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Apr 13, 2013 12:45 PM

Seating Preference?

Seating Preference?

I did a couple of searches but didn't find this topic.

How do you and your spouse, partner, friend sit at a restaurant when there are just 2 diners?
My husband and I were out last night (having a very nice meal at a local Indian place) when a couple was seated behind us. They sat next to each other with their backs to us. Not across the table as we and I think every other couple in the place were doing.
So, the rest of the night they were half turned in their seats to speak to each other and I kind of felt like I was intruding based on the proximity of the table. When food was served they did turn into the table more to eat.

I can't quite see the advantage to this, I think I would have a kink in my neck by the end of the night.
Am I missing something?

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  1. at a square four top, my wife and I sit 90 degrees from each other. at a rectangular four top, we sit across the table from each other.

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    1. re: PotatoHouse

      This is how my wife and I sit as well. The only time we sit together on a banquette or a booth is if there is some kind of entertainment or speaker and we both can face the stage/podium

      1. re: bagelman01

        which makes sense to me...but side by side in this case was only to look out at a rainy parking lot.

        1. re: grumpyspatient

          We vary it up. Husband likes banquettes, I like chairs, so often across; but depending on size of table, view, whether we're planning something together that requires looking at papers... we often sit side-by-side.

          We don't worry about anyone "intruding" (we chose to sit that way) so no worries on that end.

          We also enjoy watching rain. :)

    2. I don't get it either, but there are things one can do side-by-side under the table that they can't sitting opposite or at a 90 degree angle, so maybe that was the reason.

      Other people are weird. They're also interesting.

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      1. re: Isolda

        thats true..I think thats why it piqued my interest.

      2. We will seek seating, that places us across from each other. That seems to allow for ease of entry/exit, ease of dining, and ease of wine glass placement.

        Also, with two artificial hips, my wife has some issues with banquet seating, so she will always be place in the chair, if there is banquet seating, and it also allows me to see the servers, and the sommelier approaching our table.

        We are more concerned with table-space, than seating.


          1. Must be a throwback to the times when cars had bench seats in front, and girls on dates sat in the middle of the seat, squished up against their young man. Other kids thought you were being a snob if you *didnt* do that.

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            1. re: jmcarthur8

              Guess that almost all of my autos had "bucket seats." [Grin]