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Drinking While Food Is In Your Mouth??

Ok, I'd never come across this before, but I recently noticed that both of my ex's parents will take a bite of food (toast, sandwich, potato, meat, etc) and while it's still in their mouth will take a swallow of whatever they're drinking, whether it's coffee, hot chocolate, water, or soda. To me this sounds like the grossest thing in the world!! I first noticed it when his father took a bite of a tuna salad sandwich, and immediately afterwords took a gulp of coffee. I made a (semi) joking comment about it, and he told me that it's a very common practice. The idea of liquid and regular food in your mouth at the same time makes me nauseated and causes my gag reflex to kick in!!! Is it just me being weird, or is this completely normal?

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  1. You can fret about this if you want to waste your brain power. I want to respectfully suggest that you just move on.

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    1. re: sueatmo

      Oh I know that people will eat the way they want to, I was just curious if it was a common practice that i'd never noticed. I did ramble quite a bit, didn't i? ha

      1. re: kubasd23

        key word... "ex's"
        Yeah, it's weird.
        and yeah, "ex's"

        1. re: wyogal

          oh, I live with them, enter "weirder" don't ask, it's complicated

            1. re: kubasd23

              It's probably more common practice than living with your ex's.;-)

      2. Ya know, I've seen people do this too, and I think it's really weird. I mean, enjoy the food first and then take a sip if you need to. Doesn't drinking while food is still in your mouth ruin the taste? Unless you just don't like what you're eating, I mean.
        In other words, Yes, it is gross Kubasd23!!

        1. lol funny. I only do this with dry food that I can't swallow ha ha. you may be looking for more reasons to hate your ex not sure though, that is a weird practice.

          1. Why is it gross? In one case, you swallow the foods and then drink liquid. In the other case, you swallow the foods with the liquid. You may disagree with its food etiquette, but it is not gross. Think of it this way. Chicken noddle soup. Most people drink the chicken and the noodle along the soup, and do not chew the chicken and noddle in fine bits. There isn't anything too different here.

            I won't say it is a super common practice, but it is not rare.

            1. I've seen this too!!! I thought it was me, that I was just being overly sensitive to another's eating habits or erh habits in general. I have to be careful, I am so easily grossed out, and have ruined several meals for myself just by looking around or out a window.

              My own Dad did this. After thinking about it, I realized that my Dad was always rushed and worked very hard and long hours, Time taken for a leisurely lunch or breakfast, just didn't happen. He was always needed, and food was there to give him nourishment and was fuel for his body. The only thing I can think is that the coffee and the food at the same time was like killing two birds with one stone. Caffeine for energy, food for fuel and to sustain.

              1. I don't see how they don't get food in their drink glasses when doing this, which is, to me, the reason it's not mannerly. I don't know if it's common, but it doesn't seem very appetizing and certainly isn't mannerly. This is, to me, no different than chewing with your mouth open. I think it is normal to think it's gross.

                1. Oh. I thought this post was about something else. I personally HATE mixing my food with drinks, even if it's just water.

                  I'd rather burn my tongue than ruin the unadulterated flavors of the food in my mouth with some stupid liquid, possibly flavored. Ick.

                  1. Obviously none of you have ever washed down a bite of cheeseburger with chocolate milkshake. Heaven.

                    1. If you have a dry mouth or difficulty swallowing, adding liquid helps to wash the food down. It's not particularly gross - it's not as if they're swilling it around in there. I usually drink water with my meals and have lots of sips as I go.

                      1. Lol...Sounds like something a "competitive speed eater" would do.

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                        1. re: letsindulge

                          yes, watching it brings the nathan's hotdog eating contest to mind!

                        2. I was watching an amateur beer and food pairing on YouTube. The host placed a forkful of chocolate cake I think into his mouth and then almost immediately had a sip of an Imperial Stout behind it. It looked absolutely gross. Is that what he thinks "pairing" means? Why not just pour the beer on top of the cake and then eat it?

                          1. If I have a wonderful cheese and a wine that goes well with it, I will make sure to have some bites that combine the two--they can be great together.

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                            1. re: escondido123

                              pretty common, especially with dessert wines or bleu cheeses with things like Sauternes.

                              1. re: escondido123

                                I have been consistently instructed, at many different wine tasting classes over the years, that on those rare occasions where there is a worthy pairing of wine and cheese, that the proper way to taste is to take a sip of wine, swallow, take a bite of cheese, swallow, and then a final sip. Still not imbibing when there is food in the mouth because the cheese, no matter how delicate, will always overpower the wine. There was actually a study at UC Davis a few years ago that supported this scientifically.

                                http://articles.sfgate.com/2005-06-16...

                                1. re: gardencook

                                  Perhaps I'm confused, but nothing in that article mentions what you've posted about.

                                  1. re: invinotheresverde

                                    I'm sorry you are confused. It was clear to me. Wine and cheese don't go together, anyway. No need to try to drink your wine and try to keep cheese floaties out of your glass because having wine and cheese in your mouth at the same time is not tasty (in general, according to the article), anyway.

                                    1. re: gardencook

                                      What I read in that article is that certain cheese doesn't enhance certain wines, but not that they don't go together. I don't know about getting cheese floaties in wine glasses but it seems that unless you're spitting cheese in when you're drinking, it's a one way street with the help of gravity.

                                      From the article:

                                      "'My 'take home' is, you shouldn't worry about which wine you have with which cheese,' says Heymann. 'Have the wine you love with the cheese you love. ' If most cheeses affect most red wines in a similar way, by turning down the volume, it may be pointless to keep looking for a match that soars."

                                      1. re: gardencook

                                        I hope you are aware of the fact that you are engaging in a convo with a sommelier.

                                        And "wine and cheese don't got together, anyway"? Please.

                                        1. re: linguafood

                                          and there are an awful lot of folks (like professional wine dudes and dudettes) who will tell you that WHITE goes with cheese better than red.

                                          1. re: sunshine842

                                            Oh yeah, totally. I'm a white wine gal these days (since 07) most of the time, and it's fantastic with cheese. Red... not so much. But then I haven't been drinking much red wine lately.

                                        2. re: gardencook

                                          What I gathered from the article is that red table wine and most cheeses don't pair well (something I agree with), not that one shouldn't have food and wine in his mouth simultaneously (something I do not agree with).

                                          1. re: invinotheresverde

                                            I didn't say that the article specifically said to not have wine and cheese in the mouth at the same time. I said that I was instructed (many times) to not do so because the cheese overpowers the wine . The article I referenced was given to me at a tasting class as a scientific look at why we were being instructed thusly. In this particular class, I was told that what the article is talking about is the reason it's hard to pair wine and cheese and to counteract that, to not have cheese and wine in the mouth at the same time so the taste of the cheese is not overpowering. Therefore the instruction to sip/swallow, eat/swallow, and sip again. It made a lot of sense, so I was passing it along. This particular advice has helped me to enjoy wine and cheese together, where in the past I didn't so much. I was trying to be helpful, not argumentative. I apologize if it came across that way. I'm no expert, and believe in the end, whatever one enjoys is what one should do.

                                  2. Isn't this sort of the precursor to ... things like chicken noodle soup? Or Matzo Ball soup? Or beef stew?

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                                      1. It's not healthy to wash down your food. Enzymes in saliva are the first stage in digesting starches so it's important to chew properly, that's what I was taught as a kid so I never drink liquids while food is in my mouth. I don't find it gross when other people do it.

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                                        1. re: hsk

                                          This is why you should drink your food along with liquid if you want to lose weight :P

                                          (improper digestion --> less calories absorption) Just kidding.

                                          1. re: hsk

                                            It's a lot healthier than choking or aspirating. Some people swallow dry food easily and others do not. To each his own.

                                          2. Completely chew and swallow your food then sip your wine. The wine should meld with any residual fats, oils, herbs, etc in a pleasing way and then finally cleanse the palate; so the next bite can be fully appreciated.

                                            1. It's not something I've never noticed or thought about but the idea of solids and liquids in my mouth doesn't nauseate me. It's not like our mouths are blenders where the food is either solid or liquid. It takes time to process solid into liquid so you get that combination, never mind the soup w/ solids brought up above. If I take a bite of pizza and the cheese burns the roof of my mouth, I will take a drink to cool it down. It never seemed "gross" to me and far better than letting it continue to burn.

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                                              1. re: chowser

                                                See how different we all feel about this. As I mentioned up-thread.... ain't nuttin' gross about it. I just hate spoiling the food flavors with a liquid. Pizza's a great example: I'd rather burn the roof of my mouth.

                                                1. re: linguafood

                                                  See, if I burn the roof of my mouth, I'm not tasting much of the future bites and sometimes for days.

                                                  1. re: chowser

                                                    I have a palate of steel.

                                                    No, I don't. But who doesn't like peeling skin off of the roof of their mouth after having that first bite of piping hot pizza with molten cheese & tomato lava....

                                              2. I find it revolting.
                                                Right up there with mixing the food together in "one heap" on your plate ("it all goes to the same place") -or gargling/swishing your beverage around your mouth before swallowing. Disgusting.

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                                                1. re: sedimental

                                                  Yeah, people who heap everything on top of everything else on their plate can't possibly have any taste buds. They are just refueling; it doesn't matter what they eat, clearly. Why not just put their dinner in the blender and then drink it? "It all goes to the same place...." Huh? What's the point there? I'm with you here, sedimental.

                                                  1. re: sandylc

                                                    Let's be fair. A person who drink liquid before he swallow the foods is more inline with a person who drink chicken noodle soup or any other soups. People who drink soups also drink the liquid along with half chewed food.

                                                    This is far different than putting all the food in a blender.

                                                    1. re: Chemicalkinetics

                                                      Not even close to the same thing.
                                                      I have never had a "tuna fish coffee sandwich". Have you?

                                                      1. re: Chemicalkinetics

                                                        I was referring to people who put all of their food in one pile on their plate and then just eat it randomly mixed together.

                                                        1. re: sandylc

                                                          You mean like a tuna fish sandwich? You should watch the English eat--they put a little bit of each food on the fork and then eat the whole bite.

                                                          1. re: chowser

                                                            I know. We were just talking about that earlier. They stack it up the back of the fork and then call their manners superior to ours.

                                                            1. re: sandylc

                                                              Neither superior nor inferior, just different.

                                                              1. re: chowser

                                                                I'll go with that. Mostly because I dislike anyone (including myself) who tries to decide one culture is "superior" to another. There are certainly things to be disliked about every culture at some point in time, but to conduct any sort of superiority contest is stupid. My family has been looked down upon of late by someone from another country with whom we must do business - we are frequently forced to decide between anger, frustration, and "oh, well"/eye-rolling after dealing with this person who clearly believes himself and his country to be superior.

                                                          2. re: sandylc

                                                            Never random, I only do it with with corned beef hash and eggs (over medium) with hashbrowns. Then pour maple syrup and tabasco over it all.
                                                            That's the ONLY meal that I mix altogether like that. Did it as a hangover cure in college, and by golly, it's good! ha!
                                                            But, I do think drinking with a mouthful of food is gross.

                                                        2. re: sandylc

                                                          Eeew. That would be like mixing turkey, gravy, dressing, potatoes, and eeew... cranberry sauce ... all in one bite. Talk about no taste buds. Gross.

                                                        3. re: sedimental

                                                          Do you not like burritos? Or pizza with lots of toppings? Or a chopped salad? How about fried rice or chow mien?

                                                          1. re: ipsedixit

                                                            Not even close to the same thing. Those are created dishes where ingredients are combined in some sort of thoughtful manner, not random foods just thrown on top of each other. Pizza with lots of toppings usually does not included, say, chocolate pudding or coleslaw or gravy or applesauce or bananas or crabmeat....you get the idea. I recently saw someone pile spaghetti and meatballs on a plate, then throw salad and "french" dressing on top of that, stir it, and then eat it.

                                                            1. re: sandylc

                                                              The distinction you're making really just comes down to flavor combos that don't appeal to you = gross, while flavor combos that do = not gross. While you don't like french dressing on spaghetti and meatballs, someone else does - what do you care? There's a teriyaki joint that has a really tasty sweet ginger dressing that I think tastes pretty good mixed in with the teriyaki and rice, and I like the cool crispness of some iceberg lettuce in the bite, too. So what? Is that a whole lot different than a lettuce wrap?

                                                              1. re: akq

                                                                I mean this nicely, but I think you are nit picking rather than seeing my general meaning regarding the random piling of random foods on top of one another, as opposed to intentionally combining foods that you like to eat together :-)

                                                                1. re: sandylc

                                                                  I'm not nitpicking - I think your general meaning is a distinction without a difference...or at least, based on your completely subjective feelings about whether certain food combos are gross or not. You say "random piling of random foods" but that's your gloss on another person's behavior. Who says the person you watched stiring salad and french dressing into the spaghetti didn't "intentionally" combine the foods because he/she likes to eat them together? Would it make a difference if the person clearly requested that the resto cover his/her spaghetti and meatballs in french dressing? Or would that still be gross? What if you just didn't hear the person make that request and only saw them "fix" the resto's mistake by mixing the dressing in his/herself?

                                                            2. re: ipsedixit

                                                              I like all of those things...just not blended with wine, soda, coffee or water, etc.

                                                              1. re: ipsedixit

                                                                Chino Bandido would not go over well with this crowd, ipse.

                                                                1. re: Jen76

                                                                  +1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000

                                                              2. re: sedimental

                                                                i completely agree that it's disgusting, and i don't see how they don't end up getting some of the food back in their drink (which makes me shudder just to think of it).

                                                                i might be a little more on the extreme side, where i actually prefer to eat one type of food at a time - for example with a sandwich, i'll eat the lettuce and tomato first, then the meat, and then the bread.

                                                                i think it stems from one time as a child, i decided to try the "it all goes to the same place" method and stirred up everything together on my plate when out to dinner with my grandparents. i took one bite, and was very sad to realize that i had just ruined my entire meal. luckily i was young enough that they allowed me to order another (side) dish!

                                                              3. Some people have a harder time swallowing dry foods than others.

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                                                                1. re: cowboyardee

                                                                  Maybe people who always wash their food down? As a kid I hated having to chew thoroughly and *produce* the necessary saliva, it was so much easier to drink a little water along with a bite of my sandwich. I suspect not being allowed to do that helped develop prolific salivary glands ;)

                                                                2. You grossed me out at tuna salad sandwich and coffee...probably a new topic, but who drinks coffee "with" a meal other than breakfast? Unless this is another idiosincracy of your "ex's" family...

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                                                                  1. re: whs

                                                                    "but who drinks coffee "with" a meal other than breakfast?"

                                                                    There's dessert too no?

                                                                    1. re: Chinon00

                                                                      I've ALWAYS taken a swig of liquid with each bite of my food, as does my sister, my parents, my grandparents, and come to think of it pretty much everyone else I know (not that I have ever paid much attention to how other people eat). If I try and eat without drinking I pretty much know it will go down hard, and I will get hiccups.
                                                                      Taking a sip of ice water with each bite also helps to cool the food down. my mouth tends to burn easily, so if I didn't cool down each bite I'd have to wait a long time for my food to cool down enough for me to eat it; far too long for eating in the company of others (It's rather akward to be starting your food when everyone else has finshed theirs, and are eager to start cleaning the table.)

                                                                      1. re: jumpingmonk

                                                                        "If I try and eat without drinking I pretty much know it will go down hard, and I will get hiccups."

                                                                        Try smaller bites and chewing your food thoroughly.

                                                                        "Taking a sip of ice water with each bite also helps to cool the food down. my mouth tends to burn easily . ."

                                                                        So when eating salads and other room temperature foods this goes out the window?

                                                                        1. re: Chinon00

                                                                          No, I literally can't swallow without liquid in my mouth, I'd choke. And it doesn't matter how small the bites are or how long I chew, I'd still get the hiccups. I've gottenhiccups from chewing one peanut into paste first

                                                                          1. re: jumpingmonk

                                                                            there are folks with genuine, diagnosed medical issues that make it necessary to drink while they are eaten.

                                                                            Other just prefer it.

                                                                            Mostly, I'm paying attention to me and my manners and my meal...and couldn't tell which, if any, of my regular dining companions do this - it's just not even on my radar to notice (or care, frankly).

                                                                            1. re: sunshine842

                                                                              "Mostly, I'm paying attention to me and my manners and my meal...and couldn't tell which, if any, of my regular dining companions do this - it's just not even on my radar to notice (or care, frankly)."

                                                                              The most pertinent thing said on this thread. Really, I've never noticed if other people do, or don't do it. As suetmo said in post #1, don't waste your brain power on it.

                                                                              1. re: chowser

                                                                                Agree again, chowser. I try not to scrutinize the habits of fellow diners. Well, I said TRY. If someone is doing the open-mouth cement mixer chewing style, or the let's stuff our mouths full of food and then talk sort of thing, or even the hold my spoon like a three year old habit, I guess I'm going to be critical. But how/when they take a drink of water isn't of importance to me.

                                                                                1. re: sandylc

                                                                                  Yes, I agree--if it's in your face, then it's hard not to notice. Someone discreetly drinking, with mouth closed, has never caught my eye, OTOH, open mouth sucking would be a different matter. I'd also worry, in that case, about possible choking.

                                                                                  1. re: chowser

                                                                                    Oh it's a full-on slurping gulp of beverage into a mouth bulging with a large bite of food. It IS difficult to ignore, try as I might...

                                                                                    1. re: kubasd23

                                                                                      I'd work on perfecting the Heimlich maneuver if I were you....

                                                                                      1. re: chowser

                                                                                        already first aid and cpr certified! I guess I could tell him to take bigger bites when it comes time to get re-certified so I can get some practice in!

                                                                                      2. re: kubasd23

                                                                                        so it's more "deplorable table manners" than "drinking with food in your mouth".

                                                                                        Ugh.

                                                                    2. How do you feel about ochazuke?

                                                                      1. I am amazed that people even have an opinion about this, let alone such strong opinions. I do this all the time, and have never had problems with spitting food into my drink as some suggest would happen.

                                                                        What about foods and liquids that are made for eachother? grilled (tuna and) cheese and tomato soup? Cookies and milk? Coffee and pastry? I like them together and I don't see what's per se gross about liquid and solids together.

                                                                        I can understand not liking certain flavor combos - I probably wouldn't want a swig of hot chocolate with my lasagne, but it's not the liquid/solid combo that sounds bad to me, it's just the flavors (just as I wouldn't like it if someone sprinkled chocolate chips on my lasagne).

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                                                                        1. re: akq

                                                                          It is when it is *obvious* that it becomes gross. Clearly, if no one notices you doing it- then it wouldn't be a problem. When it is obvious-it's the noise!

                                                                          The sucking/slurping/swishing sounds that happen when you have a mouthful of food - add liquid, then attempt to maneuver it all around in there before swallowing it. You can hear all this going on in their mouth and sometimes see it.

                                                                          It is also gross when your dining companion moves a partially chewed wad of food to the side of their cheek (like a large chipmunk) in order to drink from their glass. Not attractive, just finish chewing and swallowing, then take a drink. You are not storing nuts for the winter. It compels me to look at the rim of their glass for backwash...I am sure it must be there. That is what is disgusting. Like a car accident, I want to look away but can't. LOL.

                                                                          Note: I think kids do this more than adults. Especially when they are "gulping" and eating in a hurry. I always told my kids to "slow down, chew your food, swallow, don't gulp" etc.

                                                                          1. re: sedimental

                                                                            I don't think I've ever seen/heard what you describe but maybe I'll notice it now that you've alerted me to it? Dunno. I have a hard time seeing this as a real problem.

                                                                            1. re: sedimental

                                                                              Don't ever go to a ramen shop in Japan. You'll be completely grossed out.

                                                                              1. re: E Eto

                                                                                Slurping soup or noodles vs listening to my father-in-law swish around a tuna sandwich and coffee in his mouth (at each bite) before swallowing are....well...very different in the "grossness factor" for me :)

                                                                                Each of us are entitled to our own gross out level.

                                                                                1. re: sedimental

                                                                                  as upthread -- there's a fine line between an odd habit and deplorable table manners.

                                                                            2. re: akq

                                                                              To carry on that idea, I honestly don't know if I drink beverages while food is still in my mouth - ?!? I guess if it's a subtle thing you don't notice if someone is doing it or not (including yourself), but when it's blatent, it's obvious to self and others.

                                                                              1. re: sandylc

                                                                                If it wasn't so blatantly obvious, I probably would have never noticed, and hence wouldn't have thought about it.