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Grill Your Own Steak

No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 06:46 PM

We are having a small dinner party, 6 people in total. We are having appetizers ( marinaded shrimp, empanadas, bruschetta and prosciutto,melon,bocconcini skewers ) followed by a fresh peach, onion and greens salad. For the main coarse we would like to have our guests grill their own fillet mignon on the BBQ. Would this be appropriate. We will all be sitting in our lanai as the BBQ is also in the lanai. Thanks for any feedback.

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  1. ipsedixit RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 06:51 PM

    What do you mean "appropriate"?

    1. hill food RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 07:02 PM

      for a casual evening on the patio/lanai/deck it sounds nice to me, I love to retain control over the doneness of my steak.

      1. Bada Bing RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 07:41 PM

        What's a lanai?

        Anyway, I bet some guests (if my own acquaintances are any measure) will not know how to cook a filet mignon as they prefer it. They might welcome someone else doing it to order.

        Sounds like a fun occasion.

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          flavrmeistr RE: Bada Bing Jul 28, 2013 08:04 PM

          One of the smaller Hawaiian islands.

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            Bada Bing RE: flavrmeistr Jul 28, 2013 08:11 PM

            Yes, I know. But the phrasing "sitting in our lanai" puzzled me.

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              flavrmeistr RE: Bada Bing Jul 28, 2013 08:26 PM

              Fancy word for "screened porch", I guess.

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                Bill Hunt RE: flavrmeistr Jul 30, 2013 09:06 PM

                The "screen" is not necessary.

                You could substitute "deck," or "patio," and be very close.


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                  flavrmeistr RE: Bill Hunt Aug 1, 2013 10:15 AM

                  Heh. It is where I live.

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                    John E. RE: Bill Hunt Aug 1, 2013 11:35 AM

                    I bet you would want that screen if you were still in NOLA. ; )

            2. re: Bada Bing
              hill food RE: Bada Bing Jul 28, 2013 08:37 PM

              think of a covered or shaded patio in a tropical location. an outdoor living/dining room.

              1. re: hill food
                iluvcookies RE: hill food Jul 29, 2013 04:19 AM

                On "The Golden Girls", they have a lanai. I thought it was what old ladies in Florida call their patio.

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                  hill food RE: iluvcookies Jul 29, 2013 11:18 PM

                  just those old ladies...

                  IIRC a screened-in lanai in FL is also called a '3-season room'.

                  in HI it's generally free and easy.

                  1. re: hill food
                    Veggo RE: hill food Aug 1, 2013 04:57 PM

                    I'm lucky to get 2 seasons out of my FL lanai. Bummer. Nice room, too friggin hot half the time.

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                      Steve RE: hill food Aug 2, 2013 10:37 AM

                      It's called a Florida Room.

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                        flavrmeistr RE: Steve Aug 2, 2013 10:47 AM

                        A Florida Room has glass. That's why it's too hot half the time.

                2. re: Bada Bing
                  No1Nonna RE: Bada Bing Jul 29, 2013 04:27 AM

                  These guests will know how to grill. A lanai is a covered and screened I porch.

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                    treb RE: Bada Bing Jul 29, 2013 04:32 AM

                    Depending on what area of the country you live in, a lanai is a porch, deck or a patio

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                      KaimukiMan RE: Bada Bing Jul 31, 2013 12:06 AM

                      A lanai is a roofed outdoor living space, usually abutting the house on one or more sides and either screened or not. It is not totally protected from the wind (thats the whole idea in the tropics) and only somewhat protected from rain, unless it is an 'enclosed lanai', usually with one or more walls of sliding doors or windows.

                      The 'balconies' on condos/apartments in Hawaii are always referred to as lanais, but they can be much larger and more useful than that. The old Governors Mansion has a lanai that is probably about 20 feet by 30 feet and is where most entertaining is done by the governor.

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                      wyogal RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 07:43 PM

                      How many will be standing around the grill tending to their own steak? Al 6 at once? No, I think it's kind of weird. One person at the grill, tending the steaks, taking orders for doneness.

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                        flavrmeistr RE: wyogal Jul 28, 2013 08:02 PM

                        Agreed. Some people shouldn't be allowed near the grill. Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen.

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                          juliejulez RE: wyogal Jul 28, 2013 08:42 PM

                          I agree w/ this... I can't see how letting everyone grill their own would even work, unless you're ok with everyone eating at different times.

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                            No1Nonna RE: juliejulez Jul 29, 2013 04:28 AM

                            I've we're thinking of having the men grill for themselves and their wives. It would just be 3 at the grill. The BBQis quite large.

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                              juliejulez RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 06:33 AM

                              Yeah I just don't get why... to me it seems like making the guests work for their food.

                              And, I'm a better griller than my other half is, so don't assume the man is the better one :)

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                                linguafood RE: juliejulez Jul 30, 2013 10:38 PM


                          2. re: wyogal
                            c oliver RE: wyogal Aug 2, 2013 08:53 AM

                            I was picturing what you describe. Not appealing at all. One person asks the others how they want their steaks and then they all get cooked at once.

                            Not that OP asked :), but my opinion is the apps are WAY, way too much. I was reminded not long ago that apps are named that because they're supposed to what the appetite not kill it. Just my two cents.

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                            mwhitmore RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 09:54 PM

                            A disaster waiting to happen...followed by litigation, at least if alcohol is involved.

                            1. emglow101 RE: No1Nonna Jul 28, 2013 10:09 PM

                              It looks like you have plenty of appetizers and salad.Serve exotic cocktails in your lanai.Then if people are still hungry. You can toss a couple of fillets on the grill. Slice thin and serve.

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                                No1Nonna RE: emglow101 Jul 29, 2013 06:29 AM

                                Planning on serving watermelon margaritas with appetizers and red wine with dinner.

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                                Chatsworth RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 02:24 AM

                                Why do you want people to do their own? So they can do it to their own preference/because you want or need to be doing something else/because you're not confident in your own skills?

                                My suggestion would be to have one designated host or guest (known to be competent or better) take specific orders for doneness and let her/him do the lot.

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                                  No1Nonna RE: Chatsworth Jul 29, 2013 04:31 AM

                                  My husband is a great BBQer. Heirs Argentinian born and can grill up an awesome steak. We just thought of all the fun we had grilling our own at a restaurant once and thought it would be a kind of different and fun time. We don't worry about the alcohol issue.

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                                    Chatsworth RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 05:45 PM

                                    In that case, I'd want your husband to BBQ. :-)

                                2. jrvedivici RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 04:00 AM

                                  Not sure what your motivation is for everyone preparing their own but like most others I don't like the idea.

                                  Filet Mignon by the nature of its cut (thick) is a very difficult steak to grill to correct temp. If any of your guests like their steak cooked beyond medium you should pre-butterfly those steaks ahead of time.

                                  My advice pick one person who knows what they are doing.

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                                    Puffin3 RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 06:43 AM

                                    With respect IMO I'd give the fillet mignon a pass. I'd go for rib eyes or strip loins. 'fillet mignons' have very little flavor and if BBQed are tricky at the best of times to get right.
                                    Just my opinion.
                                    I just can't see six adults standing in front of a hot BBQ poking away at their meat/s.

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                                      Bada Bing RE: Puffin3 Jul 29, 2013 06:53 AM

                                      That's what she said?

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                                        mike0989 RE: Puffin3 Jul 29, 2013 07:33 AM

                                        Most grills don't really have room to grill six rib eye's at once. Especialy consider there wil be some flare up and you will need room to move them around. Six fillets can be manageable.

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                                          wyogal RE: mike0989 Jul 29, 2013 07:35 AM

                                          OP said it was a big grill, large enough to have at least 3 men hover over it while the women folk, well, not sure what they do while the menfolk are cooking the steaks.....

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                                            KaimukiMan RE: wyogal Jul 31, 2013 12:11 AM

                                            No doubt the women are sitting in the background enjoying a second or third cocktail and quietly laughing at the caveman group gathered around the fire making grunty noises at each other pretending that they know when each steak is ready. It's especially fun to watch when cooking takes longer than expected and the flashlights come out in order to see how the steaks are coming along.

                                            Now if one or more of the women is interested in standing in front of a hot grill instead of sipping a cocktail, more power to her, and vice versa for any of the men.

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                                              c oliver RE: wyogal Aug 2, 2013 08:56 AM

                                              I've taught Bob everything he knows about grilling.

                                          2. re: Puffin3
                                            c oliver RE: Puffin3 Aug 2, 2013 08:56 AM

                                            Good points about fillets. On the rare occasion (like you, I don't think they have much flavor) I cook them, I do in a CI skillet and then into a hot oven and make a sauce to give them some flavor. For us, ribeyes are the go-to for the grill.

                                            1. re: c oliver
                                              flavrmeistr RE: c oliver Aug 2, 2013 10:15 AM

                                              Chateaubriand avec Bearnaise or Beef Wellington. It's a sin to hack up a tenderloin.

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                                            tzurriz RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 07:38 AM

                                            I don't like the idea, but then again, I am not one who would want to cook their own steak at a restaurant either. (the concept boggles me).

                                            You know your friends. If you think they'd all enjoy it, go for it.

                                            1. Atomic76 RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 06:45 PM

                                              Are they all really that diverse and picky and varied about the doneness of their filet's? If everyone is wanting medium to medium rare - I would just do all the cooking for them instead of making everyone crowd the grill like that.

                                              If there are people who want blood rare and others who want well done hockey pucks, then I guess the grill won't be crowded then since the well done folks will be getting theirs last.

                                              Or perhaps, you could just grill them to mid rare and slice them up and put them out on a platter for filet tacos, along with the shells and toppings of course. Then the people who want them a little more done can toss their meat on the grill for a little longer.

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                                                c oliver RE: Atomic76 Aug 2, 2013 08:58 AM

                                                The future well done ones go on first and then everything (in a perfect world!) comes off at the same time. ANother argument for one, skilled griller.

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                                                  Veggo RE: c oliver Aug 2, 2013 09:03 AM

                                                  With the skill and timing of a great orchestra leader, like Seiji Ozawa from his BSO days.

                                                2. re: Atomic76
                                                  John E. RE: Atomic76 Aug 2, 2013 09:18 PM

                                                  My mother used to joke about my father when he would ask people, usually family, how they want their steak done. He would ask everyone and my
                                                  mother would say something about why he was asking since they were all going to be the same, medium. I have since chosen to grill my steak on the rare side of medium rare.

                                                3. KarenDW RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 10:56 PM

                                                  I think it sounds like fun. Do whatever you think your and your friends would enjoy! It's your evening.

                                                  1. hill food RE: No1Nonna Jul 29, 2013 11:16 PM

                                                    yeah you could go uber-casual and just say 'here are the drinks, here are the sides, there's the grill - go for it in the order you like, as it's not a sprint, it's a marathon'

                                                    I'd be cool with that.

                                                    1. John E. RE: No1Nonna Jul 30, 2013 10:29 PM

                                                      As long as you are providing the steak, and your husband is experienced with this cut of meat, I think it is a terrific and fun idea to do for a backyard cookout, dinner, etc.

                                                      1. C. Hamster RE: No1Nonna Aug 1, 2013 04:25 PM

                                                        All I can do is scratch my head and say, "Why?"

                                                        On a bunch of different levels ...

                                                        1. dave_c RE: No1Nonna Aug 1, 2013 04:49 PM

                                                          I think one person should to the grilling so that everyone eats at the same time. It can be awkward to start your entree while other guest are still cooking.

                                                          However, if your guest are up for it, give it a shot.

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