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PHREDDY Feb 16, 2013 01:36 PM

I got married in 1978.....but we are really interested in your experience....for example...the caterer at our wedding asked us what we would be drinking that night? I said bannana Daquiri, the bride , Champagne...., The cocktail hour first from the receiving line ;I remember the line of prepared foods., there must have been 25 different items ..Swedish meatballs, pigs in blankets, calf brains, , chicken chow mein, skewers of curried chicken, pasta stations with tons of veggies, dried beef enveloping asparagas the size of a baseball bat.
plus the cold canapes that I cannot recall,this was right after the ceremony. The entire event took place at the same venue....we had the ceremony first then the cocktail hour, then dinner....They served us a main course , but really never ate it, we were visiting all of the guests....I know there was a poached salmon with a bernaise sauce, brocolli/ carrots, and spinach with a garlic oil preparation,then a seperate plate that they brought to the table empty, and then a heated serving cart with huge hunks of prime ribs that were freshly carved in front of you, plated with horseradish sauce, with some cottage fried potatoes, Fred Flinstone style! (my ex - father-in-laws idea), but pretty cool.

I then cut the cake, had a piece stuffed in my mouth and did not even gaze at the desert hour buffet..... which had all kinds of stuff... from chocolate mouse cake, to puff pastry with vanilla creme and every fruit combination in between......as the people left, they were handed doggie bags of pastries that had not been eaten during the desert hour , as well as some wedding cake...at the time we all smoked tobacco........we had two gentlemen rolling cigars for the men and women as they left...

What was your experience?

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    foodieX2 Feb 16, 2013 01:59 PM

    We had a buffet. Here are the highlights of the main meal. I am sure I am forgetting a lot.

    Standing rib roast with yorkshire pudding, sliced to order
    Broiled/stuffed lobsters
    poached salmon with dill sauce
    statler chicken
    roasted white and green asparagus (hollandaise on the side)
    green beans almondine
    Some other green veggie? I can't remember
    2 or 3 kinds of potatoes
    2 kinds of rice
    traditional dinner rolls
    freshly made baquettes, still warm
    3 salads-caesar, mesclun with spiced nuts and dried fruit, traditional iceberg with cherry tomatoes, shredded carrots and cukes

    apps were hot and cold. I remember mountains of shrimp cocktail, a complete raw bar with some guy doing nothing but shucking all night long, mini tarts in assorted flavors, hot cheese puffs…

    There were bottles of Moet on every table and an open bar with everything from wine/beer, traditional mixed drinks as well any cocktail or blender drink you could want.

    Crazy day and we left early. The stories we heard later with even crazier.

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      gingershelley Feb 18, 2013 10:41 AM

      It would be fun to know where (city - area), the year, and wedding reception location foodiex2! Helps with all the comparing notes here:)

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        foodieX2 Feb 18, 2013 10:43 AM

        It was 1991 in Mass, near the cape. The place doesn't exist anymore.

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          PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 02:48 PM

          I got married in Long Island , NY Searingtown...in a Jewish temple...which still is thriving..
          ya...no....after reading many of the responses....It does bring back some things that I did not remember.....Chopped chicken liver, chopped egg with onion, potato pancakes with apple sauce....a delicious cream of brocolli soup, without cheese..

          1. re: gingershelley
            PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 03:08 PM

            Where have you been? have not seen you lately......I know.....working!!!!!

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              gingershelley Feb 26, 2013 06:36 PM

              Phreddy - glad we are both 'back'

              I know you were working, and I was s-i-c-k, then overworked...

              Hoping more people will post on this thread. Interesting!

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                PHREDDY Feb 28, 2013 09:22 AM

                ;-} +1

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            PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 02:49 PM

            Tell us about those "stories"...I assume it was thoses who stayed and got stuck at the bar!

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            kseiverd Feb 16, 2013 02:08 PM

            Married in 1971... VERY no-frills. Reception was at local firehall with "ladies auxilliary" doing the food/buffet. My Dad (nd future husband) made a run Delaware from SE PA for all the booze. Remember Dad askng if I had checked on the cake... the DAY BEFORE!! Said NO... if it wasn't there... he'd get his money back for sure.

            ABout 100 people, good time had by all... MAYBE $10 a head!

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              wyogal Feb 16, 2013 02:09 PM

              We kept it simple, had a 7:30 wedding, so no dinner, just cake, cookies, punch, coffee in the church basement. Then went to my parents' house for a party afterwards, just family, and had salads, deli meats, buns. We had about 200 at the wedding. There were 3 that night with overlapping guest lists, earlier wedding, ours, then a dinner for the 3rd. People appreciated that they could just come for the wedding and then go to the other reception.
              oh yeah, 1981

              1. coll Feb 16, 2013 02:20 PM

                As I sit here waiting for my meatloaf and mashed potato dinner to finish cooking....

                We got married a year before you in 1977, and had a nice selection that everyone claimed was the best spread they'd ever seen, but of course we are talking the 1970s. This is Long Island so a catering hall was hired. We chose the DeLuxe Smorgasbod package, and guess how I know? I still have the wedding package price sheet (it was such a blur I would never remember any details otherwise) so here we go:

                Cocktail hour: Baked clams, stuffed mushrooms, chinese shrimp rolls, chicken livers with bacon, franks in a blanket, fried chicken, swedish meatballs and potato pancakes. Every ethnicity represented!

                Dinner, 2 hot carvings, we selected: Turkey sliced and placed on frame and honey baked Virginia ham.

                5 Hot Chafing Dishes: Lobster Newburgh, Shrimp Creole, Veal and Peppers, Coq au Vin Rouge and Beef Burgandy.

                On the side, cold platters and salads: Antipasta and tossed salad with dressings, stringbean and red beet salad, marinated herring with cream sauce, chicken liver mold, cold duckling with sauce, Bigarade roast beef, turkey and continental cheese platter

                Viennese Table: Italian pastries, eclairs, fruit tartlets, assorted pies, cheese cake with toppings, chocolate mousse, fruit jello, fruit salad au maraschino, cherries jubilee, french cookies, petits fours, with espresso or demitasse.

                This, with 5 hours of unlimited liquor and including gratuities and flowers/candles, lace tableclothes etc set us back $21.75 per person. It was a dollar more for Saturday night so we did the deed on Sunday instead! They had to refill the serving table five times or so they told us, both our families love to eat! It also included the wedding cake; I think we got something like chocolate with cannoli filling but really can't remember. Oh and they were connected with a very upscale hotel so we got the night there afterwards free. People definitely smoked throughout, but it wasn't 100% tabacco.

                Things are so different now, I'm waiting to hear about something more recent so I can compare!

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                  PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 02:56 PM

                  First off...how was the meatloaf and taters?...secondly, I remember the magic number for my wedding, paid for by my in-laws and parents was $50 /head...200 persons...10GS...I thought it was crazy, because that could have been the down payment on my house!!!!
                  after much conversation, I did not want to take away the experience that they wanted for their kids.....none the less I had almost 10,000 save and bought the house anyway....
                  It was a great party....but I think the final tab was about $16,000 with the music, photos, out of town guests accomodations and the night before diner...

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                    coll Feb 18, 2013 04:04 PM

                    The meatloaf was great, I finally have it nailed after all these years. The potatoes would have been great but husband wanted just a meatloaf sandwich, with cheese, just as well.

                    The only thing I remember is, is that everyone told me, what you paid for the wedding ( or should I say my parents) was what you would get: About $3,000 if I recall...somewhere like that. It was most of the down payment on our first house in Kings Park, which ended up a nice investment. $41,000, sold for 141,000 13 years later. My biggest financial coupe in this lifetime. A nice wedding gift in retrospect. My nana gave us $300, which was the airfare to fly down to Disney World for our honeymoon, she had about 15 other grandchildren so pretty generous I would say. I wasn't in it for the money, but you know how parents are.......

                2. TheHuntress Feb 17, 2013 04:12 AM

                  I only married a few years ago in 2009. Mr. Huntress and I were friends who just decided to marry, so we did so quickly and in secret. We only had very, very close family and friends, which was excellent because we were able to go all out for food and drinks.

                  Basically we hired a small private room at a fine dining restaurant and told our guests to go nuts. I have no idea what we all ate and drank - I can't even remember what I had for a starter (there was a LOT of alcohol at our wedding, most of our guests had 2 day hangovers LOL), but I do remember I had a delicious paella and I couldn't manage dessert I was so full. Lots of champagne, loads of cocktails and scotch to finish. Once we finished eating and it was an even smaller group of us we decamped to a jazz club and drank martinis. It was an awesome day and we had a brilliant time. The general concensus has been that the 2 day hangovers were worth it. I would do it all again in a heartbeat, it really was the one of the best days of my life.

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                    coll Feb 17, 2013 06:56 AM

                    Everyone told me not to worry, it would be the best day of my life....so true!

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                      PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 02:59 PM

                      I actually met my wife when we were 4 1/2 years old...in kindergarten....then took us 20 years to get married....talk about a long courtship....(not really we met up in again in college and the rest is history!)we were married for 27 years divorced, got back together and a year later she passed on...

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                        coll Feb 18, 2013 04:12 PM

                        Wow that is quite a story, sorry for your loss.

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                          PHREDDY Feb 19, 2013 02:57 AM

                          Thank you, but as it has been told to me...look forward, and keep moving.

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                            Lillipop Feb 27, 2013 02:34 AM

                            That is a very romantic story Phreddy.I know it is sad too but it is also very sweet and a testament to love:)

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                          TheHuntress Feb 19, 2013 05:31 AM

                          That is quite a story! I hope you shared many happy times together and you have lovely memories. I too, am sorry for your loss.

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                        INDIANRIVERFL Feb 17, 2013 08:27 AM

                        In 1986, I flew in from Germany, my bride from Fort McClelland Alabama, and family from Bermuda, California, Wisconsin, and Pennsylvania. To the chapel at Patrick Air Force Base.

                        My Mom found a restaurant that specialised in high end Euro style cuisine. Your choice was Beef Wellington or whole fried pompano like they do carp in Germany. Salad was a choice of pickled veggies, and dessert was a variety of cakes and rum marinated fruits over ice cream.

                        We complemented the waiter on the great meal and that it was just like back home in Germany. He laughed and said the owner and chef were from Germany and were happy to oblige. Bride and I went to the kitchen to personally thank them and found out that they came from Wetzlar, a town about 10 miles from where we lived!

                        We honeymooned at Disney World sucking down 1975 and 1976 Dom Perignon that I had picked up the weekend before in Reims.

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                          coll Feb 17, 2013 09:20 AM

                          We honeymooned at Disney World too, we had a great time!

                        2. biondanonima Feb 17, 2013 02:45 PM

                          We eloped in 2010, inviting just my parents to be witnesses (plus a friend to take photos). After the brief ceremony (performed outdoors by a JP), we went back to our hotel suite to sign the papers and have mimosas and nibbles. Afterwards, we went to a nice local restaurant to have brunch. DH and I also threw a party at home about a month later to celebrate with friends, and I did the food for that - a couple of cakes, a fresh ricotta and roasted tomato tart, chicken satay, beef kebabs, a fabulous cheese assortment, some dips and crudites, etc.

                          Having just been to a lovely wedding for one of my best friends from college, I can honestly say that I am SOOOOOOOOOO happy that we did not do the traditional big wedding+reception. I had a wonderful time at their wedding but the stress and expense just weren't worth it for me!

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                            TheHuntress Feb 17, 2013 04:42 PM

                            Me too, biondanonima! Eloping was awesome and I was so sad that after our wonderful wedding we attended a friends enourmous, expensive wedding, which the bride left crying as one of her guests smashed a toilet at the reception centre. After all those months of stress and planning and expense all she remembers is the smashed toilet. We took the view that all we needed was witnesses, a few people we wanted present and a celebrant. I chose that I needed a red dress ;) I just could not care about table decorations, seating arrangements and family arguments over things IMO are not worth worrying about. It worked for us and I loved every second of my day!

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                              biondanonima Feb 17, 2013 05:12 PM

                              Purple shoes with a 3" heel for me! ;) We made a mini-vacation of it and spent 4 glorious days in the city where we met, without a care in the world. It was perfect!

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                            onthelam Feb 17, 2013 08:32 PM

                            We were married in 1986 after a whirlwind courtship and so decided to have a small private ceremony at home and then a party for about 100 guests about ten days later. At the time we were living in a large loft space in lower Manhattan so we asked an artist friend who was also a caterer to do the food. I honestly don''t remember the actual meal, the memorable part was when she doesn't show up - as planned - in the afternoon to prep the party and we can't reach her anywhere. No one knows where she is or what's happening. By 5 we had a whole plan to run over to Balducci's ( gourmet Italian grocery ) and buy every prepared dish, cheese, bread, pate and dessert they had left and and just make a big buffet - and then she showed up! Sadly she had just gotten a terrible medical diagnosis she hadn't expected so of course we we were understanding, and she ultimately did a wonderful job, but I don't remember the meal - just the cake - chocolate cake served with oranges and cognac. We ate the top layer out of the freezer within two weeks!

                            1. Passadumkeg Feb 17, 2013 09:38 PM

                              We catered our own wedding at our lakeside cabin. Married on the dock. We rented tables and cookers an had crab dip, lobsters, steamed clams and corn on the cob & potatoes. Barlett's Estate Winery donated a case of wind and blueberry pie for dessert. Company left and we went to the loft to storm the Bastille, July 14th.

                              1. tcamp Feb 18, 2013 09:25 AM

                                A buffet, at a casino in Reno. I recall a fairly decent piece of prime rib and a nice bloody mary.

                                We got married by the clerk of court, Washoe County, NV. We're hopeless non-romantics and had been living together for 12 years prior so it suited us perfectly.

                                Edited to add: Hey, cool. Thanks to the county's online marriage search function, I know I was married at 11:24 AM!

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                                  PHREDDY Feb 19, 2013 02:58 AM

                                  That is cool!

                                2. gingershelley Feb 18, 2013 11:10 AM

                                  I got married in 1995, in September, on the Steamship Virginia V.
                                  My then-husband and many of his family/friends volunteered on the ship, so they donated it's use to us for the wedding and reception for just the cost of fuel. The catch was - we had it on a Thursday! That was just fine, as many of our friends worked in restaurants/catering industry, or were in from out of town so it didn't really matter it wasn't a weekend. We had around 75 people; a nice smallish size.

                                  I was a lovely warm early evening when we set sail down Lake Washington, and we had the wedding in the salon all bedecked with little white lights and strand after strand of flowers and ivy a florist friend did for us with our help. We made 300 feet of ivy garland from cutting in our yard wound onto florist wire, then flowers were stuck in in water tubes; the entire railing of the boat was done in flower garland, the aisle of the wedding salon, and the main deck buffet area. Very beautiful.

                                  I was working in catering sales for a big off-premise catering co. in town, and had a friend from there who was both a great cook and catering captain take charge. She and I did the menu, then she and friends were able to borrow the companies kitchen to produce it, so we did it for a steal. Artist friends made several special dishes and platters so that was very lovely for service as well. We did a buffet, as the steamship was several floors, so had everyone go through the buffet then find a spot to sit with plates on thier laps, so all finger and fork food.

                                  I had vietnamese shrimp salad rolls with peanut sauce, saffron and terriyaki (what was I thinking?) chicken skewers with dipping sauces, cold poached sides of salmon, a savory cheesecake with a nice fruit/berry selection and homemade crackers, pea salad (for the hubby), wonderful platters of roasted/some marinated veggies, like beets, baby carrots, artichoke hearts, root veggies. There was a rice salad, and a sweet potato/new potato salad with a curried dressing as well.

                                  After the wedding 'cruise' ended and we docked 4 hours later, my husband and I left for our new life on our little sailboat that the groomsmen had managed to deck all out with roses and streamers. Very romantic.

                                  My cake was a gift from a cake baker I knew, and she made it big enough for about 200 people so it would look big on the cake table....

                                  Someone brought it back to our new rental house where of our contemporaries went with us to continue to party and open the gifts after the boat came back to the dock, and when we came home from our honeymoon a week later, there was a big squished moldy wedding cake on the counter - ack!

                                  It was a beautiful, wonderful personal wedding and reception - we were very happy with it:). Friends still mention it as one of the best weddings they ever went too.

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                                    PHREDDY Feb 18, 2013 03:16 PM

                                    Only in seattly baby!!!. sounds so nice and warm....like the sweet potato fries in the oven right now!!!!

                                  2. jrvedivici Feb 19, 2013 06:35 AM

                                    1994 at The Westwood Manor in Garfield, NJ. Although this was close to an hour away from the church it was one of the few locations that could accommodate a party of 300+ in one room.

                                    In our opinion the cocktail hour is the best part of any wedding so our primary focus was making that as special as possible. This started by having a cocktail hour and a half to make sure the guests had ample time to sample everything we put into the cocktail hour (and a half). This included unlimited raw bar with jumbo shrimp, oysters, clams (both shucked to order) and cold lobster cocktail. Besides all the normal cheese platters and cured meats and vegetables we had a carving station and several hot dishes and passed hor devours and a pasta station. Additionally, we had a mobile Italian Hot Dog and Sausage Cart which was pushed around the room where you could get an Italian hot dog or sausage sandwich made to order. Out on the patio adjacent to the cocktail hour we had an exotic grill. This was an out door grill which included such items as rattlesnake, buffalo, scorpion and shark to name a few. (It’s been nearly 20 years there was more I just can’t recall it all).

                                    Dinner was Chateaubriand sliced and served table side with white glove service. (I don’t recall what the seafood option was). Top shelf open bar all night and bus service to the near by hotel where most of our guests stayed that night since it was such a journey from home. It was Sunday brunch in the morning with our family and friends then off to the honeymoon later that day.

                                    We were fortunate enough to take a 2 week honeymoon which included a 1 week cruise then one week in Aruba. As a gesture of our appreciation for such a beautiful affair we purchased a vacation package for each of our parents to join us in Aruba. (at the resort next to the one we were staying…..I’m nice, not dumb!! Lol ) Our honeymoon turned into an annual event where we all purchased time shares in Aruba. All in the same development and annually we all returned, now with my teenage children, to Aruba each year for a large family vacation.

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                                      PHREDDY Feb 19, 2013 06:42 AM

                                      I once attended a wedding there, and also remember it was a real nice affair.....

                                      I was in Aruba on my honeymoon too, and believe me it has changed in some 35 years..

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                                        jrvedivici Feb 19, 2013 07:11 AM

                                        My honeymoon was my 2nd trip to Aruba so overall I have been traveling there 20+- years....and it has changed in that period of time as well. I have traveled throughout the caribbean and Aruba is still my favorite island by far. Obviously though I have a lot of sentimental memories there now.

                                    2. LMAshton Feb 27, 2013 01:24 AM

                                      Sri Lanka, 2003. Eight hours after I arrived in Sri Lanka from Canada to meet the man, we were married with his two best friends as witnesses. We had lunch, the four of us, at a Chinese restaurant. From what I recall, devilled something or other, probably squid. Probably tom yum soup. Beyond that, I don't recall. It was good, though. :)

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                                        PHREDDY Feb 28, 2013 09:24 AM

                                        Very interesting....

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                                          LMAshton Feb 28, 2013 03:28 PM

                                          Yeah, and a bit, um, nervewracking at the time. But we're very happily married and suit each other immensely, so it's all good. :)

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                                            PHREDDY Mar 1, 2013 04:32 AM

                                            That is what it all about!...( but we like to have fun here on the CH!)

                                      2. PattiCakes Feb 28, 2013 09:51 AM

                                        We were married on the 4th of July, 1976 -- on the celebration of the country;s bicentennial. We held a "surprise" picnic in my parents' large back yard, telling everyone that it was a 4th of July picnic rather than a wedding celebration. We had 140+ guests at various times during the afternoon, including a couple dressed as Betsy Ross and Uncle Sam. We rented 6' long grills, which were manned by my sister's college friends. The menu included: burgers, hot dogs, over 1,000 steamed clams, 500 ears of corn, 5 kegs of beer, a barrel of root beer and a champagne toast. Since we were trying to disguise the fact that it was a wedding, (our picnic tradition was that everyone brought something) we had people who signed up for all of the sides -- pasta salad, coleslaw, potato salad & etc. . We were 30, had most of the stuff we needed to set up housekeeping, had friends who had little kids & could not really afford babysitters, expensive gifts or dressy outfits for a formal wedding, and really wanted our friends to have a great time. Those who did not bring food brought bottles wine, which were kept in big coolers. We go married in a private ceremony at a local church that morning, then announced the happy news part way through the festivities. We had badmitten, volleyball and horseshoes set up. I threw my bouquet out of the bathroom window. A helluva good time was had by all.

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                                          tcamp Feb 28, 2013 10:20 AM

                                          That sounds like alot of fun and a perfect venue in which to celebrate your marriage.

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                                            PHREDDY Feb 28, 2013 11:53 AM

                                            Wow that sounds great!!!!!!! I have never heard of that..

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                                              Terrie H. Feb 28, 2013 12:19 PM

                                              I had friends who did the surprise wedding, as well - they lived on a houseboat in a nice marina in DC and invited everyone to a dock party. She wore a white leather miniskirt. The 80s were quirky!

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                                                juliejulez Feb 28, 2013 04:26 PM

                                                That does sound great! I'm not married yet, but when I do, I want it to be in a barn, and I want to serve bbq and stuff like burgers and hot dogs :)

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                                                  PattiCakes Mar 1, 2013 05:34 AM

                                                  Go for it! My son-in-law's brother is getting married in October. he and his fiance recently bought a house with quite a large open area of ground around it, so they are planning their wedding at the house. Catering will be done by a local BBQ company. Because his father's heritage is Mexican, they are also looking for a local mariachi band to play. Should be a blast!

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                                                    juliejulez Mar 1, 2013 01:00 PM

                                                    That sounds awesome!

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                                                  gingershelley Mar 5, 2013 11:30 AM

                                                  What a nice, personal and inclusive celebration! Bravo!

                                                3. pinehurst Feb 28, 2013 10:55 AM

                                                  My husband and I were older (mid-late thirties) going into our marriage in 2002, and we kept the guest list small in order to treat our guests (most of whom were traveling cross-country, and many of whom weren't young) to a great meal. Our parents had passed, so we paid for our own wedding and had control over what we wanted.

                                                  We had open bar, and white and red wine at the tables. During the photo session hot and cold app’s were passed: shrimp cocktail, beef and meatball skewers, fruit and cheese, other things I didn’t get to see/sample. Sigh. And I love me some appetizers.

                                                  First course was farfalle with shrimp and basil or farfalle with cherry tomatoes and mozzarella.

                                                  Main course was swordfish and mixed sautéed vegs or filet mignon with spinach, garlic and oil. Both with roasted potatoes.

                                                  Then we had a very nice arugula-based salad.

                                                  Dessert was fresh fruit with whipped cream, and there was a coffee table with Italian cookies, espresso, coffee, teas, etc.

                                                  The wedding cake was cassata, and every plate had a small box of Jordan almonds on it as a favor.

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                                                    PHREDDY Feb 28, 2013 12:04 PM

                                                    PH....Was this in a restaurant? and was near where you reside now?....Cassata cake, haven't had it in years....but I think I have to visit my local bakery (Italian) soon....

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                                                      pinehurst Feb 28, 2013 12:16 PM

                                                      It was at the Andover Inn (MA), which is now (if it's operating) under new ownership/management. So for a lot of reasons (H's job loss, venue changes, dear relatives passed on) we'd never be able to duplicate that event. Nice to remember, though!

                                                      Cassata...I have it once a decade, I think. :-)

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                                                        baseballfan Feb 28, 2013 04:50 PM

                                                        Also had my wedding reception at the Andover Inn. It was in 1984 and a fabulous time was had by all. Same food as you basically except we had the option of some type of chicken breast as a main and the basic white wedding cake. We had 110 people and it cost my parents $2500 not including the open bar that my inlaws generously paid for.

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                                                          pinehurst Mar 1, 2013 11:54 AM

                                                          Was Henry Broekhoff the manager at the time? Old school fabulousness, and they did stuff right, then, for a good-sized group like yours or a small one. And not at an outrageous price, either.

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                                                    kcshigekawa Feb 28, 2013 11:59 AM

                                                    The (late) Spousal Unit and I were married at a little Victorian house at Stern Grove in SF. All four of our parents, our siblings and their respective spouses, and one friend (with spouse). 18-20 people, IIRC.

                                                    We had a friend who had a catering business to support her graduate studies in painting, and she did the flowers and tables as well as delicious and beautiful food. Lots of champagne, salmon, sides and salad that I can't remember, and a decadent chocolate cake to finish.

                                                    About four months later, we rented a bar (SF eastern waterfront,,,can't remember what it was called) for a big party for all our friends. Cash bar (we were kinda broke), and we provided food. Cold cuts with condiments and breads, potato salad, cole slaw, chips, veggies and dips, and I thinksomeone brought cookies. Friends with a blues band played, other friends sat in.

                                                    A good time was had by all both days!

                                                    1. alliegator Feb 28, 2013 01:58 PM

                                                      What was served? Pizza and beer.
                                                      I was married in 1996 in Tucson, AZ. I was 19, the mr. was 23. We were married at whatever office they did that at downtown. I do know that for $35, we are still just as married! Nobody was there because we were so new to the area. At the time, no family backed our decision, which was basically made because he got his first grown up job, and I could move with him or stay behind in PA.
                                                      We always ate at a bar/restaurant place Called Frog and Firkin. It's a cute, homey place, and it only made sense to go there and eat. They had fantastic pizza and never carded me and it was a great meal. I think we enjoyed that meal a lot more than most people do on their wedding night.
                                                      We're in the process of moving to Phoenix, and going there to have a pizza will be our first day trip :)
                                                      http://www.frogandfirkin.com/

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                                                        wyogal Mar 1, 2013 11:51 AM

                                                        We have a tradition in my family of doing pizza and beer for the rehearsal dinner. My sisters and i all had ours at a family friend's place, Sammy's Pizza, up in ND. If you've had their pizza, well, you know what I am talking about.
                                                        Our son was married a few years ago, in Va Beach, he picked the pizza place Pi, close to the beach. It was fabulous, easy way for the families to relax and blend, visit. Food was great, and not very expensive, really.
                                                        So, yes, pizza and beer is a great way to celebrate!

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                                                          coll Mar 1, 2013 01:16 PM

                                                          My friend in ND ONLY does Pizza Hut; where is Sammy's? In case I go visit....she came here to NY and wouldn't get anything local, borrowed my car to go to the local chains, maybe if it was in her neck of the woods she'd try it.

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                                                        zin1953 Feb 28, 2013 04:25 PM

                                                        Married in 2002 . . .

                                                        red: 1997 Cotes-du-Rhone, "Les Champauvins," Domaine Grand Veneur, Val de Rhône, France.
                                                        http://www.domaine-grand-veneur.com/agl/index.php

                                                        white: 2001 Pinot Blanc "Tradition," Kuentz-Bas, Alsace, France.
                                                        http://www.kuentz-bas.fr/index_en.html

                                                        sparkling: 1997 Blanc de Blancs, 100% Chardonnay, no dosage, Equinox Winery, Santa Cruz Mountains AVA, California.
                                                        http://equinoxwine.com

                                                        wedding cake: Masse's tiramisu; raspberry.
                                                        http://www.massespastries.com/Home.html

                                                        Oh, yeah. Food. I know we served food. Really good food, too. Hmmm . . . have to check with my wife.

                                                        1. eviemichael Mar 1, 2013 05:08 AM

                                                          We got married a little over a year ago- January 2012 in Athens, Greece.

                                                          Our menu was: Celery root soup with caviar on toast, lobster salad, lime sorbet, beef filet with potato gratin and veggies, dark chocolate mousse cake with a hazelnut crust, and then a selection of regional Greek desserts.

                                                          I'm hazy on the canapes, but they were pretty standard: smoked salmon on rye, prosciutto wrapped melon, etc.

                                                          For our anniversary the hotel served us the same meal from the wedding! It was great to actually enjoy the food that time. :)

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                                                            PHREDDY Mar 1, 2013 05:14 AM

                                                            EM.....I hope that was back in Athens.....Was that in a restaurant ?

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                                                              eviemichael Mar 4, 2013 03:22 AM

                                                              Yes it was in Athens in the hotel's restaurant.

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                                                                PHREDDY Mar 4, 2013 05:38 AM

                                                                I hope that you can get back there often to celebrate...

                                                                So do you have any special "Greek" receipies that you can share here or on other boards?

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                                                                  eviemichael Mar 4, 2013 06:36 AM

                                                                  I live here in Athens actually. :)

                                                                  Sure, I can share recipes. My grandma's are the best! You have anything specific in mind?

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                                                                    PHREDDY Mar 5, 2013 12:37 AM

                                                                    Lemon potatoes, that I made tonight....what is your version?

                                                          2. PHREDDY Mar 1, 2013 05:13 AM

                                                            The recurring sentiment that is running through this discussion, is that all ate something, and that all had some wonderful memories! We had a live band, 9 or 10 pieces, because my dad was a professional musician early on in his work life, and then something different .....a "DJ"...

                                                            I remember my dad telling my FIL that he would pick up the tab for feeding the band...they did not want the meal served, so they ordered chinese food, but had to eat it outside, because the temple would not let non kosher food inside!

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                                                              coll Mar 1, 2013 11:04 AM

                                                              Our band informed me at the happy hour that they didn't have the sheet music for the Beatles song we chose for our first dance (how can that be? I ended up in the sheet music business shortly afterwards so I know that's crazy talk). Anyway he took the liberty to chose another Beatles tune, but a really sappy one; fortunately we were having such a good time I wasn't really upset. The food more than made up for it. Ah, the days before Bridezilla!

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                                                                PHREDDY Mar 2, 2013 07:00 PM

                                                                SOOOOOO...what was the song/...mine was the "Wedding Song" by Paul Stokey (of Peter Paul & Mary)....my best friend's song was "Tied to the Whipping Post"....

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                                                                  coll Mar 2, 2013 07:03 PM

                                                                  My husband joked that he'd like Purple Haze, and I still tell people that was our song, and they believe me! But no, we picked In My Life and the band changed it to Here There and Everywhere...not really our style. I'm sure I'm the only one that remembers and it didn't seem to bring us any bad luck, at least.

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                                                                    PHREDDY Mar 2, 2013 07:17 PM

                                                                    In My Life ....such a beautiful song....What song did you dance to with your dad?....I danced to "the Twist"..with my mom after my bride danced with her father to "I only have eyes for you"

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                                                                      coll Mar 2, 2013 08:38 PM

                                                                      Daddy's Little Girl if I remember correctly. The band chose that, they took their Master of Ceremonies very seriously. My husband with his Mom, I have no idea, although the photo of them is priceless; she has tears of happiness in her eyes! She never thought she'd see the day.

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                                                              charlesbois Mar 3, 2013 04:19 AM

                                                              Champagne Brunch! And it was glorious.

                                                              Our wedding cake had two different flavors, a chocolate tier and a cassata tier.

                                                              1. MissBubbles Mar 5, 2013 11:00 AM

                                                                Married 2003 in a vineyard in Los Olivos

                                                                We made apps of good cheese & olives

                                                                Santa Maria BBQ cooked on site:
                                                                Tri Tip (one of the best we had had, it took us 5 years of trying to make ours as good)
                                                                Beans
                                                                Salad
                                                                Bread
                                                                Salsa

                                                                Baked our own cakes, poppyseed with dusting of fresh powdered sugers and edible flowers for decoration.

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                                                                  Valley Village Fish Mar 5, 2013 11:07 AM

                                                                  We had a wedding-on-a-budget in Hollywood, and had the reception catered by the Kogi Truck. It worked splendidly.

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                                                                    PHREDDY Mar 5, 2013 11:11 AM

                                                                    VVF....I am not familiar with the Kogi truck....what kind of food was it?...Certainly different....

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                                                                      Valley Village Fish Mar 5, 2013 11:27 AM

                                                                      Kogi was arguably the food truck that started the gourmet-food-truck fad; they serve an only-in-LA fusion of Korean and Mexican food; think Korean BBQ tacos. http://kogibbq.com

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                                                                        PHREDDY Mar 6, 2013 04:51 PM

                                                                        There you go.....awesome...love it!!

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                                                                      gingershelley Mar 5, 2013 11:37 AM

                                                                      Now that's hipster foodie reception done right - yeah to the Kogi truck!

                                                                    3. Bill Hunt Mar 5, 2013 06:56 PM

                                                                      Oh gosh. I was so hungover, that I cannot recall any food. Heck, until my wife showed me the album, I did not realize that we had a photographer!

                                                                      Hunt, married to the same young lady for 43 years.

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                                                                        PHREDDY Mar 6, 2013 04:54 PM

                                                                        Hunt....would expect no less than that from you.....but you have must have remembered somthing>>>>did you actually say ..."""I DO""""?

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                                                                          Bill Hunt Mar 6, 2013 06:25 PM

                                                                          No, I actually remembered very, very little, and am ashamed of that. There WAS food, as some of my wife's "family" showed up, with containers to take food home to "others." I did not know them, but my wife said that it was OK. As she had 350 "immediate family" invitations, I am not sure who most of the people were, but if said "OK," then it was fine with me. There WAS food, but I have no clue what it was, other than it must have been good, as dozens of "family" lined up to take it home. Wish that I remembered more, but I do not.

                                                                          However, that was 43 years ago, and we are still married, so she must have seen something in me, that I did not realize, or she's just a masochist?

                                                                          Sorry to be a "spoiler" for the thread, but that's my story, and I am sticking to it... [Grin]

                                                                          Hunt

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                                                                            PHREDDY Mar 8, 2013 05:41 AM

                                                                            BH.....LOL....you could not make that up......and your not the spoiler, because you did admit to having a few that put you in a better place!...

                                                                      2. fracklefoodie Mar 7, 2013 07:31 AM

                                                                        Mr. Frackle and I were married in April, 2012 in a smaller ceremony at a historic mansion here in Seattle. We were working with immigration at the time, as Mr. Frackle is a delightful Scotsman/American-in-training, so knew we were going to deal with time constraints and a family traveling a long distance to make it. My priorities for the 50 person event were to keep it all intimate and to feed everyone well.

                                                                        For beverages, we served champagne, wine, bottles of good craft beer (to prove to the Scots that not all Americans are beer deprived!) and two signature cocktails: a Godiva chocolate cream cocktail and an apple gin blossom.

                                                                        We served passed heavy appetizers (having the menu handy makes cut and paste easy!):

                                                                        5 Spice Duck Confit with Sweet Potato, Fig Compote and Triple Cream Cheese on Tuscan Pane Crostini
                                                                        Ahi Tuna Poke with Ginger, Sesame, and Citrus Vinaigrette over Avocado
                                                                        Cucumber and Mango Spring Rolls with Thai Basil and Pea Sprouts with a Curried Lime Peanut Sauce
                                                                        Gerard and Dominique Smoked Salmon over Mt. Townsend Camembert Cheese on Crisp Potato with Tomato Cucumber Relish
                                                                        Classic Tri-tip Beef Pot Roast Pie with Seasonal Vegetables and Puff Pastry Crust
                                                                        House Made Fries in Individual Cones with Traditional Condiments
                                                                        Hand Cut Chicken Breast Nuggets with Parmesan Cheese Crust
                                                                        Grilled Cheddar Cheese on Tuscan Pane Bread with House Tomato Soup

                                                                        Our cake was three tiers:

                                                                        Dark chocolate cake with dark chocolate ganache and dark chocolate buttercream,
                                                                        Coconut cake with mango buttercream and in house raspberry preserves,
                                                                        Lavender cake with lemon buttercream and lemon curd.

                                                                        It was all fabulous. And I'll be ordering that coconut/mango/raspberry cake again for celebrating our first anniversary.

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                                                                          PHREDDY Mar 8, 2013 05:44 AM

                                                                          FF.....Yumzers.....that selection is awesome!.....that spring roll is ssomething I might steel for my own collection!

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                                                                          jjw Mar 9, 2013 06:37 PM

                                                                          My husband and I were married in 1990 at the courthouse, with only my parents and brother as guests. We showed up first thing in the morning, wrote our names on the waiting list, and stepped into a courtroom when it was our turn. Afterward we went back to our condo and I fixed heuvos rancheros and a fruit salad for brunch, with my husbands favorite lemon bundt cake for dessert. Our wedding album includes a photo of me standing at the sink washing dishes after the meal.

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