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Jan 19, 2013 06:24 PM

Sh&t happens

SO thinks I overstepped my welcome here, at a time when I was so happy to begin interacting. If so I am sorry, truly. I don't want to rile people up, that's so not my goal. If I'm still welcome here, I'd be relieved to do so. My SO is a diabetic, had a stroke, and I first read here to learn the real-life whats and what nots to learn about food and diet. If I offended anyone I am sorry. I get scared. Food is life, sometimes food is what can end life, and sometimes it's hard to distinguish between comfort and life, and which is more important. SO and I tend to think that comfort is more important, but I wonder why we can't have both.

This site is important, not only for foodies but for people who want to learn about the risks and value of food available, in multiple regions. I hope I can continue to post here and learn here, if for no other reason than that I've seen such sensible, compassionate posts here, and that I can learn about what is valuable and worthwhile and worth pursuing.

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  1. All I can say is welcome to the club.

    You will be hard pressed to find any of the regular posters who haven't had their nimble typing fingers slapped at least once or twice (mostly for good reason) mine were. Live and learn.

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    1. re: KaimukiMan

      a couple of ps notes:

      1) it's too good a screen name to loose
      2) is it just your SO that thinks you went a fridge too far?

      1. re: KaimukiMan

        I'm not sure what to say, here. SO does think so, after discussion. He and I don't have a large "real life" social circle, due to illness and our aging social life, "real life" friends, circumstance. Nevertheless, if I reached out in an online circle where I'm not welcome, so be it. I apologize for any offense, I never intended any, just hoped for some stimulating discussion. I'll get on, online or not, so will SO. I just hoped I could share some insights and enjoy some interaction, here, mutual interests on food, nutrition, it seemed like a nice place for some casual, interesting, interaction.

        1. re: afridgetoofar

          I have nothing but a positive opinion of the things you've posted.

    2. Um, there are probably a large number of people who, like me, have no idea what you're talking about. Keep posting and remember: when the belly is full the mind goes blank.

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      1. re: rccola

        "candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker" (t.s. elliot)

            1. re: sr44

              omg, my bad! and i first learned some of her work in 4th grade. shame on me!

          1. re: KaimukiMan

            Actually boys and girls, it's Ogden Nash.

            1. re: roxlet

              I thought it was Willy Wonka (food reference bonus points)


              1. re: HillJ

                Willie Wonka quoting Ogden Nash :). Poor Ogden. Everyone else get credit for his cleverness.

                1. re: roxlet

                  its a sad commentary that the answer was on youtube of all places. hats off to roxiet. im doubly ashamed now.

                  1. re: roxlet

                    I was teasing. Ogden has nothing to fear.

                    1. re: HillJ

                      Don't worry about Dorthy Parker. She has a pretty great line on this subject with he quip "I like to have a martini,Two at the very most.After three I'm under the table,after four I'm under my host."

                      1. re: Servorg

                        I modified that one to "when it comes to martinis there is a very fine line between 3 and 7"

                        1. re: hill food

                          When it comes to Martinis the line is very blurred between 7&10!

          2. Thank you, both of you. To err is human, eh. I'd like to believe that people can discuss things with passion as well as reason, and learn from those discussions. It's comforting to me to think that people aren't so different, when it comes to discussions of what sustains us, in ways we can all understand and appreciate and carry on. Life is messy. I can live with messy. Messy doesn't mean we can't carry on, learn, live from each other, and take comfort from our mutual mistakes, and find happiness in common ground as well as in our differences. Thank you for your responses.

            1. What the fuck are you talking about?

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              1. re: ipsedixit

                Again, I don't know what to say to this. I guess I'm oversensitive. I posted some things recently that I thought in retrospect might be thought of as offensive, when at the time I just thought I was tossing out food for thought, so to speak. After having discussion of the same topic here on this side of the monitor, to get some real life feedback, however, it was suggested to me that I had appeared offensive. If so, sorry. :O This is a site for discussions about food, not about individual quirks.

                It's not like I'm the first or will be the last person to post potentially inflammatory thoughts online, but I'd prefer to think I can get through life without unnecessarily bruising sensibilities, regardless of how I feel about their choices or lifestyles. Go to.

                1. re: afridgetoofar

                  Again, I'm sitting at the computer and TV supposed to get something done with hubby at his computer in his office probably also faking working and YOU'RE TEARING YOURSELF UP ABOUT NOTHING. Join a couple of different threads. 99% of the people here (if not 100%) have no idea what you're talking about. DROP IT. POST A FAVORITE RECIPE.

                  (But maybe you are mixed up and you think you're on a site discussing the Kardashians or something and so have reason to be upset. Really. This is just about what we ate or cooked or bought, not politics or gun control or anything important.

                  Today I had Indonesian with my husband and our daughter: rendang ((of course)), nasi goreng, a chicken stew and smashed fried chicken with sambal on top. What did you have?)

                  1. re: rccola

                    ahhhh... I posted this below in reponse to a post that has been deleted by the OP. I wish it was still here, it was deserved and I appreciated it... Anyway, below is my response to that reply. And, I'm done, now. I wish everybody good eats and happy days. I don't know what the "liquor is quicker" reply was about, but whatever, carry on and be happy however you choose to be happy.


                    LOL. Thank you. I guess SO and I do spend too much time bleeding internally about things over which we have no control, and worry too much about our online presence and its very small, wee, impact on readers, how egotistical of us. :O Thank you. I appreciate your common sense!

                    Tonight I did a stir fry for dinner with blanched gai lan, some bits of leftover chicken, steamed rice, etc., and red bean stuffed mochi, bought at the same store where I bought the huge sack of gai lan for under 3$. I love that store. I can come home with a week's worth of groceries from that market for a fraction of what I'd pay at the Price Chopper store down the street.

                    1. re: afridgetoofar

                      there you go, read the site's guidelines, keep it on topic. God knows I stray and get cut (ouch). Just search the Home Cooking and/or General board for similar diabetic issues and I'd say asking away on these with specifics in those places will probably fly. occasionally I cook for people with special dietary needs, and doing a simple search first does cut out a lot of needless wonder, like "why is nobody responding? etc).

                      most posters do express a LOT of empathy.

                      my motto is usually "if I want to ask it, then probably hundreds+ more already have"

                      if you've truly crossed a line, the mods will generally let you know through a discreet e-mail. a deletion here or there is par for the course.

                      In that regard under a Home Cooking thread regarding cooking for/with diabetes, your stir-fry method would probably be let stand (just guessing here).

                      1. re: hill food

                        Thank you. I'm new to the posting online scene. I didn't have my knuckles rapped by a moderator, but did get some negative feedback and felt embarrassed, of course. It's hard to judge what's acceptable or appreciated online, faceless, voiceless, so I do appreciate your response here. I'll learn, from feedback good and bad, but of course I would rather get thoughtful, compassionate feedback. When considering future postings I certainly will think, "Who else has asked", and do some research before blurting out questions or opinions on my keyboard.

                        1. re: afridgetoofar

                          and pls don't forget it's easy for any of us (you, me, anybody) to sound abrupt when it's not necessarily meant. the shorthand in our heads doesn't always translate to the keyboard.

                          1. re: afridgetoofar

                            I am quite confused here. What exactly did you do wrong?

                            1. re: andrew_eats

                              I was overly opinionated and brusque on a thread a while back, at least to my, and maybe some others way of thinking. My bad. If I take the time to think and not just react I prefer to be civil and thoughtful, in at least one instance I wasn't and now it's on the World Wide Web for all to see. I won't delete what I posted, which I could, because that would be cowardly and I don't think my opinions were wrong just perhaps too strongly worded. I don't like thinking I've hurt anyone's feelings, so I apologize here, and I'll be more restrained in any future postings, that's all.

                              1. re: afridgetoofar

                                Don't beat yourself up and don't isolate yourself over a post or two. This is one very well-mannered and pretty forgiving forum. Love of food apparently builds bridges and mends fences. :)

                                1. re: afridgetoofar

                                  Do link that post to this thread. So everyone can review it. Otherwise, this is a bit vague.

                          2. re: afridgetoofar

                            "candy is dandy" was in reply to rccolas comment about a lack of thought process that can occur after two much food. I was implying that too much alcohol can have the same (potentially disastrous) side effects. The original intent of Ms. Parker's quip was not geared toward food, but a different kind of hunger and how to access the reward.

                    2. If you haven't found the Special Diets board yet, this may be more helpful to you than the Home Cooking Board. Many Chowhounds using the SD board share a common health concern or dietary challenge.


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                      1. re: HillJ

                        wow I never noticed the Special Diets board before, my nephew is marrying into a largely gluten intolerant family and I need to adapt some favorite familyrecipes for him. THX, HillJ

                        1. re: hill food

                          I read the SD board every day, have yet to contribute. Wealth of information over there.

                          1. re: hill food

                            jump on to special diets please. need more people over there. thanks.