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Nigella Lawson in an abusive relationship?

Reading the morning headlines online and stumbled across this. Which shows reports of Nigella being upset and choked by her husband at a restaurant! (apparently no one had cell phones?) I guess it's true everyone has their own problems.

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  1. The Daily Mail has the pics, of course.

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    1. re: EM23

      Just makes me sad. Obviously we don't know what really went on but she seems like such a nice and gracious lady. (to be fair, Kerry Vincent seems like a bitch on FN but upon meeting her she was ultra nice and friendly and a ton of fun). I just hope she's okay. Hate that her kids will have to hear about this in school as well.

    2. Nigella needs to get ahead of this story. Her career could take a hit on many levels.
      First and foremost, tho, she needs to get herself and her kids out, like yesterday.

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      1. re: monavano

        They are already out of the house. The hubby who so far is the only one talking said it was because of the papps. They wanted to get the kids away.

        1. re: Firegoat

          Hubby also says he was playfully choking Nigella. Yeah, cause that's how one plays!
          I wonder if he was an Average Joe and not so wealthy if his keaster would in behind bars by now.

          1. re: monavano

            all levels of creepy going on. I've always liked her and how she embraces what she does.

            1. re: Firegoat

              I agree; I like her too, and feel sad that all of this has to go down in the public eye.

            2. re: monavano

              She looked more alarmed than amused. Reports say he choked her repeatedly and no one intervened. Sheesh.

              1. re: mcf

                I spent a year (hell) doing ONLY domestic violence prosecution. This makes me so uncomfortable and itchy.

                1. re: Firegoat

                  It got "itchier" after her husband called it "playful" and said she cried because neither of them enjoy arguing in public. CREEP SHOW.

                  1. re: mcf

                    And then they talk about her relationship with her depressed mum ... just very sad.

                    1. re: mcf

                      Unreal. He's also implied that N. and kids are out of the house on his suggestion....to protect them from "the press".

                      1. re: mcf

                        He "plays" rough ... Or so the pictures show

                    2. re: mcf

                      I can't believe that so many people watched it all unfold yet no one tried to intervene and protect Nigella. How sad and disturbing! But this is the same society that drive Diana mad...

                      I hope she and her children are safe

                      1. re: Njchicaa

                        ABC News had something similar on their show "What Would You Do?" using actors where a guy was verbally abusive to his "wife" (who had makeup bruises on her face and arms).

                        The overwhelming majority of those interviewed did not step in, because of the potential of the abuser turning on them with a steak knife from the restaurant's table.

                        ETA: I do wish someone would have called the police, however - in both the WWYD? and Nigella situations.

                        1. re: LindaWhit

                          My brother and I confronted a guy who was being extremely rough with his wife/girlfriend in a public place. She called the cops on us.

                          1. re: donovt

                            Unfortunately, not unusual at all for the victim to protect the abuser.
                            You still did the right thing.

                    3. re: monavano

                      My curiousity got the better of me and I clicked out to find the pics.

                      Playful my ass.

                      Look at her eyes.

                2. Very hard to understand that no one intervened. Some bloke should have put this jerk in a choke hold.

                  1. I'm glad she and her kids have reportedly moved out. I wish I could un-see the photos. V. upsetting.

                    ~TDQ

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                    1. re: The Dairy Queen

                      TDQ: her "kids" are 18 & 19 y/o...

                        1. re: JonParker

                          Well... folks are speaking about them as if they were little children. And they're not. That's all, JP...

                          1. re: Gio

                            I'm still glad they are gone, though I understand your point that they might be a lot more vulnerable if they were very young.

                            ~TDQ

                            1. re: The Dairy Queen

                              Thanks TDQ. That's exactly what I meant. And I agree that it's better that they're all out of the house.

                              1. re: The Dairy Queen

                                Remember, the children were just kids when Nigella brought this man into their lives. Very impressionable.
                                I hope they can witness an end to the cycle of abuse, because chances are, they will continue it.
                                They've been exposed for a long time.

                                1. re: monavano

                                  We don't have any evidence that this was part of a cycle of abuse.

                                  It could have been a one-off thing.

                                  We're speculating too much.

                                  Anyway, Nigella seems to have left him.

                                  1. re: Roland Parker

                                    On the one hand I agree with you that there's a lot of unfounded speculation going on here.

                                    On the other, abuse is almost never a one off thing. If it's happening once, it's almost certainly happening other times.

                                    1. re: Roland Parker

                                      Actually, we do have evidence of a cycle of abuse. There is a picture of them in that same restaurant a few months earlier where he has his hand clamped over her mouth.

                                      1. re: MelMM

                                        I hesitate to round that earlier incident up to "abuse", although it clearly showed that Saatchi is a jerk. We now know that he is also delusional, since he apparently thought that people would accept "I held Nigella's neck repeatedly while attempting to emphasise my point" as a remotely plausible explanation.

                                        1. re: DeppityDawg

                                          Yeah, no bonus points for having avoided actual homicide.

                          2. I guess he turned himself into the police and got a police "caution." Sounds like a clever way to avoid a criminal charge.

                            http://eater.com/

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                            1. re: Firegoat

                              Saatchi told the London Evening Standard he came to this decision because "I thought it was better than the alternative of this hanging over all of us for months."

                              Saatchi told the Standard, "Although Nigella made no complaint I volunteered to go to Charing Cross station and take a police caution after a discussion with my lawyer."
                              ~~~~~~~~~~~
                              Jesus. Yeah, the lawyer told you if you didn't, you could face criminal charges.

                              1. re: Firegoat

                                A caution is common here (in the UK). It's issued entirely at the discretion of the police. Nothing "clever" about it as part of our criminal justice system.

                                https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Police_...

                                1. re: Harters

                                  But is it common for someone to go to the police to seek a caution before any complaint has been filed? The police were reportedly investigating the incident; would Saatchi's action not have been an effective strategy to bring this investigation to a speedy close, and prevent them from questioning Lawson and prying further into their relationship?

                                  1. re: DeppityDawg

                                    DD

                                    No, it's definitely not common for someone to go seek a caution. That's not to say that it's unheard of, and his solicitor may well have suggested it. And a caution certainly brings any criminal issues to a close.

                                    However. And it's a fairly big however. The caution is reliant on the police thinking this would be the best course of action, as opposed to arresting someone and bringing the case to prosecution, via the Crown Prosecution Service. One can only assume that the police considered the interests of justice were best served by this. The only information the general public has, is that which has been reported in the press. I assume the police have a better understanding of the likelihood of bring the matter to trial. On the face of it, their lenient view of the case seems at odds with what might reasonmably be expected in a domestic violence case -although anyone with experience in the criminal justice system will tell you they can be the devil to prosecute. First, there has to be a complainant and, second, the complainant needs to be willing to take the matter into court. It is a known difficulty - although who knows if there is anything of that in this case.