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Dec 9, 2012 05:06 PM

Giving/exchanging food with friends

My mother recently passed away and my father has been giving a lot her of Japanese books and foods to her friends. Just the other day he took some books and cookies to one of their friends. He came home with a bag of satsumas. Another time he took over a bag of glutinous rice, and came home with a container of kimchi. For as long as I can remember, my mother and her Japanese friends have had this habit of exchanging food items. Sometimes, it's specialty food items, sometimes things they have cooked, or sometimes just things they just happen to have around. I don't know if it's a cultural or generational thing. It's kind of funny. Do you or do you know others who do this?

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  1. My brother and I do that - we call it care packages.

    1. I do that with friends all the time and my nationality in the way distant past (generations ago) is Scottish and Portuguese. I am in my 50's, if that helps too.

      Perfect example is a friend stopped by for a visit and I sent her home with container of soup I had made that morning. Or I am currently making seasoned salts for holiday present and I thought a friends of mines sister would like the flavor so I made an extra one and dropped it off. When making pizza dough I always make extra to give away for my pizza loving friend. These same friends are always handing me something made too.

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      1. re: foodieX2

        What kind of soup? We are on ham and lima bean - yum!

        1. re: sydthekyd

          Roasted pumpkin and butternut squash. So good!! I got a mutant butternut squash form the CSA last week along with a nice sugar pumpkin. It made a HUGE amount soup so perfect for sharing.

          Alas my family doesn't not like ham and bean soups so I never make them. I do have a deal with one friend though. His wife doesn't like ham so whenever I make one or get one of those spiral ones I give hime the bone and makes a vat os split pea soup that we share. Bargain!

      2. i love to make soups, but it's hard to make less than a couple of quarts -- it's usually closer to 3 -- so i always have a few quarts in the freezer to share with friends, which is good since i live alone and have a smallish fridge.

        1. All things others have mention seem reasonable to me. For my mother, it was more like, "I want to visit X, what do I have that I can take over there?" Not much forethought in the item itself, it was more like an obligatory thing. Other things that have been exchanged that I can remember are cantaloupes, persimmons, fish, mochi, cooked white rice, spaghetti sauce, slices of pie, cucumbers, spinach and just yesterday, a chunk of fruitcake. Even though mom is gone now, it seems the tradition is living on. I do a lot of baking and I often give baked goods to friends, but I don't feel like I need to take them a ziploc container of leftovers or random produce when I visit with them.