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Nov 28, 2012 03:59 PM

Restaurant gripes

This afternoon, I had a business lunch with 3 other people. 2 of us ordered dessert. The server asked the other 2 if they would like forks to share. Not only didn't I want to share, I had just met these people for the first time. A few months ago, I was at this same restaurant and was the only one who ordered soup. The other person I was with was asked if she would like a spoon to share my soup. Thankfully she said no. We both thought that was odd. Sharing soup??? This past weekend, I was out with 3 people and the other 2 ordered their meals and I ordered a hamburger with a side of onion rings. The waitress brought the onion rings first and gave each person a plate for them. What's up with this behavior from servers??? I'm really getting sick of it.

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  1. Wow, that's very odd and awkward. I've been offered forks to share a dessert -- but only when I've said to the server, "We'd like one dessert to share." It'd be very weird to be offered a fork for someone else's dessert... but much weirder to be offered a spoon for someone else's soup, or to have the server offer my side dish to everyone to share.

    1. What kind of world are we living in where a restaurant thoughtlessly gives us the option of sharing our meals with the people we are eating with? This country, truly, is going in the wrong direction.

      I suspect it has something to do with entitlements. Everyone's always looking for a handout. This soup? You didn't earn that!

      We may be sharing a table and our time, dear dining companions, but you can get your own goddamned onion rings, thank you very much.

      1. As long as they only asked and didn't require you share, I think you're getting steamed for nothing. Lots of places bring extra forks in case others want to share. I would hope strangers wouldn't double dip but would have no problem with close friends and family doing so.

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        1. re: libertywharf

          <I think you're getting steamed for nothing>

          The server brings the spoon and asks the other diners if they'd like to share the OP's food. It puts the OP in an awkward position. What if the other diners said 'yes sure'? and the OP didn't want to. All the servers mentioned by the OP were being unbelievably presumptuous with the OP's food.

          1. re: latindancer

            As long as the food and service was good, this little issue would have been a non issue with me. I would have had no problem with not sharing or saying order your own. Possibly the waiter got several groups that day who wanted to share. I'd rather hear about how the dessert was.
            And if the op was taken back the first time with the suggestion, why keep going back?

            1. re: libertywharf

              Oh, I agree. However, not everyone is likely to feel comfortable with saying to their server, out loud and to the point, "Please, I don't want anyone sharing with me, they can get their own if they want it...bring me one spoon and don't bring anyone else a spoon to share mine".

          2. re: libertywharf

            "I think you're getting steamed for nothing."

            Is it still steaming if placed in the oven and covered with foil? LOL

          3. I am sure the management has told the servers to ask. I've never heard of anyone asking about sharing soup however. I would also hope that a server would be able to recognize whether or not a group of people are intimate enough to share a dessert. Couldn't the server recognize a business lunch?

            1. I think next time you are at a restaurant that provides free refills on drinks you should order one drink and ask for extra cups to "share" with your dining companions.

              That'll teach 'em.