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May 31, 2013 04:20 PM

Would you attend a mid-week dinner or wine/cheese party?

Why or why not?

Background story: I love entertaining and would prefer to do it with my DH. He started a job working nights and is only off mid-week... making Wednesday the 'perfect' night for us to entertain.

While I realize that's atypical for most, I'm wondering if it would be off-putting to receive an invite for a mid-week party that would normally resemble a weekend party.

I suppose guests could always decline if it didn't suit their fancy... but am curious what the general consensus is on the topic.

My other potential issue is how to deal with guests overstay their welcome - but, I suppose that could be an issue any day of the week! :)


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  1. I would, but I'm retired. To answer your last question, cut off the liquor!

    1. It would depend on how late it started, ie: I get up before dawn. If it's going to start at 9pm, then um, no, I couldn't / wouldn't go.

      But yes, indeed! Do do the party and it'll give all of your guests a reason to celebrate mid-week! God bless DH - I was a wreck working nights.

      1. Wine and cheese isnt exactally a beer pong and byob chip and salsa grab the sleeping bags we have a bunch staying over party... I would think a nice invitation that is an understated "we like you to join us for wine and tasting games from 6-9 on Wed March 14."

        1. I worked at an art gallery for a time and we often had Thursday night openings. These went over very well.
          IMO people can be over committed on weekend nights or they simply want to spend that time with their family.
          My only observation with a mid-week party is to have it start early and end early (5-7ish). Think "Happy Hour" after work. Cocktails and finger food usually do the trick.

          3 Replies
          1. re: pedalfaster

            To me (and to others in my circle of friends), Thursday night is different than Sun-Wed night. I am more likely to be open to going to something on a Thurs night, because if I'm up too late, I only have to make it through Friday and then it's the weekend.

            Sun-Wed nights, I avoid going out if possible.

            1. re: Sooeygun

              I would say that is probably the most common approach, and reflected in how busy restaurants are in the evening on the nights of the week.

              1. re: Sooeygun

                And I prefer Tuesday or Wednesday. Earlier in the week helps me mentally in terms of breaking up the work week. If I wake up on Monday morning dreading the week ahead and then think, "Ooh!! Wine and cheese Wednesday night!" the week just is easier to face. Plus I am more likely to have marathon meetings on Friday than any other day.

            2. Absolutely. My colleagues organize casual get-togethers at each other's homes midweek because weekends are family time for those with kids.

              And since we all work in the morning (and the parents have to get back to free their babysitters), no one overstays :)