expected to accurately gauge your mood AND be familiar with the standards of politeness that you were raised with?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Is there a server on the planet who will or has ever successfully meet your standards?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          JonParker Oct 6, 2013 06:00 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I'm pretty sure he was being facetious.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        EarlyBird Oct 7, 2013 10:56 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        "No problem," and its equivalent, "no worries," indicates that the customer *could* have put the wait staff to some sort of trouble if, for instance, the customer had asked for something other than what was provided, but *this* time the customer didn't put anybody out.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        It is not a warm comment. It is an ungenerous comment, which puts the focus on the well-being of the wait staff, rather than the satisfaction of the customer. It's why classy, old school waiters and waitresses don't use it. They say "you're welcome," which suggests, "I'm here to please."

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          MelMM Oct 7, 2013 11:02 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Gotta say, several people have given this interpretation, but I couldn't disagree more. To me, "no problem" means, what I did for you was nothing (perhaps part of my job), and there was really no need for you to thank me at all. Whereas, "you're welcome" means, I accept your thanks, because I've done something for you, gone out of my way (in other words, it WAS a problem).

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Truth is, neither expression means much of anything. They are both just commonplace ways of responding, and I think it's best to give the responder the benefit of the doubt.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            EarlyBird Oct 7, 2013 11:55 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            In all fairness, I know I make WAY too much of this kind of stuff, and indeed, one should take the expression with how its intended. I'm just old fashioned in certain ways, and I see everything becoming so "casualized," that I feel I need to hold some line. I still would not allow my wait staff to use this phrase in response to a customer's "thank you."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            That said, someone can say "My pleasure!," or "You're welcome!" while dripping with hostility.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        EarlyBird Oct 9, 2013 04:31 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I just read Rule #88:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        "Do not ask if a guest needs change. Just bring the change."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        God bless that man.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      4. Bada Bing Oct 6, 2013 07:33 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I'm 50, so I lean to the geezer end of things. But I also teach at a college and see young people constantly. My interpretation: they do not say "you're welcome" to each other, as it's just too formal for them. When they omit "you're welcome" in a work context, they are just being young and, what is more, expressing a kind of comfort with you and the circumstances, because they do not feel on "formality alert."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Some patrons might find that a welcome attitude, while others could see it as a poor reflection on the youngster. For my part, I would sooner blame management. They're the ones old enough to have perspective.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          ebchower Oct 6, 2013 07:38 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          A while back there was a movie called The Contender with Jeff Bridges playing the President. He spends a lot of time calling the White House kitchen and ordering food. The response was always "no problem, sir." I suppose if it's good enough for the President.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            sal_acid Oct 7, 2013 10:48 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Not to prolong a tedious topic...

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Well. I won't prolong it damnit.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Motosport Oct 7, 2013 10:54 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              No problem!!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                EarlyBird Oct 7, 2013 11:55 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                No worries!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  bulavinaka Oct 7, 2013 03:13 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Absolutely...

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    ebchower Oct 7, 2013 04:22 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0UT-d...

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Toward the beginning, the waiter responds to a thank you with "my pleasure, sir." And you can guess what the last words spoken are.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                kitchengardengal Oct 8, 2013 03:02 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                That was a different situation, though, if I read you correctly. The kitchen was saying "no problem" to a request for service. The response wasn't to a "thank you".

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  ebchower Oct 8, 2013 07:41 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Yes, that is true.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            2. Motosport Oct 9, 2013 01:20 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "I'd like to order the marinated Porterhouse medium rare."
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "No problem."
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "Why would that be a problem?"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                EarlyBird Oct 9, 2013 04:06 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Or, "Oh goodness, I hope it's not a problem. This is a steak house, right? It is open to the public?"

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Just Visiting Oct 11, 2013 03:59 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                It's not a problem. It is a Seinfeld plot (a tv show about nothing).
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Now the use of apostrophes in plurals - THAT is a problem. The disappearance of the relative pronoun "who" - people are now individuals THAT do something - THAT is a crisis.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  kitchengardengal Oct 13, 2013 08:32 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  The growing frequency of rogue apostrophe's makes me crazy.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  An acquaintance had a half dozen plurals in an ad for her store,and just one had that apostrophe in there. Why that one, and not all? If you're going to do it wrong, can't you at least be consistent?

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    ebchower Oct 13, 2013 08:55 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I hope the rogue apostrophe in your first sentence was rhetorical.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      kitchengardengal Oct 13, 2013 09:14 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      ;-)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Of course!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        greygarious Oct 13, 2013 12:23 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Recently, Grammar Day - or Punctuation Day - passed by so far below public notice that I can't tell you which one it was!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          paulj Oct 13, 2013 01:00 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Blame it on a public reading of Green Eggs and Ham.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            ricepad Oct 13, 2013 08:22 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Or Green Egg's and Ham....

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