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So Nigella's husband is filing for divorce

And apparently notifying her via a newspaper statement... what a jerk. JMHO

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  1. He says she didn't defend his honor and claims he abhors violence against women, and he didn't abuse her physically? There's photographic evidence!

    But it looks like things haven't been good for a year or so. She's well rid of him. He really is a putz.

    1. He's playing mind games with her and thinks this will get her crawling back asking for forgiveness. If she can't break away from this creepy daddy figure then the blame is on her. There are thousands of men who would take her in a flash and many have more dough than her if this is is a psychological prerequisite

      Satchi cast a spell ...he is (was) in advertizing after all

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      1. re: lastZZ

        at least have the courtesy to give her the heads up in person. If she won't take phone calls or texts you could still call her sister or her daughter to relay the news (or her publicist). Or send a letter. Although I'm guessing if he really did kick her out of the house this shouldn't be a huge surprise.

        1. re: lastZZ

          Nope. There are a million and one reasons why women (or men, for that matter) find it hard to leave an abuser, not the least of which is that she is most at risk of violence when she tries to leave.

          This does not mean it is her fault, or that she is to blame for not leaving. No, no, no. Absolutely not.

          1. re: Palladium

            She's got the money and support to move away, hire security, get home alarms put in, to get away from him and be safe.

            But certainly for normal women with average salary, probably kids and a job she can't leave would have a problem leaving.

          2. re: lastZZ

            I really wanted to leave this thread alone. I've got very intimate experience with an abusive relationship, and at no point does the abused person get "blame," even when they refuse to leave the situation.

            It's not that simple, and if you've never been in that situation you have no business passing judgment.

          3. I hope she stays strong through all of this...he claims that she choked him, too. (yeah, right...)

            Hoping karma catches up with him in a big way.


            1. Sad public stuff!
              I feel for her.

              1. I hope Nigella stays strong and has a great support system.
                This man is an abuser, both physical and psychological. His statement is outrageous, but true to form and probably emblematic of what Nigella has experienced for 10 years.
                Yeah, when my husband wants to get my attention he grabs my throat. Who doesn't?

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                  1. re: sunshine842

                    Any man who lays his hands on a woman like that needs to get his man card ripped up.

                  1. And they seemed so good together....

                      1. Yes, Nigella is a wonderful wife. I have read that she was so distraught that her husband and father of her children was dying of throat cancer that she had to find solace, even in Saatchi's bed. She is scheiss , he is dreck- a perfect match.
                        She deserves to be shunned.

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                          1. re: C. Hamster

                            Nigella 'began affair with dying husband's blessing'
                            by RICHARD SIMPSON, Daily Mail
                            Last updated at 17:30 25 July 2005

                            Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/...
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                            1. re: Vinnie Vidimangi

                              I think the headline is rather misleading. Also noted in teh article:

                              "However, the biography out in September claims the television cook 'is too noble a person and has too much integrity' to have had an illicit affair while her husband was alive."


                              "John gave Nigella his blessing that she could, even should, marry Charles after he had died," said Miss Smith. 'He realised the closeness of their friendship.'"

                              The physical comfort also described given by Saatchi could be nothing more than a hug.

                              1. re: LindaWhit

                                In the 20/20 hindsight category, this is just creepy:

                                "He [Saatchi] would be there all the time while they were being shot, passing notes to the director and camera crew," said Miss Smith.

                                Makes one wonder how much of Nigella and the foodgasms were Saatchi's idea.


                                1. re: sunshine842

                                  You're misreading that passage entirely. The person handing notes to the director and crew was JOHN DIAMOND. Who had to hand notes to them because his tongue had been removed.

                                  Not so "creepy" then, is it?!

                                  Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.

                              2. re: Vinnie Vidimangi

                                Oh please. I'm not buying that without a recorded statement.

                            2. re: Vinnie Vidimangi

                              That nasty gossip started as an accusation leveled against Saatchi by his ex-wife (the one before Nigella). That woman sounds like a real piece of work-- she & Saatchi deserved each other.

                              I have my doubts about the story's veracity. Especially since John Diamond's PARENTS were OK with Nigella remarrying.

                              Besides, the Daily Mail is one of Britain's worst gossip rags and has a reputation of getting its gossip mostly WRONG.

                              1. re: rjw_lgb_ca

                                It is always good to hear nice things about people.
                                England's libel laws are terrifyingly ferocious.

                              2. re: Vinnie Vidimangi

                                Wow- some people just need the drama, I guess.

                                1. Looks like the ugliness just continues. Now the husband is threatened to kill himself (allegedly) if she doesn't return.

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                                  1. re: Firegoat

                                    Interesting - Great Britain has a "preliminary divorce", which was granted 1 month after the choking incident, and then they wait another 6 weeks for an "decree absolute" for the full divorce.


                                    1. re: Firegoat

                                      let 'im.

                                      Saves the hassle of long, ugly court battles, he doesn't have to pay alimony or child support...

                                      1. re: Firegoat

                                        Boy, isn't that just the way with crazy controlling head cases? One of the ways, anyway. She's well shed of him, whether or not she's crazy too.

                                      2. And it goes from bad to worse. Now he's dragging the stepdaughter into the fray

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                                        1. re: Firegoat

                                          You're quite the Harbinger of Doom on this board aren't you..lol

                                          1. re: Firegoat

                                            For a man who is supposedly so private and reclusive, he sure seems to like calling up the tabloids and handing them deeply personal information to broadcast to the world…

                                            I can only hope he's a better father than he is a husband (which would not be saying much). And that his daughter doesn't take after him too much.

                                            1. re: Firegoat

                                              Really, everyone thinks he's an abusive bastard already. No need to keep proving it.

                                            2. No, no, Charles has been misunderstood. Nigella was talking at him and he was trying to keep her head from falling off.

                                              Play the video towards the bottom of the linked paged and see!

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                                              1. re: Vinnie Vidimangi

                                                The person I feel most sorry for is ME. I just wasted a minute of my life reading about what garbage smells like.