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Apr 18, 2013 04:04 PM

Does anyone else consider this rude?

It drives me crazy when people cut up all of the food on their plate before they begin to eat. Many members of my DH's family do this (but not DH, thank goodness), and it drives me nuts. I seem to remember my mother telling me this was considered poor manners. Am I crazy, or did mom know best?

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  1. I've seen it, too. As a child was told not to do it, but it's a for sure no harm no foul thing. Bottom line, who really gives a hoot?

    1. I really don't care what others do with their food as long as it isn't disgusting or gross, however I would never do it myself. I do recall somewhere back in my manners training that a person should only cut their next bite.

      That said, now that I sometimes have to cut food for my elderly mother, I will opt for expedience by cutting up 1/4-1/2 of her plate at a time rather than cutting a bite at a time for her. Hopefully it doesn't bother others.

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      1. re: jlhinwa

        I have had to do that too, for children or when my dad was ill. I was thinking more of adults with no physical limitations.

        1. re: jlhinwa

          This is definitely an exception to the etiquette "rule." There are plenty of times when someone at the table needs help cutting: a child, an elderly person, a teenage boy with a broken hand, etc.

          1. re: Isolda

            Agree with the elderly / handicapped / young child exception. My steak knives are straight edge and I keep them razor sharp. I would not put them in the hands of a very young child.

        2. Considering how few people follow even the simplest table manners (like not talking with food in one's mouth), I can't get upset by those infractions that are not visually or audibly disgusting.

          1. Apparently the family thinks it is ok. I don't find it particularly rude. If this is the worst problem you have you are lucky.

            1. I have a friend who does this too. I never once thought it rude or has it bothered me.