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Jan 30, 2013 10:39 AM

Are people getting nastier...


Or am I just getting chowhound-older?
I don't want to fall into that stereotyped old lady who (incorrectly) remembers a time when everyone was friendly and polite, but it seems to me there have been a lot more personal attacks, judgements and generally unfriendly behavior on the boards.
Granted, I have spent more time on the NAF board lately and I know that one is more prone to negative posts, but has anyone else noticed this too?
Just curious, it's come to mind a lot lately and I was wondering if I was the only one thinking this way.

  1. To me the contrary is true. Five years ago, it seemed like there was a lot more angst. In retrospect, I would blame it on the prevailing zeitgeist at the time - everyone was uptight. Ten years ago, the Site was much smaller and the participants more hardcore food dorks. There was a lot passion, but less of the word choices were personal.

    Nonetheless, every so often, someone raises your same question.

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    1. re: MGZ

      Well, that's comforting, especially coming from someone as well versed in the site as you are.

      1. re: MGZ

        I also think the site is more polite than it used to be. When I first started lurking here in the late 90's (remember that clunky infinitely slow-reloading software? that took two minutes to reload each time you read a post in each thread?) I used to crack open a beer and log on just to marvel at the incredibly creative and vicious invective thrown back and forth on the Kosher board and the Outer Boroughs board. Now THOSE were fights......
        On the other hand, hyacinthgirl, you are absolutely right that Not About Food is probably the board with the most fighting. If you stick to the more food-centric boards I think you'll find it less stressful.

      2. The more often my posts are read, it seems the more tolerant others have become. But then I am one of the relative few that have posted a fairly complete profile.

        1. In my humble opinion Chowhound is just reflective of society as a whole. I think there are a lot more people just unhappy in general and it just spills into their posting on here.

          People come home from a job they don't like or feel respected to a spouse or significant other they don't like or feel respected by and they sign on here (or any other social network type site) and they just want to feel appreciated and respected. So the second you don't agree with them.....they are ready to confront while safely hiding behind the anonymity of this thing Al Gore invented called the internet.

          When people say hey Jr your fat.....I just say...oh no...I'm just very thick skinned and let it roll right off one of the rolls of thick skin on my back.

          Try to laugh.....and perhaps the world will laugh with you. Please don't let anyone get you down or affect you.....always remember when someone acts out it's because there is a problem or conflict with in them that they are acting out on.

          Be well. Happy Chowing.

          *** EDIT let me also say I have nowhere near the history on here as MGZ and nothing I'm saying is meant to go against his more historical take on the trends on Chow.

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          1. re: jrvedivici

            I've spent enough time in the virtual world to know not to take things personally and in general, to not engage would be goat-getters. I may just be in a sensitive mood lately, who knows. I'm a bit reassured to see I'm alone in this feeling. It's a good perspective check.

            1. re: jrvedivici

              At bottom, my friend, we're really kinda sayin' the same thing. I think you're absolutely correct in noting that what the poster brings to the keyboard comes out in the post. I just think that the prevailing "spirit" has improved over the past few years.

              As I've noted many times in the past, "Please read my posts in my voice," not one that may be jaundiced by the rest of the thread or any acrimony you might be harboring.

              1. re: jrvedivici

                I have to say that I fully agree with hyacinthgirl. I find that people do not respect other people's opinions. There are some chowhounders who post the same recommendations over and over and belittle anyone who doesn't share their enthusiasm with a particular restaurant. There are times when I feel uncomfortable reading people's posts. Can everyone just be nice!!!

                1. re: Gloriaa

                  I have encountered total food snobbism when I posted about a particular type of restaurant. I was very surprised at the lack of tact.

                2. re: jrvedivici

                  <In my humble opinion Chowhound is just reflective of society as a whole>

                  This is true and the fact that some message boards give you a level of anonymity which decreases accountability.

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