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Jan 3, 2012 10:01 PM

Restaurants that won't let you 'have it your way"


At a fine dining restaurant the other night, there was a cocktail on the menu that contained Jalepeno. My date asked if she could get it without the Jalepeno. The waiter went to check with the bartender.

He came back to tell us that the bartender refused. His words were that it was "against her ethics."

I thought this was charming, kind of like the soup nazi. It indicates a mixologist that cares about her creations.

My girlfriend was furious. She said that she was the customer and she should be able to get it however she wanted.

What do you think?

  1. If the bartender created the drink to feature jalapenos, then removing the jalapeno likely strips it of its identity.

    If she wants to try it that badly, she could always remove the jalapeno when it arrives, although it's probably a fairly fiery drink, even without it.

    The bartender is likely trying to avoid making a drink that is missing a key ingredient, then having someone return it because it tastes like it's missing something.

    Good for the bartender.

    If your girlfriend wants a similar drink without the jalapeno, then order the similar drink - not the jalapeno version.

    1. Nah, I wouldn't ask a bar/restaurant to change one of its signature cocktails. If I don't want some fancy-ass berry Mojito I'll just ask for a traditional one.

      Now, did the lovely girlfriend behave furiously at the waiter, or just vent furiously to you in private? ;)

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