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Help Me Bring the Right Thing to a Shiva

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I need to find a place where I can get decent food for a shiva, as in it has to be fresh, tasty, and not bland. My friend doesn't keep kosher but I'm not sure about the rest of the family and so I'd prefer to get something kosher (as in not mixing dairy and meat; the dish doesn't need to be certified). Please help. Thanks to all!

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  1. My experience the classic shiva trays are platters of bagels, lox, cream cheese and smoked fish - so if you have favorite bagel place they should be able to deliver on that -

    1. I try to send/bring something less perishable... Weinstein5 is right, there will be bagels/lox/cream cheese, so unless that gets assigned to you.. get something else. Go to Zabars and get pastries or other cheeses or dried fruit or fresh fruit for that matter

      1. Call the Shiva house and ask what they need. Bring that. The worst thing is to have 15 breakfast plates and nothing for the family to eat for dinner.

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        1. re: nmprisons

          That is a good point there also might be a friend or family member coordinating the food to insure it does not show up all at once and there is variety

        2. Deli platters with bread/rolls or ready made sandwiches are much appreciated. Also, bring plastic utensils/paper plates etc. so the family doesn't need to wash dishes.

          1. nmprisons & weinstein5 have given you the best advice - find out what the family needs or wants, whether from them or whomever may be coordinating the meals. even WITH a plan/schedule last month when we were sitting for my father, we ended up with way too much stuff duplicated, much if which we neither wanted or could use/store. and since i was the person who was responsible for setting it all out, wrapping the leftovers, and figuring out what to do with everything, i can tell you that's the last thing anyone in the family needs to deal with.

            1. Thank you guys for such practical advice! I asked around (a good friend to be exact) and in the end I decided on a gift basket because the "real" food (i.e. bagels, appetizers, etc.) has already been sorted out and taken care of by others. The gift basket I ordered had some goodies like cookies, cheeses, simple stuff...(was told that was the best thing I could get).