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Jun 18, 2011 05:45 AM

She never shared her recipe [moved from New Orleans]

It was a New Orleans newspaper, so it's not a surprise. But it's also sad. People loved her barbequed shrimp, but she never shared it. So a memory that might go on, well, it won't.

Sort of a life's lesson.

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  1. Funny, when everyone loves a recipe of mine, I pass copies out to anyone who wants it. So do my friends. I've never known anybody who wouldn't share a recipe, though I know it happens. Doesn't make sense.
    Maybe someone can shed light on this subject...I can't wrap my mind around it at all.

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    1. re: jmcarthur8

      I can't wrap my mind around it either. I have had a few people tell me that they will only share a recipe with me...if I PROMISE not to give it out to anyone. I think it is weird and narcissistic of them. I also think maybe they over value just how great it is also. I have two recipes that I have promised others not to share. It is stupid, but a promise is a promise. It's freaky. Both of those recipes that I "cannot share" are really good...but neither will bring world peace...they are just recipes after all.

      1. re: jmcarthur8

        What a shame! I don't understand it, either - I also hand out recipes when asked, so it's a strange thing to me. I was accused once of not giving out the 'real' recipe, once, but I decided that the accuser was just a bad cook!

        1. re: jmcarthur8


          I once tried to get a cookie recipe from a friend at work (it was her mother's, who wouldn't share). I ended up googling it based on what I thought the ingredients were and it was fairly easy to find. Definitely not a "secret recipe."

          1. re: jmcarthur8

            Apart from some restaurant's "secret" recipes, the only one I can think of by way of explanation is a bloody mary recipe. A friend of mine has one of Louisiana's grand antebellum houses and is a superb host. At a Christmas Party there I had a superb bloody mary and asked him for the recipe for years. Each time I was told "just come up to the house and I'll make you one." Finally, I jokingly lamented this situation to the guy's mother and it was she who explained that he'd gotten the formula from a friend who swore him to secrecy. The explanation was that the original felow ran a catering outfit. If I had known that I would never have badgered the poor guy so much.

            I have read that the Ramos Ginn Fizz was also a secret but that it made the light of day when Prohibition came in and the Ramos gang figured the jig was up so why not hand it out the the rest of the world?

          2. About 2 years before my grandma died I asked her to show me how to make her wonderful strudel. I spent the day with her, I made the whole thing with her at the helm telling me how the crust should feel, a handful of this and that, how it should look and smell when cooking, when to turn the oven down and then finally how to cut it into squares. It's a monstrous job with about 2 hours of prep and 3 hours of baking but well worth the effort.

            I then did the same thing for my cousin and we are the only two in the family that can replicate grandma's strudel. I guess it's time to give my daughters a cooking lesson.