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Dec 7, 2010 09:11 AM

What would you do with a cheese hater?

My husband. my family and friends all find my hatred of cheese to be very amusing for some strange reason. I've made my aversion to the cheeses of the world known before on these boards, but just to be clear...

1. I do not have a cheese phobia. If you put cheese in my face I will only run for cover because of the smell, not because I think it will eat me. (Unlike my dad, who actually has screamed for his life when a hapless bus boy tried to sprinkle parmesan on his veal).

2. Yes, I know there is a cornucopia of cheese and that not all cheeses taste or smell the same.I find it odd that whenever I mention how I hate cheese, someone always feels that I just haven't found the "right cheese". I'm not going to list all of the cheeses I have tasted over my lifetime, but I can guarantee that I have covered the gamut; soft, medium, hard, stinky to the innocuous... yes, even fresh mozzarella I cannot choke down. The one exception: ricotta cheesecake, IF there is enough sugar (to cover up any remaining cheese taste).

3. I do not deny my husband or my friends their right to enjoy cheese, even stinky cheese in front of me. Just don't kiss me until you brush your teeth!! :}

What would YOU do if your loved one hated cheese? Would you torture them by eating gorgonzola every meal? Would you find it amusing? Or would you be frustrated that you can't share your famous lasagna and keep trying to convert the cheese hater?

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  1. hmm... my husband chased me thru the kitchen last night with some super-stinky parm. BLECH! I don't HATE cheese, but between my dairy allergy and the general stinky-ness, it isn't something I really crave or want to eat.

    well... except cheese on pizza. :)

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    1. re: jujuthomas

      Come to think of it, my husband has chased me with cheese before. I'm sure in some foreign country being chased by cheese is some wedding ritual. :}

      1. re: NicoleFriedman

        glad i'm not the only one!

        <in some foreign country being chased by cheese is some wedding ritual.>

    2. I, too, am not a fan of cheese, although on things like pizzas and burgers (sometimes) it's more than just ok.

      But if you put a fancy-schmancy cheese plate in front of me, I'd rather try to construct a Lego-style building out of the cheese pieces than eat them.

      I just roll with the punches.

      I'd tell your loved ones not to try and convert you, and if I were you if they presented a 3-cheese lasagna dish in front of you, I'd simply take a small bite and then move on. The more you make an issue out of it, the more your family members will try to make an issue out of it and try to 'convert' you.

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      1. re: ipsedixit

        My family wouldn't put a lasagna in front of me, thankfully! But I agree that it's a good idea not to make an issue of food dislikes. As I've said, the only reason I tend to like to bring it up is that people seem to find my hatred of cheese amusing, and I never mind making fun of myself.

        1. re: ipsedixit

          I confess, I don't understand that. It's like "I don't like vegetables" or "I don't like meat". While vegetables do share some common characteristics, a carrot and a zucchini are pretty different. Likewise, a mozzarella and a gorgonzola couldn't be more different. And lamb and chicken are quite different.

          That said, chasing someone or hounding them sounds pretty rude. I wouldn't try to convert someone else to like cheese, but the idea that a whole class of pretty diverse food is being ruled out sounds like something other than taste preference.

          1. re: Indirect Heat

            Cheese and vegetables are different.

            While vegetables can take on all varieties, shapes, tastes and textures, cheese, all cheeses, share one common characteristic -- namely, curdling. While the textures, tastes and aroma of different cheeses can vary, there is one underlying characteristic that some people (myself included) find unappetizing.

            1. re: ipsedixit

              All vegetables share common characteristics. Growth from the ground, and plant cells. One could hardly know that a boursin and a cheddar came from the same critter, any more than a broccoli and a potato are both from plants.

              I'm not disagreeing that people find cheese unpleasant. I'm just saying I doubt it's the taste. Parmesan shares more in common flavourwise with a fermented sopressata than it shares with a cheddar.

              1. re: Indirect Heat

                But both boursin and cheddar taste like cheese, whereas spinach & bell peppers for example are completely differing in flavor, texture, looks, and smell.

                I really don't think you can compare those. It's like apples and oranges '-P

                1. re: linguafood

                  Look at the sort of die-hard preferences people have between Coke and Pepsi! and they are WAY closer than say a cheddar and a gouda.

            2. re: Indirect Heat

              Why would it have to be something other than taste preference? As I've said, I do not have a phobia of cheese so there are no emotional issues involved:} I simply have disliked every bite I've ever taken of gorgonzola, mozzarella, camembert, parm, etc etc etc....

              1. re: NicoleFriedman

                "Why would it have to be something other than taste preference?" Here's one example, perhaps fiting or perhaps not: I've heard some folks who dislike cheese(s) compare said cheese to unclean parts of the human body, i.e. "that cheese smells and tastes like stinky feet" The person doesn't like the qualities of stinky feet, and a food product (such as strong cheese) might remind them of that (consciously or unconsciously). Another example, perhaps vulgar but fairly common in the vernacular: "eeew, that stuff tastes like crap"; the individual does not like the smell/sight of excrement, and a particular cheese may too closely recall such shared smells/sights/qualities. In fairness, sometimes when I open a new bag of Fritos, to me it smells like unwashed armpits; but I eat the Fritos anyway, since by middle-age, I've gotten fairly acclimated/accustomed to the aroma of unwashed armpits in the general human population...

                1. re: silence9

                  but does that mean you want to lick or eat those armpits?

                  1. re: linguafood

                    LOL. I actually think that armpits suffer poor reputations from their actual name/label. In a word, bad publicity. if we as a society instead referred to them as, say, 'mystery caverns' or 'primordial hollows', then perhaps the world would return to an Eden-like state of snack-time innocence :-)

                    1. re: silence9

                      well, the German word (achselhöhle) for it would translate into "shoulder cave". not sure that's any more appetizing, tho.

            3. re: ipsedixit

              Ipse, he gives the good advice!!
              I am inclined to believe you have an organic aversion, bodywise, to cheese, and your nose scents it out and doesn't permit entry. I have many many Asian friends who have dealt with this too.

            4. You know, I had a friend whose father hated garlic. So her mother never cooked with it. She was a grown woman before she realized that most people use garlic in Italian cooking. To this day, dinners at her house are "interesting" to say the least.

              So to answer your question; No, I wouldn't torture them by eating gorgonzola. I'd change the way I cook and try not to damage the kids. :)

              1. Honestly, I would take a little joy in the thought of more cheese for me :)

                I like cheese in general, but very much do not like cheese with veins and/or rinds with mold. Fortunately it seems common enough to not like veined cheeses, so friends and family get it and acquaintances rarely questions it.

                1. Only solution is round the clock beatings until you find your inner cheese monger.


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                    1. re: JuniorBalloon

                      That is freaking hilarious. I mean, completely insensitive.'s funny.

                      I don't get the aversion to the entire family of food, either, but if the OP was my loved one, I'd wouldn't pester her about it. More for me.

                      1. re: Vetter

                        I have an aversion to all fat free food not known in nature.