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How do folks feel about restaurant restroom attendants?

Do you tip? If so, how much? Does it vary if it's No.1 or No. 2?

Do you partake of all their goodies (e.g. mouthwash, cologne, personal toiletries, etc.)?

Do you *ever* feel comfortable with them just sort of standing there? Even with a stall separating the two of you? Like, are you OK passing gas like the Hindenburg just popped?

Personally, I don't like them.

I know why they're there, at least for certain restaurants/venues it is a necessity. But still ...

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    1. I've never seen one. Would make me uncomfortable. I would not partake in any of the goodies and have no idea how much to tip.

      1. it's been decades since i've seen one.

        i have "shyness" issues in public restrooms, so am not a fan.

        if personal care products are offered it's either not something i want, or not something i want to share, so i pass.

        1. I hate them. I'm capable of drying my hands without assistance, and if I needed to spray my hair with Aquanet, I'd carry my own giant can around. I especially hate signs that say the attendants aren't paid by the venue, and tips are their only source of income. Do not try to guilt me into paying you for a service I don't even want.

          But I don't think I've ever seen an attendant in a restaurant, only in places that were primarily bars or clubs and also served some food.

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            1. re: small h

              "I hate them. I'm capable of drying my hands without assistance,"

              You're also capable of seating yourself at a restaurant but I'm sure you let the host or hostess pull out your chair. In fact, why go to a restaurant at all? Aren't you capable of making and serving your own meal at home? I know this is extreme comparison, but if it is a service that the restaurant either provides or allows, why not just let it be. If you do not want to partake of the amenities offered by the restroom attendant, a polite no thank you is all it takes. I've done it many times when I did not feel like the service was needed and there were no adverse reactions from the attendant.

              "Do not try to guilt me into paying you for a service I don't even want."

              That "guilt" is all in your mind.

              1. re: ttoommyy

                I'm not sure what part of my post led you believe I do anything but "just let it be." Do you imagine that I knock the bowl of mints to the floor, or pepper spray the bathroom attendant? I don't.

                And your comment about being able to cook my own food is not an apples-to-apples comparison. I've chosen to go out and have my food prepared for me and served to me. But I have not chosen to have someone hand me a paper towel and expect to be compensated for it - that doesn't happen in department store bathrooms, or movie theater bathrooms, so why is it acceptable in a restaurant bathroom? A better comparison would be going out to a restaurant and having someone come to the table and try to sell me roses or gum. I don't like that, either.

                1. re: small h

                  When I said to "let it be" I did not think you physically did anything. I meant "don't even give it a second thought." Your use of the phrase "I hate them," and especially the use of the word "hate" led me to believe you are somewhat emotional about this subject. Sorry if I misinterpreted this.

                  "And your comment about being able to cook my own food is not an apples-to-apples comparison. I've chosen to go out and have my food prepared for me and served to me. But I have not chosen to have someone hand me a paper towel and expect to be compensated for it"

                  In my defense, I did say I was making an "extreme comparison." If the restaurant has a bathroom that offers this service, you have signed on for the whole experience when you decided to go to that restaurant. As for the tipping, does giving up a buck really bother you that much? Especially if it is a high end, total experience kind of restaurant?

                  1. re: ttoommyy

                    I feel strongly about a lot of things, but don't you worry about me; I've got plenty of energy for my white-hot passions.

                    There are many instances when I don't mind tipping at all. I once gave a guy $20 and four Marlboros for letting me follow his pickup back to town when I was lost in the fog on a peninsula in Baja. I would've given him more, but that was all I had (okay, I might've had a few more Marlboros, but that's between us). I just don't like the constant outstretched palms, in places they ought not to be. Ever have someone wash your windshield when you're stuck in traffic? Or wrestle your groceries away from you, when you'd prefer to bag them yourself? That's the category I put bathroom attendants in.

                    And I don't think I've ever seen a bathroom attendant in a high end restaurant, although I certainly might have and forgotten about it. I think it would detract from, rather than add to, the experience for me. Because I wouldn't feel pleasantly fussed over. I'd feel uncomfortable.

                  2. re: small h

                    If you see my post above, you'll note that in my local airport, which is a big one, there are attendants in the restrooms. So it is not limited to restaurants by any means. While this is becoming less common, the fact is, you can run into a restroom attendant in almost any venue. If you ever fly through Charlotte, I hope you are carrying some small bills or change. I don't need to be handed a towel, but I recognize that the attendants are keeping the restroom in better shape than it would be if there was just someone checking on it every couple hours.

              2. I've only seen them back east, they never bothered me. I went into a strip joint in NJ (this was 30 years ago) and they had a woman attendant in the mens room in a skimpy bikini.

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                  1. re: mrbigshotno.1

                    I trust you tipped her appropriately for the service(s) provided.

                    1. re: mrbigshotno.1

                      Hope they paid her well for enduring a biologically hazardous situation.

                      1. re: Isolda

                        I never thought of that but you are probably right on that.