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Oct 11, 2011 02:08 PM

Angry man not only stiffs on tip but steals tip jar.

So seems this person was having a bad day and decided to be a bully and I am sure walked away feeling all smug. But there is a little bit of Karma helper called Social media.

Here's the story:

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  1. Pointless since she posted the name of the wrong customer.

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    1. re: PotatoHouse

      Worse than pointless — completely irresponsible.

      1. re: PotatoHouse

        Right name just wrong facebook profile. So the fact that he even stole her tips, is OK?

        1. re: Quine

          Nobody said it was OK. But her reaction was childish and disproportionate, her error unfortunate and avoidable, and her apologies insufficient and ineffectual.

      2. Undoubtedly, she made a big, BIG, booboo. And undoubtedly, the actual guy who did that is a case.

        She's probably feeling pretty crappy about what she did, though. And I think this is a cautionary tale on both sides. On one hand to think before we hit <send>, and on the other hand, not to be a totally meanspirited douche.

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        1. re: inaplasticcup

          "not ... be a totally meanspirited douche"

          I aspire to attain this status. I'm not always successful, but I find it good to have a worthy goal.

          1. re: hill food

            I think you succeed at it more often than not, hill. ;)

        2. What a creep...doesn't do much for Seattle's reputation of being a "nice" city, though jerks obviously live and eat everywhere.

          I live in the Seattle area and find it interesting that I haven't heard about this locally. I am guessing the whole thing is a bit of an embarrassment--the cretin who thought it was okay to steal a tip jar on top of being an ass, and the person posting the wrong FB page.

          I personally have no problem outing the guy who was such a jerk, especially since he stole money. I do, however, feel there is a huge responsibility on the person outing him to get their information 100% accurate. It is unfortunate that someone else was mistakenly identified on FB.

          1. Agree bad judgement was displayed by both parties, but surprised no one has yet touched on the fact that she used the patron's credit card info to find and post the (incorrect) Facebook profile.

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            1. re: LTL

              True. That's a fireable offense, I think.

              1. re: LTL

                I missed that part the first time I read it. That is really poor on her part and it will be interesting to see how her employer responds. No matter what an ass the guy was, it isn't okay to seek retribution at any cost.

                1. re: LTL

                  I don't know if privacy is a big concern at this establishment, since the patron's last name is printed right on the check. And, in general, if I hand over my credit card I'm prepared for the possibility that the other person might somehow discover my name. (I'm less happy that they also get access to all the other information on my credit card, but that's another discussion…)

                  1. re: LTL

                    I think that the ONLY information she used was his name in searching on FB. So I am not saying she put out any CC info.

                    The Man STOLE her tips, and was nasty in writing. Let me tell you, you steal my money and I know your name, I am calling you out. I do believe that stealing is illegal still in this country.

                    1. re: Quine

                      Don't you think the waitress kind of lost the moral high-ground when she outed the wrong person? No one (without damn good cause) should get stiffed on the tip, but neither should anyone be publicly smeared for doing so- when it's the wrong guy!

                      I mean why are we talking about the "karma helper of social media" when some innocent guy got drug into this?

                      1. re: mjhals

                        Yes, it was horrible that she "outed" the wrong guy, but no, she did not lose the moral high road. The guy STOLE her tip jar money. That is a criminal act. That's when it moved from moral grounds to criminal actions.

                        1. re: Quine

                          If there were any criminal actions worth squawking about, in the eyes of the waitress or her manager, the police would have been called. Facebook is not a substitute for legal action. No one has the moral high ground on the Internet. People can just be more or less worth listening to. This woman had a good story at first, she had her 15 minutes and blew it. She is no longer worth listening to.

                  2. I think it sucks the wrong guy got caught up in it, but... I HATE people who treat servers badly. Between the scribbled and misspelled insult ("You cold stand to loose a few pounds") and the stealing of the tip jar, the rudeness (not to mention criminality) is rather breathtaking. I can only imagine the havoc he wreaks on other people's lives. I like that social media puts people like this on notice. And as for customer privacy, he lost the right to that when he went after the tip jar.

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                    1. re: Heatherb

                      Isn't it stretching a little far to assume he is wreaking havoc on other people's lives? Sure, he sounds like an ahole, but I'm not ready to assume he is a despicable person. Especially since we haven't heard the whole story. Just because the server says her service was good and that she was 'nice' to him, doesn't mean that it was. I'm also suspect to completely believe her since she was so willing to go and post his info on facebook. That's not something that the normal person goes and does--so her story loses quite a bit of credibility right away with me. Just because someone harms/hurts/insults you doesn't make it right to act equally ugly.

                      After reading the interview linked in the article linked in the OP (http://lineout.thestranger.com/lineou...), it sounds to me that she was overly friendly/flirtatious to the guy. This either bothered/offended him or most likely his girlfriend, so to prove a point, he left no tip and threw in an insult about her looks to make it clear her advances were not wanted. I'm by no means advocating that leaving no tip and insulting her were the right things to do, they weren't, but I'm simply saying that there is likely more to the story than, great service = no tip + insult.

                      I'm actually surprised we haven't seen a thread from a woman about how her boyfriend/husband was at a Mexican restaurant waiting for her and the boisterous, obnoxious, scantily clad waitress was hitting on him. Should he have left a tip?? She wasn't even that attractive! How dare she try to upsell him!!

                      1. re: pollymerase

                        "Isn't it stretching a little far to assume he is wreaking havoc on other people's lives? "

                        pollymerase I guess you missed the point that there is NO excuse for steal money from anyone? He also stole her tip jar money. Without this criminal act, it would have been a he said/she said story and yes I could agree with your points.

                        1. re: Quine

                          No, I didn't miss that point, but I did read where it said that it was never verified that he did that. I'm just not buying anything from anyone in this story.

                          1. re: Quine

                            I find it EXTREMELY hard to believe that this guy emptied the tip jar into his pocket in front of the manager--as she claims in the story--without anyone calling the cops. Either there wasn't that much in the jar or it never happened. Either way, neither side looks good in this, typical internet flailing over nothing.

                            1. re: MandalayVA

                              The article does state that the tip jar contained less than $2. So I guess it is a case of "pictures or it never happened".

                            2. re: Quine

                              I think that if the insult was based on anything else besides weight; i.e. looks, race, hair color; the customer would not be given such a pass... weight, body type seems to be the last acceptable bias in our society

                            3. re: pollymerase

                              No, I really do think those things are signs of a toxic person. Even if she was a terrible bartender, there's a way that a normal, mentally healthy, self-respecting person conducts themself. Then there's the way a toxic jackhat acts. This guy is clearly in the latter category. NOT someone I would want to know.

                              1. re: Heatherb

                                i am guessing that alcohol was not involved. . . . . . . . . . ;-P