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refused to eat, out of line?

I was recently invited to dinner. I discovered that the host had started cooking the burgers on the stovetop at around 3pm, but decided that was too early, so he turned the stove off and left the burgers sitting there about 1/3 cooked. At around 5:30 or so he turned the stove back on and continued where he left off.

Admittedly not very politely, I declined to eat (ok, i told him that there were more reliable ways to poison his friends.) I admit the comments I made were probably inappropriate, but was I completely out of line to refuse to eat? The host thought I was being stupid as the burgers were fully cooked when served.

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  1. You could've done the old mutton trick that Seinfeld used ... bite, and spit into napkin.

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    1. re: ipsedixit

      Or just shake your head, and refuse to eat, also in Seinfeld :)

    2. Besides the potential health issue, that is one crummy way to cook a burger! I wouldn't have eaten either.

      1. Were there any other things edible? You could have also just told a white lie and said you were full from the sides/appetizers or said you were cutting down on your red meat intake.

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        1. re: MrsT

          There were lukewarm hot dogs and room temperature potato salad. I know I could have been better mannered but should I have just taken my chances and eaten what was served?

          1. re: KaimukiMan

            Hey, if it's a friend, why not be honest? Obviously your ideas of food/entertaining differ. Hopefully there are other compensating factors in this relationship.

        2. I hope you both let it go and move on. We forgive our friends for their foibles, which each of you think was committed by the other.
          P.S. Isn't that how hockey pucks are made?

          1. Next time just stay quiet, drink all of his whiskey you can then when time come to eat casually tell your host you feel bad and leave. What can he say.

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            1. re: Littleman

              Ew on the boiled, steamed, and smoked burgers. I wouldn't have eaten them either -- weren't they overdone beyond recognition? Ew.

              Could I say what you did? No, probably not.

              I like Littleman's idea, drink all his booze and leave.

              Does this guy always cook like this? I've never heard of such pathetic grilling skills. Part of being a good host is timing. Sheesh.

              1. re: Littleman

                To littleman: this response I like, a lot.