Etiquette regarding guests' choice of condiments
If I serve a mildly seasoned one dish meal, is hot sauce considered a condiment?
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IMHO, regardless of how a dish is seasoned hot sauce is a condiment.
A substance, such as a relish, vinegar, or spice, used to flavor or complement food.
Once upon a time it was consideed declasse to havhe a "label on the table" and it was a source of much mirth and derision when Wialliam Randopl Hearst's "picnics' were photographed with ketchup _in the bottle_ on the tables.
In much of New Orleans, however, bottles of hot sauce, Lea & Perrins (and ONLY L&P), pepper vingear &c have always been part of the table. Used to be that the outer, tan paper wrapper on Lea & Perrins was always left on. Nowadays some restrauteurs think that this is wrong.
Well, you should serve your dish the way you made it. (whatever spicy you like); not all hot-sauce go with all spicy-enable dishes.
If it is your custom to normally have hot-sauce on the table (along with salt and pepper) then it is ok for your guests to add some if they like.
On the other hand, It _could_ be bad manners for a guest to ask for hot sauce or any other non-usual condiments if they are not already on the table or available.
Sounds like you have someone in your life that is a hot sauce fanatic and probably puts it on everything and you are trying to ask us if it is ok when you are providing the meal. Correct?
I cook with low amounts of salt because we have a sodium problem in the family. I have no problem whatsoever if someone thinks I undersalted for their taste. I probably did. We also keep Tabasco on the table normally because we all have varying tolerances to heat. What's the big deal? You want your guests to be happy, no?