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The tip jar,Costanza.

emglow101 Jun 27, 2013 07:13 PM

I tip well when I go ot to eat. 30% or more for a good meal and service. I like the servers to see who tipped them. Ala George Costanza with the calzones.I'll wait for the waiter or waitress to take my money rather than leaving it on the table and walking away. Yeah, I know it's weird. Any other Costanza's out there? I'm just telling them " Thank You."

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    mwhitmore Jun 28, 2013 07:12 AM

    Virtue is its own reward. (Then again, so is vice.)

    1. Motosport Jun 28, 2013 02:11 PM

      My neighbor will seek out the server and give them the cash for the bill and tip. He'll never leave it on the table.
      Why? His father told him someone may pick it up. Odd!
      He also asks for no ice in his soft drinks.
      Why? His father told him you get much more drink.
      We loved our Friday night dinners with our neighbor and his departed dad. We miss him and his stories.

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      1. re: Motosport
        foodieX2 Jun 28, 2013 02:22 PM

        I can tell you that it is a fact that your tip can be "stolen" or even skimmed. I am sure it is rare but it does happen. Lots on dishonest diners and servers out there.

        I have a friend who does the "light ice" thing. He was complaining the McDonalds had a sign up stating that the drinks were always served with standard amount of ice. I guess people were taking advantage of the $1.00 sweet teas by getting even more by ordering with no ice and then going to soda machines for ice or going back up and asking for a cup of ice. Seriously?

        1. re: Motosport
          flavrmeistr Jul 2, 2013 09:55 AM

          Not that odd. I've seen people, including restaurant managers, scoop the tips off tables. If I tip in cash, I put it in the server's hand.

        2. mrbigshotno.1 Jun 29, 2013 11:20 AM

          Here's a tip story, Our son gave us a gift certificate to a Chinese buffet for$30. The young lady that waited our table was very attentive, water glass filled, plenty of napkins etc. The bill came to $19 +change, I gave the gal the GC and told her to keep the change. She was ecstatic(sp). She brought the bill and the GC to the old guy behind the register and this big argument in dialect started, I know that old SOB wouldn't give her that $. I was going to step in but didn't, I know that old bastard kept her tip.

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          1. re: mrbigshotno.1
            kpaxonite Jun 29, 2013 11:26 AM

            Not surprised...in the same way you don't get cash back when you use a gift card, you can't use a gift card to tip someone... I hope you left her a real tip.

            1. re: kpaxonite
              mrbigshotno.1 Jun 29, 2013 02:17 PM

              This was a one owner chinese place , not Target, he could have gave her the $.

              1. re: mrbigshotno.1
                hotoynoodle Jun 30, 2013 07:55 AM

                he's working on a much smaller margin than target.

                many places won't allow more than a small percent of the gift card to be returned in cash. in other words, if you have a $100 gc and buy a $3 soda don't expect $97 cash back.

                i understand the gc is bought and paid for, but that $9 appetizer and $30 entree isn't the "cost of goods". actual food cost isn't dollar for dollar menu cost (obvz) and many owners don't want to sacrifice their margin. the example above was a remaining 33% balance of the gc. that buys a lot of rice.

                agree it's poor customer relations.

                always, always, ask if the gc balance can be used for a tip. i worked for a large steakhouse chain that changed owners last year. previous owners allowed this, new owners did not.

              2. re: kpaxonite
                Hobbert Jun 29, 2013 02:20 PM

                I've used a gift card to leave a tip. Like you, I was surprised but multiple waiters have confirmed this is true. Not the case everywhere, of course.

                1. re: Hobbert
                  pedalfaster Jun 29, 2013 03:25 PM

                  This is new, and potentially useful info to me. I had NO idea. Would love to hear an attorney weigh in on this. I have to admit I am kind of shocked since the "gift card" is already paid for IN FULL. For change NOT to be returned (either as cash to the diner or as a tip to the waitstaff at the customer's direction) seems like an insidious form of theft to me.

                  Back to the tipping topic though...I always leave a tip in cash. Even if I pay for the meal by CC. Like the idea of the server having cash in his/her pocket at the end of a shift. It's such a crappy job and I just see that little thing as one sort of perk. Old fashioned perhaps.

                  1. re: pedalfaster
                    Hobbert Jun 29, 2013 03:58 PM

                    Why does it seem like theft? If I have a gift card, someone has given the restaurant, say, $100. If I only purchase $80 worth of food, why would it be theft for them to hand the remainder back to me so I can give it to the server? Obviously, I don't actually expect to get a cash refund- just used for illustration purposes. The biggest place I know of that does this is Outback. My grandmother gives us several gift cards for Christmas so I've done it many times.

                    1. re: Hobbert
                      pedalfaster Jun 29, 2013 04:40 PM

                      Uhm perhaps I was unclear, but yeah the "theft" was the 20 bucks "taken" by the restaurant...and not given to YOU the diner and the bearer of the gift card.

                      1. re: pedalfaster
                        Hobbert Jun 29, 2013 04:47 PM

                        Oh haha then yes, I completely agree.

            2. hotoynoodle Jun 29, 2013 12:41 PM

              one night at a new buzzy bar in cambridge mass., i was solo having a drink. a VERY sketchy dude came and sat next to me. i'm not easily put off, but simply didn't have the energy to fend off this weirdo.

              paid my bill, got change and left a tip.

              next day was actually chatting on the boston board about the place and turns out some other hounds were also at the bar. the bartender decided to not continue serving the guy who had driven me out so he then tried picking up the tip i had left to pay his tab!

              lol, other patrons intervened and turns out the guy had no money to pay so they kicked him out!

              i have worked in places that won't allow you to open the book, with change or cc slips in it, while on the floor because it looks kinda tacky.

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                salsailsa Jun 29, 2013 12:59 PM

                I don't so much care that they know I was the one that tipped them. I do care that the person who served me gets the tip. Obviously, I can't control pooled tips but if it's cash rather than a credit card slip, sometimes I'll just hand it to the server and say "this is for you."

                1. John E. Jun 30, 2013 04:56 PM

                  Do you tell people when it was you who actually paid for the big salad?

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                    treb Jul 1, 2013 07:21 AM

                    I always hand the tip to the counter person, I learned from this Costanza episode!

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                    1. re: treb
                      mwhitmore Jul 4, 2013 04:54 PM

                      But if he is handling food, he should not be handling money.

                    2. Bill Hunt Jul 3, 2013 09:12 PM

                      I add what I feel is correct, and the heck with it.


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