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Help! My husband loves canned frosting!

I need help, fast. My husband's favorite dessert is Yellow Cake with Milk-Chocolate Frosting. For Father's Day, I said I'd make him whatever he wants, and he requested that for dessert.

I've made it for him in the past, all from scratch, and he's been kinda lukewarm about it. Finally, for a potluck, I made two cakes: one from scratch, and one from a cake mix and canned frosting. The frosting I made was an incredibly amazing one from Cooks Illustrated/America's Test Kitchen, whcih everyone fainted over. But he said he liked box-mix cake better -- AND the canned frosting better. I don't get it!

Nevertheless, this is what he prefers. He says it's what he grew up on, what he's used to, and in his mind, this is what yellow cake with milk choc frosting is supposed to taste like.

I'm willing to concede on the cake mix, as they really are pretty good, and can be doctored up fairly easily. But what can I do about that dang canned frosting? I don't like it, and I don't like to work with it either. I could try to sneak a homemade frosting past him, but I'm afraid he'll be unsatisfied with that...

So, does anyone know of a good homemade Milk Chocolate (not dark chocolate) Frosting recipe that is somewhat similar to canned? Or should I just cave in and use the canned stuff, because it's what HE likes (and after all, I am making it for him)? What do you think?

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  1. I say give him what he wants, canned frosting! Cheap, no effort, and guaranteed happiness. Personally, I wouldn't eat canned frosting. But who am I to suggest he is deprived of what he wants?

    1. Give him what he wants....it's about him, not you, even if only for one day!

      1. A third on giving him what he's requested. I find them too sweet, even though I have a sweet tooth. I have successfully added cream cheese to a canned buttercream frosting to cut the sweetness.

        1. I spent dozens and dozens of eggs (for their whites) trying to make an Angel Food Cake that would rise the way my Grandmother's did. This was for my about to be husband who told me his favorite cake was Angel Food Cake with that 'boiled frosting'. ( I had the 7 minute frosting down pat for years.)

          He didn't like my really light and fresh AFC; he finally admitted his mother always bought the several day old marked down AFC at the grocery and those were the kind he liked.

          He finally came around to mine because mine are higher and deliver more frosting.

          1. Oh give the guy what he wants! You have the rest of the year to win him over to the homemade side of baking :)

            something to die for like these beauties:

            1. Give him what he wants. (When I want Kraft Mac and Cheese, even my best homemade won't do.)

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              1. re: escondido123

                +1. Sometimes you just want the cheap stuff!

              2. Ach,give him what he wants!! That stuff is super-sweet, but highly satisfying. You can break the man in gently by making his classic canned frosting choccy-covered yellow cake, which is virtually zilch labor, and then alternating with homemade milk chocolate frosting on your own cake.

                1. People tend to like what they grew up with. I went through the same thing with my husband whose favorite birthday cake is also yellow cake with milk chocolate frosting. After trying a dozen different recipes, it ends up he prefers the boxed mix cake and canned frosting that his mom made.
                  He's a great guy so I bake what he likes for special occasions.

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                  1. re: ola

                    Okay...what they said. It's about him on this day. If you must, accompany your boxed cake and canned frosting with stemmed chocolate dipped strawberries!

                  2. I'm with the others . I hate canned frosting but he loves it. give him what he wants.

                    1. On top of which, you're never going to mimic the canned frosting taste.

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                      1. Thank you all for your kind advice. I really appreciate it. I decided to give him what he likes, as you advised. I'm sure that he will be a happy man tomorrow. Thanks all! :-)

                        1. Hope he had a fantastic Father's Day with his boxed cake and canned frosting! While I love to bake and do make very good scratch cakes/frosting, you just can't compete with what people were raising eating. There was even a time I reached even lower than boxed cake mix and had to have the Jiffy yellow cake--more nostalgia than tastebuds. So, hope you had a peaceful day and he was happy. You can always make from-scratch another day--pick your battles!

                          1. Once a year, I'd give him exactly what he wants - a comfortable flashback to happy occasions in his past.

                            I've often thought that one of the most thoughtful gifts you can give to someone is something that they love, but you dislike (canned frosting, sports tickets, Adam Sandler Movies...)

                            1. Most folks are responding about just how you should handle this particular father's day incident. But I sense you are asking a bigger question and this is what I will address.

                              Yes, these kinds of mixed marriages can be made to work. It can be tricky. You have to be ready to negotiate. In my religion, for example, we do not allow the consumption of shelf-stable pudding or boxed mix brownies. What's required is mutual respect.

                              And the key to avoiding divorce is a clear understanding of how the children should be raised so no one is facing the heartbreak of offspring who demand tinned frosting.