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derfster Oct 7, 2011 05:56 PM

What should I have for dinner on Thanksgiving? - [moved from Prairie Provinces board

I’m Ukrainian. My wife is Jewish. I want to cook a turkey but there seems to be some resistance. The in-laws want a ham option. I’m so confused. Help!

  1. PotatoHouse Oct 9, 2011 05:24 AM

    I'M confused! Your wife is Jewish but HER family wants ham??

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      magiesmom Oct 9, 2011 07:20 AM

      not all Jews are Kosher, in fact most are not.

      Thanksgiving should be foods you love. It makes sense, since it really is a harvest festival that they be seasonal.

    2. Barbara76137 Oct 8, 2011 08:13 PM

      I'd say you just have to create your own tradition. If your Jewish in-laws want ham I'd be totally confused as well!

      I'm not a big fan of a traditional turkey dinner, and I think Thanksgiving dinner should be all about family and friends, so the food should be most important based on the people gathered. I like Anne's response.

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        plf515 Oct 9, 2011 02:54 AM

        Calvin Trillin argued that the national dish should be spaghetti carbonara. I sure prefer it over turkey!
        But, if you want to not quite go so non-traditional, how about duck or goose?

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        hungryjoanne Oct 8, 2011 07:54 PM

        This looks like an ideal time to start your own tradition - what meal do you love? What do you enjoy preparing and serving? If you're hosting the meal, and it's prepared with love, everyone will be happy and THANKFUL!!!
        You could incorporate pork into the turkey dinner by choosing a stuffing with bacon and/or sausage...
        Happy Thanksgiving!

        1. Terrie H. Oct 8, 2011 08:59 AM

          I had a giggle at your Jewish inlaws requesting ham. There is another thread going here about how to serve a Kosher MIL Thanksgiving dinner because she can't use butter on the turkey.

          My family serves both turkey and ham at Thanksgiving. There enough eaters to make this work (with leftovers for everyone to take home for a couple of sandwiches), but you might want th do just a turkey breast and a small ham if you don't have lots of eaters.

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            Anne Oct 7, 2011 06:37 PM

            There is no law that you HAVE to have "traditional" foods on Thanksgiving. I know several people who have lasagne. And since my husband & I fly 2,000 miles to meet my in-laws in the San Francisco area, Thanksgiving dinner for us is usually cioppino or other seafood dish. Cook whatever YOU like, whatever YOU consider "festive". Maybe a beef roast? If you feel you *must* include a "traditional" food, plan pumpkin pie for dessert.

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