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Fine Dining with a pregnant wife

dhenry18 Jan 31, 2012 07:34 PM

My wife and I are celebrating our 5th anniversary in the middle of March, and we plan to go out to one of the best restaurants in the City to celebrate. Initially, we were thinking Le Bernardin, Per Se, Daniel, etc ... since we haven't been to any of these. A few weeks ago, we became ecstatic to learn that my wife is pregnant with our first child. Obviously, there are a lot of things my wife cannot eat. Looking at the menus, we are unsure where to go. Does anyone know if these types of restaurants are accommodating? Any suggestions? Thanks!!!

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    taboo Feb 2, 2012 08:56 AM

    I would like to suggest Daniel. Also, I was at Le Bernardin recently and happen to see about 3 pregnant women there. I am sure they just order the fish that is cooked more.

    Le Bernardin
    155 W. 51st St., New York, NY 10019

    1. Monica Feb 2, 2012 06:46 AM

      Maybe I am wrong, but isn't selling unpasteurized milk products including cheese and butter illegal in America? i know it's common in Europe...

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      1. re: Monica
        Pan Mar 16, 2012 01:07 AM

        No, it isn't illegal, there are just certain rules about it.

        1. re: Monica
          cheesepro Jul 14, 2012 04:11 PM

          In the United States it is illegal to sell raw milk cheeses under 60 days. The fear is lysteria- however in my humble yet professional opinion this is complete HOOEY. French women do just fine with raw milk cheeses.

          For example real Parmigiano Reggiano is a raw milk cheese. Perfectly safe and perfectly delicious.

          Congrats on your new addition to the family!

        2. jon Feb 1, 2012 07:19 AM

          congrats! my wife (who is 6 months pregnant) and i just went to the modern this past weekend and they did a great job of accommodating us. my wife called the restaurant earlier, told her what she preferred not to eat, and they made changed up the menu. we had different amuses (most of mine had raw fish, hers were mostly vegetarian) and they made sure to tell us that all of the cheeses and butters were pasteurized.

          incidentally, i highly recommend the modern (dining room). haven't been to le bernadin or per se, but we have been to EMP and in my opinion this meal blew EMP out of the water and was much more pleasurable.

          Eleven Madison Park
          11 Madison Ave., New York, NY 10010

          The Modern
          9 West 53rd Street, New York, NY 10019

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          1. re: jon
            dhenry18 Feb 1, 2012 03:34 PM

            Thank you to all. I do not mean to imply that pregnancy is some sort of disability. To the contrary -- it is beautiful. My wife, by her choice, is not eating undercooked fish, eggs, poultry, or unpasteurized cheeses, butters, or milks. Each person should make whatever decisions they are comfortable with

            1. re: dhenry18
              RGR Feb 1, 2012 03:46 PM

              With regard to poultry, when it comes to chicken and turkey, nobody should ever eat them undercooked. However, duck and squab are quite safe when prepared rare or medium rare and actually taste better than if cooked well done. These are just the facts and not meant in any way to criticize your wife's decisions in any way. As you say, she should do what makes her comfortable.

              I wish you the best as you look forward to becoming first-time parents. And Happy Anniversary!


          2. Monica Feb 1, 2012 06:28 AM

            First, congrats!

            What are the things your wife cannot eat? Is it because she is pregnant or is it because she is allergic to certain food? That said, being pregnant is not a disease. Unless she has a bad morning sickness or sensitive to certain smell, I am sure she can eat almost everything these restaurants offer.
            i am about 4 months pregnant myself and my diet has not changed. The only thing I do differently is I now avoid alcohol. But like gutsofsteel said, every woman is different.

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              gutsofsteel Feb 1, 2012 03:17 AM

              Every pregnant woman makes her own decisions about she will and won't eat. Best thing is to call the restaurant well ahead of time and tell them what she won't eat and they will accomodate her.

              1. ellenost Jan 31, 2012 08:28 PM

                Definitely both Per Se and Eleven Madison Park will accommodate dietary restrictions. You should contact the restaurant in advance of your dinner so they can make a note on your reservation. Congratulations!

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                1. re: ellenost
                  foodwhisperer Jan 31, 2012 10:13 PM

                  Just pick the best place. They will make adjustments to avoid raw fish and shellfish. Anything else I think a pregnant woman can eat without a problem. Congrats and Enjoy

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