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Oct 4, 2011 09:31 AM

Meals/snacks for a grieving family

My neighbours lost their 13 year old Granddaughter Sunday night....

Please bear with me...I know there are probably threads on this subject already but I'm still reeling from the news and can't find what I'm looking for.

I'd like to bring over food.... not casseroles because I'm sure they'll get enough of those. Ideas so far: Soup - maybe butternut squash?
Snacks that are easily eaten out of hand & can freeze if necessary: spanakopita, empanadas...
Cinnamon buns - somewhere in one of the Christmas food gifts threads someone explained how they gift them frozen -- the recipe I use makes 7 pans, if someone could point me to the direction on how/when to freeze them?

Any other soups/snacks/meal ideas would be very much appreciated.

Thanks all,

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  1. That is very sad, indeed. My condolences to all of you...

    Usually my bring-to dish for something like this is chicken soup with just a little rice instead of noodles. Somehow the rice makes it more homey to me. I bring a large loaf of fresh country or Italian bread as well.
    Also, a large pan of roasted chicken parts, very simply seasoned: Salt/pepper/olive oil, a sprinkle of sweet paprika. Can be eaten hot or cold.
    A basket of navel oranges, or any other fruit you know they like.

    Many people send sweet things in abundance but I think simple food that is filling and nourishing is better, especially when those in mourning have no desire to eat.

    1. A batch of high-calorie, high-protein snack of granola might fit the bill. Decadent foods might be eschewed and appetites might be greatly lessened, which is why I'm suggesting a grazing type food.
      I also have to say casseroles are so homey and comforting that I do like that idea.
      Hand foods are perfect too in that you can prep them in individual servings if need be.

      1. When my mother passed several years ago, we were kindly gifted many baskets of food, much of which got thrown away as the days passed. Since you live close by, maybe wait a couple of weeks to bring something over when the first wave of food is gone? If you want to do something immediately to acknowledge the loss, you can mow the lawn or help with the garden or something that they won't have time to do themselves but wish they could do since they are having visitors. You are a kind and thoughtful neighbor. We should all be so fortunate!

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        1. re: chococat

          I agree with chococat. It was sad the amount of food we threw out when my mother died.

        2. If you really want to make the cinnamon rolls, I've had good luck freezing them once they've been rolled, cut and nestled in a baking pan. Wrap well with plastic and foil, and write the baking info on top.
          Defrost, unwrapped, and bake. I just did this with some cr's I was trying to use up and I was surprised how nicely they baked up, two months later.

          It might be nice to bring them some baked, with a small pan for their freezer, so they are not too overwhelmed.

          Best wishes to all of you, so sad to lose someone so very young.

          1. I'm so sorry to hear that.

            I feel like folks really need foods that require zero preparation, and things they can easily offer to all the folks who come by. Nuts, fruit, etc.

            Also, in my experience, it is really helpful to bring over things like coffee, paper coffee cups, napkins, paper towels, toilet paper, and stuff that you just can't bring yourself to worry about when you're feeling that raw.

            The main thing is that you're concerned. They'll so appreciate that.