Have you tried the Artisan's Table chef's dinner at A.R. Valentien/Lodge at Torrey Pines?
We have done this a couple times a year for the last 4 or 5 years and have had a great experience every time. If you are looking for a quiet table for two, that won't happen, because it is typically one table for 20 to 50 with everything served on platters, family style. It's a great setting and always a great meal with good wine pairings.
I will second that....artisan table is a great display of farm to table dining with exceptional wine pairing...it is not a quiet sit down however youre right...it is served family style at a large table where you have a chance to talk to other people about a great meal....artisan table is great and we are excited for the ones to come