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Texting at the table.

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I went out to lunch with a couple of friends to a casual upscale restaurant, while seated and before the server brought our drinks and menus one of the group takes out her cell phone and begins texting. Well... ok... maybe it was an important message.... But this continued through lunch, and was in my opinion rude. Of the 3 of us at lunch only she answered any texts, or even brandished a cell phone (I silence mine when I eat) I expect this from teenagers, they are rude and have zero respect at restaurants it seems, but not a 40 year old woman. I wish restaurants had a NO CELL PHONE zone, like non-smoking.

  1. with you 100%. If you are expecting an important call, or have kids/parents/sig others who may need you, leave it on vibrate & discreetly check if it buzzes. For the duration of most meals, it shouldn't happen more than once, if at all.

    My FIL lives by his cell phone & when he is here eating with us I will just say "No cell phones at the table" & he sheepishly puts it away ... til the next night when he does the same damn thing.

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    1. re: elfcook

      This is evidence of the downfall of courtesy in our society. Families cannot sit and have a communal dinner; an activity that has been the norm for centuries. It is the event that keeps the family blood flowing. As far as friends; in my opinion, your associate is telling you, non-verbally, "Oh you don't count", I am more important than all of you at the table.

      1. re: ospreycove

        I know that we are talking dining and chow here, but I see similar with family travel. Many children will not travel, unless they have constant stimulation from a DVD player in the rear seats. Who cares if all of America is going by outside the vehicle's window - gotta' see "Shrek 3" for the 40th time. I then see many of these youth in dining situations, where they spend the entire evening with a cell phone in their face.

        I know that my wife has many necessary business calls and text messages, and respect that. Still, I take her to a couple of places, where there is NO cell coverage. She had to find a big rock, outside our cabin, and then hold her Blackberry up in the air, to get a signal .Lovely. Now, when we hit Denver International Airport, she had over 300 voice mails and double that number of urgent text messages. She spent the next 5 hours in the RCC there, returning those, and trying to put out a half-dozen major fires. Still, I had her undivided attention for about five days! Sometimes, you have to just travel to those "dead spots," and I have been keeping a list of them - and going there, when I can steal her away.

        Hunt

        1. re: Bill Hunt

          Just one bone to pick with you...I still have vivid memories of traveling across country in the 70's with my family. I would have had given ANYTHING for the mindless amusement of a DVD player. Three girls in the backseat (Mooooommmm!....Jane is on MY side! Susie touched me! Mary keeps looking at me funny!) for three 12 hour days? I don't care how beautiful the landscape is, it wasn't fun AT ALL.

          That said, visiting my in-laws became much more attractive when I realized that there was no cell reception at their house and in the real world, I'm a total pro at ordering for my husband while he's pacing in front of the restaurant talking on his cell phone while I drink my cocktail and draw with my son.

          1. re: sebetti

            [Insert great big grin here!]

            Now, I was a kid, who loved to see the world go by.

            When we began traveling with our niece and nephews, hand-held games were the vogue. Most of them had at least one. Their dad would try to get them to watch the scenery, but met with resistance. Now, all are grown, and each has confided in us that they missed so much of America (most of these trips were in the New Mexico, Colorado, or Utah high country), and only wish they could have those trips back again. I wish that we could too.

            Hunt

    2. I had a girlfriend like this. We are no longer friends. If you want to talk to your other friends so much when in my company, that tells me something about our friendship. Go be friends with them, then. When in the company of her other friends, not only did they all sit around texting others all at once, but they even texted EACH OTHER while sitting at the same table. I guess, akin to whispering about someone else? Makes me feel really old.

      1. Have you considered dropping her cell phone in her soup? If she didn't order any, order some for her! '-)

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        1. re: Caroline1

          I have a friend that would always be looking down in her lap ads she texted during dinner. I mentioned to my SO and other friends; next time we all go out I was bringing a coloring book and crayons!!!!!!!

          1. re: ospreycove

            Things like that help you figure out which friends are keepers.

            1. re: ospreycove

              I actually am less offending if the person is drawing with crayons on a coloring book. I actually had never been to Macaroni Grill until this year and I were pleasantly surprised that they provide me cayons and paper. I immediately started drawing, so was my friend.

            2. re: Caroline1

              I like the way you think Caroline! It can happen with hand held games too. I hadn't seen my friend John in quite a while and we had lots of catching up to do, but he was too addicted to his nintendo DS pokemon game to say much to me. John is 26. And he had two DS units and kept switching them out so he could play two games at the same time. My Dinner With Andre it wasn't.

            3. I think that is so rude. And shows an appalling lack of manners. Gryphonskeeper, you shouldn't expect that behaviour out of teenagers either! My children KNOW that is not acceptable behaviour. There is no texting at the table either at home or out in restaurants. And they think it is rude if their friends do it.

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              1. re: decolady

                My 17-year-old "nephew" when asked if his friends texted other friends while they were out said "some of them do, and some of them have manners."

              2. Rude rude rude. She is probably tweeting "Hey I am eating with two boring people."