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Do you sometimes feel like you're being played by some other posters?

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I know this is an anonymous website. But my feeling is that most posters are honest about themselves and what they are saying here. I've been posting for about 3 years. If you've read my posts with any regularity, you have probably figured out that I am male, married with kids. I'm a professional of some indeterminate type who lives in New York. I do a fair amount of traveling and enjoy eating out regularly. I also am an avid cook. But I'm careful not to share too much. After all its an anonymous site.

I can glean similar information for other posters.

But then someone comes along and shares way more about the back story than is typical. The story is often compelling. Too compelling. Inconsistencies begin to appear. The timeline becomes jumbled. Statements are made that would not fit the character of the supposed poster.

I begin to doubt the veracity of the poster. I begin to wonder if I'm being played for some sort of fool or whether this might be some sociology student's thesis being researched. The individual takes on a personality just to see how innocent participants on the web will respond.

I won't name false names as I only have a suspicion. But the suspicion is ringing alarm bells.

  1. I give them the benefit of the doubt. there are those whose experiences seem a bit improbable but who knows? as long as they're entertaining and not offensive...or the basic information offered is accurate (about the topic, not their bio) ehh.

    contrary to a widespread belief, I actually do NOT speak 7 languages so who am I to point fingers? (of which I now only have 11 after a really bad experience with a brand-new Wusthof).

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    1. re: hill food

      Are you related to the 6-toed Hemingway cats in Key West?

      1. re: hill food

        Be careful with your digits, hill food.

      2. When the op drops out of the conversation early in the game, then I feel that he or she just wanted to start an argument. But that is only my opinion. I don't really know this.

        I do wish that more original posters would update us after we've discussed the issue at length.

        And of course sometimes they do update, and the discussion rages unabated.

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        1. re: sueatmo

          Or maybe they just wanted to give their opinion and have no interest in arguing incessantly?

          1. re: sueatmo

            when it's a last-minute travel food question and they drop out, I do sort of think to myself "this ain't 'Yelp' bub"

            1. re: hill food

              If you feel like that just ignore and move on. No requirement here to reply. I tend to answer those sorts of posters if I have something that I think will be helpful figuring you just never know who may turn out to be a great resource/hound in the future.

            2. re: sueatmo

              When the op drops out of the game early on but is arguing under another name or two.... It's been a problem here from very early on. I joined in 2001. I stopped looking here regularly in 2006. I came back "regularly" a few months ago again. It's a different place from back when... and the more things change the more they stay the same.

            3. Why does it matter, really? I neither know nor care what a poster's "back story" might be, It's the content about food and cooking that matters. If somebody says something that's wrong, there are plenty of others here to set the record straight. If a poster turns out to be a fool or a troll, best just to ignore him/her.

              It might be helpful to Bkeats (and to me) if Chowhound provided a "twit list" feature which we could set to filter out posters whose stuff we'd rather not see. I may have suggested it before; I do now.

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              1. re: John Francis

                That's exactly what I would like. There are just some I would like to ignore. They make it difficult when they respond to my posts.

              2. One poster plays me like a fiddle. Sort of a "Devil Came Down to Georgia" thing.

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                  1. re: Veggo

                    Now, who would do that to you and why just you?

                      1. re: mucho gordo

                        Someone who thinks I'm too vulgar. I don't know where they got that ****ing idea.

                        1. re: Veggo

                          Sometimes, when the stick is so far up someone's ass, it actually dents their brain. Proven science.

                      1. I enjoy this site.
                        I enjoy many others.
                        I try not to take anything "online" too seriously.

                        Eat well. Love well. Do good things.

                        1. It would be nice to ignore certain users- not to just personally ignore them but to have a feature that prevents you from seeing their posts.

                          1. I definitely think that there are Tall Tales posted on CH, but many of them are informative and amusing, so I don't mind.

                            1. I think there are some people who post under two or more different names. I also find it somewhat suspicious that some people only post to the general topic boards, not regional boards. Seems like if you're into food, you'd want to talk about food in your area.

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                              1. re: pley

                                I wish I could talk about food in my area, but the Australia / New Zealand region is rather slow-moving, and many of the posts are asking for trip advice about cities I'm not familiar with. No need to be suspicious!

                                1. re: ursy_ten

                                  Right, I should have been slightly more specific, what I had in mind were people in the U.S.

                                2. re: pley

                                  While I used to eat out at restaurants in the Boston area with more frequency, I do so a lot less now. I'm a creature of habit and tend to go to the same restaurants with friends, and am not going to continually post reviews about the same places. I'm not a trend-maker with food, nor can I afford to eat out as often as many hounds do.

                                  So.....I inhabit the GenTopics, Not About Food, Food Media and News, and Home Cooking boards.

                                  So I'm really sorry to be so suspicious, but I'm really just a boring person with no life to speak of who doesn't visit new restaurants to be the first to post about it on Chowhound's Boston board. :-/

                                  1. re: LindaWhit

                                    Being in the flyover country, my region is lumped in with a really huge chunk of territory. Very few of the regional comments have anything to do with anything even vaguely close to where I live. Hence my suspicious hanging out on the general topics.

                                      1. re: pley

                                        Ha ha! I suspected your suspicion so I promptly went and posted in my regional section.... which is way too dang huge and irrelevant. But I did it! And I didn't kill Col. Mustard in the library with a candlestick!

                                    1. re: LindaWhit

                                      I'm with you, Linda - I spend a lot more time posting in those categories than in the Southeast board. We are creatures of habit too, and while I do have opinions and reviews that I could (and probably should) share - that's what makes a great community - I just, um, don't. No great reason for it!

                                      My husband gets a little frustrated with me sometimes - I am pretty averse to trying new restaurants, *especially* if some of the better known Charlotte posters I trust haven't weighed in yet.

                                      But I have been meaning to write about my favorite fish market in town, so maybe that will be what gets me out of the shadows of suspicion :)

                                      1. re: ItalGreyHound

                                        The new-to-me places where I go, ItalGH, are places that have been reviewed ad nauseum by so many others, it's just not worth it. Again, I don't go to the brand new places that have been open for just a few months. They're usually not my style of place, so I'll leave that to others, suspicion be damned. :-)

                                    2. re: pley

                                      You realize that "they" are monitoring every post you make, every e-mail, every phone call?

                                      1. re: pley

                                        I very rarely post in my regional board--San Diego--because I live 30 minutes away and really do not eat out in that area. I do check that board regularly but it is not often I can add to a conversation.

                                        1. re: pley

                                          I don't think failure to post on your regional board is suspicious either. I read the DC area board but rarely post there as the majority of posts are about restaurants whereas I'm more interested in home cooking/markets/etc.

                                          1. re: pley

                                            I'm on this website mostly to cook delicious food at home. Not to eat in my region. Besides, my regional board is pretty slow. Traveler questions or an occasional review of a restaurant, but seldom are questions about products responded to. And, if they are responded to, it is usually by someone who responds to questions on many other regional boards. It's as if they have a nation wide staff posting under their name.

                                          2. I like to take people at face value... and if they're being duplicitous, I figure it's their karma, not mine. I can think of better ways to amuse myself, but if that's how they get their kicks, I just think: oh well, people are funny sometimes.

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                                            1. re: ursy_ten

                                              Yes, I feel exactly the same. I'm a pretty uncomplicated person and couldn't be bothered, personally, to adopt false personas, etc. If other people do, for whatever crazy reason, well so be it.

                                            2. Some folks may have lived different lives than you - lives that you may not easily wrap your mind around. I mean, when, over a decade ago, I quit a quarter million dollar a year job as a white shoe lawyer, laid low for a bit, and then took a job workin' for a local contractor, it confused my family so much I that I can't even explain it. I just wanted to spend more time with my wife and learn about construction.

                                              I have played with different ways to post information on the Site. That's why CBS sought me out and pays me - to challenge all of you.

                                              Then again, I'm not a thirteen year old girl.

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                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                What's a "white shoe lawyer"?

                                                  1. re: MGZ

                                                    If a white shoe lawyer steps in deep doo, do you become a brown shoe lawyer? I started there and hated it. Began looking for an alternative life immediately.

                                              2. Is the OP suggesting that, from time to time, folk might adopt an internet persona or identity which is not their own? Or not be entirely honest about what they write?

                                                Well, shock horror at that.

                                                Best I ever came across (different, non-foody board) was a guy who invented multiple characters, who would talk to each other - usually saying what a great guy the "real guy" was.

                                                Same board also had a guy who would flame, get banned, reregister under a different name, flame, get banned, etc, etc.

                                                1. I would counter Bkeats statement that this is an anonymous site. Only if you want to be.

                                                  Being the rule following person that I am, I filled out the profile when I finally joined the site. I am amazed that so few do the same. But it is your choice.

                                                  Have I been played? I don't think I am that noteworthy, but if it brightens some lost soul, I can handle it. I am here for knowledge and entertainment. That my entertainment tends towards double entendre's and salacious witticisms is periodically cleaned up by the monitors. (Sorry about that San Diego.) As long as I enjoy the site and the posters on it, I plan to remain a part of the community. (Low rent district in my case.)

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                                                  1. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                    "That my entertainment tends towards double entendre's and salacious witticisms is periodically cleaned up by the monitors"

                                                    Perhaps fortunately for my continued membership of this august board, the mods (and most readers) are generally not aware of the nuances of British double-entendre or slang ;-0

                                                    1. re: Harters

                                                      I always get a kick outta seein' who gets what.

                                                      1. re: MGZ

                                                        My vegan Irish friend had to explain one of your posts to this American Cousin. You naughty boy.

                                                        1. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                          At least you learned somethin'?

                                                        2. re: MGZ

                                                          I play on another, non-food, board which enforces a very strict "no current politics" policy. The board has a very high British membership who (me included) miss some overt political comments from American contributors.

                                                        3. re: Harters

                                                          Don't be too sure about that, JH...

                                                        4. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                          "Being the rule following person that I am, I filled out the profile when I finally joined the site. I am amazed that so few do the same. But it is your choice."

                                                          I've never once looked at a poster's profile. It's not information that I feel any need to have.

                                                          For me the choice was between using my real name and disclosing other personal information. Giving both plays into the hands of those who sweep up personal data from the Web, which is rather in the news just now. My choice was to give my real name. Others such as you prefer to conceal it with a "handle." Fine with me.

                                                          1. re: John Francis

                                                            You realize just how telling that is, right?

                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                Indeed. Pray tell.

                                                                I'm fascinated by the observation. There are boards where I use my real name and there are boards, like this one, where I use a handle but have my real name in my profile. There are no boards where I use a completely anonmous handle. Makes me remarkably easy to find should anyone be sufficiently arsed to want to do so.

                                                                1. re: Harters

                                                                  It seems to me that if you've never looked at another 'hound's profile, you have no interest in hearin' what they have to say. I like to hear your British accent, Harters. I like to know that Scoop spends time in Wilmington - I used to live there myself.

                                                                  If you look at mine, there is my name and the place I live, albeit somewhat cryptically presented. If you wanna be a part of the community, you should look at the stuff folks put up. There is a reason why I listed the restaurants I chose to list. There is a reason I selected my avatar.

                                                                  Otherwise, you just hear in the way you think. We're not all the same. We have, and continue to, live different lives. That's what makes it fun.

                                                                  Why people make the decisions they do are based upon their life to that point. I chose to change my life a few times over the years. Seemed like the way to make me and Mrs. Z happy. I reserve the right to change it a few more times.

                                                                  I know some people are truly uncomfortable with change. They want attention. They want fame. They want the brand they've created for themselves to be real.

                                                                  There was a time, when you googled my name, you'd get a bunch a quotes from me - mostly from financial newspapers. Now, maybe you just get a phone listing or some things about someone with a similar name. I like that.

                                                                  I don't want to be known or famous. I just wanna eat good and learn how to listen to my friends.

                                                                  1. re: MGZ

                                                                    What (who) IS your avatar? You live in Canada? I thought from your previous posts you live on the Jersey shore? 46 06' 16" N, 74 02' 08" W is in southern Quebec.

                                                                    I don't buy into the idea that its important to read other posters profiles in order to fully participate in this site, btw. Your own profile is a good case in point...if I looked at your profile I'd think you lived in Canada, and might discount your frequent posts about NJ, for example.

                                                                    1. re: carolinadawg

                                                                      "Tip of the cap." A sign of respect and appreciation.

                                                                      And, thank you for noting the typo. It's 40 degrees North.

                                                                      We just got the new FEMA map today. I gotta break it to Dad that he either has to raise the house I grew up in eight feet or pay twenty grand in flood insurance every year.

                                                                      1. re: MGZ

                                                                        Florida is expert at raising houses. Thank Hurricane Andrew.
                                                                        Get a contractor with Florida experience. And your current carrier may pay for it. Get a lawyer current on insurance for your area.

                                                                        1. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                                          Don't need a lawyer, just enough beer to get a seventy-five year old man to be able to take the news.

                                                                      2. re: carolinadawg

                                                                        "[I]f I looked at your profile I'd think you lived in Canada, and might discount your frequent posts about NJ, for example."

                                                                        Actually, I think that just made my point.

                                                                        1. re: carolinadawg

                                                                          I guess, what I'm sayin', dawg, is that it never hurts understanding what someone is sayin' when you respect where they're comin' from. I mean, you live in Charlotte, a city I must endure almost a week a year to visit Mrs. Z's kin. Doesn't seem like that's where you wanna hang your hat forever though. I don't blame you for that, but it's telling to those of us who choose to pay attention.

                                                                          I don't wanna be a dick, or anything, but, today's my day off, it's almost eighty degrees out. I'm gonna cut the lawn and go body surfing now. We're just different guys . . . .

                                                                          1. re: MGZ

                                                                            Enjoy your day off. I guess what I'm "sayin' " is that there are many pitfalls in attempting to glean significant information from a few words on someones profle.

                                                                            I can't imagine whats telling about my interest in living in Charlotte long term relative to my participation on this board, but if you think so, then have at it.

                                                                            Viva le différence!

                                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                                That water is awfully cold for body surfing!

                                                                            1. re: MGZ

                                                                              Thanks for the explanation, Matt. Appreciated.

                                                                    2. I'm not naive. I get the fact that some people want to try out alternative personalities on the web or stretch tales. But when you get the sense that someone might be making everything up, that individual doesn't add anything to a conversation. Just one guy's opinion.

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                                                                      1. re: Bkeats

                                                                        I value your opinion. And I agree about somebody making everything up. But I just put them into the entertainment side.

                                                                        Happy Fathers Day!

                                                                        1. re: Bkeats

                                                                          Bkeats, I know exactly what you're talking about. There *was* someone on CH awhile back who was discovered to have manufactured a fake character. Health details were a lie; military service details were a lie, etc. This person actually snookered a *lot* of us. Took awhile, but the Mods removed practically all trace of this person - but in addition, there were many good food threads that were perma-poofed into the Internet ether. THAT pissed me off more than this jerkwad getting their jollies by lying to us all.

                                                                          1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                            I always miss the good drama.

                                                                            1. re: Firegoat

                                                                              There were some very good amateur detectives on the threads on which this person participated, and they gave a heads up to the Mods to look into it. Lots of verifying information elsewhere on the Internet that this person was doing/saying the same thing elsewhere.

                                                                            2. re: LindaWhit

                                                                              Wow Linda, I had no idea. Must have been prior to my time here. Not just the lying but the time they wasted. Their own and everyone else's.

                                                                              1. re: Breadcrumbs

                                                                                That's just it, Bc. People like that don't think they're wasting their time. They get off on lying and drawing people into their make-believe life.

                                                                                Feel ever so sorry for them.

                                                                              2. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                +1, Linda, on the losing of good threads.

                                                                                It's why "What's for Dinner" starts at around #25. Shame.

                                                                            3. I do get tired of people who seem to be on the site with an agenda simply to argue about the absolutely most mundane things. I get tired just reading it.

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                                                                              1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                Firegoat, you've got skill. Put your elbow on the table and your hand in the air. If you don't wanna, . . .walk away. Another 'hound will and you can look back and get a chuckle.

                                                                                1. re: MGZ

                                                                                  Will I have to wear white shoes? I checked my wardrobe. I don't own any.

                                                                                  1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                    Me neither, but I have Popeye forearms.

                                                                                  2. re: MGZ

                                                                                    MGZ, I bet it's easier Said than done

                                                                                    1. re: Gastronomos

                                                                                      Are you a one percenter?.....:)

                                                                                    2. re: Firegoat

                                                                                      Ahh, yes. Some of the Food Media threads have that type of poster.

                                                                                      1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                        Hey, I changed my avatar to my corgi to make me more likable!

                                                                                        1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                          LOL! Not you, dear Firegoat. :-)

                                                                                          1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                            Look how cuddly I am now! But yes, there have been some weird posts on the media threads. I don't try to inflame (or I hope I don''t) but I like to report updates because I just personally find it interesting what crazy food people are doing. It can really set stuff off.

                                                                                            1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                              hahaha - don't judge me, but this is timely b/c I updated my avatar today. Only b/c it is the reason for my moniker though, promise! I do try to be as un-dorky as possible on CH...

                                                                                    3. It seems less common on chowhound than other forums...

                                                                                      1. I tend to take people at face (or avatar) value but I agree that once in a while you read something that gives you pause. As others have said here, I usually just chalk it up as entertainment or time I won't get back.

                                                                                        That said, what does bug me is if someone is passing something off as a recipe that they developed when in fact they've just copied it from somewhere else. It's the main reason I've never really taken to blogs. Though it rarely happens on Chowhound it does bug me if I notice it. Why not just credit the source and explain why this dish has been such a hit for you?

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                                                                                        1. re: Breadcrumbs

                                                                                          Oh good, if you take people at avatar value, I really *AM* skinny. ;-)

                                                                                          1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                            And now I'm cuddly!
                                                                                            A bit furry tho. Which might be true to life.

                                                                                            1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                              And I'm "One Green Banana"....

                                                                                              When I saw the topic of this thread I thought "great, here's another Site Talk thread to get me paranoid..."

                                                                                          2. Well, I suppose it is time for me to confess that I am Queen Elizabeth, and I was bored. At least that's what the attendant tells me.

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                                                                                            1. re: Gio

                                                                                              Mum, we're gonna have to delete this, take you to bed, and let little Charlie take over, OK?

                                                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                Oh, can't we just skip to William? Charlie's a bit long in the tooth. The new heir will be right along any moment now, anyway.

                                                                                                1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                                  I believe Charlie is a bit more big in the ears than he is long in the tooth..

                                                                                                  1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                    Point taken. It's Camilla who's long in the tooth.

                                                                                                      1. re: Bkeats

                                                                                                        I have nothing to add here, except that I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this thread!!! LOL!!! Y'all are crazy folks - LOL!!!!

                                                                                                2. re: Gio

                                                                                                  Doesn't the straight jacket bother you when you type?

                                                                                                  1. re: acssss

                                                                                                    At the risk of dragging this out longer than we want to let me remind you that Queens do not wear straight jackets.
                                                                                                    We prefer fitted.

                                                                                                    1. re: Gio

                                                                                                      When the Queen Bespokes her subjects listen...

                                                                                                          1. re: ursy_ten

                                                                                                            That wasnt our queen - that was the Froggie one.

                                                                                                            Boring factoid - there's a theory that what she said was actually "let them eat brioche". Something that would have been eminently sensible at the time when the ingredients for bread were scarce but the ingredients for brioche were not.

                                                                                                  2. I've participated on this site for many years, and there have certainly been people who have used the site to be inflammatory, shills, or pranking jerks, but it seems that these are a very small minority of the posts.

                                                                                                    My favorite and obvious prank was the one not too long ago where the guy repeatedly asked why he couldn’t boil every protein, in many separate posts, and argued with every reply. The number of people who kept trying to help him see the light, and he just kept going and so did all our "help. We can all be swept up in our effort to help. At some point, there is a clue to stop responding.

                                                                                                    1. Maybe someone is in a foul mood because they just fought with their wife or husband; maybe someone is in a giddy mood and wants to be a smart aleck; maybe someone is a jerk and just wants to spend hour upon hours complaining and whining and arguing.
                                                                                                      The more important question is why does it bother you? Who cares?

                                                                                                      1. No, I don't feel played. I do sometimes realize that I didn't get the joke. Come to think of it, I often don't get the joke...or agree that a sarcastic comment is a laugh riot. Don't judge me :)

                                                                                                        I don't care for forum conspiracy theories; they lead to hurtful and harmful bully pulpits and "mean girl" posts...and such freakin drama. No. thank. you.

                                                                                                        ..and way back when Hill joined this site he didn't care about filling out the personal profile page. Q: How many Mods came forward and added a red triangle to their s/n? Should the day come when Mods are sharing who they are without the sky falling, well....then let's talk again about who's playing who here. Most forums, you either know who the Mods are or the Mods don't also contribute to the discussion as members.

                                                                                                        So, if some folks like to tell a yarn out of the millions crossing our CH paths-I say, whatever. I do my best to be direct and still maintain some distance. I do have a life that I don't expect anyone other than me & mine to manage. I just log off when I'm spent.

                                                                                                        Occasionally my posts have been questioned or deleted for being "too informative" - If you don't believe what I've written that's your right. I didn't join CH with the hope of being the Queen of England or included in the pretty girls club.

                                                                                                        But I will take full responsibility for this:Up to five members of my family have used this s/n. Logged in and contributed. We confused a few folks who later shared that they thought HillJ had a personality disorder.. For some time now, it's only been "J"..Hill lost patience. My four kids use the site for information only.

                                                                                                        but, I have better things to do then judge any of you.

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                                                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                          "I don't care for forum conspiracy theories...No. thank. you."

                                                                                                          "Q: How many Mods came forward and added a red triangle to their s/n? Should the day come when Mods are sharing who they are without the sky falling, well....then let's talk again about who's playing who here. Most forums, you either know who the Mods are or the Mods don't also contribute to the discussion as members."

                                                                                                          These two statements seem completely at odds with one another from my perspective.

                                                                                                          1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                            Okay. Conspiracy theory is thinking that a girl is not 13 when she states she is. And CH's having a good laugh over it.

                                                                                                            Mods not identifying themselves in my mind is no different than any CH member who decides not to identify themselves. Except, Mods have authority to delete fellow members words or membership. Significant diff. And it's the not knowing who a person REALLY is that seems to be at the heart of these types of discussions.

                                                                                                            In my mind, if anyone wishes to keep any part of their ID private it amounts to the same thing.

                                                                                                            1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                              "Except, Mods have authority to delete fellow members words or membership. Significant diff. And it's the not knowing that seems to be at the heart of these types of discussions."

                                                                                                              I can't understand how anyone would think that any moderator would/could be working against the overall health and welfare of this site out of of petty spite or personal animus against any poster. That seems like one of the most wild, crazy and unsupported (and damaging) conspiracy theories that can be found here.

                                                                                                              Do the mod's make mistakes? Of course. After all they are human and therefor imperfect. My feeling is that, whichever posters they are, when those anon mod's come here to opine as regular hounds along with the rest of us, they most likely hold themselves to a higher standard when it comes to the site rules and the application of those rules as it applies to their posts.

                                                                                                              1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                                I hit a nerve? My first comment was hardly JUST about Moderation. I wrote other observations. You, Servorg, as you often do focused on the Moderation portion of the post. You don't need to explain or defend the job of CH mods.

                                                                                                                Thanks for reading though.

                                                                                                                1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                  If you can write it then you ought to own it. I disagree with that part of what you wrote so I commented upon it, no more and no less.

                                                                                                                  1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                                    I made my point (& it's not the first time) and like you said you don't agree with it because of x, y, z....which is your right to defend..but your point & mine are not the same thing. So you are defending your own perspective.

                                                                                                              2. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                I waited patiently to get back on this site for two and 1/2 years to be "legal". I could have very easily made up a fake persona a long time ago and got on. But I happen to be proud of the young woman I am and wanted to participate as myself in an honest way without pretense. Take it or leave it. I dont care. Your opinion doesn't change how I walk in this in this world.

                                                                                                                1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                  I have no idea what you are talking about, girloftheworld. Have we ever corresponded on CH together?

                                                                                                                  My opinion is in relation to the OP, "do you sometimes feel played?"

                                                                                                                  1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                    "HillJ about 3 hours ago

                                                                                                                    Okay. Conspiracy theory is thinking that a girl is not 13 when she states she is. And CH's having a good laugh over it."

                                                                                                                    1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                      Oh, only if you see yourself in that example. Because until now I don't recall even seeing you on the boards.

                                                                                                                      Sorry, still confused.

                                                                                                                  2. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                    "I waited patiently to get back on this site for two and 1/2 years to be "legal"."

                                                                                                                    I'm very curious as to what that means.

                                                                                                                    1. re: carolinadawg

                                                                                                                      I got banned when they found out I wasnt 13 and I had to wait to get back on... :( was a loooong time.. I started when I was in fifth grade got band the end of fifth and just got back on in march.

                                                                                                                      1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                        Oh okay, now that helps me understand a bit more.

                                                                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                          sorry..hyper sensitive...someting I have to work on...

                                                                                                                          I was catering a dinner party for one of my moms friends I came out in my chefs coat I was explaing the dfirst course and wine paring.. One of the men asked the host..."Is she a little person? or is that a child?"
                                                                                                                          I have become knd of defnsive and snarky

                                                                                                                          1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                            Are you planning to pursue a career in the food industry?

                                                                                                                            1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                              oh yes.. I am staging this summer and when fall comes will contiue with that on saturdays..
                                                                                                                              I am writing a cookbook for an author a cooked for based on his next book
                                                                                                                              I plan on graduating early (16) and going to culllinary school.

                                                                                                                          1. re: carolinadawg

                                                                                                                            It happens. A friend of mine graduated with degrees in Computer Science and Math in 4 years. At the age of 20.

                                                                                                                            1. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                                                                                              Well, it wasnt the graduation age I was referring to.

                                                                                                                              1. re: INDIANRIVERFL

                                                                                                                                Yeah, most of my friends finished their bachelor's by 20. Homeschoolers often use community college as a substitute for the last 2 years of high school. Sadly, we are not geniuses that seems to imply.

                                                                                                                              2. re: carolinadawg

                                                                                                                                the only way Ill be able to pull off graduating early is I have to give up my electives and double my math and science and take history, English in summer school...annnnnd.. if I dont score a certain level on the state tests next year on English, math and science they wont let me try :( which is why my stage goes to saturday only. I am good with math ..I think from cooking and chemistry so far again I think from cooking... buttttttttt I dont whats coming..

                                                                                                                                1. re: carolinadawg

                                                                                                                                  carolinadawg, I've been on some threads with this young girl and she seems genuine to me. I don't think precocious would even begin to cover it.

                                                                                                                                  1. re: John E.

                                                                                                                                    thank you..

                                                                                                                                    http://benstarr.com/tag/girl-of-the-w...
                                                                                                                                    this old... but

                                                                                                                                    the other artical has to much personal info

                                                                                                                                      1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                        ..and if memory serves during a CH thread on young chefs or young chefs in the news...or young chefs encouraged by their parents, I believe that post was one example. small world.

                                                                                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                          Nope, yours was not included but you might find the thread a fun read: http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/882044

                                                                                                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                            interesting read thankyou ..but lets be honest it is cooking not rocket science.. I think it is a term some parents like to use... but what about the six year old who always acts up in school and cant stay in his seat but can lay under a car for hours and hours with his dad and knows every part of a car engine by 8? is he a Progidy? or the one who wants to drop out and train horses? heck some hyper focused kids even get labled autistic.. I have a passion... always have... I have a drive...there are not many kids that share my interest so I have had learned aside adult and socalized around adults am I a magical a unicorn no..my mother would be the first pull a star off my forhead... and say well she has to find her own path and we are here to support her.

                                                                                                                                            1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                                              Good luck to you. If you are writing a cookbook consider doubling up on English classes or hiring a very good editor.

                                                                                                                                              1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                                                                                :) i do better in real life writing... but I pretty sure they use pros.. my first cook book my Aunt edited.. she was a magazine editor for years..but that one was just a rinky dink self publish thing

                                                                                                                                            1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                                                                              Woodstock'99 is still hauntin 'me.

                                                                                                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                                                                I have no idea what you're talking about.

                                                                                                                                                1. re: LindaWhit

                                                                                                                                                  ...you have to go back and read his post with girloftheworld on the CH age thread :)

                                                                                                                                                  1. re: acssss

                                                                                                                                                    I assume it's a reference to the time of conception.

                                                                                                                                                    1. re: girloftheworld

                                                                                                                                                      One of the first things that show maturity and intelligence is a good sense of humor. It seems that you have a bit of both.

                                                                                                                                                    2. re: MGZ

                                                                                                                                                      Lmoa......still shaking my head, wonder if I'll get chastised again.

                                                                                                                                                      "Luke, I am your father".............

                                                                                                                                2. Does this include posters passing off online pictures of food as their own?

                                                                                                                                  I hear that happens a LOT on these boards. I don't pay enough attention to it & honestly could not possibly care less, but I know any number of posters do, and I do find it smacks a bit of .... I don't know... unethical behavior.

                                                                                                                                  And, of course, there is/was one poster who must be suffering from Münchhausen syndrome (much more prevalent online, because it's SO easy to make shit up without anyone ever finding out about it), and a few other posters really fell for it.

                                                                                                                                  Lesson learned, I say. Which might explain why I'm a little more tentative in taking people's claims on these boards for the truth, and nothing but the truth. Age/gender included '-D

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                                                                                                                                  1. re: linguafood

                                                                                                                                    I've been surprised by how many posters make incorrect assumptions about my gender based I guess on either my posts or my still not complete profile.

                                                                                                                                    1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                                                                      Gender assumptions can be a tricky area.

                                                                                                                                      On another (non-food) board there was a regular poster whose "handle" was simply a first name - one of those which could apply to men or women (like, say, "Chris"). The nature of the board is that most contributors are, in fact, men and I made that assumption about Chris, referring to him as "He" as in "he said".

                                                                                                                                      Until someone pointed out "Chris" was a woman. So, I contacted Chris to apologise - along the lines of "Hey, profuse apologies, Christine, silly of me, blah blah". Reply came whizzing back "Hi, John. Apology accepted. By the by, my name is Helen, not Christine - "Chris" is my dog".

                                                                                                                                      1. re: Harters

                                                                                                                                        LOL love it! I guess I could appropriate my dog's gender neutral name (Bodi) but she's a corgi and horribly selfish.

                                                                                                                                        1. re: Harters

                                                                                                                                          heck this can be a tricky area in real life....

                                                                                                                                      2. re: linguafood

                                                                                                                                        I recall being guilty of posting a blog photo of a pizza as example without attributing the blog link and a fig tree to show size and being called out by two or three CH's. My overstep was also reported to the CH Team, and removed. I explained the overstep and thanked the thread for setting things straight. What I never did was claim the photos as my own. I've seen similar uploads by other CH's and didn't realize (until it was clarified on email) that guidelines for posting within a comment box and within a photo share are different. But I do now.

                                                                                                                                        And, I've reported threads to the Mods to take a look. What I don't do is try to embarrass a fellow hound for sport.

                                                                                                                                        The blood pool some swim around is disgusting.

                                                                                                                                        1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                          Oh, so that was you? See, I didn't know because, again, I couldn't possibly care less.

                                                                                                                                          In fact, I found being lied to for over a year by a poster to be much more shattering. Again, lesson learned.

                                                                                                                                          As for the blood pool -- it sure is amazing what people get pissed off about here. Seems like they have no real life outside of teh interwebz...

                                                                                                                                          1. re: linguafood

                                                                                                                                            LOL...one example! I'm not keeping score, linguafood. But clearing the air sure feels good.

                                                                                                                                            1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                              I miss out on all the drama. Wait, posting a pizza that isn't yours? This isn't Amy from Amy's Baking Company is it?

                                                                                                                                              1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                                                                                ROFL...sorry to disappoint ya, firegoat.

                                                                                                                                                1. re: Firegoat

                                                                                                                                                  Ah hell! This thread just made me go report myself for posting a pic from the paper of a lousy ham and cheese sandwich.

                                                                                                                                                      1. re: EM23

                                                                                                                                                        She'll show up eventually. Like that beautiful, elusive unicorn which is really just a pissed off horse with a weapon on its forehead.

                                                                                                                                                    1. re: EM23

                                                                                                                                                      Jump in the pool EM23, the water's fine!

                                                                                                                                                      1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                        I just ate. That stupid sandwich. My mom told me never to swim after eating.

                                                                                                                                                        1. re: EM23

                                                                                                                                                          Well, we shouldn't correct Mom...but dangling our feet in the deep end...well, that's still allowed.

                                                                                                                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                            Sorry, HJ, reading just the first line of your post I thought you were about to dangle a participle. That's something up with which we shall not put.

                                                                                                                                                            1. re: Veggo

                                                                                                                                                              I guess I was lucky you read every word instead of just the words that bothered you most, huh?!

                                                                                                                                                              1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                                because I value every word you write, V.
                                                                                                                                                                even the comments that arrive at 4am.
                                                                                                                                                                such fun reads.

                                                                                                                                                                1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                                  Really? By 4am I am generally sober and much more boring. Sam and I were at our irascible best after a few Flor de Canas.

                                                                                                                                                                  1. re: Veggo

                                                                                                                                                                    Sure, sure...whatever you say.

                                                                                                                                                                    1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                                      Someone who thinks I'm too vulgar. I don't know where they got that ****ing idea.
                                                                                                                                                                      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
                                                                                                                                                                      you said it best, V.

                                                                                                                                          2. Well, "Internet Land" can be a very strange and, at times, upsetting place. I agree that using caution is always, always advisable.

                                                                                                                                              1. I have definitely followed posters who I thought were making things up entirely. When I was spending a lot of time here, there was one person in particular. She/he appeared to have in depth encylopaedic knowledge of so many different cultures it really seemed like she was researching on wiki in order to post. Ironically this person's breadth of cultural information coincided with a very narrow view of things.
                                                                                                                                                Just to clarify, this person said they had personally experienced these things. I don't fault people for reading the internet and sharing what they've learned. It was quite different from that.

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                                                                                                                                                1. re: fara

                                                                                                                                                  Oh, I think there are a lot of people here who get all their culinary knowledge courtesy of the google machine.

                                                                                                                                                  1. re: kengk

                                                                                                                                                    oh, and it's equally fair to say that the CHOW magazine relies heavily on the contributions of Chowhounds for their weekly blog entries, video tips, story inspiration and editorial content. So, if we're nitpicking on the knowledge shared on this site, there's plenty of sourcing credit to go around and around and around.

                                                                                                                                                    where do you find totally original content, kengk? pls point me in that direction.

                                                                                                                                                    1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                                                                      You want original content, wish you could see inside my mind!

                                                                                                                                                2. Folks, in a couple of different places, this thread is becoming a referendum on specific posters and their actions, and that's way more specific than we think is appropriate for Site Talk. It's fine to discuss general concerns on this board, but we don't want any individuals feeling like they're being called out specifically. Given that, we're going to lock this thread now.