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Beer selections for wedding

Hi all!
My fiance and I really like beer and enjoy trying different varieties. We're providing our own alcohol to the caterer for our upcoming wedding and had great fun making the selections. We tried to provide a variety of styles from places we have lived or that have special meaning to us:

Strapomen (Czech Pilsner)
Flying Dog In-Heat Wheat
Flying Dog Pale Ale
Dogfish 60-min IPA
Saranac Pumpkin Ale

Granted, many of these will be "unfamiliar" to guests, but we view it as an opportunity to do something unique and find it hard to believe that people will choose not to drink beer rather than try something new. We're also providing three wines and a mixed drink. My sister, upon hearing these beer selections, was pretty livid that there was no "Bud Light" available (of course, her next comment was that we had no "domestics", which of course is not correct seeing as there are four of them). She was of the mind that our Bud-swigging family would in fact choose not to drink and that we would have "a ton leftover."

I think she's overreacting but am now paranoid. What do you guys think? I could always exchange the Pumpkin and Wheat varieties for some cheap light beer but that gets away from the personal spin we wanted to put on it. I have more faith that our families will not boycott and may even enjoy it (already know our friends will love it). But perhaps we are not thinking clearly!

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  1. Stick with your plan. The list sounds great to me. Don't be manipulated by your sister's passive aggressive attempts, insensitivity, and ignorance.* People will drink what's there - it's a wedding after all. And, hell, should there be a decent amount leftover, you'll have it to enjoy after the honeymoon.

    *Weddings have a way of exposing all sorts of latent, familial issues. Do your best to stay above them and avoid too much unnecessary drama.

    1. Steer the bud light people toward the Staropramen. It will resemble "beer" to them the most in appearance and flavor. If you think a bulk of your crowd will favor light lager style I'd go heavier on staropramen. I love Czech Pils.

      1. My brothers and like your sister and I know where you are coming from. The thing is, my brothers don't want to be challenged or try something new. And as much as I would like to introduce them to new and fantastic tastes, I also realize that when I'm hosting them, one of my responsibilities, as a host, is to provide drinks that are to their taste. If you don't want to provide Bud Light, make sure you have enough of the soft drinks they like on hand. If there are beer leftovers, see if you can bring them home... more for you!

        Alternately, you could provide a small amount of Bud Light as a nice gesture, so they feel their tastes have been accommodated. But if there's only enough for them to have 2 or 3 per person, once the "wheels are greased" and the Bud runs out, they might be more inclined to give something new a try.

        1. First off I really dont see the problem with left overs. How is extra beer for you ever a problem. Secondly, I say stick with your plans. Its YOUR wedding. Have what YOU want. All aspects of the event should reflect YOU not anyone else. Let your sister have Bud Light at her wedding not yours. And if other people refuse to try it well too bad for them. Yes you could get a few bud lights to placate those folks you think wont try anything else but the problem is that if they see theres Bud Light available they will likely drink it all quickly and then complain that theres no more left and be more annoyed then if they hadnt had the choice to begin with. Whereas if they have no choice its much more likely theyll at least try one or two rather than have no beer at all.

          For my wedding I had an Octoberfest reception which featured kegs of several different Oktoberfest beers and some straight ahead german choices in bottles like Spatan Lager, some German wheats and some ciders for the fall. Neither side of our family are beer heads in the least but the beer was free so it went like gang busters. And there was no heavy weird beer-head beer there (even for my beer head friends). It was all very accessible and easy to enjoy just like Oktoberfest is supposed to be. So tell sis to put a sock in it and to give a Czech Pilsner a try. She may find she likes it.

          1. Yes -- stick with your lineup. We did something similar at my wife's and my wedding (i.e., no familiar beers), but as far as I could tell no one was unhappy about it. And I could tell for certain that the beer-lovers in our group really enjoyed tasting their way through the offerings. We did also serve wine, which I suppose is not subject to the same intensity of allegiance, so maybe that acted as a backup for anyone intimidated by all the west coast IPAs, although we hadn't planned it that way.

            1. Thanks all for the support! This encourages me to stick to the plan.

              MGZ- yup, there are some underlying issues there. Long story, but will try to stay above the drama! It's so unnecessary.

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              1. re: junebug03

                No one (non beer person) would see any problem having only Bud, Miller and Coors Light. We've all been to "that" wedding (I actually went to the hotel bar and bought a Sweetwater and Sam Smith) when everyone looks at you when you say "I'll have nothing" when they tell you what they really have

              2. I like your suggestions...where's my invite? ;) ;). Not sure what's available in your neck of the woods, and offering the Strapomen is a good suggestion. but if Yingling's Light Lager is around, you stick in a selection of that to appease the Bud Light crowd. We did that with a housewarming party earlier this spring. I had a good selection of Bell's 2 Hearted, Victory Summer Love and Sweetwater Road Trip, but iced down 2 sixers of Yingling Light which appeased many thristy throats.

                1. I be willing to bet your Bud swigging family will suffer through the "unknown" beers rather that stick it out sober. Who knows you even turn a few of them.

                  1. Stick to your plan and be a "beer ambassador". We did it for a baby shower and the only issue was how quickly those used to drinking their lite american adjunct lagers got buzzed when drinking "the good stuff".

                    1. Ignore your sister. We had two unusual beers at our wedding of 110 people, and they drank through 1.5 kegs of unfamiliar beer.

                      1. When I get a chance to try some unfamilar beers on someone else's dime, I'm all for it.

                        AZGrandpa