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Apr 22, 2013 11:47 AM

what side is your bread buttered on?

the cutting up the entire meal thread made me think about something else that i find odd (not rude, just strange). when someone takes a dinner roll and butters the entire thing and eats it like a sandwich. i was taught to take bit of butter if you're given a bread plate, and butter each piece of bread you tear off. if not given a plate, it's perfectly acceptable to put the roll on the table cloth.

the other thing that i wonder if people aren't taught anymore....when passing the salt, always pass the pepper along with it. they travel as a pair. at least i was taught they did. i'm fully prepared to admit that i was taught a lot of things wrong!

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  1. I've always sliced my bun in half, buttered both halves separately, and taken bites out one half like an open face sandwich.

    I'm a little surprised (actually, I shouldn't be surprised at all) that there's a "right" and a "wrong" way to eat buttered bread.

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    1. re: Midknight

      i also never cut the bread..... i tear it. but i eat bagels exactly the way you described.

    2. I would find it odd if someone passed me salt *and* pepper if I just asked for salt!

      As for bread, now that I think on it, when I do eat rolls (which isn't often so I really do have to think about it!) I think I butter it bite by bite, *without* tearing any off, which is probably gross and horribly rude or something, I don't know. Of course, that's when I have my own butter pats. I don't spread communal butter on something I just bit into.

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      1. re: Violatp

        i'm sure i'm unknowingly violating some rule of decorum as i type (in lowercase).

        1. re: eLizard

          Heh. I'm sure I break some rule or other at least once daily!

          1. re: Violatp

            "let's go through the book and break,
            each and every law."

            --Grateful Dead,
            "I Need a Miracle"

        2. re: Violatp

          I'd also find it odd if someone gave me pepper with the salt and would probably even say "no, just the salt, thank you."

          1. re: hyacinthgirl

            Mr. S was taught by his mother that you were to pass the salt and pepper together. I had never heard of this and am always saying to him, 'no, just the salt' (after 15+ years, it's a running joke with us).

            1. re: Sooeygun

              I was also taught this and still find it very odd and rarely do it myself.

            2. re: hyacinthgirl

              If you said that I would sweetly answer, I know but they travel together, unless you were a guest in my house. If you want to make me look dumb I will dish it back unless I was your gracious host and then I would not want you to be uncomfortable.

              1. re: melpy

                I wouldn't say it to make you look dumb, I would have thought maybe you just didn't hear me, and if you responded "they travel together"- I would probably think that was adorable.

          2. Growing up, it was the custom in our area (northern plains) to butter the bread before it was put on the table. If it was dinner rolls, they would be sliced, buttered, then put on the table, same with other bread that was put on the table.
            These days, I don't "pre-butter" bread, before it hits the table, but I do butter the whole slice or roll, then take bites as I wish. I do not butter as I go.

            1. I was taught both as was my husband. We have taught our son to do the same.

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              1. re: foodieX2

                guess it's just you and me (and your dh)

                  1. re: eLizard

                    Nope, me three (with a slight variation). As for the dinner rolls, I take a roll, put some butter on my bread & butter plate and tear off pieces of the roll which are swiped through the butter that's on the plate. Salt and pepper ALWAYS together.

                  2. re: foodieX2

                    Us four and five and our chowpup makes six. Also, as a young adult, I worked in a position in which one had to host events requiring protocol to be followed. These types of manners were adhered to, as a part of protocol. Dh is not American and he was taught all of these manners, as well.

                  3. One should cut a pat of butter from the butter on the butter dish and place it on your bread plate. Then apply the butter to your dinner roll from your bread plate.

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                    1. re: GraydonCarter

                      bite by bite rather than spreading it on the entire thing.

                      1. re: eLizard

                        We were taught approximately for chunks for a roll. You could butter a little more than a bite but you shouldn't butter tiny minuscule nibbles at a time.

                      2. re: GraydonCarter

                        That is what I was taught as well. I mostly do it.