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What do you eat when you are angry?

For a few reasons I am feeling very, very angry. Also sad and scratchy. I want to break things and curl up in a ball. I suspect I'll be feeling this way for awhile.

Any suggestions on what to eat? I don't want to buy new pants. What do you eat when you feel this way?

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  1. Used to be: Planter's Cheez Balls

    Chicken Ramen, made the 12minute way with 2C 1% milk

    Peanutbutter out of the jar

    Grape or Cherry tomatoes, chopped roughly, with a large spoonful of Duke's mayo

    finely sliced button mushrooms in a little butter and Himalayan pink salt, extra fine grind. After the mushrooms are in the pan, chop the juiciest onion I can find and add in bits as they are chopped. Pick the caramelized bits out of the pan while still hot.

    An entire Sam's box of $4.99 mixed baby greens with about 2T HV Ranch and 4T hot water stirred in

    Reeses' Peanutbutter cups, the ones that used to be quarter-sized and are now closer to nickel-sized

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    1. re: Kris in Beijing

      I don't. I guess I'm lucky in that regard. But I do go for the diet coke which I avoid otherwise, and, once in a whike, maybe pizza. But when I get pissed I tend to go shopping and spend on unnecessary things, or dig in the garden. Or plant something.

      I used to eat chips or m and ms.

    2. Beer or bourbon. Both, if I'm really ticked off.

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      1. re: ricepad

        heh heh. when i saw the title i said, :"Wine"! LOL
        but it would probably be a nice double Sapphire G&T.

        1. Actually, exercise works better for me for anger. An hour or two of brisk walking (or better yet, smashy exercise), preferably in the cold/dark. Then maybe afterwards an ice cream sandwich or three. Vanilla with chocolate wafers.

          If sad, lots of bowls of cheerios with milk; PB & honey w/ high fiber cereal & cocoa nibs; infinite stream of deli meat & cheese; full-size marshmallows; peanut m&m's.

          Good luck with this.

          1. cookies,
            any form of chocolate
            good baked goods from an excellent bakery.

            if i'm trying to avoid having to buy a new pair of pants, then popcorn.

            1. A nice hot cup of tea and a big piece of cake or some fancy cookies. Something to make me feel civilized when I really am feeling pretty primal.

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              1. re: jmcarthur8

                What a great idea. If I pair a cup of tea to help me calm down, it might slow the inhalation of chocolate covered Nutter-Butters (because while Nutter-Butters are good in and of themselves - covering them in chocolate makes them even better).

                    1. re: betsydiver

                      Ben & Jerry's Chocolate Therapy for me

                    2. Loaded mashed potatoes!

                        1. If you're mad for no reason, it might be low blood sugar. Eat something starchy or sweet if you want to even out.

                          If you just want to blow up at someone, start drinking.

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                          1. re: RealMenJulienne

                            My son gets reactive hypoglycemia when his blood sugar is too low. He turns into an irrational monster. He usually starts with carbs to calm himself, then switches to protein at my insistence because protein is much better at keeping blood sugar even.

                            1. re: Isolda

                              Both of my sons had that problem when they were in grammar school. Sometimes I'd have to insist that they have a cookie or a donut so they could calm down enough to eat dinner.

                          2. This thread made me realize something I never really thought about before: I am not an "emotional eater." Happy, sad, angry, blasé, I eat pretty much the same. The only time I have cravings or when I only eat certain things is when I am sick.

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                            1. re: ttoommyy

                              That is a good thing in that you are unlikely to struggle with your weight! I am an emotional eater, or more accurately, an emotional non-eater. I can not stomach anything when I am too emotional, be it happy, sad, angry, or whatever.

                              1. re: ohmyyum

                                "That is a good thing in that you are unlikely to struggle with your weight!"

                                Not true at all! I have had a weight problem since about 3 years old. I just love food too much! lol

                                1. re: ttoommyy

                                  Oh oops... well at least it isn't exacerbated by emotional overeating!

                            2. Brains with fava beans and a nice chianti. :-)

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                              1. re: raytamsgv

                                practically anything will work with a good chianti with the exception of coffee/chocolate chip ice cream.

                              2. Nothing. I don't eat when I'm overly emotional because I won't get to enjoy the food anyway. I've found the best thing for managing most emotional states is high intensity physical activity; a pounding run is particularly effective in dissipating anger.

                                    1. re: flavrmeistr

                                      I like this idea, but I save beer for regular angry. To me really angry cries out for whiskey (or whisky) or gin.

                                      1. re: tim irvine

                                        Gin is for fun and whiskey is gasoline on the fire.

                                        I like beer
                                        It makes me a jolly good fellow

                                        --Tom T. Hall

                                        1. re: flavrmeistr

                                          I don't know- gin always made my dad surly and angry. Maybe it had to do with how much of it he drank, or maybe it just threw the covers off a pissed-off man

                                          1. re: EWSflash

                                            Gin makes me want to dance. Maybe I'm secretly happy.

                                            1. re: EWSflash

                                              Totally agree. Gin makes for a very mean drunk!

                                              1. re: Isolda

                                                I find the key to gin management is making is to make a pitcher of two martinis per person. Put ice in the glasses so they are chilling. Measure the desired gin (Bombay regular) amount (3 parts) and vermouth (Dolin) amount (1 part), add ice, shake or stir as desired for a fairly long time (up to two minutes according to Cooks Illustrated), toss the ice from the glasses, pour, garnish, and consume. It is too big a PITA for me to repeat properly so I tend to stop at two. For whisky, not so. Pour it in a glass or a gullet, with or without ice. Too easy to repeat.

                                      2. re: flavrmeistr

                                        Angry-exercise, then weed, then comfort food, then comedy shows. The angry-exercise is essential to vent some of the rage, and to obviate the risk of over-eating, which would only compound the rage.

                                      3. St. John's Wort.

                                        Can't imagine what to eat to help with being scratchy though.

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                                        1. Nothing.. can't eat when I'm really angry/upset. I organize instead. Closet, kitchen pantry, anything. Gives me opportunity to slam some things which makes me feel better, and keeps my mind occupied enough.

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                                          1. re: juliejulez

                                            Yea, anger and food don't mix for me either.

                                            1. re: juliejulez

                                              Yes, no food but I sure can drink a martini or any alcohol if I'm really angry.

                                            2. Rice pudding.

                                              Wonton soup.

                                              1. I'm with juliejulez. I drink espresso and then deep clean the house.

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                                                1. re: pinehurst

                                                  if i really ticked you off, could you please come over to my house? LOL

                                                2. Eat anything you want if it will make you feel better.

                                                  1. I usually indulge in comfort food when I'm stressed, depressed, and angry, to hopefully cheer myself up.

                                                    For me, nothing beats a huge, juicy, medium-rare cheeseburger with all the condiments and toppings (and onion rings!), an overstuffed Italian sub full of cured meats and provolone cheese with lots of tomatoes, onions, pickled peppers, and vinaigrette dressing (and chips!), or macaroni and cheese.

                                                    1. really good cheese can sometimes help or whole fat yoghurt, which is really soothing

                                                      1. I don't like to eat when I am angry...I am usually too busy venting or having an imaginary conversation in my head to be bothered with food.

                                                        If I do eat, I want something hard and crunchy--hard candy, carrot sticks, even ice. You get the idea. Needless to say, my dentist does not approve!

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                                                        1. re: jlhinwa

                                                          Crunching on ice (specifically driving to McDonald's for a large Coke/Dr. Pepper) and yelling every expletive I know while being stuck in traffic. There is just something about their ice that is so crunchy and soothing.

                                                          Working out makes me feel better when I am angry. Working on anything really. I am a lot more focused and channel all of my energy into it to take my mind off of whatever ticked me off.

                                                          When all else fails (total devastation (ex: breakup, death in family, lost job), I visit with my friends Ben&Jerry, Jose Cuervo or Johnny Walker, and sit on the couch for hours watching Cooking Channel, Food Network, or Rick Bayless when he is randomly on PBS.

                                                          1. re: Kalivs

                                                            Ooohhh- that would be good if you were POed enough to throw out all the stops. I could do that.

                                                          2. When I'm stressed and irritated I usually reach for the salty crunchy and sweet things - potato chips and cookies. But it sounds like you are looking for healthier alternatives, not just commiseration? Pretzels are a much lower calorie salty snack than chips, and a banana or pear with a bit of dark chocolate is a better option than cookies. For healthy munchies, nuts and crunchy vegetables are good, and salty edamame. I've been watching what I eat and have really been enjoying big salads of raw vegetables sliced thin on the mandoline - usually 4-5 out of zucchini, fennel, radishes, carrot, arugula or radichio, cherry tomatoes, avocado, dressed with lots of pepper and sherry vinegar. Big bowl of crunch!

                                                            And I have to agree with Munchie Monster - if there is any way you can channel that energy into something productive, hopefully it will help you get through this time faster. If you have access to a gym, hit the treadmill and get some tension out. If you have a yard, I find pruning very theraputic. You can see results, and you get to hack at stuff. One summer after I found out about the fling my ex had, I pried dandelions out of the lawn until I had a blister in my palm.

                                                            Alcohol is empty calories and a depressant to boot. If you're feeling crappy, why take depressants? I've had good results from "Happy Camper", a blend of kava kava and other calming herbs. It works fairly quickly and you can use it only occasionally (actually not recommended to take it all the time due to potential liver damage), unlike St Johns Wort, which you are supposed to take daily for a few weeks before it takes effect.

                                                            Get out in the sun, buy yourself some flowers, get a massage, whatever you can do to distract and treat yourself for a while. You're not going to feel better in the long run if you are still angry and sad AND have gained a bunch of weight. Good luck to you.

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                                                            Thinking about what to cook when you want to smash things - bagels, pretzels, pasta, or another stiff dough that can take some abusive kneading. Shortbread cookies, especially if you cream the butter and sugar by hand, and chill the dough well before rolling. Cooks always make comments about me beating the cold dough with the french rolling pin, but I'm not angry, that's just how you smash it thinner. Meringue by hand is a good workout too. For more advanced options, puff pastry or croissants (though those do require more finesse than just brute force). Things you can chop and chop into tiny bits of nothingness, like something with mushroom duxelle, or bunches of parsley for tabbouleh. A friend makes a great kale slaw in the food processor, I bet hacking up a big bunch of kale with a chefs knife into 2mm pieces could be very satisfying on a rough day. Plus, healthy!

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                                                            1. re: babette feasts

                                                              Very thoughtful post, Babette.

                                                              And I just have to add-- I love that movie!!!

                                                            2. Well, anything that isn't nailed down or will poison me if I'm that mad. I don't gegt that mad that often, so what i try to do is eat celery, lots of celery. With a litle salt, as long as possible, then graduate to the other things, like a little cream cheese (no using the celery as a scoop, you'll hate yourself in the morning), or cut thin little slices of brie or mozzarella or blue cheese of some kind, and if peanut butter is the only thing that will satisfy your soul, go for it. With most of these you may want to take and alli afterward- do not. You will get massive amounts of extremely entertaining (should you be the type to be entertained/entertaining by it) gas from all the celery and that will be a bad combo for you socially.
                                                              Pringles work, too, and are not as noisy.

                                                                1. Klonopin. I don't get very angry very often but if I am edgy or out of sorts I can not *eat it away*.I pop a Klonopin and chill.Or if I am feeling uncomfortably stressed I will drink two cold glasses of whatever wine I have in my fridge.....that always restores my endorphin depletion so I can have a good little wine fueled *giggle fest*.I recommend it:)

                                                                  1. Celestial Seasonings has a "Tension Tamer" tea that is pretty nice. It has a decent flavor and does aid relaxation.

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                                                                    1. re: alkapal

                                                                      Thanks, sounds like what the doctor ordered!

                                                                    2. I can't eat when I'm angry or stressed. I just have to go for a run or a walk until the feeling passes. I think most people are either feed the anger or starve the anger types. Since you're in the former category, try eating something aggressive, like meat on the bone, or crunchy, like celery sticks or popcorn. None of those should make you fat. Stay away from the Haagen-Dazs, though.

                                                                      1. For the scratchies, I'd take an allegra + zantac (it's what my allergist proposed when I had had three months of hives), and then have some sort of bouncy excercise ie; jump rope (even without the rope. I just pretend I'm a bunny. A very very angry bunny), a hard run, or jumping jacks. Then eat a bowl of warm polenta, loaded with butter and cheese and salt and maybe some hot sauce. Well, either polenta or something crunchy that I can crush vindictively between my teeth.

                                                                        1. First, my appetite goes way down when I am very angry or very sad. When I do need to eat, I eat very simple things -- to avoid cooking and to avoid eating time.

                                                                          At the end, you know what you want to eat. Your body will tell you.

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                                                                          1. re: Chemicalkinetics

                                                                            if my body was a good indicator of what i need, i'd be eating ice cream and drinking iced blended mochas all day every day, no matter what my mood, to the exclusion of almost everything else.

                                                                            i am envious of you because you have a body that won't lead you astray.

                                                                            1. re: westsidegal

                                                                              Your reply and others' have made me think some more. Looking back, I notice that I react differently depending on circumstances and the level of seriousness. When my dad passed away, I lost all appetite. I also lost my appetite during the few times when my heart was broken.

                                                                              However, during the last few hours I was playing a video game, and I noticed that when I ever I lost a game (getting disappointed), I walked over to the freezer to get a spoonful of ice cream. Talenti Gelato to be exact. :)


                                                                              I also got very sad after watching "Malery and Me" -- crying and all, but I didn't lost my appetite.

                                                                              1. re: Chemicalkinetics

                                                                                """"I also got very sad after watching "Malery and Me" -- crying and all, but I didn't lost my appetite."""
                                                                                CK, you crack me up!

                                                                          2. My friend who is an OT recommends salty/sour to her patients that are having difficulty controlling their emotions. For those who want to avoid excess calories she would say to have sugar free sour hard candies or sugar free sour chewy candies (like sour patch kids, sour gummy fruits chews). The action of sucking and/or chewing help relieve stress and the sour gets your mind focused.

                                                                            For min. calories she recommends dutch style salty pretzels or pretzels rods for the same reason. The thickness and crunchiness helps relieve stress and the salty does the same as the sour.

                                                                            1. Whatever you eat, I hope you feel happier soon.

                                                                              1. I don't really eat when I'm angry, I'm more of a bored/sad eater myself. But you could try saltines (or other crackers)... not extremely lo cal, but crunching the crackers would be pretty satisfying, I imagine.

                                                                                  1. Lift (weights). It'll release whatever wonderful chemicals working out releases. Maybe that anger will fuel better maxes.

                                                                                    1. Instant mashed potatoes made with either chicken stock or nonfat milk and garlic salt. Fast to make, and if I don't swallow it, it protects my teeth from grinding.

                                                                                      1. Last night it was half a big bag of some kind of "smart" cheddar popcorn. Healthy enough ingredients, but that quantity just before bed didn't do my stomach any favors this morning...

                                                                                        1. Whatever is the most unhealthy thing I can find in the house.
                                                                                          With gin.