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Negativity?

The constant negativity on this site is one of the reasons why I'm not as active as I'd like to be. In the case of many users, it seems like they go through life seeking for things to be offended by or to criticize.

Has anyone else noticed this?

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  1. Really? I haven't noticed any negativity on this site at all. Everyone gets along and has such supportive things to say.

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    1. re: HillJ

      And there's no sarcasm either ;)

      1. re: CanadaGirl

        Or finger pointing, or hovering or unwanted help.
        It's all good!

    2. I think when in search of recipes or recs, the site is as good as ever. I think when it comes to reviews it's brutal. I'm extremely critical and I'm sick of people telling me places are great when they obviously aren't, but the poster knows the owners. I have had so many posts lifted because of mentioning I knew someone. It's unfair, because any place you go to once a month or more, you know the staff. As long as you're objective I don;t see a problem, but when you read some of these glowing recs and you know the place is a dump, it's comical

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      1. re: jhopp217

        I report each and every possible shilling (or potential direct conflict of interest) post and let the mod's sort it out. I hope you (and everyone else on this site) will do the same.

        1. re: jhopp217

          You might think you're objective, but you're getting treatment that other "regular diners" don't. I'm a regular at a Spanish tapas restaurant in the Boston area. I wrote up a LONG review of a special dinner there with friends about 6-7 years ago, and it was removed. If you get to try special drinks not yet on the drink menu or tapas are given gratis to your table, not everyone else reading will be able to enjoy the same benefit(s).

          So while it bugged me at the time, I understand. As for if you know a restaurant is bad as compared to a glowing rec, why can't you give your opinion on that? I've never been deleted because I disagreed on the quality of a restaurant.

        2. I've participated in several internet forums, and this one is the most polite by far, on the whole. Some people, however, just can't abide a contrary opinion, no matter how politely expressed.

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          1. re: GH1618

            I agree. People feel free to say things on the internet they would never say to your face. This forum is pretty polite, for the most part, both because it's moderated and because the "community standards" set the tone (just as they set the tone for complete sentences, good grammar, etc., which I appreciate).

            But as GH1618 just put so clearly disagreement is not rudeness. If all you want is for people to hang on every word and shower you with kisses, then perhaps a place like chowhound where people have strong opinions and express and defend them isn't for you.

            1. re: Ruth Lafler

              Good points, Ruth. I would add that I think disagreement and constructive criticism can be a great way to learn something or at least see an issue from a different perspective.

              I once participated on a board where people were TOO nice. Someone would post something that was blatantly false but the participants were so nice they would not correct the person. That does not benefit anyone and in some cases was actually dangerous because people that were not experts in food safety, for example, were offering erroneous advice that could have sickened people.

              1. re: Fowler

                I'm curious, Fowler - would you (or did you) post correcting information in these cases?

                1. re: LindaWhit

                  Good question, Linda. Because the culture of the board was to not correct people I just bit my tongue if the issue was rather innocuous HOWEVER, if there was a clear safety issue ("oh sure you can still eat that pot roast that you forgot to put in the fridge and has been sitting on your counter top at room temperature while you were away on vacation for 4 days) then I would notify a moderator and let them handle the situation.

                  What would you have done?

                  1. re: Fowler

                    You say that the culture of the board was *not* to correct people, but I still think I would have done so. If people got up in arms about it, I would then ask "do you want incorrect, possibly harmful, information to be given out here?" I don't know how people could say "yes" to that. If they did, or argued *against* correcting erroneous information, I would just bow out and leave them to their fallacies.

          2. The short answer is no. Every now and then I come across a post with "attitude," but not often, and really it's no big deal.

            (Am I being negative? <grin>)

            1. There are people with strong opinions here. That's fine with me. Sometimes I'll come across posters who seem to aggressively push a point of view over a much more reasoned dialogue. That can be annoying, and I may decide to respond or possibly just ignore that poster. Doesn't happen often though. YMMV.