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On at least one of the boards I visit regularly there is one person who has a deep seated need to share his or her insights on every single issue, regardless of his or her personal knowledge or experience. I generally just skip over anything that person has written, was wondering if there was any way I could avoid even having to see the name. Probably not, but thought I would ask the question.

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  1. It's not a feature that's available on the site right now.

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    1. re: Jacquilynne

      Is there any discussion among TPTB about adding it? It sure would cut down on pissing matches and snark and allow moderators and chowhounds to focus on the food related content of posts, not the posters personally.

      Especially as moderation is allowing so much more contentiousness and snark to stay up, it would make the CH boards much easier to enjoy as an adjunct method of personal moderation.

      This is a tool whose time has come. Much more important and useful than the lame "recommend" button.

      1. re: mcf

        Now there's a suggestion I gladly endorse. No one has noticed that the Rec button has played a role in fueling contentiousness and snark?

        I'm not fond of settling for long winded bravado about "other people's" manners and shitty behavior over a lack of patience, kindness and acceptance, how about all of YOU?

        So, how backwards does the site need to go? To the point where you can draft a list of people you'd rather ignore?!

        1. re: HillJ

          How about this?

          Instead of an ignore, why not just go all the way, and allow OP's to block certain posters from replying.

          Yeah, why not ...

          1. re: ipsedixit

            Let's quit fooling around. We simply need a feature that eradicates all their posts, eliminates their CH account and locks them out of coming back to the site for all eternity! ;-D>

            1. re: ipsedixit

              Doesn't CH call that Moderation, ips? The community policing itself while not new seems to be churning up more than ever. Ignoring should be super easy (CH, OP, thread comment) but apparently IT IS NOT.

              The shit is gonna fly sooner than later...and not just a few green M&M's...
              http://jimleff.blogspot.com/2013/04/l...

          2. re: mcf

            Sorry mcf, but I had to recommend your post :-)

            1. re: linguafood

              I hate that I use the button, too; does it help to know that I bite the inside of my cheek every time? ;-)

              1. re: mcf

                Just don't swallow, even if it's low-carb.

            2. re: mcf

              It's been discussed and hasn't been definitively shot down, but I wouldn't say it was in the works or on our priority list of features.

              There are some days when I'd like it just so I could put certain posters on each other's ignore lists, but apparently we're not supposed to make product decisions based purely on what makes me cranky.

              1. re: Jacquilynne

                There are some days when I'd like it just so I could put certain posters on each other's ignore lists,
                -----------------------------------------------------
                That's a great idea! I think you should make your argument again.

                1. re: Jacquilynne

                  Fine, then, make them based upon what makes ME cranky!!

            3. Whenever I see a thread such as this one, my insecurities rise up and I wonder if I am guilty of the same behavior as that raised in threads such as this one.

              (KaimukiMan, I am not asking for confirmation or denial, in fact, I don't wish to know.)

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              1. re: John E.

                I feel the same nervous way, particularly as I have been posting With A Vengeance yet try not to post With Vengeance.

                1. re: John E.

                  Me too. Ironically, such individuals would probably believe that this post could never ever apply to him or her.

                  1. re: John E.

                    A good point and well taken. I am (mostly) past that point myself, but I acknowledge your statement as I have been seen to be a know-it-all from time to time. I won't comment on your general proclivities per your specific request - but I will say that you were not the person who prompted my comment in the first place.

                    1. re: KaimukiMan

                      This thread just popped up again and I read your post again. My original reply to you was not implying anything other than wonderng if threads such as these apply to me. I did not intend to suggest anyone else should consider the same possibility.

                      1. re: John E.

                        Worrying that you might be a little crazy and doing some "soul searching" to check that as best you can just proves you're probably not. Being absolutely cock sure you're the sanest person in the land just means you are definitely as bat-shit crazy as the looniest loon that bat always wanted to be...

                        1. re: Servorg

                          "Being absolutely cock sure you're the sanest person in the land just means you are definitely as bat-shit crazy as the looniest loon that bat always wanted to be..."

                          Thanks. I will remember your last line.

                          I have been told by family members that I have a 'freakish' memory. I remember stuff, but not necessarily important stuff. (I know all the birthdates of my family, including in-laws, nieces/nephews.) I have had a few 'Cliff Claven' moments so I attempt to keep them to a minimum.

                          1. re: John E.

                            I'm used to "freakish" memory stuff as my wife is almost a savant about people she has only seen a time or two in her store, and then after 15 or 20 years they will come in and she'll remember not only their name but other things that hey told her all those years ago. Another thing she does is recall their name just hearing their voice on the phone, after not talking to them for 15 or 20 years, when they call.

                            1. re: Servorg

                              Your wife has has me beat, easily. (Sorry if that sounds weird, I wrote it a couple different ways and this version has the least innuendo.)

                              1. re: Servorg

                                I'm like that. I remember people from kindergarten, practically all of whom I haven't seen since. I nearly always remember people's names. But my best friend remembers song lyrics and lines from movies and plays. Now that is a talent I wish I had.

                        2. re: KaimukiMan

                          I was the first to post "Is it me", however I guess the Moderator's decided they wanted me to stay in suspense since they removed my original post.

                          (seriously is it me?)

                          1. re: jrvedivici

                            You must have missed all the responses to the question... Just kidding. I had the same question--umm, not that it was you but that it might be me.

                            A further question would be, did anyone NOT think, "Is it me?"

                        3. re: John E.

                          Yup, I was thinking the same thing: Hope I'm not the guilty party!

                        4. Even on forums where I can push an "ignore" button, I still have to look at the box the "ignored" member's post is in. I just can't see the post. It's almost worse, because the "ignored" post is so different looking the rest, it's hard to ignore.

                          Didn't AOL have a feature where you could become invisible to certain posters? I'd love that, as the only people I'd like to ignore post at me first.

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                          1. re: Jay F

                            fB has this feature.
                            You can ignore "Comments about ____" or "All comments from ___ [user]."
                            was helpful during elections.

                          2. If this feature existed, there might be more people I would have filtered than not. I would have added 2 this week.

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                            1. re: Bkeats

                              My version of this site would have about 20 people on it. There would be a lot of blank spaces.

                              1. re: Bkeats

                                Agreed. Thanks to two particularly aggressive posters this week I have decided to return to lurker status rather than poster (except this one post, of course ;) I have removed my name, location and e-mail address from my profile as well.

                                I think I'd still have more people I'd read than ignore, but those I wish to ignore are certainly increasing in numbers :(

                                1. re: gaffk

                                  Right now I can't recall specific threads on which you have posted, but I do know you have been posting here for some time and I have read your posts. I don't know what you have been experiencing here lately, but I encourage you to ignore the aggresive posts that have been off putting to you and continue as you were prior to the unpleasantness you seem to have endured this last week. Plus, I like the little cat in your avatar.

                                  1. re: John E.

                                    Yeah, things change . . . that cute little kitten is now a big 7 yo monster.

                                  2. re: gaffk

                                    The community in general must police the community otherwise things will devolve and the beloved CH site will just be a cherished memory. I would urge you to be a good citizen and shun/admonish annoying posters (in a civilized way of course) to keep CH stay on its course. Scratch that. I've been a lurker for probably 10 years and enjoying the peace :-)

                                    1. re: KathyM

                                      Ignoring posters you don't like is encouraged! But please don't admonish them. If you think they're running afoul of the site rules, please use Flag to bring it to our attention.

                                    2. re: gaffk

                                      Boo hoo don't go away. Kitty people need to stick together.

                                      1. re: Veggo

                                        Agree on the cat people. Maybe I'll just take a cooling off hiatus (and avoid commenting on the NAF board ;)

                                        Although, as a lurker, I still get to enjoy your posts.

                                        ETA: This thread is my one exception to the rule

                                  3. I just want to know one thing. Do these people have lives? Do they work? How do they find the time to read every single post and reply to them?

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                                    1. re: KathyM

                                      As a "blitz poster" myself,
                                      who KNOWS the block request applies to me for some,
                                      it's easy if you don't get behind.
                                      Threads usually pick up 3 -5 comments during the US workday, and then get hit heavily in the evenings.
                                      So it's not that hard if you're there from the inception and don't write kilometer-long replies.

                                      1. re: KathyM

                                        Smart phones, down time between clients, boredom when taking kids to activities, being early (I'm chronically early)... It's something to do when you have a few minutes.

                                        1. re: chowser

                                          OCD...

                                          1. re: Servorg

                                            That, too.

                                          2. re: chowser

                                            People who are chronically early are the best people in the world.

                                            1. re: MGZ

                                              I'm not sure every party host would agree with that... ;-D>

                                              1. re: Servorg

                                                Probably right, but it seems to me that people who are chronically early wait in the car until it's time to go in.

                                                1. re: MGZ

                                                  And all the more time to post on CH. A win, win!

                                        2. Agree. I would also like to put in my request for an "ignore" option. I wonder if we're thinking of the same person?

                                          I see that a topic I'm interested in has new content, click on it, and the new content is this one poster's 14 comments replying to others.

                                          As with the other posters in this thread, I sure hope you're not talking about me!

                                          1. One thing I am fairly certain of is that if the Poster who prompted the question were to read this, that person would never dream it was about them. As is often the case. It's the guy at the beach wearing speedos who never realizes he has no reason to wear speedos. The woman wearing a lycra tube top at the grocery store who should think twice about venturing out in anything less than a tent, etc. Who knows, maybe I'm posting about myself. I know for a fact that I've written things that the next day I wish I could ignore.

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                                            1. re: KaimukiMan

                                              C'mon KM, you know it's not you. We've all occasionally posted something we've regretted, but generally when I re-read them they're not *too* bad.

                                              But you're right, these aggressive posters would never recognize themselves.

                                              1. re: KaimukiMan

                                                I completely agree. I've lurked for years and started posting a little over a year ago, but one poster has almost driven me away, and I wonder if she hasn't driven away my old favorites like mamachef. One particular thread will have 300 posts with 100 from one poster. I'm sorry, but that's too much. I agree that she probably has no idea, though. It's sad and annoying at the same time. My question is why have some of my favorites left?

                                                1. re: KrumTx

                                                  KrumTx, if you go to mamachef's profile, she has listed her email address if you want to contact her.

                                                  1. re: KrumTx

                                                    I just noticed that katie_nell hasn't posted since last summer. Tried emailing her, to no avail.

                                                    1. re: pikawicca

                                                      I've noticed a few "missing" CH and thought of starting a thread, but wasn't sure if that would be allowed. Sometimes I start thinking, "I haven't seen xxx in a while" and look for more recent posts. Bushwickgirl, Kelli2006 (I think it's 2006), soupkitten, todao.

                                                      1. re: chowser

                                                        RGR is another one. She used to drive me nuts, but she was a long time, loyal 'hound (mostly on the local boards NY/NJ).

                                                        I know jfood dropped off to pursue his master's bidding with a local publication.

                                                        Foodfuser, sadly, passed away not too long ago.

                                                        1. re: MGZ

                                                          Good luck to jfood. I'm glad he's off to something good. It seemed he dropped off about the time Sam passed away and I always wondered with them being so close that this was no longer a haven. It's been very sad to lose CH. I also wonder if it's happened and we never hear.

                                                          Oh, someone I highly respected for his bread making--Father Kitchen. It might have been years now.

                                                          1. re: chowser

                                                            Chowser, thanks for thinking of me. One of the other members alerted me. I've always liked your posts, though I don't see them often now. In the summer of 2011 I was sent to Milwaukee and, in an unexpected round of job switches, ended up pastor of two parishes at an age when I should be retiring. (I just turned 69.) Learning the administrative end of this has been a stretch and the hours have been long. I hardly ever get to cook. But I have made fresh pasta, did make jam last summer (favorite: Miche's Apricot Jam from Susan Herman Loomis), and recently began baking in our new ovens. So watch for more from me from time to time. Just not as often.

                                                            1. re: Father Kitchen

                                                              What a nice surprise! Thanks for whoever alerted you. You probably don't realize the impact you've had on the board but I think of you whenever I use a technique I've learned from you, eg. kneading wet dough like taffy, different uses of terra cotta for baking. Hope you find time to get back into the kitchen soon--you've got too much knowledge to waste! Look forward to chatting about fresh pasta one day. I've been away from that too long.

                                                              1. re: chowser

                                                                Well, let's see. Last Sunday I was supposed to make Porchetta, but our birthday friar (who hates anything "gourmet") begged for angel hair pasta and Prego traditional sauce. Maybe next time, I'll finally get to make cannelloni alla piedmontese al forno. Maybe toward the end of the month.

                                                                1. re: Father Kitchen

                                                                  Sounds like you're getting in some good cooking for someone who's not getting to cook much! That sounds great.

                                                                  1. re: chowser

                                                                    It amounts to about twice a month, so I try to keep it interesting.

                                                              2. re: Father Kitchen

                                                                I sure hope you will consider posting on the Great Lakes part of the board. There are a number of fine people from MKE that I am sure would love to hear your thoughts.

                                                                1. re: Fowler

                                                                  Thanks for the suggestion.

                                                          2. re: chowser

                                                            We generally prefer to avoid 'where did X go?' threads. Some people have left for personal reasons that they'd prefer not to have discussed, some are banned, etc.

                                                            1. re: The Chowhound Team

                                                              Thanks--feel free to delete any of this as you see needed.

                                                              1. re: The Chowhound Team

                                                                How often are people banned?

                                                                1. re: John E.

                                                                  http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/8724...

                                                                  1. re: John E.

                                                                    Very infrequently, if we're just talking about users who have participated enough that people might miss them if they left. We deactivate accounts quite often, but those are a mix of (in approximately descending order) spammers and shills, people who've requested deactivation, sockpuppet accounts belonging to registered users, temporary suspensions, and truly banned users -- the last is a tiny, tiny minority. Because of the volume of other deactivations, though, it's not really possible to give you a good count of real users banned. My rough estimate would be more than one a year, less than one a month.

                                                              2. re: pikawicca

                                                                Just heard from her -- she's fine, just busy.

                                                              3. re: KrumTx

                                                                Mamachef has given me permission to let y'all know she's alive and well.

                                                                We all need a break now and then (that's from me, not MC).

                                                              4. re: KaimukiMan

                                                                Now I think it's me. The only thing convincing me it's not is the lesson I tried to learn back in high school- no one's talking about you as much as you think they should be.

                                                                1. re: KaimukiMan

                                                                  "Who knows, maybe I'm posting about myself. I know for a fact that I've written things that the next day I wish I could ignore."

                                                                  Multiple personalities aside, I've always found your posts balanced (I was going to use another term but a network has already grabbed it for its own) and well thought out so I'm surprised you have moments like that, too. I think many of us, definitely I have, would put ourselves in the same boat--of regretting something we posted. Maybe the key is to try to keep it in mind when someone else does the same?

                                                                2. There have been many times over the years where I wished I could have filtered out the comments of certain posters and I suspect there are quite a few contributors that wish they could have blocked out my comments.

                                                                  But just from my experience, I have found that if I actually read more of their comments and gave them a second or third chance, I was glad I did not block them out because they actually turned out to be a nice person and did have value to add in most conversations.

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                                                                  1. re: Fowler

                                                                    What a polite, positive comment to wake up to. Thank you Fowler.

                                                                    1. re: Fowler

                                                                      There are people whose posts don't particularly interest me, or who made a bad first impression and some I just don't like, but I don't ignore them for those reasons.

                                                                      There's an occasional poster whose sole contribution with every post seems to be to nit pick, fault find in other poster's comments and to especially, consistently state that the person has absolutely no basis for his/her opinion, but not offer anything but the dismissal/contrariness and personal rating of the poster.

                                                                      I can't WAIT to be able to hit ignore for such posters and I'm sure the same name or two popped into the minds of quite a few readers seeing this thread.

                                                                      1. re: mcf

                                                                        Indeed.

                                                                    2. I'd love to have an ignore feature.

                                                                      1. There are a couple of other websites in which I occasionally participate. One of them has a couple of regulars that I ignore. The other site has a an ignore feature but I have not used it. So far the Chowhound website does not have any regular participants who bother me enough to either wish for an ignore feature or to make a personal effort to ignore their posts.

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                                                                        1. re: John E.

                                                                          Another board I use has an "ignore" feature. I find it useful to activate for the occasional person who irritates me beyond belief. The sort of person who, if I posted as I would really wish to post would find me in serious breach of politeness rules.

                                                                          I don't find anyone on Chowhound who irritates me beyond belief. Sure, there are people whose very predictable and regular replies irritate. Same people usually have little interest in having discussions with anyone who holds differing views. Such is life - they're the sort of people who, in real life, you'd avoid like the plague . I just try to avoid engaging with them or, once they are on a roll as they invariably are very quickly, to leave the thread. Life's too short to be overly fussed by tossers like them.

                                                                          1. re: Harters

                                                                            I like it. A new (almost military grade) acronym; IBB (Irritated Beyond Belief). I shall now join that with the better known, but much loved, FUBAR, FUBB and SNAFU. Much obliged...and not irritated at all, yet!

                                                                            1. re: Servorg

                                                                              You left out NFG, one of my faves.

                                                                              1. re: mcf

                                                                                And one of my favourites - JFDI.

                                                                                1. re: Harters

                                                                                  Why doesn't Nike use it?

                                                                          2. re: John E.

                                                                            The odd thing w/ other boards that have "ignore" functions is that you see the responses to the ignored poster and are left wondering what it's about. While there are posts I would like to ignore, I can't think of many posters that I'd want to ignore 100% of the time. Until CH can predict what I'd want to see or not, I don't think I'd use an ignore function. As Fowler said, I've changed my mind on some posters who've rubbed me wrong in the beginning. If I put that person on ignore, that would never happen.

                                                                            1. re: chowser

                                                                              Yep, I accept using an "ignore" facility can be difficult. On the other board I mentioned, I "ignored" one guy for years (a classic case of the irritating, pretentious know-all). Then last year, I met him in real life - we were seated next to each other at a dinner - and I discovered he was a thoroughly nice guy. Still pretentious though but I'm no longer irritated by him.

                                                                              1. re: Harters

                                                                                That's a really nice story! Sometimes a smile and the right tone can make a big difference.

                                                                                1. re: Harters

                                                                                  Was the other board one of an extreme 'local' focus? I know there are several people on these threads in my vicinity and I recently discovered a fellow Chowhound who shops at the same Aldi store (located about a mile from my house) but I don't know how I would recognize him in person (not that I would even wish to).

                                                                            2. I have no reason to think such a feature is a good idea. I have never found anyone so troublesome or annoying that I could imagine using such a feature.

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                                                                              1. re: MGZ

                                                                                No one would make you use, it, though. Are you against anyone having access to it?

                                                                                1. re: mcf

                                                                                  In a sense, I am. I am either thicker skinned or more ignorant that most other 'hounds, it seems. I try to read what folks post in their voice - and with the best intentions. Even when someone annoys me, I try to just take in stride and, if appropriate, respond in a reasonable, rational manner.

                                                                                  I can't help but think that an "ignore" feature would not only break up the flow of our "conversations", but also lead to a heightened degree of acrimony. This is a solid community. If someone's bein' an ass, then let the Mods know. They do a terrific job of policing this Site with a little help.

                                                                                  1. re: MGZ

                                                                                    I think the mods do a lot less policing of snark in recent months, and I also exercise self discipline most of the time, but there are some folks who can get under my skin at times (and I'm sure I do that to some as well) that I've never, ever read anything of use or interest from.

                                                                                    I don't think an ignore button ever does anything but reduce acrimony, from vast experience with usenet kill files and facebook and other group's ignore features where mods can insist on a couple of poster's ignoring one another or else.

                                                                                    All it does is prevent friction.

                                                                                    1. re: mcf

                                                                                      a world without friction is one where no one learns anything. if people cant respond (or not respond) to ideas or people that are different than themselves, discussions, and therefore, discussion boards, cease to exist.
                                                                                      one of the sad facts about being a grownup is you occasionally have to act like one. reading something you dont like, and choosing to not respond, or to respond in a calm, mature fashion, is part of being an adult.
                                                                                      its something all people can be better at; an "ignore" button helps no one improve.

                                                                                      1. re: linus

                                                                                        "[A] world without friction is one where no one learns anything."

                                                                                        Well put. The element of the conversations on this Site that benefits the most is the "dialectic" process.

                                                                                        For example, I offer the thesis that the best way to barbecue chicken wings is to apply a rub, let 'em sit for an hour, indirectly grill 'em with cherry wood for forty minutes, sauce, and finish over the still hot coals. Someone else responds, antithetically, that its way better to omit the rub, grill directly over a medium gas flame, adding the sauce in layers towards the end. A third person may use this to realize that their synthesis would be to apply a rub, indirectly grill for twenty minutes and switch to the direct heat with layers of sauce. Others may find their equilibrium in different processes.

                                                                                        Ultimately, food preferences are subjective. In the foregoing example, think about how the thread may have spun into discussing the "right" sauce. Now we're really talkin' about a lot of variables. I might not find someone else's to be "right", but I bet I'd eat it.

                                                                                        1. re: MGZ

                                                                                          Your example isn't the type of discourse that is a problem. The poster who comes in and says

                                                                                          How in the world can you eat chicken wings? Don't you realize how unhealthy they are for you? Wings are nothing but SKIN AND FAT. No meat at all. They're not worth eating and they charge you more for wings than anything else and there's ALWAYS a shortage during the football season and don't you know they have to kill chickens to take the wings its not like they can be surgically removed without harm to the poor chickens that are raised in cages where they don't even have enough room to flap their poor little wings. If you have to eat chicken wings make sure they come from uncaged pasture raised non-antibiotic organic grain raised heirloom non-GMO heritage speckled Bresse hens. And you know they serve wings at Hooters?? Don't cha?

                                                                                          Names and places have been changed to protect the innocent.

                                                                                          Can I ignore that poster?

                                                                                          1. re: Bkeats

                                                                                            I don't like chicken wings but this is too too freakin funny.

                                                                                            1. re: ohmyyum

                                                                                              that's exactly the kind of Rockem Sockem Robots I was talking about! Pass the wings!

                                                                                              1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                Can I be the Blue guy? Pro wing side?

                                                                                            2. re: Bkeats

                                                                                              "Can I ignore that poster?"

                                                                                              Yep. With or without a Site redesign. I would. Although, I might suggest that they take my approach and I apply it to legs. I've created a thread on the subject.
                                                                                              http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/829233

                                                                                              There's always an alternative.

                                                                                            3. re: MGZ

                                                                                              Chicken! Someone say chicken?

                                                                                              http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss8LDB...

                                                                                          2. re: mcf

                                                                                            "[W]here mods can insist on a couple of poster's ignoring one another or else."

                                                                                            Wow. I don't use facebook and don't think I've even seen a page in more than a few years. I had no idea that an "ignore" feature could be used as policing tool. I'm curious, how should it work in a thread? Are you not able to see what one 'hound posts, but can see all the responses?

                                                                                            As to "snark", I just don't see it havin' increased or bein' more tolerated. I'm not even sure that I'd recognize it much of the time.
                                                                                            It's funny, as you likely know, I have been a proponent, for quite some time, of tryin' to read other 'hounds in their "voice". I've even been posting in a manner that might encourage it for a while now.

                                                                                            The problem with that notion, I spose, is that how our "ears" hear others is psychologicallly related to the experiences we have had leadin' up to the conversation. I guess, for a coupla reasons, I've been lucky enough to not have experienced much disrespect in my life. Consequently, I generally don't perceive it much on this Site.

                                                                                            I can't say that I like the idea of an "ignore" feature that can be forced into use by the Mods. I'm sure I could adapt to some voluntary thing that people who feel intimidated can use to feel better. I'd rather see the former situation dealt with by closing down, for a period of time, the accounts of those who offend one another (call it the "time out" feature).

                                                                                            1. re: MGZ

                                                                                              "I can't say that I like the idea of an "ignore" feature that can be forced into use by the Mods..."

                                                                                              Some folks around these parts accuse the moderators of failing to possess a sense of humor. Now, when they have one on full display, (evidence of which is contained in Jacquilynne's writing above "There are some days when I'd like it just so I could put certain posters on each others ignore lists, but apparently we're not supposed to make product decisions based purely on what makes me cranky.") we see posters taking off on the idea of the mod's enforcing an "ignore" feature (do you suppose that there is some coincidental virtue in the fact that "ignorant" and "ignore" come from the same root word?) on hounds, unbidden if you will. And people say we need more humor? Why, when it is in such great abundance here on CH, I ask you? (g)

                                                                                              1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                Hell, Servorg, you had me at your avatar.

                                                                                                1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                  And what a long, strange trip it's been...

                                                                                                2. re: Servorg

                                                                                                  serv, without a dose of your style of humor I wouldn't enjoy
                                                                                                  the site talk board nearly as much as I do.

                                                                                                  1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                    I thought the notion of "forced ignore" was more like an overinterpretation of my statement about one of the forums I frequent, where moderators will strongly suggest that two posters who inevitably end up out outside of TOS with snark any time they respond to one another avoid doing so. It's not as if the moderators set that command to "ignore" nor does fb as far as I know.

                                                                                                    Sort of the way some folks have failed to consider the acreage between useful exchange of ideas and friction to nothing but friction and escalating antagonism.

                                                                                                    Avoiding chronic antagonism is not the same as avoiding friction.

                                                                                                    1. re: mcf

                                                                                                      Oh I was hoping for some Rock'em Sock'em Robot kinda thing we could all watch while enjoying our lunch. No?

                                                                                                      1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                        I'm so in.

                                                                                                        Hell, let's expand on the idea and make it like in the olden days where a lady could choose her champion.

                                                                                                        1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                          You sell the tickets and cover the door and I'll make refreshments! Ha!

                                                                                                          1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                            Nah, I wanna be in the arena. I'm sure we can find a trustworthy ticket seller.

                                                                                                            1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                              ...I should have known...duh!

                                                                                                            2. re: HillJ

                                                                                                              I've got the door covered, not my first time, probably not my last either.

                                                                                                        2. re: mcf

                                                                                                          sadly, in myriad aspects of life herein 2013, many confuse disagreement with antagonism.
                                                                                                          this makes communication difficult.

                                                                                                          1. re: linus

                                                                                                            Frankly, I can be guilty of confusing advice for sarcasm on the boards. Without a voice, I've been wrong as well as perceived incorrectly. So, if I just ignore a post or comment by moving on isn't that far easier than settings just to follow a thread about food?

                                                                                                            If you set a fellow CH on ignore, you do so for every comment they make or just the comments made within a specific thread? I've never done this, I don't know how it works.

                                                                                                            Call me simple minded but, I believe the comment that pedalfaster just wrote makes a whole lot of sense.

                                                                                                            1. re: linus

                                                                                                              And, after all, where we would be without fire? We have a most excellent fire department here to keep the flames in check. Let's provide the kindling and let friction do it's work. If the forest isn't in danger of going up in flames then we'll all be warmer and better off for it.

                                                                                                              http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1pv...

                                                                                                              1. re: Servorg

                                                                                                                <We have a most excellent fire department here to keep the flames in check.>

                                                                                                                Not really. One of my best chow friends was driven out of here by someone who harassed her frequently. Nothing has been done about removing the harasser, who continues to post its screed on a daily basis.

                                                                                                                1. re: Jay F

                                                                                                                  Not being privy to the details all I can say is disagreement can, at times, be mistaken for harassment. I encourage posters who feel as your friend did to engage with the moderators in a private email exchange to see if they can either put the situation right, or at least give context to the problem posts that allows one to see them in a different, less problematic light.

                                                                                                                  1. re: Jay F

                                                                                                                    My first Rock'em Sock'em challenge. Or should we convene a tribunal? Should there be a way to figure out if the "harasser" was truly that? Or, should we just let the 'hounds bark and figure out who the Alphas are?

                                                                                                                    At bottom, I agree with Servorg, but, my joking aside, this scenario raises solid questions.

                                                                                                                    1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                                      <Should there be a way to figure out if the "harasser" was truly that?>

                                                                                                                      The harasser has also responded to posts of mine in a manner that was nasty, overly personal, and off-topic. I think anyone would have felt harassed.

                                                                                                                      I never read any of the posts to my friend. I would imagine, though I might be wrong, that they must have been nastier, or perhaps more frequent, than the ones I received, as it didn't occur to me to leave.

                                                                                                                      The posts to me were subsequently deleted, but the poster continued with its commentary afterwards. I have not heard from the poster in a while, other than in one normal, non-invective-filled response to something I wrote.

                                                                                                                      1. re: Jay F

                                                                                                                        As I suggested above, how we “hear” things is dependent upon who we are and what our experiences have been. It seems, to me, Jay, that you would hold your own, or, at least, it is clear that you have not let yourself be driven away – I’m not surprised. Nonetheless, my offer to grab the lance and don the white shield still stands – Bring on the Black Knight!

                                                                                                                        1. re: MGZ

                                                                                                                          You're welcome to don shield and lance, MGZ, -- white, natch -- but I wouldn't mind if chowhound had a utility that would allow us to decide to be ignored by certain posters. It was a popular AOL feature BITD.

                                                                                                                          I'm not much bothered by what anyone has to say unless they're purposely being a nasty bitch to me, and that's only happened in response mode.

                                                                                                                          So, if they didn't know I'd posted...

                                                                                                3. After 20-something year of using the internets, gotta say the best "ignore" feature I have found is my brain. "Oh thaaat guy..."

                                                                                                  Works like a charm.

                                                                                                  Now if you are being harassed (DMs, email) then you can get a mod involved.

                                                                                                  1. If the mod's do decide to entertain such an "ignore" feature I would like to nominate my wife as a consultant, she seems to have the "ignore" feature all worked out.

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                                                                                                    1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                                                      ROFL!!!

                                                                                                      1. re: HillJ

                                                                                                        HillJ, I love you darling....but that new avatar of yours is just freaking me out.

                                                                                                        1. re: jrvedivici

                                                                                                          Won't last long..