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Offering wine to friends?

I really enjoy wine with meals or while relaxing in the evening, but my husband doesn't drink and because we live in the "Bible Belt", indulging in a drink isn't as commonplace as it is in some other areas.

What is the best way to offer friends/new acquaintences a drink in my home or order drinks in a restaurant when I don't know if they drink or not?

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  1. Well, they can always say "no".

    Sorry about where you're living, tho -- that's gotta be tough.

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      1. I don't understand why you can't just offer. Would it offend them to be offered a glass of wine?

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          1. re: BethanyRose

            Tough titties for your friends. It's only common courtesy to offer a beverage. I suppose you could simply ask if they would like "something to drink" without specifying whether the devil alcohol is an option.

            That way, they're idiotic sensitivities are spared, and you don't have to deal.

            1. re: linguafood

              "It's only common courtesy to off a beverage."

              You're right. That helps, honestly.

              1. re: linguafood

                would you like something to drink? an adult beverage perhaps?

              2. re: BethanyRose

                That seems bizarre to me. I don't think I would deal well with such delicate flower-types.

                1. re: LeoLioness

                  Haha, believe me, I don't deal well, but I'm trying! :)

            2. "could I get you something to drink? Iced tea or maybe some red wine?"

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              1. re: boogiebaby

                +1

                Just throw the wine in the list of options - Coke, Iced Tea, Water, Kool Aid, Wine.... etc.

                  1. re: dave_c

                    That's what I was going to say as well.

                      1. re: escondido123

                        That is what I was going to suggest also.

                      1. re: dave_c

                        Be careful with the kool aid. Mustn't drink it yourself.

                      2. re: boogiebaby

                        What booglebaby said is right on. I remember when I first moved to the neighborhood and I had people over on Halloween. I knew one of the adults was raised a member of a very conservative church in the area, and it was really all I knew about him. So I listed off, "apple cider, coke, diet coke, ginger ale, and we do have some beers too." I was pleasantly surprised when he said, "I could really use a beer, sounds great!" Because all the other adults had taken the apple cider and I thought, "phew, now I can have a beer too!" :)

                        Not that I typically feel I HAVE to abstain around others that don't drink, but I was the new one on the block trying to get to know everyone so . . .

                        Anyway, it is polite to offer a beverage. If you don't know if they drink alcohol, offer several options and see what happens.

                      3. Try this exchange:

                        Host - "Would you like a glass of wine?"

                        Mrs Harters "Thanks. Do you have a Prosecco?"

                        Mr Harters - "Thanks. I don't drink but I'd love a Sprite or something."

                        That conversation happens all the time with us.